20 the examiner ruinousy Doc 14 1977 Ann Landers Helpful hints for the meek Dear Ann Landers Recently you told reader Show me person who is repeatin taken advantage of and will show you someone ho allows people to kick him around reader responded bv saying Yes Ann we do allow in considerate clots to kick us around and we know it We are so concerned with being nine and friendly and polite that we are incapable of pmtectuig ourselves against the beavics We hate outselvis bwause of our weakness but what can we do about it You replmi lhe meek may inherit the earth but they sure et limped on lot Then you suggested counselling We dear Ann as one of those people who was dumped on lot and taken advantage of by everybody until went in for assertiveness training learned great deal in that coutse and would like to share some of it with your read ers Characteristics of the NonAssertive Person He confuses the goal of being liked with being respected He has learned to act in inferior ways because he believes he is inferior He is conditioned to fears of being disliked or rejected also feats of anxiety expressions of anger or feeings of ten demess He is unable to recognize the difference between being selfish in the bad seise and in the good sense He constantly aims to please others because he fears he may offend them He allows others to manoeuvre him into situations he doesnt want He feels the rights of others are more important than his OWII He is selfconscious before superior and authority figures He is easily hurt by what others say and do He feels pushed around because he never learned to stand up for himself He feels inferior because he is inferior He limits his ex periences and doesnt use his potential Characteristics of the Assertive Person He feels free to reveal himselfThis is me This is what feel think and want He can communicate with people on all levelswith stran gers friends family This communication is always open direct honest and appropriate He has an active orientation to life He goes after what he wants In contrast to the passive person who waits for things to happen he attempts to make things happen He acts in way that shows he respects himself is aware that he cannot always win and accepts his limitations He always strives in spite of the odds to make the good try so win lose or draw he maintains his selfrespect It took me long time to get all this through my head but now that Ive absorbed these principles and live by them am new personJRi Dear JRM Im sure great many people saw them selves in the column today Hopefully they will do something about it Thank you for sharing Pollxs Einters Wash drapes in cold water DEAR POLLYI have thermal or rubber backed draperies that are supposed to wash but wonder if they wash well shrink or pull in any way have hesitated about washing them and will wait for some information from you or the readersMRSLGN DEAR MRSLGNDid any washing instructions come with your draperies as you mentioned they are supposed to wash If so follow those directions expiicity have been advised that such curtains wash beautifully in the machine if only lukewarm or cold is used One source said they could be put in the dryer for about 10 minutes but not left until dry and then should be hung immediately Another advised letting the draperies drip dry over line without putting in the dryer If you do use the dryer use extreme caution so they are not so hot that the rubber backing could be harmed have never washed such draperies myself but know they dry clean beautifullyPOLLY DEAR POLLYMy Pet Peeve is with those shoe companies who only manufacture shoes in wide widths in sizes six or more wear size five and connot find shoes in wide width 50 have the choice of too tight shoe too long shoe or no shoes Someone please inform manufactur ers that persons with small feet can have wide feet BARBARA DEAR POLLYI have an answer for the reader who returned home after trip and noticed an odor from her garbage disposal Through years of use found that in addition to putting lemon rind through the disposal that bunch of fresh mint leaves without the stems really worked better than the lemonEVE obituary Wilbert Gough Wilbert Gough 93 of Barrie died Saturday at Royal Victoria Hospital Funeral service was held Tuesday in the chapel at Steckiey Funeral Home Inter ment was at Barrie Union Cemetery Gough was the husband of the late Lavetta Rainey and brother of Boy of Barrie Evelyn of Crown Hill Annie Rainey of Barrie and Effie Key of Severn Bridge Masonic service was held Monday under the auspices of Corinthian Lodge96 Rarrie Bradley Coward Bradley Norman Coward died Friday as the result of an accident He was 19 He is survived by his parents Mr and Mrs William Coward of Dalston brothers Lonnie of Toronto and Rodney of Dalston sisters Brenda Dalston and Mrs John Beau bien both of Barrie and grandparents Norman Cameron and Mrs Eva Coward Funeral service was at Steckley Funeral Home Burial was at St Johns Cemetery Craighurst Fellowship breakfast Full Gospel Fellowship breakfast will be held Satur day at 830 am at Lakeview Restaurant Rev Smithyman and family will minister in word and song The breakfast is for all denominations lroo SLASHER CAUGHT LONDON CP Police fi nally cau the phantom skirt slasher Picaddlliy while he was cutting the dress of his 17th victim Bespectacied Graham Carter 23 comers officer ad mitted to 16 offences of cutting This Christmas givo quality clothing from The Town Shop Our gowns and evening wear display quiot oiogonco youll find only at The Town Shop See us soon about gift for hor the gift wrapping it town snap RVHs physiotherapy section First department head retires Almost 15 years of service as physiotherapist at Bar ries Royal Victoria Hospital ends this month for Florence Bomer Mrs Bomer is retiring at the end of the month ending period in the hospitals history which started in March 1963 with the opening of the first physiotherapy department was lucky she said plied for job at time en the