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20 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesday, Mey 23, 1967 Spite Dear Ann Landers: This let- pee and get some psychiatric| § ter may shock you but I am go- ing to be perfectly honest and tell you exactly how I feel. I am 16, pregnant, not married, and I'm not one bit sorry about what happened. My folks always bought me everything I wanted, but they were roy He to give me love. I was raised by servants and sent away to school when I was 11 years old. When vacation time came, I was sent on trips and tours -- anything so they wouldn't have to bother with me. Last year, I started to go with this boy who came from a home just about like mine. Plenty of money but no love, I decided the best way to get even with my folks was to get prgnant, and I did. I will never forget the look of horror on my moth- er's face when I gave her the news, It was wonderful to be ANN LANDERS Her Loveless Childhood Pregnancy Ends Dear Ann Landers: day I queue up at a certain corner to catch my bus. A few women invariably push' ahead of those who were there first, Not wishing to make a scene, I have always remained silent, Yesterday, one of these notori- ous pushers slid in line ahead of me. I decided to speak up. Her response was a scathing, profane rebuke. Several people laughed as if to encourage her. When we got on the bus, two teen-agers looked at me and giggled as if I were the oddball, not the woman who had be- haved offensively. I'm a man of good upbring- ing and I would never let an elderly or pregnant woman Stand while I sat, but I feel a man need not surrender either his bus seat or his place in line to able-bodied females who con- sider th Ives our equals in able to hurt her for a ch My parents want me to go to a home for unwed mothers the business world. Am I right or wrong?--H. T. and put my baby up for adop- tion, but I want to keep my child and give him the love my parents never gave me. Do you think I can do it? -- PG And Dear H. T.: If all the men Every}; Miss Marilyn Joyce Thax- ter will become the bride of Francis Lloyd Calderone in a ceremony to be held in St. John the Evangelist Church, Whitby on Friday, June 23, according to the TO: BE MARRIED IN JUNE announcement made today by the bride-elect's parents, Mr. and Mrs. James Thax- ter, Oshawa. The prospec- tive bridegroom is the son of Mr, and Mrs. Joseph Calderone, Whitby. KEEP IN TRIM By IDA JEAN KAIN A young mother, closed-in with three pre-schoolers, has found the key that opens the door to happier living. Her let- ter can bring renewed hope to others. "T'm finally on the road to recovery--the right road. At five feet one inch, my weight of 144 pounds was far too much. "I had avoided TOPS Club. Their idea. of 'Pig Pen' ete. seemed to be the sort of thing that would drive me to eat. As a last resort, I tried going to their meetings. I found that -by just having an evening out was something to look forward to. I really think that's the key. Closed-in with three pre-school- ers, with never any adult con- versation, caused me to turn to food. "I had just read where Art Linkletter plans ahead, so he can make valuable use of his time. It's so easy to lose track of time when there's nothing interesting to plan on. I now plan my time and work my plan. I arrange to get out of the house every day, if it only SOCIAL NOTICES ENGAGEMENT allowed all the women to get on the bus first, Proud Of It the maturity, nor the emotional étability to raise a child. I hope, for your sake, as well as for the sake of that innocent baby, Mr. and Mrs. John McKenzie, the female/Whitby, wish to announce the working force would be homeljengagement of their daughter, three hours before the males.