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; § THE OSHAWA TIMES, Fridey, December 29, 1961 GROUPS, CLUBS Yuletide Readings "Ann Landers" Column To Start On January 2 Every day 48 million readers of 396 newspapers in Canada, Australia, Panama, Bermuda, Honolulu and Puerto Rico as well as in the continental United States turn expectantly to the "Ann Landers" column which will begin in The Oshawa Times on January 2. There has hardly been a mo- ment since the dawn of history during which oracular females seeresses, voodoo queens, tea-readers and authoresses-- have not offered solutions for every dilemma of troubled, harassed, lovesick man. But it has remained for a dark-haired, vivacivus Chicago housewife named Pauline (Mrs. Jules) Lederer to modernize and re- package this ancient rite, mak- ing it as much a part of the national scene as television and the split-level house. In the pro cess under the pseudonym of Ann Landers this -- advice-to- the-troubled columnist of the Chicago Sun-Times Syndicate-- has emerged as one of the most widely read women of our time. according to a recent article in Reader's, Digest. She is discussed in country clubs and delicatessens, and has made faithful followers of an astounding number of men (45 percent for example of all the male readers of the Sun- Times). Nearly 20,000 letters pour in on her every month; bankers and bishops as well as love- smitten teenagers and lonely scrubwomen share their most intimate problems with her. Her answers have the ring of honesty and common sense and, even at their sharpest, of genu- ine compassion, When one woman wrote that she was 'sick to death" of staying home every night at the behest of a dour she receives scribbled notes of|i" the Holy Land. fear and misery. cases she often sends a tele-|thanks to the guests. of high placed professionals --) yers, who are happy to of columns, Miss Landers rises| parish hall beginning with a pot- clattering away on her electric|Christmas tree. The gifts \flects the fact that she cher-| Added Pleasure At Auxiliary Meet The Members of The Helping Hand Auxiliary of Simcoe Street United Church were en- tertained for their Christmas 'meeting at the home of Mrs. W. H. James, Adelaide avenue east. The meeting opened with the singing of Christmas carols. The president, Mrs. George Haines, presided for the opening exer- cises, and later,!conducted a short business session. It Bis decided that the auxiliary " Diehl oycon ; . |would, at the beginning of the Solos ""There's no Friend Like|,.a,,'move in as one unit of Jesus and 'Sweet Little Jesus 'fhe United Church Women". Boy" were sung by Mrs. Lois! ys, Walter Johnson and Mrs. Delaney with Miss Ruth Skin-|1vine Cowie conducted the wor- ner her accompanist. Miss ai ; shi ice, during which Mrs. Millicent Luke brought greetings pages an 8 appropriate to the Auxiliary. Mrs. Wilbur Christmas story entitled "A Down introduced the guest Time of Anniversary". speaker, Mrs. Harold -Hare of 'a delight to the mem- | Whitby, who spoke on her trav- cc ale £ | ; ers to have with them Mrs. els and of spending Christmas Frank Higginbottom, who ren- dered, in her inimitable man- iner, three readings entitled \"Give a Helping gram directly to the person in-| Mrs. Wilbur Down presented|"Christmas Bells"; volved and when in doubt about/ Mrs, Lawson Parks, the retir-/Mourning Veil'. an answer to a problem sheling president, with a small gift) Mrs. J. K. Moffat installed consults any one of a number|and refreshments were served. |the officers for the ensuing lyear as follows: -- Honorary law-/sT. GEORGE'S EVENING WA | president, Mrs. J. K. Moffat; help; 'The final meeting for the 1961|nresident. Mrs. Irvine Cowie; her. |season of St. George's Evening| vice president, Mrs. Roy Dob- To produce the week's batch}WA was held recently in the son: secretary, Mrs. Alex Ark- wright; treasurer, Miss Made- line Kelly; flower convener. Instead of the members ex-|Mrs, C. McMaster; ways and changing gifts they had a money|means, Mrs. Russell Coulson ofjand Mrs. Walter Johnson; press reporter, Mrs. J. F. Colinwood AUXILIARIES LOUIE HOGARTH WMS The Louie Hogarth WMS Aux- iliary of Albert Street United Church held its last meeting re- cently with the president Mrs. Lawson Parks presiding. The meeting opened with the read- ing of a poem. The devotional theme was based on "Giving Christ First Place.'? Mrs. Sam- uel Gibbs was in charge. The scripture was read by Mrs. Al- bert Chilcott and Mrs. William Stallibrass and Mrs. John Low- ANN LANDERS In urgent| Mrs. John Lowry. expressed Hand"; and "The physicians, psychiatrists, at 6.30 and retires to the den|luck supper. she uses as a workroom. She| often stays all day, drinking| pints of steaming coffee and iter. jmoney were used to purchase 2 r ga excited pre-|Christmas gifts for a minister|Daniel; Assistant press repor- cy ik . jand his family in British Colum-|ter, Mrs. Walter Kilburn; occupation with her work re-|pja. |pianist, Mrs. Orville Dewland; | Mrs. Gerald Blears presided|assistant pianist, Mrs. Charles ishes her readers--all 48 million|over the short business meeting|W- Read; group leaders--Miss of them. "It doesn't really seem|at which Mrs. Marie Gulenchyn|Helen Boddy, Mrs. Arthur Mor-| like work," she confesses. "I|gave the report of the nominat-|rison, Mrs. Joseph Shortt and| try to take vacations but after|ing committee which met with/Mrs. Bruce Sonley. ' a couple of days I start getting|the approval of all present. The| At the close of the meeting, a restless. I've just got to see|new officers will be installed at|social time was enjoyed with what is in the last batch ofthe first meeting of the new\an exchange of gifts from one letters." 