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ee tea NEC rei te RI He CHILD GUIDANCE Punishment Of Children Needs Good Judgment By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD {sistent with each other. After The purpose of any kind of|Punishing the child once for a punishment is threefold: definite "'offense" be sure you 1. To make unpleasant an un- desirable act of the child. 2. To deter him from repeat- ing it. 3. To lay in him the founda- tion of respect for constituted authority and regard for the rights of others. : Make pleasant to the child repeated. Permit no exceptions. Certainly of punishment is more powerful than its severity, as a rule. ; |CONSIDER YOUR ACTIONS Don't punish on the instalk ment plan--a little tap, then a harder and harder one, or a always do for this same offense) Sepa rig ut gl Gla PO NCA pe AS aR geo patgsne Y THE OSHAWA TIMES, Soturdey, July 10, 1965 7]. ANN LANDERS Dear Ann Landers: Several weeks ago you published a letter from a woman who com- plained because her sister-in- law brought a steak over to her house one Friday night and fixed it for herself while every- one else ate fish. When é Rome -- Do As Romans Do! thd Young Style Setters Look Backward This season's Young Fashion- ables in their search for the , the different and the off- beat have sparked a revival of grandmother's favorite fashions. Some of the ruffles, bows, her\{tills and patterned hose, so popular during the roaring twen- ties, have crept into the ward- robe of today's fashion neo- phytes. 'Shimmy' dresses of the Charleston era, short-cropp- spanking to be followed by chairsitting. Avoid long drawn-out punish- the many things you want him to do and unpleasant only the few things you want him never ed heads, little beaded hand- I grew up in a home that was bags with chain handles all strictly kosher. My sister Sadie 33 NANCY JOAN, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Roy Martin Oshawa, became the bride of Jack Lawrence Swain, WEDDING ALBUM A record for your Wedding Album is provided by The Oshawa Times Woman's Page Oshawa Times office. possible after the ceremony. names of out-of-town guests social editor either before or Northminster United Church was the setting for the mar- riage of Nancy Joan,daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Roy S, Mar- tin, Oshawa, to Jack Lawrence Swain, son of Mr. and Mrs. Harold B. Swain, Blackstock. Dr. H. A. Mellow officiated, assisted by an uncle of the bridegroom, the Reverend Mil- ton Sanderson, Toronto. Mr. John Robertson accompanied the soloist, Mrs. Lorne Thomp- son, Blackstock. Given in marriage by her father, the bride wore a formal gown of Chantilly lace over nylon tulle. The fitted bodice had lily-point sleeves and a sweetheart neckline re-embroi- dered with crystals. The full apron-effect skirt of Chantilly lace was caught with self roses with crystals in a side drape revealing the nylon tulle erinoline, Her headdress was a cluster of white roses with in- verted pearl stamens holding a shoulder-length bouffant veil of silk tulle illusion. She.carried a white prayer book crested with Elliott - Pickering Beach Community Church was the setting. for the marriage of Margaret Lina Wil- son, Pickering Beach, to Ray- mond Jerome Elliott, Toronto. The Reverend Charles Long of-| ficiated. Wedding music was played by Mr. Kurt Heymann, who also accompanied the soloist Mrs. Donald Manning. Given in marriage by her son, Mr. Raymond Wilson, the bride wore a semi-formal dress of pale blue lace with matching jacket, white accessories and a corsage of pink roses. Mrs. James Webb, the bride- groom's daughter, was the ma- tron of honor, wearing a two- Early publication of this wedding record is facilitated by submitting the completed form and a picture of the bride to the Women's Editor as soon as son of Mr. and Mrs. Harold B. Swain, Blackstock, in a ceremony in Northminster United Church, Oshawa. --Ireland Studio . Forme are available at The You are asked to submit the attending the wedding to the the day after the wedding. ment lasting over a period of several hours or days. Don't announce a punishment to be carried out by the other parent or another person. Whichever parent is directly with the child should deal de- cisively and finally with him. UNAMUSED SITTING When you assign a tot to sit for punishment for fifteen or twenty minutes in a ce' place unamused, doing nothing, in lieu of spanking (whereby spanking may be abandoned), have him sit where you can see him. Sending him to stay alone for thirty minutes or an hour in another room may be effec- to do or do again. PENALTY FOR REPETITION After the child is two or three, don't punish him on the first "offense." Instead, make clear the nature and serious- ness of the offense and name what the penalty will be for re- petition. Don't punish a child on the basis of the information he vol- unteers: or you have exacted from him, or of what other adults or children have re- ported; but only on what you hear with your own ears and see with your own eyes. Don't ever put your child on the © witness-stand, to question and cross-question him whenitive for the child over six or you merely suspect he has done |ten. abvad |ADVANCE_ INFORMATION ASK NO PROMISES Always the tot or older child After punishing a child, don't|should know at the beginning make him promise not to re-|/how long he must sit, as meas- peat the offense. Be so sure helyred by the clock. The clock has connected, in his mind, the|/has no feeling; it never gets a Martin pink sweetheart roses and pink carnations. The maid of honor was Miss Joy Martin, and the other. a- tendants were Miss Helen Swain, Blackstock, and Mrs. Ronald Crouse, Oshawa. They were dressed alike in shocking pink organza over silk taffeta semi-formal gowns. Mr. James Swain, Blackstock, was the best man and the ush- ers were Mr. Fred Martin, Osh- awa, and Mr. William Marlow, Blackstock. The reception was held at the Northminster Church hall, fol- lowed by a dance at the home of the bride's parents. | As the couple left on a honey-| moon trip to the Pocono Moun- tains, Pa., the bride was wear- ing a pink suit and hat with white accessories. Mr. and Mrs. Swain are making their home in Oshawa. Guests were present at the wedding: from Oshawa, Whitby, Bramalea, Blackstock, Bow- manville, Toronto, Warkworth, ignore him for what you had earlier punished him. should also strive to be con- Pp t with the offense|headache or gets nervous. If and that it has been suffi-/the tot gets down too soon, ciently certain and unpleasant,/spank him but don't extend or that he won't wish to repeat it./shorten the announced time, re- No lecture or exhortation or|gardless of his fussing or cry- warning then. ling or pleading. When the punishment has} Never tie the child, shake, or ended, act--move, breathe andjslap him about 'the face or speak--and try to feel as ifjhead. Use no hard weapon as nothing unusual had happened.|a ruler or hairbrush. The bare In your mind and heart remove/fiat hand skin-to-skin usually his transgressions from him/will suffice. Aim to be done "as far as the East is from the|with physical punishment be- West" and don't hold them|fore your child enters school. against him any more. Don't use for punishment Tf he must be punished again|what your child will like--going later for the same offense,|to bed. never refer to an earlier one.) Let him figure it out. Be so|\WALK CLEARS THE AIR -- consistent that he'can. | At times, when' your tot is tired and fretful, gets into one BE CONSISTENT \trouble after another, in spite Don't cuddle or caress thejof punishments, drop every- child after punishing him, even|thing, rock and cuddle him, sing when he begs you to do so, lest|or read to him, go walking with he concludé you had wronglyjhim or engage him in some punished him. If, however,, you/other pleasantry. discover that you had done so,, When you must increase pun- tell him and beg his forgive-|ishing over weeks or months, ness. Don't punish, even rebuke,|don't trust to your ways of pun- a child for a wrong you hadjishing but try to find more before applauded or ignored, or|means of helping your child to do more than you will approve, Mr. and Mrs. Stanley C. Mof- fatt, Park road north, celebrat- ed their golden anniversary on Wednesday by having an "at home' and reccived felicitations from a wide circle of friends. The table was centered by a three tiered wedding cake, de- corated by a former neighbor Mrs. Ronald Collins. Refreshments were served by granddaughters Rosemary and lizabeth Greer, Mrs. Wayne Lehman, Whitby; Mrs. Mert Crawford and great - grand- daughter Miss Shelly Craw- ford; assisted by Mrs. Leo Mof- fatt and Mrs. Arthur Moffatt (daughters-in-law), Mrs. John Muir, Mrs. Collins and daugh- ter, Mrs. Orville J. Greer. Tea was poured by Mrs. Her- man Kelly, Mrs. Sidney Burnett, Mrs. William Alexander and Mrs. Fred Perry. | Mr. and Mrs. Moffatt were) married in Columbus, Ontario, July 7, 1915 by the late Rever- end Haig with Mr. Paul Pur- vis and Miss Elizabeth Moffatt in attendance. Mrs. Moffatt was and enjoy in a family atmos- phere of love and understand-| ing. | Be consistent. Both parents Scarborough, Hampton, Taun- ton, Kingston, Nestleton, Port Perry and Burketon. KEEP IN TRIM Wilson of the bride, Mr. Keith Wilson, Hillier. The ushers were sons of the bridegroom, Mr. Carl E!