| Aileen L. McKenzie to Thomas I see no reason for a man to| Wilson Reid, son of Mr. and remain silent under the condi-|Mrs. Roy W. Reid, Oshawa. The Dear Proud: You have neither/tions you described. You were|wedding will take place Satur- continue to do so. Conifential To Sorry For The you will abandon your foolish|Middle One: Being sorry doesn't help him. You can and you . Your true motivation for|}must put an end to the com-|f wanting to keep the baby is as/parisons. When a well g ill and twisted as your reason|(but insensitive) friend or rela-|t Youjtive compares your children, want to use your out-of-wedlock|stop them in mid-sentence. Say: child to humiliate and punish|"Sorry, but we don't compare your parents. Give your childjour children, Each one is dif- plan. for becoming pregnant. ing | th right to speak up. I hope you day, August 19, 1967 at St. An- drew's Presbyterian Church, Whitby. ENGAGEMENT Mr. and Mrs. Norman Craw- ord-Brown, Toronto, announce e t of their daugh- a break and let him grow upj|ferent and each one has his|1967 at 2:00 p.m. in St. An- with both a mother and ajstrengths and weaknesses," |drew's father. And give yourself a'Then change the subject. i) CHILD GUIDANCE - Running Away Is Sign a Of Child's Deep Resentment |" By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD brother, 15, and a_sister, 8, of the mother from Pennsylvania|doesn't stand as well as his who wrote of him as follows|9 were your boy: to keep him on an even keel: He does well in school but is not|Punish you parents, causing you an all A student as his older|t0 worry about him so as to brother. We have never plagued] 'get even' on some matters that him about this as we enjoy his|itk him. Do his sister and energies as they are and respect|> each child for what he has to offer. b "During the past year he hasjrelation between this boy and run away twice after being rep-|them. I wonder how well Dan rimanded for minor - wrong-|gets along with other children doings. Each time it has been/of his age. Does he feel that at nearly bedtime at night.|hi Since we have a large lot plus|mates and in his family? di a wooded area we were unable to locate him immediately. a school night and also being|> cool and damp, he came sneak-|in this boy. My guess is that ing in at 10 p.m, He was talked)dad might do most for him by with at length on the first of-|going places just with him or fence and physically disciplined) with one or two of his pals factors that you are not aware . Suppose the boy, 11, with a/Of or have not reported. -- ee Re os eg nothing 5 .|about it, he probably feels that aay Gee aya "takes his older brother wins more ap- much patience and imagination|>T°Val in the family. 0: pl 6; It's possible that Dan feels he W der brother with you parents. It could be that he wishes to|D When Trying To Sell An Idea Patent Attorneys Give Help By ROBERTA ROESCH "Just what opportunities are available to people with ideas for a consumer product that re- quires mechanical and elec- trical implementation?" one of our readers asks. "Some time ago, I am quite sure that I heard that several of the major manufacturing and industrial firms offer programs this stage of readiness, look for the names of patent attorneys in the classified telephone direc- tory. Hiring an attorney will cost you money, of course, but professional help in working with patents is an expense that usually pays. Once your product is patented another expense that often pays is the service and help of a Successful Reducers Plan Ahead Then Make Their Plan Work means a trip to the library, or even to the drug store. "TI have lost a dozen pounds in two months. I do not skip meals or diet rigidly, but I eat differently--with more high pro- tein foods, I feel better, too, and I am hoping to slim down to desirable weight and stay slim Many thanks for your lumn. I know you are high on every overweight wom- an's God Bless list," she con- for lif helpful cluded. plan of action. the ball, FOUND THE KEY Thank you! Bless your heart - . + you have found the key. By taking a positive attitude to- ward solving your problems, you no longer feel boxed-in. Young mothers, when you are shut in at home, you can get what some of you call "cabin fever." You are mentally boxed-in. Resolve to structure your day so as to have more of a life of your own. Start, and you've taken a giant stride. When you sense that it is the feeling of resentment at being stuck at home that causes you to eat excessively, then you realize the need for a positive The encouraging part is that when you make the effort to start, you put a stop to the neg- ative "feed-back" in your mind. THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA Another good day! Those who work should make excellent progress in any constructive en- deavor and should find associ- ates most co-operative and con- genial. P. M. influences promise enjoyment in group activities of