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10 |THE OSHAWA TIMES, Friday, August 25, 1967 Virtue Dear Ann Landers: When!appropriate steps are taken to! does "minding one's own busi-| 5 ness" cease to be a virtue and/ begin to be an act of cowar-| Dear Ann Landers: Our| ANN LANDERS Is Non - Intervention Or Cowardice? save these kids. dice? daughter wants to go steady. I This morning I heard a youngster crying in front of my| house I looked out to see a lit-| tle neighbor child surrounded} by four jeering children. The| boy was wearing a diaper over his trousers and had a card- board sign around his neck which read, "] am seven years old and I still wet my bed." I was furious and went out- side and began to remove the sign and the diaper. My hus- band stopped me and said, "'It is none of your business." I know the child's mother. She is a divorcee and as nutty) as a fruitcake. Her oldest boy plays centrefield with his thumb in his mouth. A middle child. a girl, has a nervous eye tick and stutters. Now this little fellow is being tortured because he wets the bed. WHAT TO DO? only with him. from friends that going steady! does not méan what it did in our day. They claim it 1s the) "in" thing and that most kids outgrow it. DISCUSSIONS WARM see nothing wrong with it since the boy is a very nice lad and) comes from a good family. My husband is against it. He) says it is ridiculous to allow a) & 13-year-old girl to accept a boy's friendship ring and go We have been having some fairly heated discussions on this) subject since my husband and ]; are divided. The line-up is now| | two against two. Our 17-year-| . old son sides with his father.) What do you say?--Park Ridge| » Dear Park: I just tipped the! balance. It's 3 to 2, and I'm with your husband and your Should I try to help these kids|S0n. Not only am I against 13-/ by talking to them? Or should I/yeat-olds going steady, I am| plead with the deranged mother against 13-year olds going. to get some help for herself and| Period, her children?--No Name Please Dear N.N.P.: Pleading with)t What's your big hurry to get) his little chick grown up? I deranged people is useless.|don't know what your friends) Your best bet is to have a talkimean when they say going} with the teachers in whose|steady doesn't mean what it did classes these unfortunate chil- dren will be next fall. Surely they will recognize evidence of a tragic home life. Your infor-| in our day. The basic ideas is} the same--'"everybody else,| hands off." This is a poor approach even for 16-and 17- mation and interest should) year-olds. If you came to me encourage the teachers to) for support, Madame, you rat- investigate and see that the tled the wrong cage. CHILD GUIDANCE Moving Presents Problem With School - Age Children By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD In any year about one-fifth of the people of the U.S. move. recently I discussed some of|8roup in the same direction. | the problems facing a child, More and more teachers are especially of the elementary|8fowing aware of the new chil-| grades, whose family moves dren in their midst. In spite of| of changing. But at the same time, most) they are? employers don't turn thumbs; 6. Do you down on people who makejimpossible boss who works | smart job-hops after giving a|against you instead of for you, |job a chance. This must be so,/through no fault of your own? | Melt butter in frying pan | |because Americans now switch) i : |jobs more than ever before. once or often in a year. He may|the problems which moving! dread to leave his old pals and|May create, it can for many a} playmates. He may have anxie- child and his parents become! ties about the children of his|"@ great step forward." ANSWERING QUESTIONS Q. How may we encourage the tot from 2 to 5 who makes| up yarns out of his head to go} on creating in this way? new community and school. Your child may have difficul- ty adapting himself to the new school with strange classmates, a different teacher, different methods of teaching, different books. If the work in the new school is harder than it was in the old one, he may have|Pack to him. Also by reading|/make a move: always from factual materials. obvious trouble. | person is unreliable and fligh-| |ty?"' a young girl asks. bi "In the past three years,'|/about yourself, your wants and needs? 3. Do you realize from your give the impression that I am going from job to job simply and need to. make a change? |because I cannot stay in one! gy 7 TURE | alane.tee lhne." QUESTION OF FUTURE provided for the newcomer.