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ANN LANDERS Frigid A Lnhoro Dear Anh Landers: If you will print my letter you will: be helping not only me but thou- sands wives who dare not discuss this problem with any- one, no matter how trustworthy. husband and I are in our early 40s. We have been faith- fal to one another for 15 years. I am attractive and youthful looking. We have a large fam- ily, a lovely home and no fi- nancial worries My husband's decreasing de- sire for any physical contact) with me is driving me to the edge, I have. joked, hinted, flirted, and finally I cam right out and verbalized my need for him. He remained silent and fell asleep, leaving me feeling degraded and frustrated. am pi | to you because I find myself thinking some dangerous thoughts. Other men are beginning to look extremely attractive to me. I fear that one day when the opportunity pre- sents itself (as it inevitably will) I'll take it. At the moment I am torn be- tween self-condemnation not suggest that I keep myself! busy becatise I am busier than) anyone I know. My husband's pride would not let him see a/ doctor about this problem s0 that's oul. To complicate mat- ters, our family doctor is a per- sonal friend. The unfaithful husband who wanders because his wife is cold and unresponsive gets a lot of sympathy. But ardent wives with cold husbands dare not look left nor right or they are considered tramps. I am not ready for the Tock-| ing chair yet. What shall I do? --Getting Notions Dear Getting Notions: Tell| your husband precisely what) you told me. Make it clear you are not threatening him, but that you are gravely concerned about your ability to remain faithful to him. Explain that if! and| physical starvation. Please do| Husband Needs ugh Check-up his marfiage he must see a doctor--perhaps in another city. Johns Hopkins for a "complete physical' is always a good idea. It is not normal for @ man in his early 40s to be completely disinterested in sex. Your hus- band should learn if there is a doctor, I suggest that you sée one, and ask his advice. Dear Ann Landers: Three \years ago our only son came |home from the service. He brought with him a girl who was only 20 years old and al- ready she had a divorce and two small children. When he said, "'Meet my wife," we al- most died, Now the problem is the girl's housekeeping. I've seen dirty houses in my day, Ann, but nothing can compare with hers. |I've gone over there myself and cleaned her house from top to bottom at least a dozen times, but the next day it's the same pig's sty. My husband re- fuses to let me do it anymore and my son has asked me to stop, too. They have a beautiful little boy now. I am just crazy about those three grandchildren so please don't tell me to stop going over there. I need you to tell me what to do.--Los An- geles Heartache Dear Heartache: If all the women who write to me on this same subject were lined up, they would reach from Anchor-| age to Amarillo. My advice is to play deaf, dumb and blind when you go over there, Enjoy your grand- children and take them to your house whenever possible. | If your son complains to you| about his wife's housekeeping} tell him to talk to her, not you.| It is their problem and you should stay out of it. Parents' Calm Attitude Controls | Child's Terror of By GARRY C, MYERS, PhD Some young children are ter- rified during electric storms and may continue to be all their lives. As a rule, the way chil- dren feel and act during such storms depends chiefly on the way their parents act and feel. Some parents who themselves are very uncomfortable during a thunderstorm can manage themselves well for the sake of their children, They can ob- serve a few sensible precau- tions without talking about them and keep themselves busy then. Parents not only help them- selves but the youngster also by reading stories to the tot or en- gaging in some fun with him during storms. A few parents greatly terrified during a storm might feel more safe and com- fortable by wearing rubbers. They might be able to do so without calling the matter to the child's attention. Parents might also observe a few other precautions: Not lean- ing against the walls; staying away from a chimney or out of a draught; not going out- doors; not going near high trees or the telephone or kitchen sink | deliver them personally to es-| spondence course that will give} tablish myself as he is interested in preserving] © A trip to the Mayo Clinic or} ¢ something physically wrong) with him. If he refuses to se@| ; The nautical look has made the fashion news for 1966 and it is now on the beaches in Wet Set's chic double knit nylon suit with tri-color treatment and ap- plique trim on the boyleg trunks, This comfortable two-piece THE NAUTICAL LOOK suit for the girl who truly likes to swim has a modified bra top and the trunks settle right on the hips. e colors are red, white and blue or lime, white and marine blue and the p rice is abou t $16. Sizes range from 5 to 13. -- By Tracy Adrian | Would One Spoi By ROBERTA ROESCH ear Roberta Roesch: Do you help or hinder your chance of obtaining an interview if you drop in casually at a