any kind and, if single, there's possibility of a new romance. THDAY If Wednesday is your birth- day, your horoscope indicates that, within the next year, you will have a chance to capitalize on many of the geminian's fore- most gifts--notably your crea- tivity and ingenuity, your prac- ticality in financial matters and your conscientious efforts to achieve immediate ambitions and future security. Where financial matters are concerned, you entered, as of this week, an excellent seven- month period for adding to as- sets--provided of course, that you stress that afore-mentioned practicality and do not go over- board in spending, especially during November and Decem- ber. Too, it will be imperative that you avoid speculation of any kind in early August and between Nov. 1 and the end of next February--despite the fact that November and December will bring you some nice gains as a result of foresight in the Past. From Jan. 1 until March 1 it would be wise to "mark time" in monetary matters but, on the cupantional status: September, November, December and next ative enterprises, WORKED WAY UP Ted Mack of the Original' March. 'Those engaged in cre-/Amateur Hour worked his way as ma&nyithrough college as a saxophone Geminians are, should have alplayer in dance bands. - generally excellent year, with early September, all of Decem- ber, next March and April 'ndi- cated as outstanding periods for accomplishment. Personal affairs will be gov- erned by generous influences for most of the year ahead, with emphasis on romance between now and late September; also Jate October and next April, If careful to avoid needless fric- tion in early November, domes- tie concerns personality, could also make|P speaker. should havel|teacher hes just [ smooth sailing. as tough a job A child born on this day willjes @ mother hav- be highly talented along liter-|ing @ beby. They ary lines and his facility with|both words, coupled with a delightful|months him a much sought - after = they both look A LIE MAY TAKE GARE OF THE PRESENT ... but it has no future. A lady school take nine to com- lete their tasks rwerd to "grad- ation". BABIES IN SPRING its highest in May. BIRKS SEWERRERS New EAKINS A definition of The Canadian birth rate is at|mixed emotions is a man seeing his mother-in-law drive over a cliff in his new car. The plurel of whim is women. When you see a father and son together these days the one with the beard is the son. One of the hardest things te teach @ child is that truth Is more then Sparkle latter date, you will enter a really fine four-month cycle for expanding these interests. Best periods for advancing your oc- You'll be so busy carrying out your plans that life will have purpose. You'll zip into your housework so you will have time to get out. You'll get on have your clothes ready, and put order in your day. There will be no idle time in which to seek food to EXPERT RE-FINISHING On all Types of Furniture French Polishing - Restoration of Antiques Oshawa Upholstering Co. 725-0311 vague dissatisfactions. Jewellery Careful attention to detail and Beauty and years of experience in dealing with cleaning problems are at your service with a simple phone call for All Your he our deliverymen. Won't you Gillard ive us a call? CLEANIT SERVICE LTD. 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'that what I have in|inventors and assist them qith|--and happy slimming! and dock swimming» sions...quickly, United Chureh, 'Bioor mind is ready for this stage.|marketing their ideas and prod- etlitae Fihines easily, safely. tT ti But before I reveal my idea to|ucts. BASE FOR BASS ShuffleboardsDancing treet, Toronto. any firm, I'd like to know for| -If you are determined to bring SINGAPORE (AP) 3 suguner, Thee 6-025, 1.00 FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE /Sure whether or 'not the com-|a product of your own imagina- can't have everything in a neat. Social Hostess « Free | M pany has a program for working|tion to production, remember, rostral Children's Hostess ° r, and Mrs, James Thaxter, with individuals in this way as Victor Hugo said, that noth. attractive package, the Singa- Special family and golt- | shawa, wish to announce the!" wwrere can T find out?" {ing in this entire world is as|P0T. all-girl bagpipe band has Sep ner BIRKS | forthcoming marriage of their jibe