| Often arrangements are made for this child to go home with a I understand| ® Saba So tet' Ge sthitibe MRS. DONALD FLEMING is a warm homey person whose interests centre on her family and volunteer work. Although her husband has |she said, "'I have had two jobs |I would like to change again this fall, but I don't want to/ Working experience that you |have chosen the wrong job field |RELUCTANT BOSS To answer this quetsion, let) job field in which you are work- me say first that no boss wants|ing, or the firm by whom you to put a lot of time and trouble | are employed, is standing still? in training an employee who) changes jobs just for the sake|tunities elsewhere to be sure jthey are as good as you think "Is job-hopping a sign that a' fi 4 person, F she takes through the farm at ' was actively involved in federal * ister and has twice before Bi dts TOMES Sy 5 ka eae olitics for more than 30 years she does not cam- paign for him and appears Is Job - Hopping Unreliability 3 Or Chance To Reach Potential? "~~ By ROBERTA ROESCH {make you listless, tired, unful- Tan lled and frustrated? | 2. If this is the case, have you} done some serious thinking ' perb knowledgeable 5. Have you checked oppor- | 4 teaspoon ground ginger | 7. Have you given both your| jboss and your job a chance] x ; 'i If you want to job-hop and|before deciding they are not for|about five minutes. Add a little still do all right by potential| you? } i Ay ak i employers--as well as by your- 4 - Bs ing down some of|self--here are some questions| possibility of a promotion in is yarns and reading them/to ask and answer before you|your present place of employ-|there are forces beyond your jcontrol that are standing in 8. Have you looked into the ment and found it isn't there? 1. Does your present work! 9. Have you tried to increase! your way? By CAROL ANDERSON TORONTO (CP)--Visiting Mrs. Donald Fleming is like visiting your grandmother. In spite of her great dislike of publicity, she is a comfortable And like any woman who has just put her nine-month-old granddaughter to bed, she loves to chatter about homey things --the kind of coffee she likes, the pleasure her husband gets from his library, or the walks the end of the street. But there is no doubt that the short, gray-haired woman with the smiling blue eyes knew what her life would be like when she married Donald Fleming. "T married a politician," she said, "Shortly after our mar- riage Donald ran for the board of education, and we've been involved in politics ever since." In 1945, Mr. Fleming was elected a member of Parlia- ment and for the next 18 years politics. He has served as min- ister of finance and justice min- sought the leadership of the Progressive Conservative party. Now he is one of the can- » Mrs. Fleming, An Easy Person Likes Walking, Dislikes Publicity "Everything is so different in Ottawa. I used to drive Donald ing and I loved the drive... . "Toronto isn't like that though--even. a shopping trip is an all-day outing'.' But for one who loves the out- doors, Mrs . Fleming does not like gardening. "I planted the petunias," she said laughing and pointing to a few small flower beds. 'Some people have green thumbs and just love it, but evergreens need just enough care for me. "I don't go overboard for any one thing. Variation suits me best. I enjoy going to the thea- tre but like a little of every- thing. I'm the same way with reading and furniture--I like variety." WORKS WITH BLIND When she _ has time, she enjoys bowling and golfing, and she spends every Monday morning doing volunteer work with the blind. "T was asked to help and found that I really enjoyed it, so it has become a_ weekly thing. I read to them and and write letters, and do little part way to work every morn- THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW A generally good day, but do be careful not to over-reach yourself on any account. Do not make promises you cannot pos- sibly keep and don't make any long-term financial com mit- men's. Late p. m. influences will stimulate artistic interests, social activities and entertain- ment in general. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, your horoscope indicates that, as of Oct. 1, you will enter a one-month cycle which will be not only propitious for occupa- tiona! and monetary gain, but also excellent for making long- June and the entire month of August, 1968. TRAVEL GOOD Both travel and social activi- ties should prove extremely enlivening throughout October, in January, April and the mid- June-late-August weeks of next year. Most propitious periods for remance: October (a splen- ae did month for all Virgoans!), ec % : Apri: and June. If careful to ss 9 avoid friction in domestic cir- cles during late October and WIFE PRESER ER early January, you should find Need a large funnel? Cut home and family affairs pros-|jjastic bleach bottle in hall, pering and happily harmonious]... the handled end ' during the next 12 months. : ( A child born on this day will , be endowed with the fine intelli-| GRANTS FOR CULTURE gence and a delightful personal-| The Rockefeller Foundation ity; will thoroughly dislike|gav2 $3,300,000 for cultural ac- meanness and pettiness. tivities in the U.S. in 1966. range plans. With the first of November, however, you'll have to pull in the reins a bit, and stress conservatism in fis- Career School of Hairdressing cal matters for an entire! month. On no account, engage | in speculation of any kind dur-| ing that period. Be cautious, | too, during the last two weeks. of December. Next good| periods for increasing earnings) and upping your financial] status: January, the first half! of February, late April (here.