place |where you would like to work} Once you have your aim before you are called to an in- terview? I have been asked to submit some samples of the type of work I do, so I would like to something 1 Chances By Casual Visit With Samples? on a little card and carry it in your purse, sight of your destination in th progress you can make in your limited morning hours. @s- tablished, take your first steps toward it by using your morn- ing hours to add to your pres- lent education with a planned | * jreading program or a corre- you background for the job at Electric Storm {more than just another type-|which you hope to work. Be | | It is helpful after the storm| has subsided, especially at night, to watch and listen with him the play of dimming light- ning and: thunder at a distance. The beauty of it all can over- balance fear. In case of violent wind storms, tornado or hurricane, go. with your children to the basement if there is one. This may. be done without undue an- xiety, fear or excitement. Don't go outdoors then, as a rule. If caught while in a car with children, try to drive where in least danger from falling trees and the like. Stay in the car. The tires are good insulator from electricity. If caught while outdoors walking, avoid trees and fallen electric wires. It is not a good time during a thun- |derstorm to go in swimming. |ANSWERING QUESTIONS Q. When a good hostess has| a small group of guests, she tries to get all of them to share in the conversation. Should we parents not try to do likewise with our children in the family | group? Q. Yes, indeed. written name on a list of ap- plicants. | But several people have told) me that this would be unwise} Since it would spoil my chances for an interview if the employer or his assistants, on seeing me as I delivered the samples, de- cided I wasn't the type they wanted--A. M. Dear A. M.: This is a chance ou have to take. But to look at it a little more positively, it can work for you as well as against you, because if the peo- le pho see you like your type of person they may put in a good word for you. I have never felt it an unwise move if you have a legitimate reason for showing yourself at the office. However, if you do stop by without an appointment, don't insist on seeing the em- ployer or his assistants when they are not expecting you. Dear Roberta Roesch: My) life as a housewife and mother| absorbs my time at the mo-| ment. But my youngest child will start school soon, so I know I will have some extra hours in which to get myself into shape, for a job later on. sure that some of your reading includes vocational literature in the field that interests you. You can also use these morn- ing hours to brush up on job skills, If you don't have any, look) $0 you won't lose) ¥ " y e| ficult to find a ride. I was given (Wemen 10 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesday, July 12, 1966 KEEP IN TRIM By IDA JEAN KAIN A young woman of 20, mother lof two, writes to ask for help' "T weigh 20 pounds too much and-the-fat-seems-glued-on.-My- husband can't stand a fat wife. I've taken pills but as soon as they are Fone, I re-gain. I bake a lot and there is always ice eream and good food around. It is hard not to eat too much. Please help me before it is too late!"' Youth is in your favor. The added fat is fairly recent and it will come off if you get into action. Granted, it may not be to turn down delicious food. But if you take the first Ht nature will come to your aid, Give yourself this challenge: Eat a little less at each meal and in three weeks you will not want to eat so much. Eat the meat, vegetables and one slice of bread. To be alerted at meal- time, wear a dress with a tight waistband to the table, Get up from the table before you feel comfortably full. A shift dress allows you to overeat without discomfort. Challenge yourself to give this a spirited try. Let another young mother help you: LOST 21 LBS. "About a-year ago my hus- band took a look at me and said, 'Honey, you're getting kind of broad across the beam.' "To help me, he sent me to a reducing salon. However, since | we live miles away, it was dif- the diet pattern and the exer- cises, but I had to do the slim- |ming at home on my own, |. "When I started I weighed 156 pounds. In three months I lost 21 pounds, and a total of 30 inches. I am 5 ft. 7 in. and now | weigh 135 pounds, I've held my weight for nine months. "My chief incentive was his |interest and confidence in me. I want to say to all the hus- Husbands' Understanding Helps Wives Reduce help her. I could not have done it without the belief that God would help me maintain strength of will, I still exercise daily as_it keeps me toned. My husband thinks I look great in my new bikini!" How do you unglue the fat? With action! Stop overeating and add exercise, Twenty pounds is not so hard to take off, Resolve to get up from the table short of that full feeling and walk into the living room, or around the block. Ask your husband to clear off the table and to put away all the food. He'll co-operate. Give your mind the right blue print. Use your imagination! If there is any "magic'" in reduc- ing, this is it--to plan in ad- vance, picture vividly and then go ahead eagerly to create a new you! Get a_ triumphant feeling that this is it! Pluck is better than a pill any day! THE STARS SAY FOR TOMORROW Yesterday's planetary restric- tions lift now and you should have an all-around good day. Along material lines, financial transactions are favored; also ldealings with superiors--espe- \cially if you are seeking favors. Komance and social activities |take on new bloom in the late |p.m., which should make up for 'any disappointments you may have had on Tuesday. