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TR. Sant Cog MARY HAWORTH MAIL Loses Interest In Life Since Learning Of Husband's Affair MARY HAWORTH"S MAIL Dear Mary Haworth -- For the sake of many Army wives facing the problem these days, will you please discuss the infidelity of mar- ried men separated from their wives by overseas assignments? In my own case, my husband was overseas for a year, and in that time became involved with an Am- erican girl employed as a civilian, They had an affair and finally spent a month together, on leave in another country, before he came home. In our nine years' marriage I had felt that Jack was happy, al- though harried by my carefully controlled efforts to have him ac- cept the responsibilities of family life. Always he had been interested in sports to the neglect of me and the children--but infidelity seemed out of the question. I do admit thinking he was im- mature in many ways and still a bachelor in some of his attitudes. He was too responsive to attrac- tive females and would call me jealous if I fussed about it. But he had my complete trust while he /was overseas--and, had I been] pealous, would I have trusted him? IN SAME BOAT Now he says he is truly sorry, that the girl never meant anything to him, that there was never any doubt about his returning to me The hosts of Satan are never busier than when morally confused and natvally wayward men (and that takes in the majority) are torn away from the stabilizing in- fluences of family life, and set adrift to find transient compan- ions for idle hours, in a homeless atmosphere of soldiering. The usual result is a morbid increase in sex- ual lawlessness. Men who thus betray the stand- ards of love, when faithful wives are trusting them--who destroy the unity of spirit that is marriage-- are to some extent heels, perhaps. But also most of them are rather witless prey of unprincipled women, who mark them as game and make a play. What's more, they are victims of the confused social order that sends them (moral weaklings) into a danger zone without adequate spiritual armor. And victims, too, of their own personal history--the heredit- ary and environmental factors that stood in the way of their be- ing strong, ina testing time. LEARN TO LOVE You admit that your husband, even at his best (as you recollect), was on the childish, irresponsible, self-indulgent side, You had to "carefully control' him into line-- a control that he both wanted and resisted, perhaps. All along you bore disappointments, it seems-- "and now this," you fiercely say. In i and, in self-def he sizes that he was doing no more than most of the officers with Jack is in effect asking you to help him repair the damage done. home and telling all, | Transparent Heels Cinderella Look To Evening Slippers By SYLVIA HACK Canadian Preds Staff Writer LONDON (CP)--Footwear from France, Britain, Italy and Switzer land, indicating gay shoes for the Wren late winter, spring and to come, filled three floors of a Lon- don hotel at a grand exhibition. The trend was toward transpar- ent plastic and metal heels, novel trimmings and materials, and bright colors: Sensation of the show was a twin- heeled model in stardusk pink satiny kid--one heel in pink and one in blue. Transparent perspex heels gave a cinderella look to evening and cocktail shoes, sometimes com- bined with a plastic vamp and dec- orated with bunches of fruit, flow- ers or diamante sparklers to give the impression of a trimming perched on a bare foot. Pumps had spiky heels up to 4% inches high. And for those with difficulty in keeping backless or sling-backs on, elastic, foot-grip- ping insoles were introduced. The elongated pointed toe, not yet as extreme as the continental point but a modification for the English market, was well to the fore. Pinky tans, mushroom, chocolate, coffee, mustard, blues, yellows, greens, pinks and lilac are the colors to brighten grey sidewalks, Permanently ple ated leathers were used in a number of styles, bringing in a soft dressmaker touch. Swiss screen-orinted cal | was an attractive newcomer--In | black on white, or with multi-col-| | pupils f kindergarten and first grade, t THE OSHAWA TIMES-GAZETTE, Monday, October 24, 1955 CHILD GUIDANCE How to Help a Child To Overcome Shyness When you attend an informal bling is shyness and self - eon- luncheon at which each person)sci 0 f introduces herself to the othersithe way some might respond. to at the table, you may not hear|it. Teachers know that when they the names distinctly. every one just mumbles name. Either she ver speech, fear ol Practically|shout at the very shy child to her|speak up, he may make a drawn- did not feel out struggle to do so, only te grow wholly comfortable or she didn't more shy and mumble more than care, assuming that anybody ever. should get her name since she's had it all her life. When teachers are wiser, they walk closer to the child so as to So also, when a strange tot tells hear him and as they do hear him you his name on the street or at they gradually back farther away. the market. You may have to ask They put their major effort in him to repeat it several times be- creating a friendly, homey com" fore you can say it. In every classroom, who mumble when speak and neither nor the classmates can stand what the mumblers say. This happens more often in the again in the teens. 