being a better playmate. Dad and enrolled me in a boys'|dimes phenever she cotld. But THE OSHAWA TIMES, Friday, Merch 25, 1966 7 CHILD GUIDANCE Undersized Older Child | Needs To Build Confidence By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD A child over six or seven who does not have interests and skills in sports or is under- sized and can't compete well in the usual activities of his age group may try to win attention by clowning. In his abortive ef- forts he may act' in so many babyish ways as to cause his playmates and teachers to treat him as younger than he is in years. year-old son: "He is small for his age,| weighs only 63 Ibs., does not| participate in sports, but is| well - co - ordinated; receives Bs .and Cs on his report cards, is in the highest. reading and arithmetic group, fails to com- plete assignments on time and, according to the teacher, thinks everything is a joke. He's a daydreamer and a talker. He's 'on-stage' before his friends and classmates, clowning and trying to make them laugh-- I'm afraid, at him, not with him! "His teachers, since Grade 2 have told me he is immature but fail.to tell me what to do about it. How can my husband and,I help him to grow up? Is this something that will just take time? He is a cub scout and takes accordion lessons once a week. He is our first jas © | child and has a sister eight} years old in Grade 3 who is an average siudeni. | "My husband is home <4 nings and every weekend. We take camping vacations to-| gether and take the children on} all our trips. Everything is| done as a family group, so he| is not growing up without a! father-image. Please try and| | help us." | | 'A mother writes of her 10-/MAY GIVE RELIEF My reply in part: You parents seem to be hav-| ing many good ways with that) boy. It's too bad the teachers | of your boy have not explained \to you what they mean when \they say your boy is immature. |They may mean that he acts a 'dren his age. I think you ought to be en- couraged that your son makes such good grades. It could be that he feels inferior and finds that clowning gives him relief. Being under-size could be a factor. Any means for helping him compensate desirably should help. Study him in the home and try to make sure that he feels as important, wanted and secure in the family as his sister. Try to attract some playmates his age to your home where you can study him and guide him in To Cure Winter's Doldrums There's Nothing Like A New Hat | NEW. YORK (CP) -- Just about now, with spring still tan- tilizingly remote, a new straw' hat can lift your morale sev- eral notches. ; To a woman there's nothing ;your wardrobe, Tyrbans can even have a scarf tied around them to match your costume. Emme showed a cocoa-scarfed turban in the recent spring pres- entation by the Millinery Insti- tute of America, held here. \little younger than average chil- : might help your son learn some play skills and skills at making things with tools--any kind of creation--which his playmates would admire. Such achieve- ment might help him compen- sate for his sensitiveness about hie : ' ANSWERING QUESTIONS Q.--My son in Grade 4 makes poor grades in writing because he holds his pen or pencil as you would squeeze a grape. His teachers and I have tried to get him to hold it in the right way, but he is high-strung and gets upset. What can I do? A.--I would advise all of you quit bothering this boy about the way he holds his pencil but work on a long-time program, with the aid of his, physician, to quiet him down and help him grow more relaxed. One Small. Event Changes Path Of One's Lifetime By ROBERTA ROESCH Sometimes when you expect it jeasi, a siuali event cai Chait your course to new opportunities and influence the direction of Hife'.saye lecturer Induk Pahk. She is also the fouder of a Korean school for underprivileged boys and author of the book The Hour of the your entire Tiger. ay added, say this," Mrs: nities."" That year, Mrs. plained, she and her mother,!she dressed me in boys' | | | | "because when I was seven years old, a simple yel- nather villages anouicr Viuage. there was not another boy Pahk "You know the wall-to-wall carpeting in our Mustang? We're getting the same thing for our den." "And for flavour 1 add GT stripes, dise who were Buddhists at the time, attended a Christmas service in were given after the service, each boy received a pencil and each girl a handkerchief, except Induk, She was given a pencil. "Back in our own village, girl who owned a pencil," Induk said, "'so because I had one-- and because girls in Korea did not go to school ordinarily--my low pencil given to me at Christ-; mother sent fof a scholar who mas gave me my own opportu-| had been a friend of my late lfather and asked him to teach) In the Pahk ex-|me the Korean alphabet. Later) clothes school." Still later, Induk attended a new mission school for girls and, subsequently, Wesleyan | College in Macon, Ga. ties, she resolved