| however, gains could be offset by some unexpected expenses), early May, the latter half of @ GOVERNMENT LICENSED @ Enrolling Now For Day And Evening. Classes BEGINNING SEPTEMBER 5, 1967 FOR INFORMATION CALL: 576-3558 145 KING WEST, OSHAWA things such as picking up stitches in their knitting--any didates for the PC leadership which will be decided at the} small thing which they can't do." party convention in September.| Born Alice Watson in Toron- "Pye never campaigned for|to, Mrs. Fleming worked as a ;my husband," Mrs. Fleming/hospital dietician before her \said. "I've appeared with him|marriage in 1933. She has three lat public functions but I only go | children and six grandchildren, ; when they ask for me."' | who she says "manage to keep |. Being the wife of apolitician hasn't caused much difference} our home from being empty." "After my husband resigned in her way of life. '"Moving|from the government, I never, always interferes, but after ever thought we would be back you've been there for a while,|in politics. It's what he wants, you adjust and are perfectly/however, so I'm doing my ' best," she said with a smile. Creates Perfect gy Sweet Sour Sauce Barbecue A barbecue demands a su-)juice from the applesauce to. steaks, or pork chops cry out sauce .Spareribs, ham|cornstarch, making a paste Stir into mixture. Add apple- sauce to mixture. Heat, stirring | for this Sweet-Sour Sauce sug-| about five minutes. Add re- gested by food specialists at}maining ingredients. Makes Macdonald Institute, Guelph, about two cups. SWEET-SOUR SAUCE 3 tablespoons butter | ¥ green pepper, sliced 1% cup chopped onion 1. tablespoon cornstarch 1 tin (20-ounce) applesauce 2 tablespoons vinegar 1 tablespoon soy sauce Saute green pepper and onion! your value to your firm and been unable to do it because OSHAWA TIMES | PICTURE RE-PRINTS Available At NU-WAY PHOTO SERVICE 251 King St. E., Oshawe 8 x 10 -- 1.50 each 5x7 -- 1.25 each 20% Discount o n Orders of 5S or More Pictures ents relating the many prob- lems their school child has faced from moving once or fre-| quently. But we could hardly expect parents whose child or children adapted themselves well after moving or who gained greatly in personality traits or in school achievement or cultural out-| look, to write about their chil-| dren as readily as if there) seemed to be problems. | In a recent book, Mobility and Mental Health," edited by) Dr. Mildred B. Kantor, a sociol-| ogist at Washington University] in St. Louis, some evidence | appears from certain authori- ties which is not entirely dis- couraging to parents who move. | CHILDREN STUDIED Dr. Kantor studied children whose families move short dis- tances. She points out that even moving a short distance may! mean a wholly new environ-! ment for the child. If the child has already had emotional diffi- culties in his family and takes) them with him, moying won't cause these problems to disap- pear. They may get worse. | While reporting some studies! of mental health probiems and) schoo! problems of certain chil-| dren on moving, Dr. Kantor} cites advantages to some other} children from the new and often stimulating experiences. The greatest gain from mov-| ing may come'to the school| child who had a satisfactory) home, community and school) life where he lived before, espe- cially to the gifted child, fre- quently found in moving fami- lies of professional and business/ parents. NEW EXPERIENCES | In general, the more new experiences a child has toj which he responded fairly com fortably and successfully, the more he may gain socially, emotionally, and intellectually It's when he doesn't adapt him- self happily and _ successfully that we need to have concern. As Dr. Kantor points out, the child who before moving had emotional problems in his fam- ily at the former home, cr learning problems in his old school, may only bring this problem along with him to his) new home where it could) become more serious | Writing about the book, Mob-| ility and Mental Health, in the New York Times for March 5, 1967, under the title Here today --But Where Tomorrow? Edith Sonn Oshin reminds us that many modern elementary schools are doing well to help) the newcomer to get acquainied) and feel comfortable. 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