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12 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Fridey, Merch 10, 1967 Itself Dear Ann Landers: You speak out often against alcoholism and adultery, and you defend cer- tain segments of society which or feel are being exploited. ill you please tell people the truth about mental illness? I am sick of whiners who haven't the courage to face life and use their "nerves" as an excuse. Five years ago my son mar- ried a girl who was lazy and spoiled. It wasn't until after they were married that the problems developed. She was afraid to have children--afraid to entertain her husband's busi- ness associates and finally afraid to leave the house. This girl has cost my son a fortune in doctor bills and her psychiatrist says it will be a long time before she is able to function normally. It is to be expected that the psychiatrist would take her side and defend his profession. Since the rest of us must face life and handle our problems, is it fair to coddle certain people and call them sick when. they are merely hiding from reality? DISGUSTED Dear Disgusted: Your ignor- ance on the subject of mental illness is surpassed only. by your determination to remain ignorant. The notion that a per- son who is emotionally ill is fak- ing to avoid responsibility is equivalent to saying a polio vic- tim could walk if he wanted to but he would prefer to be pushed in a wheel chair. Your daughter - in - law will probably do better in the long haul than you, madame. This girl could one day be a whole ANN LANDERS Mental Illness Shows In Many Ways therapy, but you will be ignor- ant and stiff-necked as long as you live, unless you do some- thing about it. Dear Ann Landers: When my husband and I were first mar- ried he made little money. We scrimped and did without many things we really needed, but I never felt deprived or unhappy. Now, 28 years later, my hus- band makes a good salary and there is no reason to be so frugal, but we are living exactly the same way we did when we were first married. I am be- coming depressed not because we do not have some things we can afford to'buy, but because my husband's miserly beavior is getting me down. Yesterday at supper he said, "Look, I have $300 in my pocket and I spent 20 cents for lunch. I bought a carton of milk and a sweet roll." Then he put out his foot and crowed, "'See these shoes? They are four years old. I've had 'em resoled three times." What is wrong with him? What can I do about it? I've thought of leaving him many times. Please help me. There is no one around here I can con- fide in.--Miser's Wife Dear Wife: Your best bet is to insits on a fair allowance or separate maintenance. And fol- low through with the help of a lawyer if you must. If a man gets his jollies spend- ing 20 cents for a lunch and getting his shoes resoled three times, that's his business, but his wife should not be forced to live like a charity case after 28 years of marriage when there is human being with insight and compassion as a result of her plenty of money round. CHILD GUIDANCE Early Morning Irritability Gives Many Parents Concern By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD Some adults you know well may be especially irritable or non-communicative early in the morning. Some children of school age also are. A mother writes from New Jersey about her second child, in a family of five children: "What I am concerned about is his upset frame of mind when he gets up in the morning. He is awakened early enough, but is very grouchy and bothers everyone, putting off what he has to do until the last moment, then rushing around yelling for school mornings. I hope dad goes places with him and helps him cultivate playmates of his own age. Many a child of his age is opinionated. With patience, you parents might help him be less so. Perhaps he would like to read with dad from Franklin's Autobiography how in his early _ he solved this problem in mself. ' This boy may often feel cramped, being between the eld- est and the third child. Notice ways in which they seem to vex him. Consider his rights to have help. His marks are generally good--in the high 80s, although just passing in arithmetic this year. "He is in the sixth grade. He usually likes to be with people, reather than alone, and often winds up sleeping with his brother, eight, whom he 'hates' in the daytime. "He has a good relationship with his dad, who is rather im- atient with him fairly ofte ause of his dawdling and not finishing jobs." Earlier in her letter, she writes: "I read your column and always have found your ad- vice to. be the most 'workable' and helpful I have come across. In raising my five children, ages 18 months, five, 8%, 11, and 12%, I find my boy, 11, the most difficult. He is very intel- ligent--to the point of excluding most everyone else's opinion either silently or openly. He has learned politeness only because it makes him socially more ac- eeptable, not because it makes others happy. TALKS BACK "He ig given to tears and some 'back-talk' which I be- lieve he 'tries to control. He only gets along well with the two youngest. What annoys me most is his 'low - toleration' point. He says noises bother him at the table or when he is doing homework, yet he is noisy and very loud himself when he wants to be. : "He is neat (to a fault) al- though his room or desk at school is sloppy. He has just recently improved in care of his books and handwriting. He cares very much about what people think of him and avoids situations where an adult might laugh at him. With other boys, however, he gets along well and teasing from them seems to roll off." My reply in part: Have your son's physician make a careful physical check on him. Limit his and the other children's viewing of TV and forbid pro- grams of violence. It's fortunate he does pretty well at school, enjoys approval by adults and has good relations with dad. less noise at meals and while he is doing homework. Seeing you parents having reasonable concern for him then could help win his co-operation. Perhaps ways could be found to have more serene and happy mealtimes when