nu wvw 6The Barrie Examiner Thursday June I7 1976 realistic View of marriage is aim of preparat1on course clergymen say By ROSEANNE McCABE Examiner Womens Editor Marriage preparation courses could be the pre ventive medicine which may make divorce statistics drop in the future At least that is the hope of local clergymen who conduct courses dealing with every thing from putting the top on the toothpaste to sexual com patibility all for one reason to make engaged cou les take more realistic loo at themselves and their mate Of the clergymen inter viewed all had an optimistic outlook on marriage in socie ty despite the prophets of doom who claim it is fading institution Rev John Speers pastor of Trinity Anglican Church said young people today try harder for an honest relation ship His course encourages them to speak up about what they like and dislike about each other As minister he sees his function not as counsellor but as someone who encourages discussion Thats the main thing As long as you can get them talk ing He prefers group mar riage preparation courses because they stimulate talk among participants He said while there is more sensitivity in relationships today engaged couples have less sense of commitment There are lot of needless bustups he said His course runs for two hours week for threeweeks On the first Sunday couples discuss marriage and the Bi ble Mr Speers stresses selflessness and Christian ethics The second Sunday focuses on first year of mar riage the year of adjustment in which the couple should air complaints keeping in mind there is difference between clean and dirty fighting The third Sunday focuses on the marria ceremony Budgeting an running household enter all these discussions he said Rev John ONeill pastor of St John Vianney Roman Catholic Church said while engaged couples need Two local art teachers attend craft meeting Two design arts teaching masters at Georgian College in Barrie are currently atten ding the conference and sev enth biennial meeting of the general assembly of the World Crafts Council being held in Oaxtepec Mexico Don Stuart of Barrie who teaches textiles and metals and Ann Mortimer of New market ceramic teaching master flew to Mexico Sun day Following the confer ence proper which concludes Residents of Grove Park Home celebrated enjoyed their annual picnic CoulsonBlack vows exchanged at St Georges Anglican Churc St Georges Anglican Church was the scene May when Sanda Joyce Coulson and Brian Douglas Black were married Rev David Kaye and Rev Stewart of ficiated Soloist was Jane Black accompanied by Helen Smethurst The bride is the daughter of Mrs and Mrs Donald Coulson of 113 Peel SL Bar rie and the groom the son of Mr and Mrs William Black of 97 Codrington St The bride wore an empire gown of nylon sheer with scooped neck and trumpet sleeves Bearled lace trim med the bodice sleeves and flounce Lace motifs decor ated over the full skirt and chapel length train She wore cap of simulated brussel lace pleated organdy trimmed in pearl and crystel Her veil was elbowlength trimmed with lace She car ried bouquet of white cat alaya orchid surrrounded with white miniature carna tions with babys breath and ivy Maid of honor was Wendy Coulson sister of the bride of Barrie VIIRCOMI SIIYNESS LOS ANGELES AP Stu dents at the Claremont Colleges are invited to overcome their shyness in special workshops by staff psychologist Dorothy Smith She works with groups of 10 students whose attempts to overcome shyness range from speaking out inclass to saying hello to other students and asking for date SITIERS iIZT HELI BRANTFORD Ont CP There is more to babysitting than watching television and eating potato chips salys Mar ney Hendry correspon mg sec retary for the Simcoe Kmettes The Kinettes are offering an eightweek babysitting course on changing diapers cooking light meals dealing with tem per tantrums and giving baths June 12 variety of optional postConference tours thr oughout Mexico have been scheduled At this time Mrs Mortimer past president of the Canadian Guild of Pot ters will join the sixday tour to Veracruz and Yucatan The last general assembly of the World Crafts Council was held in Toronto in 1974 The Canadian delegation to this years conference was limitedtoZOOpersons up 12715 Highlights of the 76 con ference include meetings of