'year, Thursday, January 4. |Helping Hand sister to another. and niggardly husband, Miss Landers advised "Tell the old buzzard you hear the movies have sound now. You two=must have gotten married for some reason. Try to remember what it was." She wasted few words when a 16-year-old girl asked her what to do with a boy friend who wanted her to "express love to the fullest' and who _ insisted that nobody should condemn the idea before trying it. 'Ask him if he's tried jumping into a cement mixer," she suggested. "Tell him he shouldn't condemn it until he has." But when a "nanicky" librarian pleaded for some quick method of hooking an attentive, gentlemanly but alarmingly "conservative" as- sistant professor, Miss Landers wrote "Continue to give him the pleasure of chasing you) until you catch him." This jet-age style, so in con- trast to the genteel and grand- motherly tones of her lovelorn- column predecessors, is match- ed by Miss Landers' appear- ance and personality. She is a} small woman (5' 2", 108 pounds) with a dancer's figure and an actress' feel for clothes and background. She drives a glittering black Jaguar sedan. lives in a modern, glass walled apartment on Chicago's Gold Coast. She neither drinks nor smokes; she is certain that tobacco smells up a girl's hair and that booze not only rots the inner fibre but is bad for the complexion. Although gregari- ous by: nature she seldom enter-| tains and almost never accepts) social invitations. And despite her flair for clothes she hates shopping and rarely buys any- thing which is not in a store| window and cannot thus be in-| spected from the sidewalk and purchased in a hurry. These} spartan aspects of her nature} reflect themselves in _ her| column in dozens of subtle ways. | Miss Landers looks over all the thousands of letters she gets| each month -- she never sits| under a hair drier or rides a) plane without a bagful of them at hand and sees to it, with the| aid of nine full-time secretaries, . that each gets an answer. During the course of a week Stag Sandwiches Voted 'Terrific' "Terrific", said the men on the taste panel for these sand- wiches. The Canadian cheddar cheese sauce makes them quite different from an ordinary club) sandwich, and they're just the ticket for lunch, for evening snacks, and for stag parties. 2 cups (% pound) cubed Canadian cheddar cheese 1-3 cup: milk ¥% teaspoon dry mustard 1 teaspoon Worcestershire sauce slices white bread soft butter 12 thinly-sliced salami For the Sauce: Melt cheese | in top of double boiler over boiling water. Add milk gradu-| ally, stirring until sauce is) smooth. Stir in mustard and| Worcestershire sauce. Keep sauce warm over simmering water while preparing sand- wiches. For the Sandwiches: Remove crusts from bread and toast on| both sides. Spread one slice of each slice with soft butter, then mayonnaise. Place tomato slices and lettuce on four of the bread) slices; cover with four slices. | Spread these slices with soft) butter, then mayonnaise. Place} thinly-sliced salami ou top, then! cover with remaining bread slices. Cut in half and serve each sandwich with a generous amount of hot cheese sauce and IN PERSPECTIVE With thankful hearts and a touch of sad- ness we close the book on another year, spalizing that it is too late to repair any careless act or deed, for as Omar Khay- yam reminds us: The moving finger writes, and having writ Moves on; nor all your piety nor wit shall lure it back to cancel half @ line, Nor all your tears wash out @ word of it. d "fors getting those things which lie behind and reaching forth to those things which are before, press on toward the mark of a higher purpose" to greet a New Year with its new opportunity to live, and laugh, and lift. HOWEVER, if we are men, we will rise from the defeats of yesteryear an The sun is just rising on the morning of another day, the first day of a new year. What can we wish that this day, this year, may bring to us? Nothing that shall make the world or others poorer, nothing at the expense of other men; but just those few things, which in their coming, do not stop with us, but touch us rather, as they pass and gather strength: A few friends who understand us, end yet remain our friends, A work to do which has real value without which the world would fee! the poorer, A return for such work small enough not to tox unduly anyone who pays A mind unafraid to travel, even though the trail may not be blozed. A sight of the eternal hills, the unresting sea, and of somcthing beautiful the hand ef man has made. A sense of humour end the power to laugh. A little leisure time with nothing te do. A few moments of quiet, silent meditation. The sense of the presence of the great Architect of the universe, in and around us, at all times. And the patience to wait for the coming ef these things, with the wisdom te know them when they do come, OUR SINCERE WISHES FOR A HAPPY AND PROSPEROUS NEW YEAR OSHAWA WOOD PRODUCTS LIMITED J, C. FOUND W.J.HENRY AND STAFF Oshawa Showroom Shopping Centre -- 728-1617 Bowmanville MA 3-2130 Main Office Courtice --. 