8.yness May Be Cause |fortable atmosphere in.the class- there are room encouraging the shy chil- they dren to feel more at ease so thaf the teacher they will eventually speak more under- distinctly. | Speaking To Strangers If you notice that your child hen two, five or older mumbles when trying to speak to a stranger, you {should not tell him to speak up. Rather you should try to divert YOU CAN'T CLOSE YOUR EYES T0... whom he lived. In other words, he He feels instinctively, if inartic-| ored chintz designs. Llama calf The chief cause of this mum- | Ctranger's attention from the Lam 2 sada a Be as i : > $ 4 asks me to forget it and take up our life together, and go on. Some- how I can't do it, I want to hurt him as he has hurt me; and more- over I see no change in his at- titude towards responsibilities. A close friend of mine/ has the same problem, and the same argu- ment from her husband. They tell us they've learned their lesson, but this doesn't ease the hurt. Some- how I can't look forward; I jusl look back to all the places we have lived, and all the disappointments --and now this. F. P KEEP PERSPECTIVE Dear F. P.: It may help to see| the problem in perspective. "War hell," as General Sherman noted. And a more recent commentator, | writing after World War 1, pointed | ulately, that he has lost his way. (What he has lost is integrity). And he feels that your forgiveness, lovingly given, without reserva- tions, would restore him to full partnership, to wholeness and truth, as your husband. As for what to do, didn't the marriage vows say you took him "for better, for worse--?" Your vengeful attitude won't help mat- ters, and will hurt you if persisted in. Evidently you still love Jack, too much to leave him--which sug- gests that the constructive solution is to love him with charity. For help in this, read I Corinthians 13; and also study Glenn Clark's book "God's Reach" (Macalaster Park publishers). M. H. Mary Haworth counsels through and kangaroo were other exotic| leathers to make an appearance. |& |child and set the stage so the | child may feel more at ease. Wooden-soled shoes made a re} appearance--with high slim heels and curved soles. | leather or raffia vamps, and some | of the heels were decorated witli flowers. Aluminum heels fitted | some wooden-soled shoes, light, durable, and often lacquered to Bright ornaments used to decor- ate the shoes, included diamante, | jet, and even ceramic trimmings-- | white pottery flowers and artists' palettes splashed with bright blob | of color. | A strong Italian influence comes into the color and styling of all | types of shoes, both for adults and | children with more low tops and out that "War debases the man | her column, not by mail or per-| shortened vamps. in men, and evokes the brute in him." | sonal interview. Write her in care | of this newspaper. Federal Conference Sees Five Women In Key Positions By BERNARD DUFRESNE Canadian Press Staff Writer OTTAWA (CP)--The Fathers of | Confederation probably would do a| double-take if they suddenly ap- ared at one of the closed meet- gs of the federal-provincial.con- | ference. | In 1867 they made history with- out women at discussions of rela-| tions between the federal and pro- vincial governments. { Now, i politicians and high-ranking civil | servants, observing, taking notes, | and passing information to their | esmen. "You tend to get the u're sitting in on the making istory,"" said June Shaley, strik- ing young adviser to Premier of Mani vkin, an | adviser on federal-provincial fiscal | problems to Premier Douglas of Saskatchewan. Two others who are secretaries | to provincial premiers--Mrs. Philo- | mene Gregory, secretary -of Pre-| mier Frost of Ontario and Eleanor McKinnon, secretary of Mr. Doug- | las--are old conference hands. They have attended all the con-| § ferences since 1945 and say they have enjoyed every one of them. The fifth woman who has a place among advisers drawn from the municipal level is Ottawa's Mayor Charlotte Whitton. WON'T SAY ANYTHING They are unshakeably tigth- lipped about the proceedings at the conference. Miss Shaley research assistant in the Manitoba treasury depart- five women sit with the | > For summer, there are light raf-| (fia beach mules with a thin cork| | wedge that any small girl would be delighted to own, decorated on the | vamp with a doll, flowers or a small Italian straw hat, and sized | for all ages beginning with babies | in prams. | Feminine Gadgets For Deluxe Auto LONDON (Reuters)--The Daim- i tL They boast |: contrast with or match the vamp. |§ If you find that your teen-age child mumbles in speaking to guests, try harder to act at