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, |jour horoscope promises a \highly interesting year. Career advancement, business expan- sion and financial gain are. indi- cated for all Cancerians within the next 12 months--not to a spectacular degree, to be sure, but sufficiently satisfying for you to further step up efforts to reach--desired--goals:--The---fitst two weeks of August and the period between mid-September and mid - November, for in- stance, will be excellent for monetary interests, as will early December, next February, April and June. It will be im- portant, however, that you avoid speculation throughout the year, but especially during the first two months of September. On the occupational score, look forward to some fine chances for advancement and recognition for past efforts-- |notably in late September, early \December, next January, March and May--but don't let Over-optimism could lead you into the pitfalls of extravagance. Along personal Hnes, 'your stars are more than generous. They highlight romance and un- usually stimylating social activ- ities -- especially betweén now ang, Sept. 15 and between Nov. 15 and Jan. 1, and your life during those two periods may take on most glamorous over tones. Next good months for romance: April, May and June, of next year. If careful to avoid friction with members of the family .in mid-December and throughout April, your domestic concerns should run smoothly. WONDERFUL PARFAITS 1. Alternate layers of jello ine stant pudding and strawberry ice cream in parfait glasses, Garnish with whipped cream. 2. Left over cake parfaits -- Alternate la of cake crumbs with strawberry ice cream, pour over fresh or froz- en strawberries. Garnish with whipped cream, 3. Wiggly Parfaits -- Alter- nate strawberry fello and strawberry ice cream in par- fait glass -- pour over crushed pineapple. Garnish with whip- ped cream and a berry. the possibility of increased Jearnings during any .one or all jof these periods cause you to disregard the above advice. INTERIOR DECORATOR FURNITURE ORAPERIES BROADLOOM 15 King Street East CUSTOM MADE DRAPES Phone 725-2686 bands who might read this col- }umn that if you will show your) |wife how happy you are that! |she is trying to lose, and notice; it and compliment her even if the loss is just a little, it will for a way to acquire some. Then use these hours for study and practice. Supper In Carden | Closes Season For Knox WMS The Arvilla McGregor Eve- ning Auxiliary of Knox Presby- terian Church met recently at the home of Mrs, James W. Heath, Colborne street east, for a pot-luck supper served in the garden. The regular meeting followed with the president, Miss Jean MacInnis, presiding. The scrip- ture was read by Miss Grace Kennedy who also conducted the Mission study. The topic, "Called for the World' led to an interesting discussion. WORLD OF Beauty AWAITS YOU HERE! hair per- manently from face, arms, legs with ELECTROLYSIS Deluxe, Remove superfluous Kree Imperial gentle fast by Electrolysis. Marue Murdofp Will be in Oshawa oat the Genosha Hotel July 11, 12, 13, PHONE 723-4641 I won't be able to take a job! | while my son is in kindergarten, | | since I will take him to school WHERE SMART WOMEN SHOP FAMOUS COAST TO COAST semi annua I CLEARANCE c and the like. Observing such) precautions themselves, they) might quietly guide their chil-| dren in like precautions without) show of anxiety or saying much. |had STILL DRIVES ON HAMILTON (CP)--Lily Barry almost decided not to re- Instead of explanations par- ents' attitude should be, 'These are good ways during an elec- tric storm." If necessary, com- mand the child in such pre- cautions. With young children, it usu- ally is the thunder clap which frightens and not the lightning, the real source of danger. If the baby or young child is asleep during a thunderstorm, it is well to be near him lest he should be awakened and frightened by a thunder crash. WATCH RECEDING STORM During an electric storm at night, if the young child is awake, it may be wise, after the worst of the storm has passed, to sit and watch with him through the window at some distance from it, and try to see outdoors as much as he and you can at each flash. Wednesday DANCEY'S SHOE SALE Store Closed All Doy Coming THURSDAY -- 10:00 A.MA. Sharp jnew her golf club subscription |for the 30th year when she was offered a free round. The 73- year - old golfer changed her |mind after only a few holes, In |half a century of golf she's not jyet broken 100 but now is sure she has the stamina, Mrs | Dear Mrs. 0. 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