14 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesday, December 6, 1966 . * i : i in zi? : house. & r "< ik ze 3" we I the engi a ie whole Z thout | bills. My husband found thing wrong .|he worked, father has been a heavy drinker for as long as I can remember, but this is the first like top hating him, And 'll tee stop J ell me I can face the kids at time he has done mag orp this. Please tell me how school.--Janet Dear Janet: You must stop hating him, not for his sake but for your sake, Sometimes an alcoholic must hit bottom before he is ready to admit he has a problem and seek the help he needs. Maybe this incident will be the turning point in your father's life. Let's jope 80. In the meantime, go back to school and hold up your head. You are not responsible for your father's behavior. Look into 'Alateen, a group for teen-agers who must live with alcoholic parents. Alateen is a branch of Alcoholics Anon- ymous and you will find it ANN LANDERS Alateen Group Helps Alcoholics' Children Landers: I am so could die. I'm a school and I am of our "Tri hi Y" night the meeting came home about drunk, He sat down in the middle of meeting and took over, tried to get him to room, he went on a jag, said nobody wanted round any more and that world was against listed in the phone book undér A.A. Good luck to you, honey, and chin up. Dear Ann Landers: I have an answer for "Getting Notions"-- the woman whose husband falls asleep in front of the TV and shows no sign of life after 8 p.m. She confessed that al- most every man she sees is be- to look good to her. I had the problem years ago, and this is how it was resolved, I had seven chil- dren in 12 years, I did all own house work, took a pa time job, not by choice but cause I had to help pay the some- with every Either the people were beneath him socially, or the work was too hard, or the hours were too long or the job was too far from the, house. He drifted from one thing to another and finally he went into "semi-retirement" at age 45. How do you like that for a healthy man with plenty of ability? Unfortunatély, he had no interest in anything but sex. With the responsibilities of seven children, plus the house and the job, I simply didn't have the time or the strength for "getting notions." So you see, Ann ders, sometimes necessity forces a solution on us.--Mrs. B. Dear Mrs. B.: I can't see any solution in your letter, dear. It looks as if you have merely exchanged one set of problems for another. But thank you for writing. Confidential to' Quo Vadis: Don't be greedy, Quo. You can shear a sheep many times. You can take its hide but once, KEEP IN TRIM Will Power Becomes Crutch It's Attitude That Reduces By IDA JEAN KAIN Overweight teen-agers, let's take it from your angle today. Iisa Lage this --- h ape up a a at never fun to be fat, but it seems to be a particular heartache when you are young. To spark your enthusiasm for action, let me tell you about one 14 + year - old who tipped the scales at 152 pounds. Uhappy after shopping for a dress, she told her mother rebelliously: "J look awful anyway. I might as well eat everything and get as as a house!" of sympathizing with her hter, her mother. re- plied: 'Well, if that's what you) want to do you'll get as big as a house. When you decide to reduce, let me know and I'll te." From past expe- riences this mother knew that unless her daughter stopped stuffing herself between meals, it id do little good to try to her. Just one week later the young lady came to her mother and announced: "OK. I'm ready to reduce." She meant it. Her mother gave her a big hug and then made every effort to plan low-calorie meals. But the change in eating was made by the girl herself. She left off the between-meal extras --the candy bars, chocolate milk shakes, chips, cokes, frappes, peanuts and such. The first week she lost five pounds, and from then on lost gradually. This triumphant lady now weighs 126 pounds for her 5' 5" and enjoys eating and exercising to keep shapely. DON'T STARVE KEEPING CLEAN FOR CHRISTMAS --C.P. Photo Protect Pretty Party Dresses By MARGARET NESS NEW YORK (CP)--For a shiny . Christmas season, pop zeal to lick your weight prob-|Your daughter into a vinyl pop- lem; don't try to starve or go on|°Ve- : silly diets. You can eat and| Worn over a party dress, it's slim down beautifully, but you}new, practical and handsome. It must 'not slight good. nutrition.|can be hosed down after a cake- You lack will power? Girls, stop leaning on will power as if it were some sort of magic. sticky party. Spilled juices can be wiped clean in.a jiffy. The underneath party dress Your will is influenced by the|could be Christmas green, red way you look at the situation.