ease yourself and listen appreciatively to what he has to say, without focusing your attention on the way he says it. In family conversation also, be an appreciative listener when your child speaks. The more at ease he feels when he speaks, the more clearly and forcefully he will speak. Set a good example by speak- ing distinctly yourself. Occasion ally, it may also be well to c=ll the older child's attention to *§: distinct speech of the telephone operator or an artistic speech on § | the air. | Child" | ler automobile company has an- {J | | 5 Thaw i » yi od Gy drawer under a b "A A i OPEN BOND Two-year-old Sally Nash of Toronto holds a $50 bond as an- nouncement is being made in Ottawa that the 10th series of § ment, said in an interview she Canada Savings Bonds goes on ¢ finds nothing routine about her| sale Oct. 17. Somewhere along government job. "The variety of the work is what makes it interesting," said the young woman who graduated in| ics' and busi dminis-| tration from the University of! Manitoba four years ago. { Mrs. Rivkin, one of three women on the Saskatchewan ec ic ad- the line, says the government, the 10,000,000th bond will be sold. Last year sales totalled $800,000,000. Federal officials made no predictions how sales will go this year. (CP Photo) | and general performance as the| tandard Daimler. But desi nounced a lady's model complete with ice box and vanity case, The car is the same in structure | , S| have done their best to assure every woman buyer all the com- forts of a boudoir on wheels. Costing £2,105 ($5,894 plus tax, the lady's model is several hun- unds dearer than the stan-| But is is equipped with a vanity case fitted 'into a rear seat arm rest. Tucked away inside a walnut love box are a flashlight, notepad, cigaret packet sleeve, sun glasses and rolled gold| Also standard equipment on the INVENTOR Mrs. Elizabeth McLennan of Toronto, mother of two children, has been appointed thairman of the Canadian Association of Con- sumer committee on market- able ideas. An invéhtor herself, Mrs. McLennan operates the '"'Pat-R-Knit" a gadget she de- signed to keep various-colored yarns from tangling in knitting | difficult patterns. (CP Jhoto ) lady's model are a sheepskin floor rug, a motoring rug, four air- weight suitcases, a picnic case] complete with accessories, an ice| box, telescopic umbrella and radio. | To assist the lady driver, each control is identified by a name- plate and the instruments, in satin chrome finish, are set in walnut | Skill has been a tradition with us foi over a quarter of a century. LEWIS OPTOMETRISTS 3 KING ST. E RA 5-0444 panel. ! 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(ALCAN) Yisory | and planning board, said she had been preparing for the conference ever since the premiers of all 10 provinces and Prime Minister St. Laurent met here last April to plan it. To Pay Past Due Bills To Consolidate Monthly Payments For Home Repairs For New Purchases To Tide over lay-offs Come In Todey Try The Bellvue Wey on o Poy from Income Plan Bellvue Finance CORP, G. H. WILSON, 29% frre Rar Dial RA 5-1121 OSHAWA accountant is interested in people! Some people think accounting is a matter of cold figures and facts, In a way it may be . but an Accouritant at any branch of The Toronto-Dominion Bank is a man on his way up. He's learned about money as well as people. He's learned to use his specialized knowled ge to assist people in their financial planning . . . and he's learning more all the time. The Accountant is an important man in any Toronto-Dominion branch. We think we've got some of the best in the business and they're there to help you. w= TORONTO-DOMINION BANK FHE BEST JN.OANKING SERVICE G. B. Miles, Manager King & Simcoe Branch, Oshawe I. E. Erwin, Manager South Oshawe, 532 Simcoe South W. R. Singleton, Manager 566 King St. E. Branch -- Oshowe H. J. Hiscox, Manager Whitby Branch ~..THE NEED Would you lend a helping hand to a disabled youngster? Would . you help a blind man learn to be self-supporting, self-respect- ing? Would you share with a hungry family . . . help provide shelter for the homeless . . . give a confused teenager a hap- pier start in life? Of course you would! If you actually saw these and other tragedies among your neighbors, you'd be quick to come to their aid. But the needs of your neighbors in this community are not al- ways right before your eyes. Please . .. don't close your eves to the many troubles you can't see. The need is there. . . the need is great . . . and your help is needed. Join with your neighbors to help your neighbors . . . give to the Greater Oshawa Com- munity Chest Campaign. Give from the heart .. . and see the results in a better community for all. THE 1955 GREATER OSHAWA COMMUNITY CHEST CAMPAIGN Starts Wednesday, October 26th Do your part to make this community a betier place in which to live 1955 OBJECTIVE: $130,000 More Than Ever Before Your Generous Support Is Urgently Needed : COMMUNITY CHEST OFFICE 17 SIMCOE STREET NORTH -- PH. RA 8-8744