MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Childless Woman, Married 6 Years Ponders Pros and Cons of Adoption Dear Mary Haworth: I have been married six years and can honestly say that our marriage has been happy, except for my frustrated hopes of bearing chil- dren. My husband is wonderful, always inking of my happiness, and we have a small house of our own. I have always loved children and have been told by many people that I would make an excellent mother; but now I am wondering if I shall ever produce a child of my own. My anxiety on that score has been mounting the' past four years, until I am losing peace of mind and am often 'on edge, irritated with myself, my husband and life in general. Mean- while I have been a job-holder to fill in the time. In these years of suspense, Tom and I have consulted diagnosti- cians and have received medical treatment; and the doctors say our case is by no means hopeless, and I am losing faith in efforts along these lines. We are both nearing 3, and lately we have been think- ing seriously of adopting a child; but we are given pause 'when we think of complications that might arise later--if we should produce a child, after adopting one. I know full well that giving birth isn't everything; I know that it is loving and caring for the child, and sharing his life, that ves the relationship mutual val- e. Nevertheless, I fear that should we eventually produce our own child, our respective families might tend to favor the blood grandchild, and that would surely break my heart. So we can't de- cide whether to keep hoping for our own, inasmuch as our doctors are encouraging; or whether to eed with adoption. I am anx- usly waiting your comment. F.R. THE HIDDEN CROSS Dear F. R.: The general tenor IF YOU'RE SHORTER |: s 7174 SIZES 1434 -24% By ALICE BROOKS Sew this smart, young half-sizer. TH% Sorfectly proportioned to your walst, hips, shoulders--no altera- tion worries! Flower-embroidery or cotton lace for trimming. Pattern 7174 has embroidery _ transfer and tissue pattern: Half |. Sizes 14%, 16%, 18%, 20%, 22%, 24%. Size 16% takes 4% yards 35- inch fabric plus % yard of con- trast fabric. State size. Send TWENTY-FIVE in coins for this pattern (stamps can- not be accepted) to Daily es Gazette Household Arts Dept., Osh- awa, Ontario. Print plainly NAME, ADDRESS, PATTERN NUMBER and SIZE. TEN COMPLETE PATTERNS to sew, embroider, crochet--print- ed in the new 1953 Alice Brooks Needlecraft Book! Plus many more Janeme to send for -- including deas for gifts, home accessories, toys, fashions! Send' 25 cents now! of your letter and the preoccu- pations it describes indicate that you are afflicted with a handicap- ping bias of habitual anxiety. Psychologists call it free-floating anxiety, because it is self-gener- ated and self-perpetuating, taking its rise in the unconscious. There it exists, and from there it unfurls in search of a problem, circum- stance or possible development in the outer world, whereby to justify itself. Take notice of the fact that if you aren't worried about one thing--if a solution suggests itself-- then you are worried about some- thing else. For example, as a bride your great concern was to acquire a house of your own, I think, and at that time you as- sumed children were a natural-- if and when you got around to them. When the house was in the bag and the children didn't appear, then you became concerned about your health--and Tom's. 2 After much doctoring and con- certed assurances to the effect that- you and Tom seem physi- cally capable of producing chil- dren, other things being equal, you shelve anxiety about health-- at least for the time being-- and begin to brood about being child- less. That condition, per se, be- comes your constant worry and intolerable frustration. You want children and can't have them, you tell yourself--but then comes the question, "What about adoption? Surely that's feasible." UNDERSTAND SELF Due to your compulsive habit of worry, you involuntarily digress from sensible consideration of adoption and seize instead on nerv- ous fear that an adopted child mightn't get a decent break in your household, due to grand- parent partiality, etc., if the stork decides to horn in. See how your mind runs? You have a notion at this writ- ing that all your fears would fade if someone can guarantee fair treatment of an adopted child under your aegis. That is missing thé point. The problem is your habitual emotional tension which, if relaxed, would remove the prin- cipal hindrance to pregnancy. An adopted child might help you in this respect, if loved for himself, not embraced as a possible means to other ends. But a safer approach to constructive motherhood is to first gain remedial insight into jour. "free-floating anxiety," via short term intensive psychiatric inquiry--and later adopt, if your arms are still empty. - M, H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or per- sonal interview. Write her in care of' this newspaper. ENJOY ZENITH'S PHONE MAGNET At No Extra Charge in All ENITH HEARING AIDS 3 models $@ 5 Each Bone Conduction Devices of Moderate Extra Cost 10-DAY MONEY- BACK '. id "GUARANTEE IMPERIAL OPTICAL CO, LTD. 