; i i oo me ee ce you): ANN LANDERS Truth Is Always Better Than Fiction Dear Ann Landers: What they have lived here free from should a mother tell her 11-time to time (once for 5 years) year-old son when the boy'Sico this was father is mentally ill? I've al- them. ways felt it is needless to bur- I pay the taxes, half of the den a child with adult prob-\tijities. buy my own. clothes, lems, They learn soon enough... iy own doctor bills, do all that life can be cruel a ane About two years ago my hus- ing and I take care of my small band lost his business. He went/grandson while my daughter into a depression and would not works with her husband. speak to anyone. He began to drink heavily and it became difficult to distinguish between 'er the alcoholism and the sick 3m mind. and her brother. She said, an institution. I told our son his daddy was taking a vacation. else to handle it. Am I doing/They have a free roof, a cook argumentative, does not parti- will need to conform to certain right by the boy? -- Anxions and a built-in nursemaid for|¢ijnate in sports, and has no requirements at home and at Mother their child. They buy only gro-| close school, and learn to get along Dear Mother: No. Please tell cevies and pay for half your son that daddy is no longer utilities. 1 want to treaty my on vacation--that he is ill and Son and daughter equally. If you feel I am wrong please say so.--An Honest Opinion Wanted know of} grasping and) ugly than the ones your daugh-| ter uttered. If you want your| share} all] had to go to the hospital. Your son must sense that you are anxious and trying to hide something. This will make him anxious, too. And if you don't let him know there is always a chance that he will learn fromson and daughter to outside the home that his father equally in your estate, by Dear A.H.0.W.; I sentences more is mentally ill and in the hospi- means write your will that way.| tal. This would shake his con- : nothing new [tO jem of attitude and an inability 'lie school classroom situation. |leader. This has been true since the first started to school. the cooking, most of the iron- lopinion (as well as test results),| entific books and materials I was making out a will|he could be the top student in!reaq, and enjoy discussing this d that I wanted everything ther class; however, except for! matter with him and hearing n to be divided between her|tes on which he makes A'S'him tell of scientific facts he "yan ni Two weeks ago I signed pa inink you are being unfair, You|His reading ability is at leastiiisten with him to science pro- pers which committed him tO <nouid leave this house to me." three grades beyond his present grams on the air. Last week I told my daugh- Actually my daughter and herjjs jn the field of science. I am exhausted keeping up thejhusband have been able to save pretense but I don't know how/a lot of money by living here. phe ig being 'picked on.' He is and most useful in the world, he the fidence in you and add to your problems, Children often understand a great deal more than their par. ents give them credit for. And they adjust. better to an un happy truth than to a candy coated lie. Dear Ann Landers: | am a mother of four children who must work because my hus band has asthma and can't hold down a job The widow next door calls my husband almost every day to help her out. He has fixed her plumbing, painted her kitchen, put. new fixtures in her bath- room and helped her carry bar- rels from. the basement to the attic. Every year he takes off her storm windows and puts up her screens, When I ask him to go to the store for me he starts to wheeze up a storm and tells me he is a sick man. If I am being unreasonable, I would like you to say so in the paper.--The Nag Dear Chump (My name for Any man who is well enough to do all the things you listed should be able to hold down a part-time job. I recom mend it. 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