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8 THE DAILY TIMES-GAZETTE, Tuesday, October 20, 1953 CHILD GUIDANCE Teaching the Child "Manners" Should Begin in Early Years . By G. CLEVELAND MYERS In this column I have pointed out that good manners reveal thoughtfulness and consideration of others and their rights and feel- ings, and that this consideration by any person presupposes self- discipline and self-control. I have also maintained that self-discipline and self-control pre-suppose ad quate discipline and control of the child in his formative years by his parents, In order to have good manners at age 6, 12 or 16, a child must have learned that he cannot have everything he wants right away. He must also have le there are some things he mustn't have, and some things he mustn't do, even long before he can see the reason why, and that he must have practiced these waitings and these inhibitions all along, grad- ually managing himself more and more, THE FAMILY CLIMATE Let us consider today the fam- ily climate and the parent-child relationship by which we parents may most successfully lead the child with adequate control and re- straint in his early years, to. help grow in self-restraint and pos- itive consideration for the rights of othgrs. We do it by example of our own good manners of this child and to other persons all the time. We do it, furthermore, in him as a person. Indeed, mere example of veneer of good man- ners as, for instance, saying. "Please" and 'Thank you," can hardly be effective unless in the right relationship, It's how we feel toward the child, and he toward us, when we express the words and acts of good manners, that is of fonien importance. 'ATING ADULTS In table manners, for example, it's not enough for us to be good models for the child ourselves. He must also feel right toward us. He must enjoy being with us at the dinner table, and breathe a com: fortable family atmosphere there, it he is to choose to imitate us. When we suggest to him a speti- fie way to be more mannerly, he must fee] emotionally receptive if he is to act on our suggestion. Moreover, his feeling toward us there, is not apart from his feel: ings toward us minutes and hours and days before. IDEAL RELATIONSHIP ; We know we are getting the ideal relationship when he evinces no irritation over our suggestion, and when we feel calm and lovely when we give it. We also know we are making progress if, when he calm- ly calls to our attention some little breach of etiquette we ourselves have committed, we don't feel the least bit vexed at him. 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Send order to ANNE ADAMS, care of Daily Times-Gazette, Pat- tern Dept., Oshawa, Ontario. con® (the Packing Problem Confronts Queen For Coming Trip By MURIEL NARRAWAY Canadian Press Staff Writer LONDON (CP)--A host of per- sonal chores and decisions confront the Queen these days, typical of the problems facing persons leav- ut ome on a long trip. acking is to be done to fit a schedule of varied activities, cli- mates and means of travel. Pres- ents have to be bought for the family that be celebrating Christmas without her. When she boards the plane for the flight ® Rearnuda Ny starting an Australian tour las six months, she will have chosen the jewel and clothing inside the lightweight luggage purchased for her 1951 Canadian trip. There must be enough to last until she boards the chartered liner Gothic at Jamaica, Nov. 27. It must be suited to the occasions before her and befitted for a Queen. SUMMER DRESSES Most of her clothes are ready-- with the exception of a few final fittings and the inevitable hard-to- make decisions even queens leave for the last moment. Conscious of the variety of weather she will meet on this around-the-world , she has sought advice on clothing colors and materials from diplomatic sources of the countries concerned. One thing is certain. The wea- ther will 'range from warm to downright hot until she ges back home next May. She is expected to wear many silk and nylon ma- terials of gossamer weight and she'sp ic Mod least ts dosen 3 [ ranging price ink og to £8. As she did on her Canadian tour, the Queen will probably include a lot of ballet-length evening dresses, easier to wear and less bulky than the embroidered crinolines she has made famous, Already packed are crinoline, hat and shoe boxes and the heavy, crested black and brown leather STAFFORD BROS. MONUMENTAL WORKS 318 DUNDAS ST, E., WHITBY PHONE WHITBY 552 Memorials @ Markers .|NAME, ADDRESS, 1 CHILD PJ'S By ALICE BROOKS Into the happy clown's tummy go the children's pajamas every morning! Such fun! Such a clever way to teach youngsters to pick up, put clothes away. Use scraps--the gayer the better- Pattern 7239: pattern pieces, difec- tions for making. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins for this pattern (stamps can- not be accepted) to Daily Times- Gazette, Household Arts Dept. Oshawa, Ontario. Print lainly PATTERN NUMBER. ft |from side PORTRAIT OF DEBBIE Enjoying her picture being taken is Deborah Lee Boyes, daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Keen Orval Boyes, Mitchell Avenue. Debbie, who was one year old on September 2, is the grand- daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Patrick Lamothe and Mr. and Mrs. Rob- mt Boyes, all of Mattawa, On- tario. Photo. by Hornsby Studio. suitcases that have been in the Windsor family for more than a generation. Appended are lists de- ialling contents and position in- side. ADVANCE TIPS GUARDED One subsidiary problem has been that, as usual, the Queen has less freedom to change a chosen outfit than most of her subjects. That is because the clothes and color she will wear at a certain function are indicated to closely-concerned women well ahead of time. The custom prevents wives of officials and diplomats from the embarrass- ment of choosing something clash- ing or closely identical. The knowledge goes, however, to only a chosen few. Other than that her garments are secret until she appears in them, when details are readily ives out by the designer concrned. The problem of hot- weather makeup has been considered care- fully to provide the Queen with the different shades and 'types re- quird for her "English rose' com- plexion in any climate. Adviser is Australian-born Thelma Holland, who has looked after the Queen's beauty problems since 'teen-age and who was responsible for Queen's natural beauty om Coro nation Day. Then there are presents, an im- t last-minute task. One will a birthday present for Prince Charles, five years old on . 