728-1611 Ajax ZEnith 2-9600 pickle garnish, Serves 4, tions counsellor. Check to see there is a Legal Aid Bi Family - and - Child Service : your town, that might' act your adviser. M.H. KEEP NEW PUPPY HEALTHY AND HAPPY Now that the excitement. of Christmas morning is over, you may want to give some. serious thought. to the welfare of family's new puppy, He f and deserves good care to keep him healthy and happy.~ In fact, his appealing ways and frolit- some antics depend largely 'on good health. eo Distemper is one of the great, est hazards facing the puppy as soon as he is weaned, according to Dr. L. H. Lord of the Ontario Veterinary College, Guelph. "Recent research indicates that puppies. vaccinated at nine weeks of age and again 'at' fif- teen weeks will develop the high- est degree of protection," says Dr. Lord. He also recommends that dogs be given a booster in- jection one year later, wife's firstborn, since then, you ' are blindly visiting unconscious displeasure on her, just because of your discomfort. And also, perhaps, aiming, unconsciously, to lighten your load of child- eare, by banishing him on a righteous pretext, if possible. Well, in my opinion, this is a shameful way for you to behave. It is disgraceful disloyalty, con- sidering you knew the whole story before you married his mother. Do you know what a firstrate man would do--a man who was honest, kind and good--if he married a girl with such a prob-' lem, after she had confided in him? With her consent, he would legally adopt the lad; take him into the family to be his son too; give him the family surname; and thereby put his pre-natal history to rest. It would be nobody's business af- ter that. Why don't you solve the prob- lem in this fashion? For infor- mation on how to proceed, con- sult a lawyer or family rela- ALL MIXED UP? First 6 spoon. , , measuring cup... add woter .. . stir and stir |, . clean up what's spilled . . . ladle out each glass-- STOP LE'T JUST PICK-UP A @ @ @ THROW-AWAY CARTON PURE SKIM MILK "AT THE STORE OR AT YOUR DOOR" DIAL 728-6241 MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Married To Girl Who Had Past Now Worried By 2nd Thoughts Dear Mary Haworth: Some years ago I met a sweet won- derful girl. A week later she told me that she had been mar- ried and had a son. This I didn't mind because I loved her. But two weeks later she told me that she hadn't been mar- ried and that her son was illigi- timate, I tried to accept her whole past and kept on dating her. Later, we married. Even though I knew about the baby, still the seriousness of the problem--the hurt, the shame, the fear of someone's finding out--didn't really dawn on me until she was expecting my child, Our boy is now a year old and her son is four years old. Hundreds of questions run through my mind. For example: What will her son think of her; how will he feel in school; what will he say to the girl he wants to marry? FORESEES HARM When he applies for a job and identifies himself by his mother's maiden name, does he list some other name for his father? And how will my son feel about this? I know it will hvateri hat Ramsay of Scotland were guests|affect him too. | ysteria on that score. : of honor at the St. Andrew's| I have asked my wife to give In all probability, however, it Ball here. Mrs. Ramsay is the|her boy for adoption to some-|has something to do.with your daughter of Lord Saltoun, head|one who can help him more| Psychological unpreparedness to| of the Fraser family, and her|than we can. He deserves a bet-/be a father and take on the full f husband is the son of Princess/ter deal than sorrow; it wasn't) TesPonsibilities of marriage and| Patricia and grandson of the|his fault, But she talked at ay life. | Duke of Connaught, governor-|over with her mother, who ad-|YNPREPARED FOR WIFE | general of Canada 1911-16. vised her to get a divorce. | It is only since your son was i I really don't know what to|born, a year ago, that the real- Later, Miss Helen Boddy andjdo. I try to forget it and govity of your life-term obligations the members of her groupjalong as if we had no pepe eee begun to get through to you. served refreshments. problem. But I know that one of|And in making war on your these days something is going to happen to hurt my wife and both boys. Won't you please tell us what to do? -- or whom to see about it? D.R. MAN IS PROBLEM Dear D.R.: You are stewing yourself into a sickminded <t- titude towards your wife's first- born son. You weren't like this in the beginning, when she hon- estly put the facts before you, almost at the start of your in- terest in her--thus giving you a! chance to back out of the pic- ture before getting involved. Instead you chose to court her and marry her. Now she is your wife, the mother of your child. You freely gave her this role of honor in your life; this position of trust and r ibility. You must have believed 'she was worthy of it. So what has come over you recently? | From the viewpoint of sen-| sible people, there can be no} | grievous problem about her | firstborn child, except as you try to manufacture one, for new-| rotic reasons that you nag TO BE WED The forthcoming marriage is announced today of Miss Mar- got Dale Rankine, younger daughter of Mr. and Mrs, Charles D. Rankine of Oshawa, to Mr. Allen Gordon McKay Moffatt, younger son of Mr. and and Mrs. Gordon M. Mof- fatt of Bowmanville. --Photo by Ireland. | NOTED VISITORS MONTREAL (CP)--Hon. 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