- liott and Mr. Gerald Elliott of Pickering Beach and Mr. Percy Elliott, Toronto. | Approximately 145 guests at- tended a reception and dance at the Ajax Community Centre, where music for dancing was ered by the Elliott orches- ra. As the couple left for a honey- moon trip to Belleville and Prince Edward County, the bride was wearing a beige suit, white accessories and a corsage }of pink roses. | Mr. and Mrs. Elliott are mak- ing their home on Maple a jenue, Pickering Beach. | | | ye! Piece suit of pink lace, pink hat, Out-of-town guests were pres- white accessories and a cor-jent from Nova Scotia, Welland, sage of white roses. The best man was another son Berry - Emily Ellen Visniar became the bride of Robert Albert Berry, in a ceremony in Grace Lutheran Church, with the Rev- erend Philip Feis officiating. The bride is the daughter of Mr. John Visniar and the late Mrs. Visniar. Her bridegroom is the son of Mrs. Burpee Berry, Albert County, New Brunswick, and the late Mr. Berry. Mrs. Clarence Hansel played the wedding music. Given in marriage by her father, the bride wore a for- mal gown of silk satin with a lace over satin bodice, long sleeves and a satin bow at the back of the dress forming a bustle. Her thinestone tiara held her heirloom waist-length veil of embroidered tulle and she |Woodstock, Toronto, Oshawa,| 'Whitby, Belleville and Hillier.| Visniar | carried a bouquet of pink roses and white carnations. The matron of honor was Mrs. Barney Traviss, sister of the bride, and the other attend- dant was Mrs. Leonard Brunt- nell, both of Oshawa. The flow- er girls were Miss Susan Dan- zey and Miss Judy Berry. The best man was Mr. Bar- ney Traviss and Mr. Mansel Tingley ushered. ' Following the reception held) in the Grace Lutheran Church hall the couple left on a honey- moon trip to Niagara Falls with the bride donning for travelling, a deep pink satin dress with white accessories. Mr. and Mrs, Berry are making their home at 360 Cadillac avenue south. THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW Do not expect much excite- ment or any spectacular change of environment or status on Sunday. Most persons will be in conservative mood and in- clined to operate in a set pat- tern. Finé planetary influences, however favor family and home interests, gatherings with close friends. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, the year ahead promises much in the way of achievement if you are patient and willing to adapt yourself to strict routine in business and financial af- fairs. You may have to try harder to cooperate with others if you would attain worthwhile goals. But you can accomplish a great deal job-wise in Sep- tember, December, next Janu- ary and March. Best monetary periods: Aug, 15-Sept. 8; Sept. {20-Nov. 16 and Jan. 15 through) April 15 Personal affairs will be a lit+| tle more exciting, with ro- mance and social interests cur- rently under good auspices; also between Aug. 15 and Oct. 4, in February, April and May; and travel favored all of this month, in September, January, April and June. If you are care-| ful not to start "rows" in fam- ily circles late in August and hypersensitivity -- you should find domestic concerhs running along smoothly. A child born on this day will be endowed with a sensitive na- ture but may try to hide it be- neath a mantle of gruffness. DAY AFTER TOMORROW Those engaged in artistic and intelectual pursuits will gain the most from Monday's plane- tary influences. However, these jsame persons, frequently tem- jperamental, could prove' ex- tremly sensitive in dealings) with others. Try to be under-' \brief periods in late August and| late in September--due to your |---- Congress Investigates Magic Diet Craze By IDA JEAN KAIN Faddy diets are rampant, and the result is complete confusion New fads and diet plans keep) coming, and the American pub- lic keeps getting fat. | Recognizing this national di-| lemma, Rep. Carlton R. Sickles (Dem.