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14 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Thursday, November 23, 1967 Dear Ann Landers: Although I have a few problems I could write about I would rather write a letter of thanks and ask you to print it on Thanksgiving Day. I want to thank you, Ann Lan- ders, for the young girl who had a child out of wedlock and can now face life because of the sound counsel and moral sup- port she received from you. I want to thank you for dis- cussing openly problems involv- ing homosexuality and venereal disease. Your frank, enlightened point of view has given hope and help to thousands of people who are struggling to hold their heads up. I want to thank you for pre- 'ANN LANDERS | Admirer Praises Columnist's Counsel these people have. in the world.--R, J. R. M. M. For example, you are always knocking people who drop in un- venting heaven knows how many miserable marriages and for keeping together countless other marriages that surely expectedly. phrase is, pected and uninvited, you are Your favorite "If you are unex- Ih rt without/@lso unwelcome." Who are you Sar sake, Avesta ad-|to write rules of conduct for the vice. I want to thank you for re- minding parents that discipline is a special kind of love and that they owe it to their chil- dren to insist on high standards and to set a good example. whole human race? It so hap- jpens that I love company any- 'time. I consider it a compliment! that about me that they just come jover on the spur of the moment. friends feel so warmly| } Recently, you were asked how} jto get guests to go home when! I want to thank you for the they have had a few drinks and} fhousands of miles you travelidon't want to leave. You said each year to talk to our teen-a-'you just gers. I want to thank you for the|here." encouragement you have given! holic. In many cases you have been the best (or only) friend I want to thank you for your beautiful sense of humor and for showing us through your ex- cellent column that our prob- lems are not the only problems Dear R. J. R. M. M.:.A wise friend once told me that praise, like perfume, should be inhaled not swallowed, so I'm inhaling your letter, which is a nice bal- ance for the one which follows. Dear Ann Landers: Who ap- pointed you God? Some of your answers are so stupid you make me sick. : | THE' ABSOLUTE throb- bing need for a_ sensation- al bright-striped knit dress is number one on all the 7 to 14'ers list. The demand is great because stripes plus knits are "in" with teenagers and adults and Stand up and say, "Good night folks. Tomorrow is ly satisfactory where job and fi- {nancial interests are concerned, I can't imagine anyone being/you will, generally speaking, the mentally ill and the alco-|so rude as kicking guests out of/have to work a little harder to PARENTS INNOCENT VANCOUVER (CP) -- Public doctor, said in an interview. He said some parents have been -eonvicted of beating their chil- dren when injuries were ac- {Admirer of Yours the house, I'll bet you haven't/achieve all that can be yours jgot a friend in the world.--No/late in 1968. Except for brief pe- riods in mid-March and mid- J Dear No Admirer: Thank you! July, when you may be the ben- eagerness to punish child-/for your letter. I appreciate any eficiary of either a monetary beaters has resulted in convic-/honest expression whether _it's/3vindfall--or-some unexpected tions of innocent parents, Dr.ifoy me or agin' me. A letter like,recognition for past work, you J. P. Caffey, an American child) yours keeps me from getting|cannot expect much further ad- swell-headed--and we all need a/vancement little deflating from time tolber. A good time. Thank you for writing. tually accidental. 8 Purron f-t6 WIFE PRESERVER Traveling: Take your hair dryer with you. You can keep your hair party-perfect, hosiery and lingerie quick as a wink, \from anybody or anything. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, your horoscope indicates that,| dry|while the period beginning with|be endowed with the gifts to December 2ist and ending injmake an excellent business ex- late February should prove high- ecutive, jurist or journalist. |FOR TOMORROW Yesterday's restrictions governed by generally good as-| where finances are concerned|Pects during the coming year, continue, so be careful in buy-|and those with creative leanings ing, selling, budgeting--all mon-|Will find next January, June, etary affairs. A mild day, gen-|September and October highly jerally, in which it would be ad-)!"Spiring. | lvisable to stick to routine mat-| |ters and not expect too much|Mantic developments in Janu- jary, late March, mid-June and September; chances to travel in January, mid-April and-or Sep- tember. until next Septem- 2-month cycle then should more than make up for} jall your efforts, however, so} |keep your objectives in view. THE STARS SAY And do avoid extravagance and-or speculation in the in- By ESTRELLITA tertin: Personal relationships will be Look for some interesting ro- A-child born on this day will BRIGHT STRIPED what preteener doesn't want to be "with it' when it comes to the latest in fashion. None we know of. To meet the need, is this "baby doll" horizontally striped Orlon knit in vivid tones of pink, green and gold. The skimmer dress has a drawstring neckline and short, top-gathered set- in sleeves edged with a narrow ruffle. --By Tracy Adrian For sparkling plastic and glassware use Cow Brand Your glassware and crystal will sparkle like gems when cleaned with Cow Brand Baking Soda. Removes stubborn egg, tea and coffee, stains from dishware. Make a paste with # Cow Brand -- rub, rinse and dry. Works || tke a charm Cow Brand Baking Soda 7 } } CHILD GUIDANCE Verbal Resistance Broken When Parent Is Firm, Laconic By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD I have often discussed the child who puts up verbal resist- ance when parents make a command or decision he dis- likes; when we say no or tell him to do what he doesn't care to do. From Indiana, the mother of three young children writes this letter: "Should we tolerate the 'ver-) bal static' we get when we issue a command or a 'No?' Or rath- er, when they complain or argue, should this be consid- ered in effect not obeying and be