this boy and each other child will participate enjoyably and feel they belong. You seem to have considerable insight into that boy's feelings fa and behavior. I'm sure you both are better parents than you think you are. His good traits and achieve- ments should warrant warm ap- proval from you parents. ANSWERING QUESTIONS Q. When may the kitchen be a relatively safe place for the toddler? A. When he has learnd well the meaning of "no" and has a vigilant mother. SOCIAL NOTICES ENGAGEMENT Mr. and Mrs. John Hopkins, Ashburn, wish to announce the engagement of their eldest daughter, Sharon Jean, to Anthony John Emm, youngest son of Mr, and Mrs. Sydney Emm, RR 1, Oshawa. Wedding plans will be announced later. FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE Mr. and Mrs, Murray H. Smith, Oshawa, wish to -an- nounce the forthcoming mar- riage of their daughter, Donna Ruth, to John F. W. McKee, son of Mr. and Mrs. Terrence B. McKee, North Bay, Ontario. The wedding is to take place Saturday, April 8, 1967, at 7:00 p.m. in Northminster United Church, Oshawa. : MARRIAGE Mr. and Mrs. Frederick M. Jamieson, Oshawa, wish to an- nounce the marriage of their daughter, Mary Frances, to Lloyd William Gowie, son of Mrs. John B. Kennedy, Scar- borough, and the late Lloyd W. Gowie. The ceremony took place on Saturday, March 4, 1967, at Northminster United Church with the Reverend H. A. cig dad could do most to help lad speed up a bit on Mellow, DD, officiating. and Praye' @ Be Sure 376- With Your Telephone Pastor -- Rey. Fred Spring @ Daily Messages, Encouragement r To Call Today LINE 2111 ORGANDY FROM Svwit- zerland and color - fast threads from England are used in beautiful pieces of embroidery such as the cloth above, in the starfire The twenty-one branches of the Anglican Women's Aux- iliary within the Oshawa Dean- ery have come together to hold a display and sale of Pakistani embroidery during the after- noon and evening of Thursday, March 16 in the parish hall of St. George's Memorial Church. These embroideries were made in Pakistan by simple vil- lage women trained by an Anglican missionary, Miss Elsa Peter, and her Pakistani col- leagues. They are available in a variety of articles and a wide range of patterns. The exquisite shadow-work is embroidered on the best quality Swiss organdy using color-fast threads. When this project was started in 1948 it employed only four women. There are now 600 women in 30 villages regularly earning enough to not only have food for their families but to educate their children. pattern, made by women and girls in villages in Paki- stan. Trained by Miss Elsa Peter, they receive Christ- jan teaching as they learn and for the first time in Anglican Women Sponsor Sale Imported Pakistani Embroidery They are taught to knit, em- broider, learn to read and write and are instructed in hygiene. For the past twelve years the WA of the Anglican Church of Canada has promoted the sale of these embroideries in their branches across Canada, The goods sold here have kept many women and girls employed and have enabled Miss Peter to train others. There is a long waiting list of women who want the oppor- tunity to learn and to earn, but before teaching others, Miss Peter must be assured of a steady flow of orders from Can- ada. The promotion and sale of these embroideries enables all the women of the church to link hands with their sisters across the seas and so share in this practical social service. With Shortcuts A working wife often finds herself short on time when it comes to preparing dinner. But this meal can still be a triumph, according to home economists at Macdonald Institute, Univer- sity of Guelph, if you plan short- cuts for advance preparation and quick cooking. Here are some suggestions, Make sure all tools are in easily accessible places. Choose double dishes, such as stew, which can be served again the second day as meat pie. Plan meals that can be en- UNDER ONE ROOF MONTREAL (CP)--Rev. and Mrs. Frederic Cappucino of Pinte Claire, Que., have an international family. Besides their own two children they have adopted five, an American boy, an Indian boy, a Korean girl and a boy and girl who are part-Japanese and part-Negro. WAX MARKED TIME In past centuries candles with markings at regular intervals were burned to keep time. es Organize Weekday Dinners To Success tirely baked, broiled, or pres- sure-cooked. They're simple and quick. Choose dishes that can be easily prepared the day or night before. Serve more of one food in order to cut down on the total number of dishes. On a free day, do all your baking for the following week. Forget about "frills" during the work week. Serve the spe- cial meals on your day off. GUARANTY TRUST 32 KING ST. E. Open To Serve You Mon. - Thurs. 9 to 5 Friday & to Saturday $ te | their lives they receive a living wage. It is only through the sale of these embroideries that more wo- men can be trained and more materials purchased. HOUSEHOLD HINT Buy an assortment of shapes and sizes of uncovered foam rubber bolsters and cushions. Cover them with exotic silk remnants to freshen your room decor. THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW Yesterday's planetary restric- tions lift now, so you should have a good day. Keep your most worthwhile gals in mind, first three weeks of May, all of June, September and November will be highly propitious for travel and stimulating social activities. be extremely versatile; succeed as a writer, business executive or jurist. A child born on this day will could and pursue them with enthusi- asm. If you've had a new proj- ect in mind, but have hesitated about launching it, now is the time. Be sure that it is a prac- tical one, however. FOR THE BIRTHDAY guest on TV's Mission--Impos- sible, worked as a newspaper cartoonist before becoming an actor. WORKED ON PAPER Martin Landau, a recurring * "st " rm WIFE PRESERVER right piano. The back is already idented, add shelves and paint. HONORABLE HISTORY Canada's first hospital, the Hotel Dieu at Quebec, was opened in 1639 by Roman Cath- olic nursing sisters. 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