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l weekender november 28 1987 weekender liquor ban should hold in schools the public school board should remain firm on its posi tion against alcohol at school functions even if the applica tion is for an adult alumni group to use the facilities making an exception for one group opens the door for others and it becomes more and more difficult to set an example for students how else can we as a society demonstrate that alcohol is not necessary to have a good time surely in the face of increas ing carnage on our roads in alco holrelated accidents and with alcohol abuse one of the nations most pressing problems the boards current position is a re sponsible one the alcohol ban is consistent with a smoking ban in schools passed recently after much deli beration the board felt a strong example would be set for stu dents since smoking is a proven killer alcohol kills too surely even a small stand is better than none at all jo ann stevenson marriages in crisis can still work for those in the prime of life in the late 20s it was the great de pression in the 40s it was the second world war and in the 50s and 60s the nuclear arms buildup yes it seems inevitable that each generation has its crisis its life threatening circumstances that rattle the every day routine it is almost as if we are all meant to endure an enormous trauma in our lives as part of the firing pro cess making us tougher and more resilient but the present generation lacking any concrete tumult would seem to have created its own substitute for the externally imposed variety of upheaval faced by past generations and the resulting personal strife and struggle particularly on the psychological level would appear to be every bit as devastating as anything endured by our parents for the great battle of our time involves the survival of rela tionships of the most intimate sort particularly marriage the from where i live slucz jbtafllzlj casualty list is growing in creasingly longer as the genera tion that coined the term peace and love discover that those two words are not self perpetuating it seems that we were con ditioned in the days of flower pow er to see love as a quality that was either present in abundance or totally lacking so that even to day when the romance dis appears from a marriage we have societys full blessing in abandoning the union there are however still a few dinosaurs among us old school ers who cling to the ancient notion that marriages must be made to work that they wont just happen one such type is tony campolo an evengclical proponent of living life to the fullest while at the same time honoring all your com mitments to god and your fellow men and women campolos filmed presenta tions are being shown at several area churches on sunday even ings these weeks with his person able humour and boundless ener gy serving to captivate the con gregation campolo maintains that a mar riage commitment is a non negoti able contract essentially what he says is that if you offer the op tion of back door escape that it will be taken by most couples in time of severe marriage crisis it is essential he claims to manu facture love where it appears none exists think loving thoughts pretend that you are in love imagine what you would do if you did love the person you are drifting away from and he in sists the results will be fruitful what an unpopular suggestion in a secular society such as ours where self fulfillment means dis carding everything and everyone standing between the individual and his or her personal gratifica tion the problem is that most people really believe that there is no realistic way of bringing back what once was so they opt for the escape hatch not knowing what lies out there for them but believ ing it to be preferable to more of the same as one who has gone that route i want to assure you that you dont solve any of the problems that led to the break up of the marriage by heading out on your own rather you simply become more depress ed as you come to understand more and more where you went wrong and how you failed to take corrective measures for all whose relationships are allowed to be abandoned the indi viduals are forced to endure their own personal war zone and the price so often paid is every bit as destructive as going through a real war perhaps worse for in a war should you survive you get to go home but once youve pul led the plugon a family theres no place to go ive run into so many people who have opted for friendships with a member of the opposite sex what if you were to make it more than a friendship i always inquire the response is invari ably that it wouldnt be the same what a shame that we are all so afraid of commitment in closing i would only suggest that we as a society start to open our eyes to the permanent des truction brought about by failing to honor a marriage commit ment if its not already too late economistsun the tribune sk weekender bruce annan publisher 9 heritage rd markham l3p1m3 2942200 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