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12 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesday, April 18, 1967 Dear Ann Landers: You have insulted a very important seg- ment of American society, and we are a touchy group. I refer to the Crossword Puzzle Buffs of America. What do you mean by saying the ability to work out a cross- word in record time is no proof of intelligence or general know!- edge? You make it sound like any idiot can work a crossword while walking in his sleep. And your description of the cross- word buff, '"'sitting with a dic- tionary in his lap," indeed! Have you ever tried to sit with a 30-pound book in your lap? Well, be my guest. ANN LANDERS Reader Defends Fans' Mental Gymnastics unable to find a place to rent immediately. We have salvaged many shaky marriages by mak- ing housing available to an angry man or wife, so he or she could spend a night alone and cool off and think things over. So, please, Ann Landers, don't use "motel" as a Synonym for den of iniquity. Thank you. --Miffed Dear Miffed: When a person writes "'We went to a motel," I don't change it to read, 'We went to a choir loft." I am well aware that the Working crosswords is won-|majority of motel operators do derful relaxation and at the/everything they can to run a same time it is a fine exercise in mental gymnastics. So, why don't you be a nice girl and give us a seven letter word for "]'m sorry?" --Buffy Dear Buffy: Do you mean: "A-P-0-L-0-G-Y?" 0.K. Am I forgiven? Dear Ann Landers: As the owner of a small motel, I am issuing a complaint against the way you repeatedly refer to motels as hideouts for immoral sex escapades, In a recent column you said, "When a man takes a girl to a motel room--etc." Why didn't you say, "'When a man takes a girl to a hotel room" or "'to his apartment," or "for a ride in his car?" respectable inn. They don't want the two-hour customers. But when a person who writes to me says "We went to a motel" I print "motel." Dear Ann Landers: After sev- eral years of marriage to a fine but dull executive, I fell madly in love with a married man. We agreed to divorce our mates and spend the rest of our lives together. Unfortunately, my - husband twisted things around and left me. He charged adultery. My lover has now decided he cannot leave his family and the future looks bleak. I seem to be living in the back street of his life. Suddenly he feels he must pay more attention to his wife provide a temporary home for out-of-town families who are f STRIPED TWEEDS ARE FRESH AND SAUCY CHILD GUIDANCE Forcing Admission Of Mistake Builds Resentment In Child By GARRY MYERS, PhD Often I have mused over the number of parents who go to the teacher and try to force her to admit she made an error in some matter with their child. They cherish a victory in hear- ing the teacher say, 'I'm sorry.' How seldom do these parents win. See how much they nearly always lose in. their re- lationship ~ with that teacher thereafter. In contrast is the parent who is so wise and gracious, fair and just, that the teacher seeing her own mistakes chooses witl- out pressure to admit then and say, "I'm sorry." It may give her or anybody else peace of mind to admit to a fault or er- ror when choosing on her own free will and accord to do so. It's when some one else tries to force this person to do so that problems may arise. Many a parent tries to make the child three, nine, or 16 say, "I'm sorry." For example, she has assigned her youngster, punished-for-act, with the hope he won't choose to repeat it. You may have observed a parent trying to make a child 12 or 15 say, "I'm sorry." This child may refuse to do so even though confined to his room for many hours. Suppose he finally succumbs and says these words. Can't he say them whether| meaning them or not? | A brilliant graduate student) about to get his PhD. in science| fine relationships among all members of the family, the hon- est utterance, 'My mistake, I'm sorry," may freely come from any member. Such occurs most readily when the growing children often hear each parent respond in this fashion to each other and to them. Here is an area in which all of us parents need to work on ourselves, How hard it is to im- agine that you and I as parents| can spend many days when) times don't arise warranting our saying, 'I'm sorry." It may happen when we forgot to fulfill a promise. It may happen afte we discover we had wrongly re- buked or punished a child. It may happen in a simple family game. DIARRHEA. ..Fast Relief You can rely on DR. FOWLER'S EXTRACT OF WILD STRAWBERRY It gently restores intestinal balance-- quickly relieves nausea, cramps, diarrhea. Dependable for all the family. 