-Md.) has introduced leg- islation to help overweight Americans. In his opinion, the public is entitled to the scien- tific facts. "Overweight is a major health problem," Sickles said. health and physical fitness, for the federal government to un- dertake an effective survey of existing literature and studies | of this problem and to conduct the necessary basic research so that the American public can have a sort of federal measur- ing tape for their waistline jproblem." | The Sickles bill would direct the surgeon-general to make a study of reducing diets and health and report his recom- mendations back to Congress by Jan. 31, 1967. Sickles stated in ibehalf of his proposed legisla- ition: "IT would hope that the sur- geon-general would convene a panel of medical and nutritional experts to study the complex inter - relationship between re- ducing diets and health and take a good, hard look at the possible effects of some of the should go well, reducing remedies for which Americans are spending mil- FOR THE BIRTHDAY lions each year in our too often If Monday is your birthday, |futile or temporary efforts to your horoscope indicates that,|/break the next-lowest-size bar- while your successes during the rier." next 12 months may not be! Representative Sickles is well spectacular, they can be--if you|aware of the tendency to be cooperate with planetary forces|attracted to any easy way out --of the enduring type. Some|of a fattening fix, for he him- fine stellar influences--notably|self has just recently reduced. in September, November, De-\In fact, he reduced twice. In --: Pe greta Bn she and|1963. he brought his weight pril--will govern business an aanaay ative 'bat 70s; pra from 233 pounds to 198.5 standing and tolerant and all pounds. During last year's cam-| ~ the former Hazel Rahm, daugh- never more than 2000 calories a day. He now weighs in at 202 pounds. Regarding reducing cal- orie allowances, he believes too many overweight Americans try quickie diets that are far too meagre. They cannot stay on them, and so they go back to overeating. The doctor supervised the congressman's diet. He went back every week to check in. "That was my built - in re- straint," he said. "The doctor also encouraged me. through MR. AND MRS. STANLEY C. MOFFATT Park Road Couple Observe Golden Wedding Anniversary baker, Opposition Leader; and Mr. A. V. Walker, MLA. ville, Whitby and Toronto. --Oshawa Times Photo married out of the faith, which almost broke my- parents' hearts. Nonetheless, they have accepted Sadie's husband and are very pleasant to him. Whenever Sadie has the folks to dinner she fixes fish for them but she always has a pork roast or baked ham for her own family. Last week I told her I thought she should stop it. She replied, "A grown woman is free to do as she pleases in her own home." Is she right or wrong?-- SADIE'S SISTER Dear Sister: A grown woman is free to do as she pleases in her own home, but a grown woman should also be consider- ate of her parents. They know she married out of her faith. She does not need to remind them by hitting them over the head with a pork roast every time they have dinner at her) home. enterprise. Three my brother's widow sderriod 5 Sere who is forever sticking his nose into the business. He knows nothing about the business but he pesters my husband to do this and do that. Is it fair that my husband should continue to knock his brains out for those two? He is getting headaches from the brother-in-law and so am I. Any suggestions?-- ANNOYED Dear Annoyed: Your husband' contributed to a fashion revo- lution of the high stepping Jazz 'jage. They are now part of the present day fashion ferment. Today's Young Fashionables add a new innocent, but im- pertinent air to the total look, with skirts revealing small delicate knees, necklines deeply edged with ruffles and skinny sleeves ending in more ruffles. Hair is uncomplicated but long- er than Grandmother's slick boyish bob, legs are ed by patterned hose shoes hark back to 40 years ago, with rer rounded toes and lowered heels. can (and should) do either of two things. He can have an at- torney draw up an "T"ll buy you or you buy me" agree- ment, or he can effect a dissolu- tion of the business and start again on his own. No one should remain in business with a part- ner he doesn't want. Consciously or unc iously ter of the late Mr. and Mrs.