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Sdoy wih 30 ALDWINCKLE WOMEN'S EDITOR onion DIAL 3-2233 8 THE DAILY TIMES-GAZETTE, Tuesday, July 21, 1953 MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Daughter Sponging on Parents Constitutes a Family Problem Pear Mary Haworth: My parents live in another town. Mom is 60 and Dad past 70. They raised nine children, one of whom is still in school. By superhuman effort they us fed and clothed, warm and clean during the depression ars, Dad sometimes working 16 ours a day. Three of us, grown, with jobs of our own, got together and estab- lished Dad in a small business he'd always wanted--thinking to insure a comfortable income for his declining years, plus a college education for the youngest child. IT'S MAGIC 4767 31-w0 By ANNE ADAMS Four-Way Wararobe! Keep her well-dressed all summer, Mother! Midriff-top, shorts, skirt -- and a shirt that doubles as a jacket! All easy sewing for you. sturdy cotton for hard playing quick washing, easy ironing! Pattern 4767: Children's Sizes 2 4, 6, 8,10. Size 6 bra, skirt 15; yards 85-inch; shirt, 1% yards; shorts, % yard. This pattern easy to use, simple | to sew; is tested for fit. Has com- plete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35¢) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print lainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STVLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, care of Daily Times-Gazette, Pat- tern Dept., Oshawa, Ontario. Choose | It isn't turning out that way. In- stead he is running in debt, due to the fact that one of my sisters is a persisent sponger. ache and pain, won't work. They act as if Dad is a never-ending source of riches. 'They buy groc- eries on credit to the limit, then come to my folks for money to pay off, my sister taking the at- titude, a sort of threat, "If we Alice has seven children and a| husband who, complaining of every | can't pay the bill and buy more groceries, we'll have to move in with you." HOW STOP THE DRAIN? had been doing the laundry by hand | because she couldn't afford re- {pairs on the washing machine, | | Meanwhile she was keeping four | | small children for another sister | who was ill, increasing the laundry | load. And from what I hear, both | Mom and Dad are near a break- down. Once I felt sorry for Alice, but | now my sympathies are all with | my parents and youngest sister. | closer at hand, are incensed too, but apparently lack the definition | of purpose to interfere. Here is | the gal to do it; and I won't waste worry about drawing anger. But can you tell me how to make sure the drain won't start again when my back is turned? V.R. FILIAL SPONGING Dear V. R.: All honor te your fine filial spirit and laudable ef- | forts to cushion your parents' last years. However, the moral of the story of their continued hardship | seems to be that you can't teach | an old dog new tricks. | Evidently your Mom and Dad | are, by now, end-products of a life- | time conditioning in punitive per-| sonal sacrifice whenever the needs or wants of others had to be con- | sidered. It seems they've always | figured in the '"have-not" category {of society; have always been | steeped in poverty-consciousness-- | hence are unprepared to make pro- | fitable, self-protective use of op- portunitis lately provided, that | might have yielded them comfort | in' age. | I think your parents are ac- complices, unconsciously. In en- couraging sponging in their weaker | children--a pattern of behavior in | which your mother may take the | lead, thus eliciting your father's in- | voluntary follow-through. IDEA OF LIVING | Very likely their own interperson- al alliance is so taken for granted | by them that they aren't aware of each other any more than one is aware of his right arm. And their past circumstances were too Jean to allow them much, if any, com- munity fellowship. Thus the busi- ness of ministering to dependent progeny is perhaps the most mean- | ingful social function, or significant | pattern of relationship, that they | familiarly know. In continuing to rob themselves, Recently I learned that Mom was | unable to pay for badly needed dental care for my kid sister, and | that their less