c22 economist suntribune may 6 1987 both father and mother single mother has her trials by nxncy hoskin they were happily married they had three young children she never expected that her hus band would run off with the other woman there she was left alone to run the household and care for her children sounds like a dime store novel but this same scenario happened but this markham resident and mother of three has been hand ling life as a single parent for six years her former husband married his new love left markham for greener pastures leaving joan not her real name and her brood of three now aged 9 11 and 13 to fend for themselves joan had left her job as a com puter programmer when her first child was born and was thankful to ha ve had prior work experience when she was forced back into the working world joan insists that a university degree behind her and prior ex perience helped make life easier when applying for positions the last six years of her life have been solely committed to her children she quickly realized that a single parent must combine the love and understanding of a female figure with the strong protective patience of a father fi gure the freedom to enjoy her own company and maintain her favorite hobbies was lost as her children grow up and are able to care for themselves with out as much guidance joan is able to spend some time on her self she is now taking a night course in a subject she has always en joyed the worst problem when the children were younger she explained was finding sitters finding babysitters who were older than my own kids was hard finding sitters during the day time was a real problem her oldest daughter is 13 now and able to take charge occasionally joan said you find out who your friends are when a marriage breaks up says joan after being married 13 years joan found the pains of di vorce and constant conflict with never before has a microwave with all of these features been advertised for such a low price in canada easymatic quasars version of the panasonic auto weight defrost genius humidity auto reheat sensor feature auto start custom cook rotaflow even cooking 30 day money back guarantee with overh million micros sold wxethellodm price service selection guarantees her exhusband trying but has in the last three years been able to cope with her new lifestyle and responsibilities after becoming a successful single parent whether by choice or necessity it takes a lot of effort to make friends there are plenty of single peo ple out there you meet them through friends or by chance if you dont meet a great variety through your job joining clubs and groups is a great way to make new friends who many times can relate to your situation joan said with no father around it took all her energy to care for her chil dren all of them have active ex tra curricular schedules her son for example played numerous hockey games this year and at nearly all of themmoan could be seen in the bleachers cheering his team to victory the male environment that surrounds hockey has been very important for him because his dad just hasnt been there for him she said the three children help with household chores each weekend do yardwork have learned to make their own dinner when mom has to work late and have for the most part have become indepen dent there is a big difference be tween mine and the children i see whose mother is home all the time my kids have to learn to be independent they dont have a choice joan is proud of the fact that each child is good in school with the youngest in fourth grade joan is sole financial supporter for her family having purchased her home in markham over two years ago as her only investment it is a good atmosphere for the children to grow up in a neighbor hood with friends close by joan said though the three children are too young to fully understand the responsibilities their mother steus sale ends may 9th 9mctfflfville r 4777343 shopping center hwy 7 mccowan rd deals with daily they 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