| Albert Rahm. They have been) living in Oshawa area their en- tire married life. Mr. Moffatt was employed for over fifty years at the McLaugh- lin Carriage Company, now the General Motors of Canada and has been retired for 11 years. Mr.. and Mrs. Moffatt have three children: Mr. Arthur Mof- fatt, Mr. Leo Moffatt and Mrs. Orville J. Greer Betty) all of Oshawa. There are seven grand- children and eight great-grand- children. Mr. and Mrs. Moffatt are members of the United Church. They belong to the Golden Age Club, the Elite Club, and Mrs. Moffatt is a member of the) Rebekah Lodge No. They received a telegram of best wishes from the Prime Minister, the Right Honorable Lester B. Pearson; a plaque from the Prime Minister of On- tario, the Honorable J ohn Ro- barts and greetings from .the Honorable Dr. M. B. Dymond, Minister of Health; the Honor- able Michael Starr MP, the Right Honorable John Diefen-| Guests attended from Port Perry, Blackstock, Burketon, Enniskillen, Hampton, Taunton, Sunderland, Raglan Bowman- Sadie is reminding her parents that they no longer have control over her. It's time she knocked it off. Dear Ann Landers: You said that even if the parents and grandparents were born in Po- FIRST TOP YUKON GUIDE WHITEHORSE, Y.T. (CP)--' Esta Sparks, 16, of the White- horse district is the first Yukon- trained girl guide to win a Gold Cord, the movement's highest award. ELECTROLYSIS Unwanted hair permanently re- moved from face, arms ond legs. Medically Approved Me- thod. Over 15 Years' Experience MARIE MURDUFF will be in Oshewa et the GENOSHA HOTEL July 12, 13, 14 PHONE 723-4641 For appointment on these dates land the kids would be Amer- ican because "nationality means the nation of your birth." Several people in our office think you're wrong. If an American travelling in Africa has a baby is the baby African? Or if a mother cat has kittens in an oven are those kittens cookies? Let's hear from you again on this subject.-- IN DOUBT Dear In: The World Book Encyclopedia dictionary says, "Nationality is the condition of belonging to a nation. A legal relationship between an individ- ual and a nation, involving al- legiance on the part of the individual and protection on the part of the state. There are a number of technicalities and every country sets up its own regulations covering its na- tionality." Many countries, including the United States, grant nationality (and citizenship) to anyone born here--yes, even if the child was born while Mom was just pass- ing through. And now about that cat who was born in the oven--no, she As a gift Mr. Moffatt pre- sented his wife with a pair of diamonds ear rings set in white gold. The honored couple re- ceived a 50th anniversary gold china tea service from the fam- ily and many other beautiful SMALL APPLIANCE REPAIR Free Pickup and Delivery 725-8915 gifts, flowers and cards. my weight plateaus." The bewildering array of diet plans, products and programs now confronting the American public led to the introduction of his legislation "The faddy high-fat diets may| be effective for a short-term period, but they may be dan- gerous,"' he said. "Then, too, diet, the housewife's diet, liquid) diets, low carbohydrate diets and just plain starvation diets," he pointed out. "It is my hope," Congress-; man Sickles concluded, "that my bill will result in some guidelines which will help more of us to lose weight in a sensi-) ble, effective and healthful) manner." | CARE FOR SICK WINNIPEG (CP)--The Win-| nipeg branch of the Victorian) Order of Nurses cared for 2,755) patients and made 55,775 home visits in 1964. Twnty-seven per cent of the visits were free of charge, the annual meeting was told. | course, will have to put forth) joj te ; A paign his weight eased back wu your best efforts and use good |tg 993 jours doe much for his| judgment in order to benefit by|g feet two inches. Back to cal-| them. And do be conservative \orie counting he. went in the meantime. KEEPS THEM DOWN Personal relationships show| 'The congressman keeps his promise of great happiness for | reduci most of the year ahead, with |< sti Sinsrsnc exiled domestic matters running) smoothly, except for possible) When you need "HOME-NURSING" Call a V.0.N. Nurse 725-2211 "Home-Nursing Care for EVERYONE" late September; sentimental) and social interests under fine stimuli for the next three| weeks; also between Aug. 15] and Oct. 4, next February, | For All Your "Brida! 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