competent children may be served, they have a reas- | ¥ SHEER DELIGHT Mid-summer is the time when | dark sheers are most welcomed and useful items in every wom- man's wardrobe. This one is in | flattering navy blue. The dress is made on modified princess ! Ln 1* -s and has self ruffles edged in navy lace trimming the sleeves and forming the hem oft he skirt. It is shown with a matching cape- let edged in lace ruffles. -- By TRACY ADRIAN. For Summer's Day Lunch Serve For lunch on a Summer's day spread the sunny atmosphere at your table. How? With peppy devil ed eggs, baked in a sauce of cream of mushroom soup. This is a luncheon dish you can practically fix while you prepare | breakfast. That is, you can cook the eggs then. And later, devil the yolks with zippy seasonings. Some tips on the eggs will help to give best results. Have the water sim- mering instead of boiling as eggs fer it to being wholly released to their own devices. Your parents are suckers for reasons of their | own, as your sponging sisters sense | --and if this weren't so, these sis- | ter would find other means of | self-help, I am sure. What to do? Read the riot act | to both sides. Tell them that those of you who sought to stake the parents to old-age security weren't uaranteeing income to leeches. rge the old folks to draw a line, and warn Alice she forfeits the sympathy of fair minds. Consult | your local Family Service Agency !mouth flavor. A crisp salad | greens, radishes and cucumber aec- | companies the eggs nicely. Last suring sense of 'life as usual" I [for explicit suggestions to fit her suppose--of striving daily to supply | situation. M.H. | family needs, as in the springtime | Mary Haworth counsels through | and summer of their parenthood. her column, not by mail or person | Maybe they don't like the endless | interview. Write her in care of this drain; yet unconsciously they pre- 'newspaper. Eggs Cooked in Mushroom Sauce cook. Otherwise they may tough. Cool the cooked eggs quick- ly by running cold water over them: this helps prevent yolks | turning dark. And cool eggs are easier to shell and to cut. Eggs baked in a mushroom sauce, with a generous sprinkling of cheese, have real melt-in-your- of course, rhubarb betty with cream. | BAKED DEVILED EGGS WITH MUSHROOM SAUCE 6 hard-cooked eggs, cut in half lengthwise 2 tablespoons mayonnaise 1 teaspoon prepared mustard Dash salt and pepper Dash Worcestershire sauce 1 can (1% cups) condensed cream of mushroom soup. 14 cup milk 12 cup shredded, sharp process cheese. Blend egg yolks, mayonnaise, mustard, salt, ' pepper and Wor- chstershire sauce; stuff into eg whites. Place eggs in a small shal- low baking pan. Blend soup and milk; pour over eggs; sprinkle cheese on top. Bake in a moderate oven (375 F.) about 30 minutes or until lightly browned. 6 servings. be | CiulD GUIDANCE Is Stressed by By G. CLEVELAND MYERS As I have pointed out at vari ous times in this column, the child .who does not feel loved and secure may easily begin to deceive his parents and then other persons by stealing from them or lying to m. In practically all cases of deceit I have discussed, I have empha- sized the child's need of being re- stored to faith in his parents and to the feeling that he is loved and wanted as much as any brother or sister. Over the years, I have *| maintained that the trust, confi- dence and companionship between the parents, and between the child and his parents, are the first es- sentials to his happiness and readi- ness to co-operate. 3 FEELINGS INFLUENCED From studying : these relation- ships, we are better able to under- stand why a child, whatever his age, behaves as he does. He acts as he feels, and we parents or other persons dealing with him are constantly helping him de- velop the feelings that he has. as a precious person is something we tend merely to take for granted. Yet it is our most precious heri- tage, the very core of the demo- cracy of the free world. / As you and I know, any totali- tarian government has no place for the child, man or woman as a precious individual person. He's just a cog in the heartless wheel of the governmental machine. Gov- ernment does not exist under com- munism chiefly for the welfare of