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THE DAILY TIMES-GAZETTE PAGE SEVEN - OF INTEREST TO WOMEN -~ By PRUNELLA WOOD To start the New Year right here's something that is as pretty as it is practical in the daytime dress category. Made of a new imported Swiss fabric that blends 50 per cent Egyptian cotton and 50 per cent worsted it is delightfully soft and light weight. Other advantages are that the material is both mothproof and washable, which is certainly good news for 1952. Bonnie Cashin designed this colorful frock in an authentic tartan, either green and red or navy and red. Push-up raglan sleeves, a and a belt made of the same material are other style-right details, Hollywood Highlights By BOB THOMAS Hollywood (AP) -- Joseph Cotten used to think making long-run pic- tures was a bore. Now he's not SO sure. Cotten has probably been in more long-run pictures than any other actor. That is because he has worked for David O. Selznick, who makes and remakes movies until they suit him. The actor doubtless yearns for such leisurely filming after "Untamed," a slam-bang affair in which he suffered a pain- ful back injury. "'Citizen Kane" was Cotten's first picture. It was a good omen of what was to come, since it was made in easy-going style by the boy genius, Orson Welles. Later, Cotten appeared in "Since You Went Away," 'Duel in the Sun" and "Portrait of Jenny', which averaged around two years in pro- duction, 'Nobody quite knew what 'Por- trait of Jenny' was about," ex - plained the actor, 'Even the author of the book, Robert Nathan, wasn't sure. David (Selznick) would say, 'Now I know what it means,' and proceed to re-film whole sequen- ces." Cotten also worked for another unorthodox movie maker, Howard Hughes. He co-starred with Valli in a picture called "Weep No More" (finally released as "Walk Softly, Stranger"'). It was made be- fore the Hughes regime took over. "I had gone to Europe to make a few picture s,'" Cotten said. "Every time I returned, I'd make a new ending for 'Weep no More.' I never did find out which one they used." CROSBY HAPPY Bing Crosby startled the Holly- wood Women's Press Club by show- |ing up ptlyihra |ing up to play Santa Claus at their | Christmas party. He has been like {the genial Bing that the public | knows. The reason for the change is not | known. But insiders say that Bing {and his wife, Dixie, are happier than they have been in years. And Bing is mighty proud of his four | boys. | small, neat collar, a double row of little buttons on the bodice 'closing | Classified ads are sure to pay. | Phone The Times with yours today. MARY HAWORTH"S MAIL:- Wife Resents Husbands Attitude Dear Mary Haworth: My husband the Paul and I have been married a few years, live in a farming com- munity near his parents, and have a child. Paul has to be away overnight on business; and he thinks nothing of leaving the hired man alone in the house with the baby and me. I don't think it looks right; but Paul says I.am silly; that people should not gossip. I am sure they don't see it his way. What is your com- ment? The last time Paul had to be pa away I insisted that the hired man stay with his parents . . who have a larger house, closer to his work. I don't like to bother them; but they know about the situation and I see no other solution . . . as Paul won't take the responsibility 1 feel he should. Also he is impa- tient when I remind him of other neglected obligations. I am no galabout, and am nor- mally sedf-reliant; but I had thought marriage was for sharing joys, activities and religion as well as work. When I ask Paul if we can go some place he always says "You can go." Why doesn't he want to go? I know he cares a lot for me, as I do for him; but mostly I go alone, to shop, to church, or to see my parents . "sponging" rides from others. If we do go out together, he gets along fine socially; but when he gets home he says he has wasted his time. MAN FEELS TIED TO HIS. PARENTS Between working for himself and helping on his father's farm, in return for past financial help, Paul is sacrificing his health and shows it. Occasionally he speaks of giving up all this work and doing some- thing else . ". but I take that with a grain of salt, as he feels too in- debted to his parents to leave. And they would be horrified if he decid- ed to go, although others in his family are leading normal lives away from home. I think he needs help, but I don't know how to help him, as he rejects my reasoning. Am I selfish, as he thinks, in wanting him to share other activ- ities than work? Is he being a real martyre for our stke -- the hired man? Is Paul's attitude hired man? Paul's attitude right or wrong? I hope you-can give us some light. MAN IS DRIVEN BY RESENTMENTS Dear K.P.: Your husband's be- havior .is that of a conscientious man emotionally overtaxed by a sense of .more work to do than he can even get done -- a feeling that cause him to grapple com- pulsively with endless tasks, seldom taking time out for a change of ce. : He got involved in this dis- couraged trend, this vicious circle, as a result of (1). being physically overtired as the usual thing, and (2). resenting his treadmill routine, as well as his parents' attitude that makes him feel tied to their reins, I suppose. A man's swallowed resentment of economic pressure, or of family tyranny plously exercised, may ex- press itself in a "killing" work drive -- a martyr performance that seems bent on self-destruc- tion, in noble guise. This is an un- cl self-d 171 Te pr son imagines he is a slave to duty in taking life so hard, when in truth he is manifesting hatred of his life-situation by refusing to concede any possibility of enjoying it. However, there's more to the picture. This type of martyr is really the prisoner of his own de- pendent -character. He feels bound by circumstances, when in fact he is tsymied by fear of failure-- were he to try to carry adult obligations self-reliantly, independ- ent of family backing. Overtly he may nurse a grudge against fate (or certain associates); but uncon- sclously, he arraigns "self" as his "worst enemy," and punishes him- self accordingly. So here is another factor contributing to his killing work-drive. PUBLIC OPINION A FACT OF LIFE About the hired man: 1. Public opinion of personal behavior is a fact of life, that can't be escaped by saying "people shouldn't talk." People will talk; so Paul must reck- on with this aspect of reality. 