treated accordingly? Our 9- year-old daughter particularly is quite prone to argue about something she doesn't wish to do, and I have been guilty of letting it continue." SHOUTING WON'T HELP Then what should you do? Keep lyourself from talking back; not saying a word, but implying that your decision stands. In some extreme instance when you are not quite sure the re- sisting child sees why you make the decision you do make, state in the fewest possible words your reason before announcing your decision, Then say no more, Yet such occasions would be rare, as a rule. The child be- gins to argue because she has hope she will win. Her batting average to date has been so good that she feels a strong urge to challenge you. As a practical procedure, when you make a command or decision the child doesn't like, expect him (or her) to obey it in due time. If, after he has done so he stil] thinks you were unfair or wrong, let him feel free to come back and quietly tell you so. ENFORCE DECISIONS Before making a decision or command you know your child will strongly resist, be pretty sure you have available the necessary wherewithal to en- force this decision or command. You can see now why I have, over the years, been entreating parents to lay the foundation of obedience by the child in his early years. Parents who do so successfully won't have occa- to do our best to start to correct the situation." My reply in part: I'm sure you are right in resolving to re- duce tensions to find ways to get obedience without anger and shouting. The 'verbal static' you mention is a symp- tom of ways you need to change. When your child meets with an unwelcomed decision or command from you, she may not be overly disobeying, but since she wins, you h have just kidded yourselves that she has obeyed. There is nothing quite.so exasperating to a par- ent as to be placed on the wit- ness stand, questioned and cross-questioned as if she were a criminal. This parent is fool- ish to let herself be entangled into such a web of frustration. Also this mother writes, "We|She can't blame the child, as had always thought we hadithe child hopes to make the good control of our children, but/parent change her mind. lately we have begun to notice|DION'T SHOUT how much we do depend on} You could decisively rebuke shouting and anger to gainjor punish this child when she obedience. We have discovered|starts to argue and seems to be there is a good deal of tension|talking back. But there wouldn't dren of any age,or to stout at) @. How many children die in them in order to control them/home fires? reasonably well. Moreover, they| A. Last year 2,100 died. Over can get along with fewer andjone-third of these children were fewer commands as the chil-|without adult supervision when dren grow older. fire broke out. 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Tomorrow afternoon, at centres in the city, McLau; Hall at a bazaar sponsorec the Women's Auxiliary of Oshawa General Hospital; the Salvation Army Citadel, bazaar sponsored by Women's Home League; | filling both of these speci tions are on display. Mrs. James Garvock spent two months dressing dolls for the Home Leagu the Salvation Army. These ¢ are dressed in Canadian { ions of the last one huni years, a selection of ball go wedding gowns and colt house dresses, in a -variet; materials, tafetta, silks, hams and furs. "T have done a great dez research and taken ideas f films on television. Most of materials I used were don by members of the H League." Mrs. Garvock 1 pieces of lace that are at | eighty-five years old. 'It tot lot of work to restore the pie but it makes the dress aut tic." (The lace has been use the dressed doll which is see the front left of the picture. Mrs. Garvock's mother, year-old Mrs. Ida Gibson Bowmanville, was able to | her daughter a description her mother's wedding gown, Mrs. Garvock was able to duce a wedding gown of tafetta similiary to the one grandmother wore almost a | tury ago. Mrs. Garvock's interest such work could be consid more than a mere hobby. teaches dressmaking and linery at the YWCA and pat designing and millinery for Bowmanville Recreation A ciation, a total of seven cla: a week. The proceeds from these ¢ and the other features of bazaar, home baking, knitt novelties will be the Ho League's contribution to "Kanata Residence," which | vides housing and accomm« tion for Indian girls in Pri Rupert, B.C. "T have a personal interes this project, as my son, Rob js engaged to an Eskimo and when she visited us summer, she made me awar' the problems Indian and Esk 'girls have in furthering t education," says Mrs. Garv The late Mrs. R. S$. McLat lin instituted dressed dolls a part of the annual bazaar of Oshawa General Hosp Women's Auxiliary. Seven years ago, Mrs. J. Aldwinckle expanded this i and suggested that the Wom: Little Hope C For Woman H NAIROBI (AP) Po hammered on the door of a t galow in western Kenya anc the misty, pre-dawn darkr arrested Caroline Okelo-odor American-born wife of a pro nent opposition legislator. The date was Aug. 22, 1! The tall, slim Negro wor from Marshall, Tex., has b held ever since. Her whe! bouts is an official secret. | husband, Tom Okelo-odongo barred from seeing her. Mrs. Okelo-odongo, 31, Opposition Leader Oginga 0 ga's personal secretary. was accused of making con' with foreign vrganizations dling funds for the political ponents of President Jomo kK yatta, and of associating \ people believed to be engage subversive activities. A tribunal to review her tention was held in secret. account of the hearing has b published. Five of 10 others arre: have been freed. Marilyn Jackson, a secret with the American embassy Athens, is Caroline's twin sis She came here and saw V President Daniel Arap Moi Attorney-General Char! Njonjo but her appeal for sister's release was refused. Miss Jackson claimed Ci line had been offered her f dom if she gave up Kenya : zenship and left the country. U.S. CAN'T INTERFERE The American embassy § that since Mrs. Okelo-odc r d U.S. citi hip, i longer is concerned and cai interfere in Kenya's internal fairs. OSHAWA TIME: PICTURE RE-PRINTS 20% Discount on Orders of 5 or More Pictures Available ot NU-WAY PHOTI SERVICE 251 King St. &., Oshewe 8x 10 -- 1.50 each 5x 7-- 1.25 each as