06-19 three, to sit in a chair for 20 minutes as punishment, for a misdemeanor. When her time is up she may require him to promise not to do "that" again before he can get down. She may also require him to say, "I'm sorry." | Seeing that he can't do other-| wise and get down, he may be practical and say the required words, whether he means them or not. Earlier in this column I have entreated parents not to require such of the youngster. The sole purpose of the punish-| ment should be to connect in| recently said, "I hate my fa-| roll This father, an eminent Yz By ti attorney, punished him even in| eet his teens by shutting him in al 8 z w | CANADIAN eneigl Many hours to compel 8 Zz SO mm iim to say, "I'm sorry," until | "| a3 finally the boy's persistence and sy 3 o aa 4 Q CANCER ping caused his father to 53 6 2 ao | quit such procedure. mee 2 oO | 2 | me) 3 courteous Arrirupse «oS Fe SS SOCIETY How different when any child *% 2 Se ©) c i or parent freely chooses in a| z 8 Cancer Campaign wholesome courteous manner to | - 8 ag | April 10th to 24th say, "I'm sorry. | a Give Generously when @ canvasser In a home where there are' calls, i BIRKS Our Annual a RA nwo nee wat Aes We have rescued many/for the sake of appearance. |his_mind discomfort with the tweeds reversible stranded people who had auto- mobile trouble. Frequently we 'THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR WEDNESDAY Another good day for occupa- tional and financial matters but only if you operate conserva- tively. Risks of any- kind ars "out!'? Especially favored: Real estate deals, negotiations with influential persons concerning long-range projects, investing in non-speculative properties. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If Wednesday is your birth- day, your horoscope indicates that, within two weeks, you will enter an excellent cycle govern- ing your financial affairs, which will last until July 31--this. to be followed by an even better period extending from Sept. 15 through Nov. 15. It will be im- portant, however, that you avoid all speculation during the first two weeks of November. In fact, all Ariens should eschew speculation of any kind for the next 12 months. Your monetary gains will come through con- servative management only. Next good periods on the fiscal score: Late December, next February and March. Where job matters are con- eerned, fine opportunities for recognition and advancement are star-promised in late July, September, early December, and from late January through March of 1968. Those in the en- tertainment and other artistic fields should do exceptionally well throughout June, Septem- ber, although the entire year should prove satisfying and profitable. Personal interests will be gov-| erned by extremely generous stellar influences during the year ahead, with emphasis on social life (which could have unusually glamorous overtones) --especially between now and Sept. 15 and between mid-No- vember and Jan. 1. These two cycles will also be propitious for What should I do? Please give me -your candid opinion.--Mon- treal Dear Montreal: Your hus- band didn't have to do much twisting, the way I read it. My candid opinion is that you ought to wipe the egg off your face and ask your hushand to take you back. If he agrees, consider yourself lucky and devote the rest of your life to making him happy. SOCIAL NOTICES MARRIAGE The marriage is announced of Sheila Lawler to Norman Cormack, both of Whitby. The ceremony took place on Wed- nesday, April 12, 1967 in All Saints' Anglican Church, Whitby, with the Reverend -- J. Armstrong officia- ting. ENGAGEMENT Mr. and Mrs. Charles March wish to announce the engage- ment of their eldest daughter, Beverly Lynn, to Herman Ger- ard Wesselink, son of Mr. and Mrs. Gerard Wesselink, all of Oshawa. The wedding is to take place on Saturday, May 27, 1967, at 2.00 p.m. at the Roman Catholic Church of St. Gregory the Great. ENGAGEMENT Mr. and Mrs. William H. F. Smith, Oshawa wish to an- nounce the engagement of their daughter, Eileen Marie, to Wil- liam Clarence Huard, son of Mr. and Mrs. Clarence Joseph Huard, North Bay. The wed- ding is to take place Saturday, June 17, 1967 at St. Gregory the Great Roman Catholic /Church, Oshawa. ENGAGEMENT Mr. and Mrs. Frederick Harris wish to announce the engagement of their daughter, Brenda Marie, to Fred Robert Cadman, son of Mr. and Mrs. Robert Cadman, all of Whitby. Wedding plans will be an- nounced later. The only patterns toler- ated by Paris fashion this season are stripes, duster checks and small plaids. Apart from these classics, wool fabrics are flat, plain and (dare we say it?) a little boring. Well within the bounds of what's right for spring 1967, leading British weavers have pro- vided some welcome relief to the all-over fabric pic- ture. The illustrations show striped used by Maggy Rouff to fashion two interesting models. One is in red and pink and the other in black and white, both with white accessories. Prepare Products Well In Advance For Ready Sale By ROBERTA ROESCH How can I get ready now to market a product I make for next Christmas?" a woman from Pennsylvania writes. "I want to do this on a small scale only, but I definitely want to do it, since I'd like to earn a few dollars at home. "The product I have in mind is a small rail fence to be set up under Christmas trees. For the past few Christmases, I have been creating these deco- rative, old style split rail fences | | |for under my own trees, and|products for the future. If she! they have been extremely ef- |fective. They are inexpensive to make and well received by peo- ple who see them. "Since other people have ex- pressed a liking for them, I want to produce enough fences now to market for next Christ- mas. "As I said at the start of this letter, though, I am only inter- ested in marketing this product in a small way." | This reader, or any other| person, who wants to market al product for Christmas should be doing the following things. 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