v t l- lsjy lfc3 7 crv i a- y i t -vrisfc- jyy j ms y of tvtcf aj 3 iv 1tt v a tjv i ec6ri6mist jr id- w wt j v-fl- stoiiffvilleitribune- vvi ctcfivf v r v -g- fi what do you do when your children have badf riends j by amy west staff writer oanna not her real name was a quiet soft spoken 14- yearold who was wellliked by other children and never talked back to her parents everyone remarked on what a polite and shy girl she was- then joanna met stacey not her real name and everything r changed v stacey would stay overnight would tell me it was fine for the at our house and we found her girls to be home by themselves nice overcharming but nice but not according to me it was- nt not knowing what else to do she went ballistic she told me i had no right that i couldnt keep them apart i told her i could and i would joan concerned parent said joannas mother joan t they started staying at staceys house more frequently and then it was calls in the mid- dle of the night each time we wouild punish joanna for talk- ing on the phone all night she would become furious telling us to mind our own business apart joan explained we made sure shes kept busy on weekends and after school now weve found she only speaks to stacey ondein a while j joan firmly believes if they f not intervened things would have continued to get worse she is still worried her daughter- may meet up with a new bad influence but plans to keep talking to joanna about what shes doing who shes see ing and what kinds of rules par- ents of these new friends set but no matter howcloselyl you watch your children they are all bound to bring home less- thafidesirable company once in a while experts contend v according to v corrinne schzapp a youth worker at thistletown regional centre for adolescents and children the joan finally forbade her daughter to see stacey she went ballistic she told me i had no right that i couldnt keep them apart i told her i could and i would joan said i called joannas teacher to see if joannas parents soon discov- the girls could be put into sepa- best thing you can do is talkhon- ered when she was sleeping ratedasses but they couldnt- j estlywith your child over stacey parents were not fortunately for joan the girls k you come on heavyhahdj home and the girls were going teacher had also noticed the ed telling them they cant hang out late at night and meeting changes in joanna her grades out with these people youre boys they also learned staceys had dropped almost to thepoint asking for trouble schzapp sister was smoking pot and- of failing her teacher agreed to said we all know when we were drinking in the house keeplthe girlsseparated in class youngif our parents saidjiottof thatiwasthe icing on the idontwanttosaylmanipu- dospmethingr cake joansaidviftold joanna i m daughter andstacey wewere going todd it justttp stacey was nolpnger welcome in pfoveapoiht 4 v our home and furthermore she make sure this summer they yoii need to explain tothem was nd longer allowed to go to were either th adults allthe by befriending mese children staceys houseunless her par- timeorj6armawasjustioobusy i tlkepjafijraqciat ents were home x doing other things to spend that omer people wiustartlbokmgatri fora while this seemed to it uiv it4 hlu trwqmiiiiikiio iri then the ihria would tel stsceys parents were nome determined to keep thegirlscant take measures to limit their when they were not thekdaiigh contact wim me bad mfluence i wouldcallthe house and t in anewschoorthkfollowing- butits a very delicate balance r- i j j t- s- i ter ma new school thelollowing dutitsaveryaeucateoaiance jj cy v stacey would say oh yeai so j sevenyearold son o matter howcloselyyou jvatch yoijrcbjddrerimeyare bound to brmg home stepped out tor a mmute they 11 v jeff started a newschool this fall le315impaj once mv wmearmixoherts must be unsmom oi dad called back wj tf theywere going to for his birthday lie invited three eoirdsedwh separate schools s both girls v eaircised whertdealirigwith rebellion than solutions and they wouldbe on their cell phone out of the area they would find new- friends new interests and hopefully drift see teachers page 19 j v success starts hetel oxford students develop skills for success in school and life small classes little readenf children wfro learn how to read early are more confident learners ses caring teachers enriched programs 3-6- years e learning centres 4261 hwy 7 east near kennedy reading vrtng spelling math study sklls french homework support pi lrv mi x