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1Q THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesdey, Mey 16, 1967 Dear Ann Landers: I never expected you, a person con- . cerned with molding values for young people, to use a coarse and vulgar word when describ- Ing a girl who was not born with a bountiful measure of nature's blessings -- namely good looks. You began your ad- vice to a young man who won- dered if he was obligated to take out a newcomer to the city, by --* the girl is a dog. . The term "dog" for a plain- looking girl is a cheap and de- grading manner of expression which I bitterly resent. I would like to know who sets the stand- ards. By what shallow criteria are they judging? Some of the so-called "'dogs'"' have a fine set of working brains and a sharp sense of humor, Several "dogs"' I have known have sparkling personalities and are stimulat- ing company. How about setting an example for our young people by putting an end to such crass and thoughtless use of the lan- guage?--Homely Hannah Dear Hannah: If a girl has a fine set of working brains, a sharp sense of humor and a sparkling personality, she is no dog. Moreover, beauty is no guar- antee that a girl will be popu- lar. Many a good-looking dame is sitting home nights with her beautiful face and spectacular measurements because she is dumb, and poor company. (P.S. No letters please from you birds at Yale requesting the names and addresses of these dumb girls.) Dear Ann Landers: My hus- band and I both have grown ANN LANDERS Reader Resents Insult Describing Plain Girl from the frequency of their vis- its. But now I have a problem and I beg your assistance. Last night we had invited a couple to dinner. Both my hus- band and I were looking for- ward to the evening with these new friends whom we had hoped to get to know better. I and her family barged in. jumped on the demanded cake and soda pop, the chairs and sofa. the piano and ordered Paw Paw on_ his shoulders. longer than I would have in someone else's home. chagrined, to say the least. Our grandchildren are normal -and I am not criticizing them. I am, however, unhappy about not having been able to enjoy the evening with our guests. My husband says we cannot tell his children they are unwelcome at certain times because they would be hurt. Is there a solu- tion, Ann?--Maw Maw Dear May: Of course there's a solution, but it means putting your relationship on a mature, civilized basis, which is not easy once you have allowed your children to regard your home as an around-the-clock recrea- tion centre. Tell them you'd appreciate a telephone call before they come. This means of course that you must show them the same courtesy. Being related does not give people a licence to impose children from previous mar- on each other, but it's amazing riages. We love them all, andjhow many folks believe other- they must love us, too, judging wise. CHILD GUIDANCE Even Bright Child Fails When His Reading Is Poor By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD A number of times in this column I have, over the years, written about the child in the upper grades or high school of average or above-average men- tal ability who has been lagging at school year after year; I have done so because I get so many letters about this type of child. Always I have suspected this child is a poor reader. Some- times the parent writing about him says he is. A mother writes from Mas- eachusetts: 'My son, 13, in the eighth grade, seems to get worse in his studies as each year goes by. I was told in Grade 5 by the principal that he had an IQ of 106. He claimed that with that IQ he should do average work. Now they tell me he will have to be kept back, but even this doesn't make him work any harder. "This problem makes me 'very nervous though I try to be patient. His father has tried as hard as myself and he is very patient but he can't reach him. It seems the boy just isn't lis- tening. "He is active, has plenty of friends and has a fine personal- ity. He is happy-go-lucky but I'm afraid my constant nagging about studies will change his disposition. He has a sister, 9, who does very well at school. LOVES SON "Should I accept him as he is and hope for the best or is there some help for him? The teach- ers have given him up and I'm about ready to do the same. I love him but I can't seem to reach him." 2 My reply in part: From what you say in your letter, you parents have merely been pressing that boy much harder at his lessons. You need to find ways by which he can be helped to enjoy more school success. Almost surely he has never been a good reader and this lag has made all his other studies harder. The longer he goes to school the more his success in all subjects will re- quire reading. Through your principal, try to find a person, preferably a man he would like, to work with him an hour or so daily at his les- sons, with some time devoted to having him read from ma- terials far easier than his school books. This tutor could easily discover where this boy is weak in other studies and help him master the easier steps in them. You and dad might help this and just naturally work harder 8, and his playmate speaking in ugly ways about practices. Liking For Culture Can Be at them. No doubt he has had at school year after year so few successes and so many discour- agements that he has lost hope of ever doing better. Just don't give up in your hopes for him but keep trying - trying to find real help for prepared a beautiful meal. Just as we were enjoying some de- lightful conversation over our coffee, my husband's daughter The children looked like fugi- tives from a Pig pen. They 'urniture and which they proceeded to spill on They fought, screamed, pounded on to give them a horsy-back ride The guests stuck it out for I was Mary Morrison, took just six weeks to hook this rug, her own personal centen- nial project. Mrs. Morrison is a resident of Hillsdale Manor, and her rug is on HILLSDALE MANOR RESIDENT COMPLETES CENTENNIAL PROJECT At 88 years of age, Mrs. display in the crafts room and will be kept at the Manor. Mrs. Morrison has always enjoyed hooking THE STARS SA By ESTRELLITA | FOR TOMORROW An excellent day on many da) ake and fi tal affairs should prosper, and su- periors or other persons of in- fluence, whose aid you would seek, should be especially gen- erous. Romance also favored. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, your horoscope indicates that decisions you make in the im- mediate present could have far- reaching effects, so be astute in making them, and take the long - range view, since you won't see the first results until the first two weeks in August. A good boost-between mid-Sep- tember and mid - November, however, followed by another in early December, should get you off to a fine start in 1968, and you should then have es- pecially smooth sailing next February and March. Do* not speculate during the next 12 months, however --especially during the first two weeks in September when planetary in- fluences will be extremely ad- verse. Excellent job opportuni- ties are indicated in July, late September, early December, next January and February. Aspects governing your per- sonal life will be more than generous, and both social and sentimental interests will be under especially fine influences between now and Sep. 15; also between Nov. 15 and Jan. 1, next April and May. Except for short trips, stars don't indicate much in the way of travel for the balance of 1967, but the first five months of 1968 will be rugs, even though she has never taken any | in highly propitious for taking long journeys. A child born on this day will the craft. --Oshawa Times Photo Bride's Mother By ELEANOR ROSS Behind every successful wed- ding stands a woman--usually the mother of the bride. It's the bride's mother who takes over the roles of hostess, adviser, gift consultant, strate- gist, co-ordinator and tactician --all rolled into one. From the engagement an- nouncement to the actual cere- mony, the bride's mother is usually responsible for the end- less details that will make her daughter's wedding perfect. 'It is the mother who ar- ranges for the time, place and clergyman -- after discussions with the parties involved. It is she who consults with caterers, florists, photographers, and rental services. Invitations are issued in the name of the bride's parents, of course, but it is the mother, ANSWERING QUESTIONS Q. Sometimes I hear our son, a_ teacher, ridiculing certain ways of hers. What should I do? A. Next time you hear this, talk of our own child by our silence can encourage in very undesirable attitudes and writing them out. say clearly to your boy that you|there is the pleasant task of don't want to hear this fromjhelping her daughter plan and him again and prove later that/choose the equipment for her you meant it. To approve suchinew home. And because the Jassisted by her friends--if the guest list is large--who takes care of checking addresses and Together with planning for the wedding gown and trous- seau and bridesmaids' dresses, mother will be asked for gift ideas by relatives and friends, her role as.consultant is a vital one in determining how the new Cultivated By By ROBERTA ROESCH Sometimes your start toward a good career is seeded at your mother's knee and nurtured by your father's training. In essence, this is the kind of beginning that bloomed into a future job for young and bearded Jacques Courtines who is finding good opportunities in the culture field. As a bilingual individual who has been interested in literature and the theatre since he bab- bled his first French and Eng- lish words, Courtines has spent the past several years setting up campus tours for Le Tretean de Paris, a French theatre company that visits the United States on an annual basis. Last year he took | a new job Step and organi Seff Limited to continue ane the Treteau de Paris productions and to bring over, in addition, other French cultural attrac- tions. "I was brought up in New York in a bilingual home by a family of language teachers," Courtines explained, when asked him how his ~ career began. "For as long as I can remem- ber," he said, "my father was absolutely fierce about making all of us speak French at home, and in many ways, this discip- line, plus my training in school, led me to all my job opportu- boy most by reading with him|nities." his home assignment, helping When he was a child, Cour- him to turn each paragraph into}: a few words of his own. It would be wonderful if you could get him to read often to a preschool child. This might net good re- sults. No sense in your just urging him to work harder at his books and tugging at his hearstrings or rebuking him for his low grades. I hope you quit' doing this. 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"I was also attending New York's Hunter College at that time," Courtines said, '"'but I took the offered job and, di- rectly or indirectly, it led to my present work. "While I was handling the programs," he said, 'I learned that de Rigault wanted some- one capable of speaking English and French to work for him as assistant stage manager, so when he offered me that job I took it. "After I worked in this capa- Co - ordinates All Wedding Preparations couple will set up housekeeping. This includes, of course, the important matter of table treasures. TABLE PLANS There will be plans made for the sterling, the china, the crys- tal, the table linens that con- tribute so much to an attractive home. The mother is well advised, for instance, to see that the bridge has as complete a set of sterling silver flatware as pos- sible before the marriage, for chances are there will be many expenditures the young couple must make after the wedding that could delay their own pur- chase of sterling. In a recent survey of 160 col- lege girls, 59 percent said they expected to receive most of their sterling silver flatware as wedding gifts. The parents of the bride may be the first to present their daughter with this much sought- after gift--for sterling flatware has been traditionally pre- sented by the parents of the bride for generations. But whether the parental or family gift consists of several place settings, or a complete set of sterling, the bride's mother may want to suggest-- if she is asked--that other rela- tives and close friends give additional pieces in the selected design. STORE CAN HELP If the mother of the bride wishes assistance in her task as wedding-gift adviser, she can count on the bridal registry of the store where her daughter chooses her silver, china and crystal. Here, a record is often kept of the pieces the bride wants and those she has al- ready received. 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