she would de- vote her life to providing for the education of impoverished young Koreans. She began by lecturing at Berea Coliege in Kentucky: There she became inspired to start a Berea in Korea for poor boys. When she discussed the possibilities with the president of Berea in Kentucky, he sug- gested she raise some of the money by writing. Her first book, September Monkey, re- sulted from: this. /meantime, she carried on a year-in-year-out lecture | schedule, saving dollars and or Because of her own opportuni-| while the funds were accumu- lating, her spirit and her sav- ings were wiped out simultane- ously when the money was taken by an old friend she knew in Korea who had persuaded her to entrust it to him for invest- had to keep up my travelling}I am contin a way of and lecturing, just to change the| that was preci and Pa look on the faces of those boys.|through the years by the small "I worked lil e a mad woman|event of receiving a single pen- to do it," she /said. "But I feell cil in a Korean church," ment. "For a while," Induk ad- mitted, "I felt I couldn't start again. But ultimately my deter- Wiination begin again." | Finally, with the extra help of donations from _ friends, Berea in Korea was opened in 1964, eight miles outside of Seoul. ' | "One hundred and forty boys) Retinal dae drove me to applied," said Induk, "but we lonly had room for 30. So when |] saw the faces of those who had to be turned away I knew mt SALE TAX CONTINUES e Till Mar. 31 at. NU-WAY Rug Centre 54 Church St- 728-4201 more than ever before that I pass 7 nerve = aati "T got heavy-duty springs, heavy-duty shocks, stiffer stabilizer bar and the faster steering ratio." odd about a straw hat in win-| ter. Nor does it strike her as| Sally Victor tucked a matching odd that felt appears in late/ blue . printed scarf. around a August or coincides with the| plump circular turban, with the Sentember fairs, usually held in| scarf end falling over one shoul- oppressively hot weather. Men,} der. however, seem to be astounded; Mr. John placed a red-and- every year at this feminine id-| gold silk scarf down the back josyncrasy. of a peaked visor hat. And Miss So if you're planning to in-| Alice interpreted a Foreign Le- vace a millinery department, | gion cap with a_ buttoned-on keep this rule in mind, This|scarf that covers the back of brakes, dual exhausts, fog lamps and about 271 young horses." "Pity the poor father with a Mustang. "That Fastback has the lines Except = Sundays." of a clipper ship. I guess 1 kind of flipped for it." spring, hats are in with the Total Look. Conse- quently you should take inven- tory of your actual or proposed spring wardrobe and buy your) hat to consolidate the effect you wish to create. This isn't a sea- son for impulse buying. However, there are a few mil- linery trends to guide you. Off- the - face brims and shallow crowns are dominant. For one thing, they are youthful and, phile fashion has i a brake on the way-vut young intended to fit|the neck and frames the face. BONNETS ARE POPULAR Last season's bonnets -- or baby caps as they are being called now--and the type of hat won by ballet dancer Nureyev | are top favorites with the young fashionables. The bonnets, how- lever, aren't only for the teens Sally Victor. is quite partial to bonnets this spring--the bon- net styles seen on the children in far paintings. Naturally Mrs. ci.c's yersion is more sophisticated. But you should leave the real bow-tied baby (Or,'-How can one car please so many i" people?'"') "For a man on the road, comfort is everything. Mustang's bucket seat is like a home away from home." look of last year, there 'sim a certain youthful feeling in the new elegance. |eaps for the extremely young! ,and the teen-agers. ROLLERS IN FRONT | Emme especially likes flow-| Rollers are popular. Lily| ered hats this spring. This is an Dache creates a diamond-| individual taste. Fiower hats do shaped roller ecg ten ed baa dominate the fashion scene braiding in a high swifle was they have in some spring fect and Miss Mary uses criss-| seasons. Adolfo sti'l prefers his cross open straw braiding for a helmets and stark shanes: to high - rise roller. Mr. John slits) complement the boyish Sassoon} open the back half of a rounded haircut with a slash of hair| poke bonnet brim and brings it} across one eye. Mr. John, usu- forward to button under the) ally an extremist too, has cre-| chin for a complete face! ated this spring what is for him framer. a most subdued collection of In fashion again are large| various silhouettes brimmed sailors, usually grip-| In millinery, -it's certainly a ping the back of the head in aj spring to highlight your own in- most precarious upward - peint-| dividuality. But do remember, | ing angle. elegance goes with elegance and Turbans and scarf hats add a, kookie styles definitely are for softness and individuality to|the teen-agers. 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