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b12 economist suntribune january 27 1988 dig up all those unwanted items you own and sell them in the classifieds for youll find lots of the things you no longer need or use are just what someone else is looking for qassifieds offer a bumper crop of bargains to buy and its also a great marketplace to sell just about anything to place your ad call economist 2944331 tribune 6402100 economistsun the tribune town carnival time set for feb 13 14 by bruce stapley time to yank the old ball glove out from under the moth balls dust off the clubs in the basement check your supply of tees and pray it doesnt rain snow maybe rain no its almost time for the annual event that has the rest of the world wondering about the longrange effect of stouffville water on the sanity of local residents stouffville will be the location of the 3rd annual whitchurch- stouffville snopitch winter car nival feb 13 and 14 definitely not just another winter fair ever since the stouffville royals baseball team partici pated in a winter ball tournament in orillia three years ago theyve been hooked on the idea thanks to their unlimited imaginations and willingness to commit their time and efforts the whole town has been the winner according to the royals blair emmerson brother of town coun cillor wayne theyve set them selves the lofty goal of improving the carnival by 20 per cent each year the key says the events coordinator is to get enough people interested theyll volun teer to help out we need manpower for setup and takedown of the carnival says mr emmerson weve got the service clubs involved but even if people arent involved we just want them to come on down and help beat the february blahs with the impressive list of events planned one thing is cer tain nobody will be bored if all goes as planned the ball tournament will include 14 teams as usual cftr radio will enter a squad although their fearless leader of years gone by tower ing tom rivers is questionable rumor has it the morning man who made a name for himself in this town by making verbal min cemeat of our very being has sworn off sporting involvements choosing instead to immerse him self in cerebral pursuits there is still room for more teams and emmerson is en couraging all the funseekers in stouffville both male and female to put together a unit to compete baseball might be the carniv als main event but its by no means the only one at the carniv al therell be snow golf snow sculptures at the park and ice sculpturing at the library featur ing some renown sculpturers from the stouffville area wind conditions permitting the hot air balloon will rise this time as well there will be atv all ter rain vehicle races hay rides out door public skating where the old arena once stood and hopefully ice motocross racing saturdays festivities include the progress clubs pancake breakfast in the morning and a dance during the evening at hospi- taltty headquarters latcham hall the carnivals creative enter tainment side will feature a bar bershop quartet and a talent con test open to anyone with nerve enough to get on stage in front of 100 or more people mr emmerson says his com mittee is wide open for sugges tions one event he would like to see someone organize is a broom- ball game or possibly summit- view school set up a midway type attraction with games of chance and despite many requests mr emmerson says therell be no dunk tank wed never be able to handle the lawsuits he laughs since early december mr emmerson and his gang have been meeting to organize the car nival a time consuming task and after all the royals involvement and community spirit they wont be able to participate in the sno- pitch tournament were just going to be too busy running the carnival to play ball he says mr emmerson who runs his own construction business with his father says the idea behind the carnival is a simple one if youre sitting home worrying ab out what to do on a february weekend then youve now got something to do depression followed first two births dr ed meade is a registered psychologist and director of the markham stouffville family life centre in this column he answers questions from readers who re main anonymous q we have two children and are con sidering having a third and final child the main thing holding me back right now is the postpartum depress ion i was severely depressed for at least eight months after my other two were born the frustration and anger is not directed at ihe babies but at my husband i become so filled with re sentment for him that it becomes almost a hatred it seems that his life continues on normally while mine undergoes drastic changes as you can understand this puts a terrific strain on our relationship not to mention it makes me unhappy emotional and miserable i am so afraid that it will happen again is there any chance it might not happen this time how do i avoid it a quite often postpartum depression is picked up by the obstetrician and referred for psychiatric consultation it may be that you were masking or hiding your depression from the attending physicians if this be the case you might talk with your family doctor or with your obstetric special ist and tell this person about your fears regarding postpartum de pression you may feel placed in a difficult position having such powerful feel ings about your husband at the time you need him the most youre seeing him through the eyes of anger and re sentment no wonder then that you fear a third pregnancy would you feel more confident if you were to discuss this issue more direct ly with your husband is this a pattern of avoidance in communication when a woman becomes pregnant the fetus becomes part of the womans body so that as the woman loves her self so she will love herself in her pre gnancy if she fears her pregnancy it may tend to reactivate infantile feel ings of lovehate towards the mother self when this occurs the child may be seen as an aggressor devouring the self and even endangering the life a friend in meade sbi- 81 azoaz this may lead to postpartum de pression the same attachment and parturi tion is not experienced by the father sometimes even the fear of responsi bility or his lack of knowledge of the birth process brings about a distanc ing blase experience he may be out with the boys more thus increasing the effect i believe that psychologists and physicians are more aware of this harmful spiral and are actively in cluding the father in the pregnancy birth and postpartum life of the child television probably reflects the attitudes of society as much as it cre ates them a decade or so ago the husband and father was typically por trayed as a silly imcompetenl who somehow or other bungled through fatherhood in your situation it may be that some of these attitudes are present and you have a good deal of work to do in communicating with your husband consult with your physician and get a wellqualified person with whom to discuss your concerns q a guy i go to school with has me worried ill be talking to him and all of a sudden ill realize hes not with me for maybe 30 seconds up to a mi nute or two he seems to blank out ill ask him a question and he doesnt rep ly he just stares into space after a little bit he tunes in agan and acts as if nothing has happened i asked him ab out it once and he made some joke and laughed it off as if it was my problem what could be causing this im pret ty sure hes not into drugs attention accountants lawyers banks savings loans o miscellaneous financial consultants investment counsellors credit unions bookkeeping services tax services our readers want you advertise in our tax time directory this directory gives readers convenient access to your valuable services and with changing tax regulations many people will need expert financial advice make the most of this tax season call now to place your ad 2942200 4959440 6402100 6492292 2944331 classified advertising department fej a i am aware of the kind of observa tion you are describing i think all of iis tune out from time to time and probably some of us tune out mote often during periods of stress or fati gue when our energy is productive there is an aware sensitive interplay between our minds cognitive func tioning and the extramental per turbations passing through the bodily senses when we have a problem some times our mind focuses its energy on the inner dialogue hence tuning out that which is outside the mind thus we may be attending to our imagina tion or memory as a way of attemp ting to solve our problem if your friend is doing this alot it may mean a more serious condition if for instance he is developing a blank looking stare this type of behaviour if frequent and extended could be a pre cursor of schizophrenia and should be brought to the attention of a teacher andor guidance counsellor it may mean the youth is in need of psychiat ric consultation i assume that you are a high school student i believe adolescents are de luged with new social experiences and are in the active process of finding out who they are it is a stage then when what you are describing with your friend happens more frequently when this occurs in a social situa tion such as you describe we are usually jarred out of it by some kind of social affront often attended with humor likesnapping the fingers and inquiring anybody home dr meade welcomes your ques tions if your response is published name and identity will be withheld questions should be directed to the markham stouffville family life centre 113 main st markham newcomers club markhamunionvilte newcom ers club will host a treasure auc- tion at their next monthly meet ing monday feb 8 at 8 pm at participation house mayor carole bell will serve as au- ctioneer club members are requested to bring in items for auction each item should be marked with a minimum bid upon selling the auctioned item newcomers will take 10 per cent of the selling price which will go to charity while the owner keeps the 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