14 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Thursdey, June 15, 1967 Dear Ann Landers: How can you be so positive your advice is always right? I did what you advised, Ann, and now I am not sure it was the wise decision. Our daughter had a baby out of wedlock three months ago. The social worker, our minister, our doctor--everyone--said she should put the baby up for adoption. She was barely 16 and the boy 17. Marriage was out of the question. I went to the hospital and stayed with my daughter until her child was born. Her little girl was the most beautiful baby I'd ever seen. Now that the ordeal is over things are back to normal and my daugh- ter is reasonably happy. The bad dream is over for her, but it will never be over for me. I am bitter and depressed. I have a dull ache in my heart for my first grandchild who is lost to me forever. I wish I had said "To hell with society" and taken that baby home and raised it as best I could.-- Heartsick. Dear Heartsick: You did what was best for the baby, best for your daughter and best for the father of the child. And it was best for you, too, although you may not believe it now. You will believe it one day, however --when your daughter is mar- ried and has a family. When that day comes, please let me know. Dear Ann Landers: I'm a 16- year-old girl who has a father problem. He is a wonderful man but he has the crazy idea that ANN LANDERS Grandmother Is Sorry Baby Put For Adoption he loves me by kissing me all the time. I get embarrassed in front of my friends when he pulls me on his lap, or kisses me on the neck but I hate to say anything for fear of hurting his feelings. Is it my mother's place to tell him, or do you think I should mention it? I am the only girl in a fam- ily of four boys and I know my father favors me, but I wish he would stop putting on such a show for everybody. What should I do?--Overloved. Dear Overloved: Tell your dad that you are a big girl now and you don't want to be smooched by daddy. A hello or good-bye kiss is just fine, but that should be it. Dear Ann Landers: Please help me. I am a 15-year-old boy who hates school. I am not learning anything. When the teachers talk I block out their voices and think of other things. Homework is a bore and all the stuff they try to cram into our heads is a waste of time. Most of the things they teach in school these days will not help a person make a living. Why should I knock myself out try- ing to memorize Spanish words when I know I will never go to Spain? Who needs it? In two months I will be 16 which is the legal age a kid can quit school in this state. I plan to dog it until my birthday, and then take a powder. I prom- ised my dad I would write to you so I am doing it. I am not promising I will pay attention to your advice.--Fed up to Here. he must keep proving how much Dear Fed: Stay in school and CHICKEN ATHENEE serving pieces 2 teaspoons salt 1 cup tomato juice 1 can (6 oz.) tomato paste ¥% cup chopped olives ¥% cup chopped mushrooms Y% cup sweet pepper flakes 1 tablespoon paprika onion 1% teaspoons chili powder ¥, teaspoon ground black pep- per teaspoon oregano leaves ce chicken in saucepan with 2 cups boiling water and salt. Cover and cook until ten- der, about 1 hour. Remove chicken from saucepan; mea- sure and reserve 3 cups of the broth. To. the reserved broth add remaining ingredients. Cook 10 minutes. Add chicken and cook until sauce has thickened, and chicken is hot. Serve over cooked rice, spaghetti or noodles, if desired. Yield: 6 servings. get your diploma. If you think you are bored now, just wait until you get trapped in a noth- ing little job at the bottom of the pay scale and discover you are stuck there for the rest of your life. Not a day goes by that I don't get a dozen letters from kids 19 and 20--begging me tc* tell high schoolers to stick with it. So--I tell 'em, and I hope they listen. ! 4 to 5 pounds chicken, cut into; 1 _ tablespoon. instant minced| % yor CHILD GUIDANCE By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD affects the feelings of others. others. ness. Pleasant Voice Has Well - Controlled Pitch Suppose you say to your > _-- voice oy Fe youngster, 4, "Don't do that," part o Personality. By itland he doesn't obe ; he expresses his feelings andlit again a bit lowler ast that shrill. If he continues to ignore It makes what he says more or less attractive or repellent to leaded hbo after you have four, five or more times you will be shrie! at Individuals differ widely in|him ti way | the physical mechanism back of|numerous such experiences you their voices. This mechanism--|may even shout and scream at throat, mouth, lips--limit the/him the first time. From the basic quality of the voice. But|nature of your voice the young- any person, with thought, may|ster may figure out how surely improve his voice through his}you mean it and how angry you control of its pitch and loud-jare getting. still more loudly. After Suppose you tell your child, 8 In doing so he needs to con-/or 10, to do something he would trol his emotions. As you andjrather not do and he hesitates I know, our voices tend to rise|to cbey. Suppose you tell him and grow louder when we areja second, third, or tenth time angry, frustrated or excited. We|before he carries' out your com- s|can't imagine a pair of lovers|mand. Doesn't your voice grow expressing to each other their|higher and louder on each suc- cessive repetition? Suppose he|his obedience then, though we doesn't merely hesitate butjact sometimes as if it is. It's a wants to know why and gets|matter of our understanding you in an argument or puts you/him and putting ourselves in on the witness stand. Do youlhis place and helping him enjoy remain calm and serene? Does | success. he? With no occasion then to feel If you will recall a number|angry at him our voices will of such instances you will ob-|not rise or expand. Anything we serve that when a youngster|Parents can do to manage our from 2 to 4 or 5 hesitates or|own emotions well and thus fails to obey you "no" or|speak in soft and quiet voices "don't" promptly or your child,|Will help our growing children 7 to 12, to obey your positive|to do likewise. command, your anger grows, iG QUESTIONS your voice gets louder and more] @ Has hearing anything to sereechy. You find that about|do with learning to read? the same is happening to the] A. Certainly; the youngster emotions and voice in the child.|beginning to read associates Therefore, one sure way to|the word he sees with the sound avoid shouting and screaming|of it or its parts as he hears at a child is to manage him so|himself or others say it. Good that you find no occasion. tojhearing also is important in repeat any command, negative|learning to spell. or positive. HOMEWORK TIME BARBARA'S | Siton Another area in which we can ANNIVERSARY SPECIAL escape angry feelings and con- 25% OFF ON sequently shrill loud voices in ourselves is when we are help- ing a child learn, as at his ALL COLD WAVES baths 00 \ relax you Just pour a % Ib. package of Cow Brand Baking Soda into a tub of ; warm water. Lie back lazily Hp and relax. Excellent for Yo) relieving hives, itching 1./ skin and sunburn, COW BRAND BAKING SODA PURE BICARBONATE OF SODA 78 CELINA ST. oo | homework. It's not a matter of ; dest affection in loud and high - pitched screechy tones. Neither can we imagine any mother shrieking or yelling her tenderest endearments to her infant or young child, nor this child so returning such endear- ments. 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