the general assembly work shops continental assembly meetings visits to the Museum of Cuernavaca in the Cortes Palace and to the Na tional Museum of History and Anthropology in Mexico City special exhibitions and reception by Luis Echeverria president of the Republic of Mexico at the presidential residence GROVE PARK PICNIC Tuesday afternoon at the home of Mrs Terry Mac Pherson Royal Oak Road Bridesmaids were Kim Robertson Janice Barnes Becky Gartner of Barrie Flower girls were Michelle Valley and Tanya Black niecesof the room The Mai of honor and flower girl wore pale yellow jersey dresses and carried baskets of yellow daisies and white babys breath The bridesmaids wore pale aqua full length jersey gowns and carried baskets of white daisies and aqua tinted babys breath The bridesmaids wore white sheer picture hats with daisy trim Jeff Walther was best man Ushers were David Black brother of the groom Donald Coulson and Jon Bobbette The mother of the bride received Baystairs Lodge wearing full length floral chiffon gown with matching coats and shades of pink and mauve The mother of the groom assited wearing full length yellow and tangerine floral gown with matching coat She wore corsage of yellow tea roses and white babys breath Mrs Black wore pale blue silk figure dress with white PATTIS ANTIQUES l1 INTERIORS In the village of Shanty Bay Fabrtc Upholstery and Orapcryl III stock at it it yd °Custorri made draperies Olurnitura Accessories Olnterior desrgner on stall to assist you With your decorating problems Tues to Sat to 7280599 Jim White left member Grove Park Home chats with Joyce Purdon Mar MR ANT MRS It BLACK accessories for the honey moon The newlyweds will live in Oshawa MODERN CARPET DRAPERIES For Shop At Home Service Coll728199 or come TO our store at I9 Dunlop St We Carry Blinds Vinyl Wood Woven preparation married couples also need to have occasional instruction The marriage preparation course should be seen as only the beginning of thecycle Knowing person allows you to love the person Therefore more knowledge means more loving he said He too stressed his role as person who lets the couples do the thinking In his preparation series Father ONeill includes doc tors and lawyers as guest speakers as well as other married couples As priest he stresses the Catholic guidelines in married life Rev Samuel Stewart pastor of St Andrews Presbyterian Church said many young people dont take marriage preparation courses although he offers instruction at his church Many young people who are experienced with sex con fuse it in the totality of mar ried life They think they know it all and thats bunk He said hed prefer chur ches grouping together to oflt fer common course with ex perts from all fields to speak Rev John Klein pastor of the Lutheran Church of the Good Shepherd said young people tend to be idealistic in stead of realistic and often lack good example of what marriage and family life should be Rev William Fritz pastor of Collier Street United Church said he refuses to be the dispenser of almighty wisdom Marriage has 17 garet Astbury and Mrs MacPherson Examiner Photo utofAtown guests at tended frorn Mississauga Oshawa Toronto and Owen Sound bright future because young people are struggling to get in touch with each other His role is encouraging this discovery while keeping the marriage Christianoriented Given the situation that divorces are easier to get think it should be harder to get married he said Rev Donald Peake pastor of the Family Life Church in Barrie said while older mar ried couples are subject to role play in marriage young people are overreacting in their efforts for an honest relationship In time he said they will strike an even balance There used to be much perseverence in mar riage because of stronger sense of commitment he says but the idealism in couples today tends to discourage perseverence Malcolm Summers counsellor with the Childrens Aid Society who has done ex tensive marriage counsell ing says lot of the problems he encounters with couples later in marriage could have been avoided if partners had been properly prepared Preparation then should alert couples what they are getting into The problem find with many is that they stop cour ting they stop sharing Com munication is important he said Dr James Henderson director of psychiatry at