14, KEEP IN TRIM Give New Lines to Your Figure With Slimming Stretchbends By IDA JEAN KAIN This season the line of fashion emphasizes the long torso, to give a willowy silhouette from bosom It's a wonderfully to Shighting, -- slender and flattering fashion shapely. The new line can work miracles for the short-waisted figure. This is the first real break the de- signers have given us short gals in a long time. We've suffered through the dirndl style and the adde: dd on the hips, both of which made the middle mea- surement a bulky bundle. But this long torso effect can give a re smooth 1ine. Of course bulges where they shouldn't be can muff it, so there's a smooth program to shape up in ahurry. HOLD THAT LINE! The first exercise restores tone Position: Stand on knees, then sit back on heels. Hold arms out at sides, shoulder level. Take a firm grip on the middle muscles ing up strongly, up and in -- and hold throughout the exer- cise. Movement: Bend slowly toward the right side and, as you aim' right hand toward the floor, stretch up with the fingers of left . This bias stretch, cou with the 3ide-bend ake , worl any rven! es. Do this exercise slowly, and re- peat four a six times. Relax. Now a little rhythmic swaying fo reach those muscles" which bound the sides of the silhouette, from hipbones to arm pls. Most figures could do with toning here, for this is a muscular dead area -- we do so little side-bending in wore ain s! on this time, have arms arched overhead, fingers cla , Keep shoulders re- laxed and let the muscle control be all h the middle measure- ment. The exercise movement is PRESCRIPTIONS Quickly end Accurately Filled MITCHELL'S DRUG STORE 9 Simcoe N. Dis! 3-3431 Why not give your child a * head start upon" Security ? Pee FATHERS (or sometimes proud grandfathers) are providing a future financial foundation for their youngsters through The Excelsior Life's 'SECURITY BUILDER" Plan . : ;: : <¢ Here's how it works for a child now ONE year old: INSURANCE PROTECTION AFTER AGE 21..... $8,000.00 on "Ordinary Life" Plan, at same annual premium. 'MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Dear Mary Haworth This is about a friend of mine, I'll call her Eve, 32, only child of elderly par- ents. We met as volunteer war workers. She was one of my most dependable helpers, excellent with "problem" soldiers who were hav- ing emotional difficulties. The situation that alarms me is this Money has been missing after Eve was around, but as nobody saw who took it, we didn't dare suspect Eve, She has a lucrative with a large firm, where she well liked; but previous jobs have ended suddenly, maybe through no fault of hers. I never inquired; just took her at face value. She revels in tall stories and braggadocio, For example, she is always meeting this celebrity or that; or some well-known person stops her on the street, takes her to El Morocco, the Stork, or 21-- always a cafe society rendezvous. Three weeks ago she barged in on a party, I stretched a point to include her although my husband dislikes her, She said a date had failed her, and she had to cash a check for pocket money. That evening a purse was picked of a sizable sum, all new bills, the vie. tim said. Someone at our table saw the trunk rhythmically to side. Repeat 8 to 10 times. HOW TO FINISH Finish with a long, smooth, stretch-bend to the side. Stand up against the wall -- a few inches away, right arm against wall. S-t-r-e-tc-h up the wall, centering the stretch through the middle measurement. Pull the waist up out of the hips, and the ribs 3p away from the waist -- and pu-l-l. Relax and repeat slowly times on the ht side. Then stretch along the left side. to swa Woman Seeks Advice Regarding Problem of Neurotic Friend Eve take. the money, When quest- ioned, she said she ind the a in her bag. It was learned she didn't cash a check at the club and she had to repay the money. She had been drinking, and often doesn't know what she does in such cases, She Jells Seon She has been married; that her husband was a flier who fat kiled in a crash; that she had two children, one who died, another born blind, etc. I know she has never been mar- ried and has no children. I like Eve and worry about her, but am ig upset about the other evening. Is there any way I can help or guide the unfortunate creature? Your views will be greatly appreciated. C.P. A SELF-REJECTING PERSON Dear CP. It is very evident that Eve feels, unconsciously, that she isn't acceptable "as is." Her tall tales of being buddy to cele- brities, of being a flier's widow, etc., indicate that she is straini to be somebody she isn't. This self- rejecting attitude suggests that her elderly parents didn't give her much of a welcome into their lives. Her recent filching of money from friends may have a complex neurotic connotation. Superficially it may be related to a prestige- seeking attempt to keep a pace she can't afford on her real means, Unconsciously and more profoundly it may signify hostility towards persons who seem to have more security, more affectional income, etc., than she, More obscurely yet, she may have a morbid compulsion to get herself rejected in disgrace even (or particularly) by the group which accepts her at face value as a nice person. In many respects her face value may be her true value. But if she entertains, un- consciously, a guilty estimate of herself, which chill rearing incul- ates, she may be emotion driven to incur an anti-social Yn% NEEDS SPECIALIST CARE Y There is an emotional bond ¢ sorts. between you and Eve, bl viously, in which she is the de pendent and you the protectl party, probably. You are the ides mother. image to her, perhaps whom she regads with mingle earning and fear, And when yo ry to respond to her need, perhap she throws up a barrier of ba' behavior, in blind fidelity, to he ingrained conviction of "in possible" to the mother- our affection for Eve ' hat she isn't ps chopathic, i.e the malice-afflic a type who tend to alienate all sympathy. Rath she is emotionally sick, I thin} robably gue Jo Jie dis ance in relation arents, a mi. fortune that gave ner a wartim fellow-feoling for distrait soldier: The best help you can give Eve i to guide her to first rate psychiatri care, before she really hurts he sif. 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