the persons governed. Persons ex- ist for the welfare of the govern- ment each person a mere puppet of the' state. NO PERSONAL SECURITY Accordingly, In Russia and her satellites, the concept of personal police everywhere, no betray us. Suppose he were given widespread applause and hailed as imagined secret information about one or both his parents. With a vivid imagination, how easy it would be for him in innocence to report inaccurately, or to do so falsely in revenge for HOUSEHOLD HINT at home with soap and water. Our emphasis on the individual security doesn't exist. With secret | J ; person | knows when he is being spied on | aprons, guest towels, dresser sets. by some agent of the government. [ike a fresh breeze, these spark- Imagine what it might mean to tins motifs refresh your you and me and our children if |peautify linens! Ju. the ways of ove government Jere colors 4 were like this. Suppose your child | or mine, whether five, twelve or | 2% DIOHY peach. twenty, were bribed or ordered to | pattern 7155 has 8 color motifs: |2 girls 4%x10; 2 girls 4%x5; 4 sprays 1%x2Y% inches. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in | coins for this pattern (stamps can- soe not be accepted) to Daily Times- | : | Gazette, Household Arts | Oshawa, | NAME, | NUMBER. a patriot for giving some real or | The Value of Our Democracy Columnist some parental denial or punish- ment. Worst of all would be the insidious suspicion, lack of faith and trust within this family. How could there be understanding, sec- urity and love? Perhaps this cultivation of dis- trust and suspicioh in the Com- munist family, so contrary to our most cherished ideals, is the can- cer which eventually will kill com- munism. IRON-ON DESIGNS By ALICE BROOKS No embroidery, just iron on home, picture the --sunny yellow, sky blue Easy! Washable! Just iron on! Dept., Ontario. Print ADDRESS, PATTERN TEN COMPLETE PATTERNS | to sew, >mbroider, crochet--print- | | When purchasing furniture, bear ed right in mind the upkeep necessary for Needlecraft | each piece you are considering. more patterns to send for -- includ- | For easiest, most inexpensive care | ing ideas for gifts, home accessor- | select those which can be cleaned | ies, toys, fashions! Send 25 cents now! the Alice Book! Plus Brooks many in . "SALADA TEA BAGS plainly | PORK-CHEESE BURGER Picnic-style meals are served at every summer camp and in many homes. The latest thing to serve at these meals is pork-cheese burgers. To make them, panfry slices of canned pork luncheon meat and place them on half of a heated hamburger bun. Put a thin slice of cheese on top of the meat and heat until the cheese has melt- ed into the meat. If hamburger buns are not available, the meat can be cut into fingers, thin slices of cheese placed over the top and the meat and cheese put into a wiener bun. The wiener buns should be heated in the oven the same as hamburger buns. From recent discussions in the Consum- er Section, it would seem that it would be a good idea for each Ca- nadian homemaker to buy several fans o pork luncheon meat, for s the answer to ma - time problems. Wy Ted DID YOU KNOW? --That bright, shiny metal reflect heat and ve py Puig olden-browned colour, top and ttom to baked food. / in every walk of life... is the answer... to unexpected hospital expense ONTARIO HOSPITAL ASSOCIATION in Rich Plastic . . Smart Plaid Cloth . . .. Genuine Tolex . ... "A PLACE FOR EVERYTHING . . . AND EVERYTHING IN ITS PLACE!" fees Handsome Leather: Navy, Tan, Brown ; 8.95 .. 8.95, 12.95 DIAL 3-4621 D A Y i Y iD A Y wore and more people are turning to The Times-Gazette for their complete local news and picture coverage of Ontario County. In brief, here is why: The Times-Gazette published 671,200 words of actual local news happenings of Oshawa, Whitby and Ontario County interest, PLUS 8,190 SQUARE INCHES of local pictures During the month of June 1953 taken by our staff photographers. the circulation figures for The Times-Gazette are jumping with such regularity each month. Tabled below are the average circulation figures for the months of June for the past five years: June, 1949 June, 1950 June, 1951 June, 1952 JUNE 1953 - a 12,301 10,027 11,038 10,617 10,633