22%; SIMCOE SOUTH ABOVE THE HOME DAIRY DIAL 5-1741 CHILD GUIDANCE Mother Seeks Advice Regarding Child's Speech Ditfictilties By G. CLEVELAND As you know the young child who utters some or many sounds in- correctly is greatly handicapped, especially when he enters school. Let me quote from the letter of the mother of a five-year-old child. She has made an amazingly keen analysis of specific speech difficul- ties of this little child. "Dear Dr. Myers: Her friends and relatives can't understand a thing she says and think it is be cause she talks too fast. That might be part of the trouble, but it's not all. "When she says the alphabet, she substitutes the sound of s for f, b for v, and says ull for Il. The other letters she caf say cor- rectly. When she counts, she sub- stitutes s for the in three and thirteen and w for v in seven and eleven. Words ending in ly, as in dolly, she ends with we. She puts the w sound in several words like sleep (sweep), play is pway, clock is kwock. "This child can pronounce f at the beginning of a word, as fun or farm, but not in the middle or end, such as off, often. For these she says oss, osen. "Straw she pronounces scraw and strong, skrong. "Elsie gets r right at end of words, like stir and car, but omits it entirely in middle of words like bird. She says bod, she omits 1 at end of words like girl, ball or bell, but gets it right in begin- ning of words like love and laugh. She substitutes w for 1 in yellow, pillow, play, salad, and n for 1 in Elaine. "The is another problem. She uses d for th in through, mother, there; and s for th in think, thistle, three. Yet she says that and tooth correctly. "Some words she oily say right, as syrup (soap), iano (pwano), interesting (instering), energy (eginwy). ' 'Elsie doesn't go to school yet, and her18-month-old-sister is copy- ing her way of talking, though she talks much plainer so far Elsie talked much better when she was younger, too. She is not shy and always talks a lot even if only to herself or her doll. What is your advice? We can't afford to send her to a speech teacher." TEST HEARING Here in part is how I answered this keen mother: In the first place you should have this child's hearing tested by an expert. She probably doesn't hear very dis- tinctly. But whether she does or not, you still have the problem of helping her with the difficult sounds. , Read a great deal to her, being careful to read slowly and enun- ciate distinctly. Speak with like care. Try to have her mingle with other children of her age. Fine if she could attend a nursery school. Try to make her feel worthy in the, family. She may suppose she is not loved as much as the baby. Provide her with a quiet, com- fortable family atmosphere. EASTER HONEY! SIZES 2-10 By ANNE ADAMS TWO main pattern pieces for dress! Two main pattern pieces for cape! Mother, did you ever see such an adorable outfit? Make this for a spring ensemble! Dress has another version with smart Peter Pan collar and embroidery. Pattern 4864: Children's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Size 6 dress, 2 yards 35-inch; cape, 1% yards 54-inch, Embroidery transfer included. This pattern easy to use, simple to sew, is tested for fit. Has com- plete illustrated 'instructioons. 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If they aren't big enough to be impressive she remodels them to meet her style specifications. Mrs. Farquharson does the de- signing. But it's her husband who does the work. Working with tweezers, pliers and magnifying glass, he follows her directions and the result is something to startle the passerby. "I bought my first pair of ear- rings when I was a student at the Brantford, Ont., Conservatory of Music," Mrs. Farquharson said. "They were tiny pearls and I had to wear them discreetly, with my hair pulled down over my ears, ear-rings in those days." TAKEN ON TRIPS When she goes on a trip the ear- rings have a special box and every pair goes with her. Included in her collection is a pair of Maltese crosses from her mother. However, these aren't worn since Mrs. Farquharson hasn't had her ears pierced and the crosses go with pierced ear lobes. Also in the collection is a pair of jet "chandeliers" from France, others with hand-painted china medallions with matching pendant and some fashioned in more tra- ditional styles and studded with stones. These are classed as an- tiques, Then there are the concoctions or "junk" as Mrs. Farquharson prefers to call her more unusual ear-rings. There are huge gold loops, four- in-one rhinestone and pearl affairs which dangle to a length of four inches, four-inch hoops and huge plastic sh 0 To protect your books, never pull one from the bookshelf by its back. Grasp it in the middle of the bound end. If you cannot do this, {ip it back gently by the top edge. because nice girls' just didn't wear | PLAY BALL! You can take junior out to the ball park in this version of what the young sportsman will like. Made in viscose linen, this outfit will wash easily, FREE 18-page booklet gives many new, money-saving uses for Cow Brand Baking Soda in kitchen, bathroom, nursery and all through your home. 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