2. If you object to the man's presence overnight when Paul is away, he should be lodged elsewhere as a matter of course -- and it is wrong of Paul to disoblige your preference. Possibly Paul's aim is to leave a guard against dangerous | but more probably he | intruders; shrinks from spearheading policy (of implied distrust) might offend the employee. For advice: 1. If your in-laws tacitly second your view, send the hired man there and don't nag Paul further about it. 2. If Paul's mind" is closed to help, there's little one can do for him. But he ought to get away from the grind for a couple of weeks, to break the grip of driving anxiety; to rest and reflect, and get an objective slant on things. Then he might see the a that | point of slowing down and being more co-operative. MH. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or personal interview. Write her in care of this newspaper. Sparkling Neckwear A A tailored dress or blouse easily be- comes a glamor fashion with this charm- ing collar and cuff set at neckline and 'wrists. Straight pieces of glistening gold lame are tucked along one edge to make the ies. For send a stamped, self-addressed envelope to the Needlework Department of this paper requesting GOLD COLLAR AND CUFF SET, Leaflet No. SS-74. on Community In Jhe CHILD GUIDANCE:- Let Children Help About Home By GARRY CLEVELAND MYERS, Ph.D. On arriving home one Saturday tion shingles. The boys were 13 and last fall, I saw a neighbor and two boys on a roof not very high put- 10, respectively. : Mrs. Myers and I were impres- sed with the fact that the boys were nailing on the shingles, in- stead of merely carrying shingles and looking on. The average father would have supposed these young lads wouldn't be able) to do such real work, but that only he him- self could do it right. This father is not afraid to let them go ahead, and they do amazingly well. About this small dairy farm, these boys and their father do many things together, the boys doing jobs, not too hard or heavy for them, which only adults usually do, and they have acquired re - markable skills. Besides, they and the father enjoy fine companion - ship. ' ABOUT THE HOME Some mothers are like that. They let the boy or girl, at an age when most mothers would consider them too young, do all sorts of things about the home usually done only by adults -- cook and serve break- fast for the family, plan and serve the family meal, even do the shop- ping for it. And when the child does such things, his mother is not nervous i |and jittery over the mistakes he might make, or be fearful of such. (My bulletin, "Letting Little Chil- dren Learn," may be had in a stamped envelope sent me in care of this paper.) She does not ex- pect perfection, especially in the early stages of the enterprise. While she knows she might do it better and faster herself, she is patient and appreciative of his pro- gress. . Yet this mother does not en - courage ' the child to undertake something she is sure is far too hard for him. She lets him gain the necessary skills and responsi- bilities gradually. If she had never let him do small and simple jobs he felt were grown-up jobs, he hardly would enjoy achievement at more complicated ones. If, for in- stance, he had never had exper- jence at baking a few things re- quiring simple skills at following a recipe, his t¥ying to prepare the family meal all alone might meet with dire failure and discourage- ment. BOYS AND GUNS ; Returning to the neighbor boys-- each has a real gun and shoots some woodchucks, squirrels and rabbits in season and is a very: good marksman. Cne of the par- ents accompanies each boy when he uses a gun, letting the older one use it alone gradually. The parents often "shoot mark' with these lads. But the boys have been well disciplined, so that they strictly observe the rules and don't handle the guns or display them when other boys are around. Let me entreat parents who have trained their children in the safe use of a gun also to train them never to show this gun to other children not so trained. Many a. child supervised by his parent in the uhe of a gun is so overawed by his sense of superiority over other children as to place these children in great danger. An in- experienced youngster shown a gun by a boy who can use it, might suddenly seize this gun and shoot another person with it. GREAT HARBOR Sydney, Australia, one of the Jargest harbors on the Pacific, hag a water frontage of 188 miles. A wooden spoon is a handy spoon, may be preferred to a metal one. handle never gets hot, and it does nog leave a mark on bow! or pan. It should be kept very clean, however, as it is mor® easily stained and may Savers, Ni ------------------------------------------------ --------------------TU CING AHE wm A GROWING OSHAWA AD YOUR LOCAL HYDRO IS A STRONG LINK IN YOUR COMMUNITY PROGRESS WITH INDUSTRY COMMISSION ME Chairman: S. J. BABE Members: H. F. BALDWIN R. J. FLEMING General Manager: GEORGE WALTER E. F. BEATTIE MAYOR MICHAEL STARR MBERS F. SHREVE OSHAWA PUBLIC UTILITIES COMMISSION Oshawa's phenomenal 'industrial growth naturally called for huge increases in electric power consumption. As the growth became apparent, our facilities were expanded to handle this de- mand with the greatest efficiency. The existing facilities were planned not only to help out ac- tually to encourage Oshawa's growth with a plentiful supply of low cost electric power. WITH BUSINESS Hydro has helped make your daily shopping a more pleasant experience. The modern lighting improvements and wonderful air conditioning add to your comfort and convenience. Immacu- late electrically refrigerated meat and vegetable counters ensure fresher, finer foods--electric calculators and business machinery speed up merchandising in every way. May we suggest that you have your business site surveyed for safety's sake before adding to the power load your service is carrying. A well lighted, electrically equipped store or office is an investment in better business. WITH THE HOME The marvel of modern living electrically has truly come into being. Before 1945--who would have dreamed that hydro could take so much work and drudgery from every day living with automatic washers, clothes driers, dish washers, hot water tanks, etc. These and your conven- tional late model range, refrigerator, washing, machine, ironer, vacuum cleaner, floor polisher, and the dozen and one electrical table appliances efficiently save you work, time, and money on every occasion you use them--Radio, and now television, add greatly to the graciousness of modern living. There can be no doubt, better living electrically is here, and at a cost so low as to be negligible. In the home and elsewhere your local Public Utilities Commission supplies an \ abundance of water supply of a quality, not to be compared elsewhere. 4 i at :