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CHILD GUIDANCE DISTAFF DIARY Summary of reporis of meetings and activities of Oshawa womien's organiaztions as compiled from reports submitted by their secretaries. : FFC-F VICTORIA LTB LODGE, NO. 55 Presiding at the monthly} The regular meeting of Vic- meeting of the French-Canadian|toria Loyal True Blue Lodge, Women's Federation, Mrs. Jean|No. 55 was held recently in the Cardinal thanked the members|Orange Temple with Worshipful for making the Night of Cards|Mistress Mabel Blow presiding, in aid of St. Mary of the People|assisted by Deputy Mistress Church, a complete success. | Phylis Arbourne. It was decided that the mem-| Forty-nine visitors were wel- bers would assist the Holyjcomed from _ Georgetown, Name Society in its fund-rais-|Guelph, Port Hope and Camp- ing project for the church.|bellford. The scarlet degree was They will also help the French-|administered to ten candidates Canadian Club with its local/by the Oshawa Degree team. personality contest for French-| Sister Gertrude Logan was re- speaking girls. Mrs. Jean-Paul|ported in the hospital with a Belanger will be responsible for|broken ankle. Several items the candidates and Mrs. Weilli|were discussed regarding future Richard will arrange for|welfare of the Lodge. judges. . Everyone retired to the ban- Mrs. Yvon Leger reported|quet hall where refreshments supplying groceries to a needy|were served by Susan Spencer family and visiting patients in)and committee. the Ontario Hospital, Whitby, KNOX WMS with her committee. (Afternoon Group) | Mrs. Jean Cardinal and Mrs.| The regular meeting of Knox| By GARRY CLEVELAND MYERS, PH.D. ONE reason so many young parents bring up children! with eycessive that these parents have read and heard so much about "'the dangers of child." What they overlook and what some parent counselors have overlooked, child in growing up can escape frustrations. permissiveness is frustrating the is that no If he is allowed to do. about as he pleases he will inevitably come in conflict more and more with other persons, and adults, which means frus- tration. If he is brought up so as to have respect for the rights and feelings of others, brought up to accept NO as final he also will |frustrations. escape frustrations. children face wholly face conflicts, He can't Children Growing Up Meet With Frustration Yet these frustrations come not so much from the desirable controls as from human frail- ties of the parents in effecting these controls -- parents' own uncertainties, lack of reason- ableness, poise, and self-control -- with resulting uncertainties of the child as to whether he must accept the forbiddings or requirements expected or com- manded of him by his parents. Some of these uncertainties, moreover, arise out of the fail- ure of most parents to see that they can best effect desirable conduct in their child away from them by putting sole em- phasis on cultivating desirable behavior and attitudes in him while in their presence. To this end they must cultivate good relationships with this child so he will love and esteem' his parents. The frustrations may come also when what is required of, or forbidden the 'child, is not required of, or forbidden, his playmates or associates. In- deed, some 'experts' have caused many parents to be worried lest such frustrations might seriously warp the child's personality and impair his men- tal health. Therefore, many parents hesi- tate to deny the child anything which his playmates or associ- ates are not denied and hesi- tate to require of him anything not required of these playmates and associates, The child must never be expected to be differ- ent from the common herd. For example, the lad, ten, informs his parents that 'the other boys" have so much pocket money to spend on luxuries. These parents, more or less re- gardless of their income, or judgment to the contrary, sur- render to his wishes, lest he might be frustrated. These same parents, knowing he should take turns at hi w dishes and doing similar jobs at home, hesitate to him te da so because the other boys don't have to do such things. These parents also know this boy should, as a rule, come in off the streets when the lights appear, but since "the other boys 3cn't," he is. not required to do so either. Now what about the frustrations in these parents? Of course, there are some level-headed parents with the courage of their convictions, who do effect denials and re- quirements of their child with- out fear of his suffering unduly from irustrations; and they may attain these results with very few frustrations to any- one. Their plan removes doubts and conflicts over the matter. They provide so many. outlets for satisfaction to the child that he may find conformity thereio relatively easy. Some such parents have been so suc- have chosen to imitate them. Of course, the. more the par- ents and children. setting the model are looked up to, the more surely they will be emu- lated. : (My bulletins, "How to Teach Child Meaning of No," "Stub- borness," and "Love and R straint," may be secured by sending a self-addressed, U.S. stamped envelope to. me in care of this newspaper.) q Answering Parents' Questions Q. Suppose your teen-age son or daughter did pretty well at observing traffic regulations while driving on main streets; and highways. What would you by precept and example aim to have him or her observe on OLDEST BRITON DIES LONDON (AP) -- Th oldest person in British record books, Mrs. Elizabeth Alice Kemsley, died recently in St. Pancras Hospital at the age of 109. She' entered hospital only two years THE OSHAWA TIMES, Thursdey, Merch 25,1965 15 coun-|of the road or street and slow down at unmarked crossing or A. To k speed dowg toj%bviously dangerous places -- thirty-five 'niles an hour or|very simple, but important, less, keep always to the right/Tules. side streets and crooked ry roads? ; cessful that other children and parents in the neighborhood! ago and until some months ago could walk and feed herself. Howard Gimblett were ap-|Presbyterian Women's Mission-| pointed official delegates forjary Society was held recently in} the annual convention in Otta-|the church lounge with the pres: | wa, May 5,6 and 7. Honoraryjident, Mrs, J. A. Swindells, pre- delegates should indicate their'siding. intention before March 28. The topic for the meeting, The spiritual director, the) 'History of the Women's Mis-| Reverend N. J. Gignac, spoke|sionary Society" was given by| briefly and refreshments were|Mrs. Leslie Parkes, based from served by Mrs. Jean-Paul the year 1864 to the present 1964 | Belanger and Mrs. Alderic|\-- Centennial Anniversary in} Lambert. Montreal of the Women's Mis-} DR. THORNTON sionary Society. Parents of Dr. Robert Thorn-| Plans and arrangements were| ton School pupils gathered tojbeing completed for Miss) view the film "Human Growth"|Pauline Brown, a missionary) in the school auditorium on/from India, who will speak at Thursday evening. Also in at-|the thank-offering service to be tendance were parents from|held on Sunday, April 11 at 11.00 other schools in Whitby town-'a.m. ship. RITSON H AND 8 Mrs, Arthur Joynt, president) Speaking on "The Two Cur- of the Dr. Robert Thorntoniricula,'" Dr. ©. M. Elliott, Home and School Association,| superintendent of public schools, spoke a few words of welcome|was introduced by Principal and explained the reason for/A. S. Winter at the March the viewing. \meeting of Ritson Home and Following the film a panel|School Association and thanked discussed and clarified thejby Mrs. Edward Alker, a views of the gathering. The|member of the school staff. The panel was composed of The|Ritson School Choir entertained Reverend Philip L. Fiess, pas-|parents and guests and refresh- tor of Grace Lutheran Church;|ments were served. Dr. W. G. McKay, obstetrician - and gynaecologist; Mrs. Hart- ley Delaney, parent; and Mr. William Haynes, teacher of Grades 6 and 7. Panel moderator was Miss Margaret Pellow, head of the Guidance Depart:nent, OCCI. At the conclusion of the dis- cussions it was decided the film should be shown to grades 7 and 8 but that this would be done only after further com- munication with the parents concerned. Refreshments were served by members of the home and schoo] association. 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