ul as an idea whose hour decided, The item that wrecked daughter, Marilyn Joyce, to|ASKED OFFICERS ea lace the ideal of a full complement rancis Lloyd Calderone, son of} Since a number of readers : of smart, trim girls with r. and Mrs. Joseph Calderone,|have asked this question during shapely legs is the 40-pound wWOorTreL hitby. The marriage is to take|the past few weeks, I posed this bass drum, Now the band is Kingsway P.0., Lake of Bays ace Friday, June 23, 1967 at|inquiry to the officers of several looking for a heftier type who Tel. 705-635-2221 | OSHAWA SHOPPING 00 p.m. in St. John the Evan-|large firms who are leaders in can carry and bang the drum : CENTRE gelist Roman Catholic Church,|develping new products. All of for a full two miles on parade. hitby. - Officials answered, almost per cent, that at the present ENGAGEMENT moment the companies have no OSH AWA TIMES FOR THE FINEST Mr. and Mrs, Albert Leon|formal Program or procedures Cust and Gunn wish to announce the en-|in which individuals can submit 'ws gagement of their daughter,/product suggestions and receive rs] PICTURE Ready Made opie ro abe help in researching and devel-| Lc s+ RE PRINTS y, 6 . -Joping ide: t Saad DRAPES ouglas pein A of are. ed as 'into "marketable a poouee Phe ed nant ae i 'The ceremony take place) A few of the firms pointed out boots Available At in the latest Shades and Friday, June 30, 1967 at 7:00|that occasionally when ideas are|=°™ '0 be in a closet, fabrics,» Oe... rother have music practice? I wonder about your neigh- ors and close relatives and the G e is worthy among his play-| ; I wonder how freely he joins| June 24, 1967, at 7.00 p.m. 2 in the family conversation as at The first time he stayed out/the dinnertable. I wish you and until 3 a.m. and the other, being|dad would look deeply into pos- ible worries or ugly feelings wish to announce the forth coming marriage of their eld- est daughter, Ruth Marie, to of Mr. and Mrs. Joseph F. Cas- Albert Street United Church. Anglican. R product department. But on the hs net in tin ee whole the companies were far . if from encouraging about the suc- cesses that have resulted from this procedure. eorge Frederick Cassidy, son dy all of Oshawa. The wed: the second time. along, and making things with|Mrs. Peter Element, Oshawa, im for fun. Dad might invite|and the late Mr. Element. The FABRICATES STORIES h "His imagination has helped him at times to fabricate stories of happenings in school or to .|you haven't reported which try and convince us of his inno-| 7 ont bear on the problem, I wish you would write me fur- ther about this boy. I just wish I could be more certain about|Club, long-time haven of Seat- my advice, The chances are that Dan has a heart of gold. |b; "Dan sings in the junior choir| PARENTS' QUESTIONS P cence when caught in a mis- demeanor at home or school, My husband and I agree com- pletely on home discipline but I wonder if in some area we are overlooking Dan's needs. of the church, belongs to the YMCA, usually goes roller skat- ing one evening a week (fri- day), takes piano lessons (does ¥%-hour practice each day) and sometimes attends a movie. him downtown to have lunch with him occasionally. u "Avoid negative commands; use positive commands only." What do you say? with the tot 2, 3 or 4. Use nega- " tive commands instead but posi- All our children have various "9 activities and each has individ.|tive suggestions. If you can think of any items|P wedding is to take place Sat- rday, June 17, 1967 at 2,30) .m. in Northminister United| Church. Q. We often hear the advice, |b BACHELOR CLUB CLOSES SEATTLE (AP)--The Monks tle's bachelors, was dissolved y Supreme Court order after it etitioned that too many mem- ers had married. A. "Avoid positive commands ual interest. Dan's sister is ac- tive in Brownies and his older brother in the Scouts. We per- suaded Dan to join the Scouts}/fessional Soccer League broad- but he's not much excited abbut/casts 21 Sunday games this it. All the children do somejyear, starting April 16. household tasks. Each receives|pucine. SOCCER ON TV The 10 - team National Pro- EDGAR'S DECOR CENTRE 34 KING ST. W. @ Color Unlimited @ Decoration to Fit YOUR BUDGET See Us For Point & Wallpaper Phone 7237351 an allowance. Dan's values are high. 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