hospital was looking for someone to head the new department Mrs Bomer managed the department until six years ago Since that time she has continued to work on part time basis three days week When she began working at Royal Victoria Hospital her husband Reg and their two children Phillip and Caroline were living at Canadian Forces Base Borden where Reg was member of the Canadian Provost Corps It was during the time she was member of the Cana dian Armed Forces that she met her husband After graduating from the Universi ty of Toronto in 1942 as physiotherapist she went to England with 215i Canadian General Hospital It was there she met her husbandtobe Following the end of the war she ran the physiotherapy department of the Veteran Hospital in Hamilton for one year until in closed in 1947 At that time she returned to England and later married Soon after posting for Reg member of the British Army took the couple to East Africa where they stayed for oneyear Both the couples children were born after they returned to England In 1952 we moved to Canada after persuaded Reg life was better here than in England she said In 1957 Mrs Borner began work at the Rehabilitation Centre in Halifax where she had moved with her husband through posting with the Canadian Armed Forces with whom he was now member That was very interesting work Many of our patients were coal miners from Spr inghill and Cape Breton and they were very nice to work with she said When her husband received posting to Ottawa she work ed for one year at the National Defence Medical Centre In 1962 the couple received their last posting which was to Canadian Forces Base Borden After retiring from the forces Bomer owned and operated Sweet Briar Lodge Nursing Home near Stayner until four years ago WILL MISS WORK am finding retirement womens clothing at subway DOWNTOWN BARRIE stations around the West End sort of traumatic ex perience dont like the idea that Im wont be physiotherapist anymore Ive enjoyed my work and Im really going to miss it she said The Borners are planning trip to Israel but not in the near future They will spend some time in Florida after Christmas where they have mobiiehome think Royal Victoria is very good hospital and Im happy to have been associated with it for so long The ad ministration is always most helpful and the staff is very friendlv it was fun when the depart ment first opened We were located in four rooms up under the eves of the old hospital There were two of us working part time then Now the department has four full time therapists two part time and one technical aid and much more equipment she said Mrs Boriier says she feels the job of heading the depart ment is harder now than it was when she looked after it There is more staff to look after more administration and paper work and more pa tients its rewarding work because you dont get the pa tients who are terriblv sick and must improve lot Mrs Bomer said recovery depends lot on how people react to their illness If patient wont ry try to help him or herself youre flogging dead horse Slit said She noted it is becoming more recognized that it pa tients emotions have great effect on their state of health Mrs Bomer said most pa tients are cooperative and very patient about the length of time it takes to return mobility to part of their bodv The patienttherapist rela tionship is important You like to feel you are doing something for other people Physiotherapy is showing people how to help themselves andImgoingtomissthzil COULD YOU HELP Our friends have been generous and Grace United Church Barrie warm Mrs Florenci itorner retiring physiotherapist after almost 15 years at Royal Vic toria Hospital plans to spend more time with her two grandchildren take up some hob bios and travel iiire granddaughter Stephanie February listens in ii story about farm llliilllitfl lliotni who will be threeyearsold in people places Barrie artists in exhibition Barrie artists Pat Cotter Pat Sharpe and Joan LeBoeuf have had work accepted for exhibition in the 27th annual galorltand Form Society juried show to be held in am on The show opens at McMaster University Art Gallery and Will move to the Harbour Front Gallery in Toronto where it continues until Feb 1978 Square Timers The Square Timers will hold New Years Eve square dance at pm Dec 31 at Eastview Secondary School Caller will be Calhoun and buffet supper will be served at midnight Tickets $15 per couple are available at 7289614 La Leche League An evening meeting of the La Leche League of Barrie will be tonight The league is nonsectarian nonprofit organization encouraging good mothering through breast feeding Nursmg pregnant and interested women are invited to attend to learn more about breast feeding Free literature is provided choice of morning or evening meetings is available each month The meeting begins at 830 pm at the home of Mrs Joan Coldrey 46 Briar Road meeting on Jan begins at 10 am at the home of Mrs Kathy Wildfong Glen Court Wins shopping spree Bill Boyle of 67 Farmingdale Cr has won $1000 Bayfield Mall shopping spree in the Surrey Prize Surprise promotional draw William Madill of Wyevale and Mrs Ernest Riedke of 61 Melrose Ave each won $500 sprees The draw was held to promote the Surrey Place subdivi sion between Letitia Street and Edgehill Drive Grand opening of the subdivisions 74home first phase is Jan 14 Christmas dinner The Barrie and District Association for the Physically Disabled is holding Christmas dinner tonight at Sun nidale Community Centre Following the entertainment and gift exchange lucky number will be drawn for the 5050 lottery Raffle winner Brenda Young of RR Thornton was the winner of the afghan raffle held by the Royal Victoria Hospital Aux iliary The ticket was drawn at the recent Auxiliarys Chirstmas dinner party The afghan was designed and crafted by Mrs Lily Beaten of Barrie Proceeds from the raffle amounting to $1470 will be used to buy equipment for the 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