Royal Victoria Hospital said expectations in marriage today are different because of social change Affluence allows couples to spend time with their relationship While this is good he said achievements in relation ship are less concrete than putting the food on the table and therefore are sometimes more com plicatcd While all the clergymen supported the need for pre marrirtgc counselling few suggested it should be offered as joint course Mr Spccrs said when he ar rived in Barrie in 1973 he was asked by the ministerial association to set up joint course but the lack of response soon discouraged the idea Bridge action at local club ttda and Murray Hell came first in northrsouth play Wednesday June at Jeans Duplicate Bridge luh Jenn Burke and Peg More were cond Vivian Hamilton and Ella Soancs third In castwest play Sue Graham and John Hazell were first IIlla Swain and Marg Flcwclling second and Mac Dettmcrs and John Kuipcr and Marg Powell and Betty Cunningham tied for third place HIND OUARTER sopfa QIZCI vents PEOPLE AND PLACES KofCSale BARRIE sale of clothing home furnishings and home baking will be held Saturday from 10 am to at the Knights of Colum us Hall sponsored by the Km hts of Columbus Pro cee will go to the John Bosco Home For entertain ment the Barrie Judo Club will put on demonstration Free tea coffee and cold drinks will be served For donation pickup call La Plante at 7283334 EXHIBIT BARRIE Barrie artis Valdis Leo llgacs is holding an exhibit of his paintings and photographs June 21 at 730 pm at the old firehall HOOKING BEE BARRIE The Huronia brahch of the Ontario Hooklt ing Craft Guild is holding hooking bee July 17 at St Vin cent Park from 10 am to 330pm GROVE PARK PICNIC BARRTE Mrs Leila Cope took part in the annual picnic of Grove Park Home held recently at the home of Mr and Mrs Don MacPher son Royal Oak Road BIRTHDAY BARRIE rw Jim White of Grove Park Home recently celebrated his birthday GRADUATE BARRIE David Midv wood graduated from Queens University with an honors degree in political studies He is graduate of North Collegiate and will con tinue hsi studies VACATION BARRTE Irene Hamilton has returned from three week vacation with relatives in Vancouver LRAIILATII CROSSLANL Klein Gibbinick has graduated from University and will teach high school in Walkcrton VISIT GILFORI 77 Mr and Mrs Girvan Sawyer visited their daughter and sorrinlaw Mr and Mrs Shaw of Lon don Marion IRADLATIZ Philip Alliancse received an honors mathematics degree from the University of Waterloo BIRTHDAY Wallace Wray Smith of Grove Park Home recently celebrated his 90th birthday with his familv at the home WI The Simcoe Area Womens Institute will unveil the Ross CUSTOM CUT DOUBLE WRAPPED AND FAST FROZEN AT NO EXTRA COST PORK CHOPS WE ALSO CARRY COLD MEATS MILK SAUSAGE WIENERS BREAD ETC PHONE QUALITY MEATS 130 YONOE HWY Ill PAINSWICK Channen Memorial June 20 at Midhurst IlliOluSl JOHNNY WINTER ANDLIVE Great Albums TLow Price rut Jumpin money 0000 um nu mutto 5m now Home Tomght Bu In rm 5mm mu In in Coliu Nobody nun ITS NEW AEROSMITH ROCKS LAST TRIAL RATS IN THE CELLAR AND MORE 449 AT SAMS ONLY FLEETWOOD MAC RHIANNON WILLYOU EVER wru CRYSTAL AND MORE 449 AT SAMS ONLY BARRIE AT THE FIVE POINTS EVEN THE BUS STOPS AT SA INVEST NOW DIAMOND NEEDLES AT SAMS ONLY was SAM THE RECORD MAN Hours Mon Tues Wed Thurs Sat 930 am to 600 pm Friday 930 am 900 pm I0 DUNLOP ST Officers installed at sorority meet Lois Cooke and Nancy from members in apprecia Hornbrook were in charge of the program at the recent meeting of Alpha Phi Chapter of Beta Sigma Phi Sorority Joan Richard was hostess with Olga Patrick as cohos tess Officers were installed The closing dinner was held at the Prince of Donegal The meeting was held afterwards at the home of Allana Wright Jean Ruth was installed as director for the coming year She was presented with gift TOMSugh lulmmï¬ LED ZEPPEUN PRESENCE NOBODYS FAULT our MINE AND MORE AT SAMS ONLY tummy wearing WAILERS RASTAMAN vrarzArioN RACE WAR AND MORE 449 RAT AT 5AMS ONLY FriSoiMon EAST JOHNNY WINTER ANDLIVE TWO RECORD SET ROCK AND ROLL HOOCHIE KOO JOHNNY GOODE AND MORE mnwmd OmhrAdvh Unconditionolly Quor onteed tor one year MS DOOR tion for her work The family picnic was held May 30 at Springwater Park pool party is 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