|or white, as in Chemstrand's When you associate will power|double - knit acrilan, acetate as "giving up" something you|bonded for extra firm strength. want, you are on the wrong} Then when your three- to six- track. A positive plan is to rec-|year-old is partying slip a clean ognize, that when you say ajvinyl popover over her dress. resolute "no" to assorted sweets|The neck, armholes and hem- you are really saying a tri-jline can be banded in a color umphant "yes" to slimming|contrasting with the dress, Long down. white -- and hevempent Stop overeating on 'junk' |patent slippers complete the Phar $M te boo "hfter| hristmas-party effec. ; apie Vinyl has also been used by school you'll feel hungry. Turn Joseph Love, the New York on a tune, dance around, stretch,| manufacturer with a Montréal bend and swing for 15 minutes. peril for ac 4 u a ou. , andsome enough for a party class of skim 'milk and a. big|OCE 8 008 With vertical band apple and get to the homework. i : This very night at dinner play Love has also included several a little game with yourself. En- Hg --_ nit Dy: icurie joy each mouthful of food. Do sweater. not fork into the next mouthful until the one you are eating is| He too likes vinyl popovers, all gone. Fast eating leads to which he calls slipper smocks overeating. Do not continue eat-/°' Coveralls. These are worn over play dresses or even jump- a realize you have suits. A clear vinyl coverall with red trim covers a blue- The day you look upon right/and-white striped dress. Clear eating as doing yourself a big) vinyl smocks cover jumpsuits in favor, you're on your way. a red check, a black polka dot or a puppy dog print. HOUSEHOLD HINT FOR PRE-TEENS After freshly painting or| Even for pre-teens Love likes papering walls, roll on a very/a pa dy es 4 ina ---- thin coating of liquid starch, 1t|Yoke and wrist-cuffs on a black- vanishes as it dries and, comes|*"%.* Wilte striped cordurey To get back to you: In your! dress. cleaning time, the dust and] Vinyl became r last grime wash off more easily. |spring in both children's and With Popovers Of Practical Viny] women's raincoats. It will prob- ably carry over to next spring in both lightweight clear and heavier opaque qualities. Not all party dresses will be covered with vinyl popovers. Important always with the young set is velveteen. Love has several in a plum shade with lace trim. A china blue velve- teen has lace and eyelet collar and cuffs, and a rose velveteen with bubble smocked yoke sports a pink blouse. Lace is also a favorite, as in the cage silhouette of delicate lace over a blue dress, suitable for ages from four to 14. In the Canadian market de- signer Elen Henderson made up a clear vinyl popover with sleeves to go over a corduroy shift. It was for a fashion photo- graph but she had so many re- CHILD GUIDANCE By GARRY C, MYERS, PhD Scme pianning now for Unrist- mas by ourselves and our chil- dren is desirable, It's a good time for dad and mother to agree on a budget for Christ- mas shopping beyond which they wil! aim not to go, and for giving the children money to spend for gifts, If the children are of school age they might profitably help with this plan- ning. Our tempiation will be, even now, to choose an amount un- reasonably high. If we don't set a limit now we surely will tend to spend more' for Christmas than our income warrants. Most parents think of Christ- mas as a time to provide gifts for the children and children usually keep dream: of the presents they will receive. It is not easy for them to think of what they might give at Christ- mas, especially to their parents. As a rule, their notion about Christmas is a pretty selfish one, as they generally are on the receiving end. Do we wish to lessen the usual selfish attitudes in our children toward Christmas? Do we wish to have them gain pleasure from giving? Do we wish to cul- tivate in them a desire to make ay personal sacrifices to this end? BETTER TO GIVE We may be able to have our children plan for Christmas in the following ways: Cause them to be thinking about the gifts they hope to buy or make; en- courage them to launch now a quests that she incorporated it in her fall-winter collection. She used green or red velvet neck, armholes, hem and down the back. For Christmas parties Mrs, Henderson is featuring velvet, some in floor lengths and all _~ plenty of venise or guipere ace, Silk organza is popular. Mrs. Henderson has found that white, along with red, is a top color for children's party frocks. She has even used it in velvet. ribbon to edge al laround the|| The glitter being used for late- Let Children Help To Plan Family Christmas Budget program of saving from their Own money, AgcoruNgiy wey might find special ways to earn some extra money, and ways to save from their allowance by going without certain pleasures. If, for example, your child has been spending 25 to 50 cents a@ week for buying sweets, he might choose to go without some or all these luxuries from now till Christmas in order to pur- chase some . Obviously, it is desirable that he should have in mind a gift for each parent and perhaps for other members of the family, including grand- parents. The child who makes a Christmas gift at school or at home for any person, likes to keep it a secret. Let us enable him to do so, Aside from the values of the skills he derives from making the gifts, are his dreams while doing so, of pre- senting the gift. ENCOURAGE GIVING So when we receive one of these gifts our child has made let us show warm and honest appreciation of it, however crude it may be, Let us also express wholehearted apprecia- tion of gifts he has created for others, as he shows them to us. When from his own money he | Think Mink -- Think Mink -- Think | § "think 2 mink" 4 1 MINK 3 Stoles --- Boleros -- Jackets, 3 TUXEDO RENTALS Sargeants RENTALS | 463 Ritson $. 725-3338 E Think Mink -- Think Mink -- Think x s ink -- Think Mink -- Think Mink 'ily is also a more ancient prac- tice in the Jewish family itt Hanukkah, which usually near Christmas, i ANSWERING QUESTIONS | Q. How may we bring up a child not to have great of little cuts and b ? A. Manage ves to be calm when at three months, three years or later he is in- jured and when we must have first aid and the like. 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