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Rap 18 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Wednesdey, November 10, 1965 CHILD GUIDANCE Obedience Forgotten Word Pre-schooler Difficult To Teach By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD bedience is an almost for-|ster under four or SPORTSWEAR Lid. OSHAWA SHOPPING CENTRE be: don't yemeent he young: ve wi ) used the word in recent years. When the word is used it is gen- gotten word. Those writing on|do; command him only what he child - upbringing have rarely|must not do (in your presence), Make only a few negative com-| mands to him; avoid positive! erally associated with tyrannyjcommands. However, positive) of parents who command chil-|suggestions rd requests can be dren as officers command sol-jvery effective in this earlier diers, and is, therefore, con-|age-period; also may be effec-| demned, tive thereafter, As you ean see, | As a result many parents, not|When you say to a youngster wishing to be considered tyr-\under four or five, "Do this, ants and ogres, often hesitate|@nd he refuses, you naturally to utter a command to a child,|punish him to make him do it. In all the counsel to parents} Thus you make less attractive, | there's been little attempt to|more painful, the very thing he) heip them think of obedience in|doesn't want to do, But after he terms of the age and develop-|is several years older he has ment of the child and in terms|experience enough to figure out of how effectively a command|that his disobedience brings him) can be enforced. discomfort. Therefore he will be Whereas many parents dis-|inclined to obey in order to es- cover that they can't so effec-| cape discomfort. tively command a child two,| In general; aim to make three or four to do this or do|pjeasant, especially to the pre- Depends On Decision-making that as they can. so command a school child, the many things! By ROBERTA ROESCH | "But she could never stand|Child seven or 10, they rarely) yoy wish the child to do and| If you want to move ahead injup on her own two feet and neve ae through the rea- painful only the few things you! your job, learn to make deci-|decide how things ought) to he/S°ms WHY: want him not to do, sions. done herself. .Whereas most parents have) wiopeqver, it's not easy to cul- That was the too-late discov-| «Actually, the only reason 1/*Scovered it easier to enforce sate obedience in the child of ery of one job-holder I know|put a supervisor in the spoti2?¥ command to be carried out| ny age by commanding him to who, after 1) years of working,|where 1 had planned to place|!M their presence than in their| qq or not to do anything in your hoped to achieve a better spotlher is because z need a woman|4bsence, few discern the widelarcence. you can't always when she was given a chance tolthere who can plan and assign| 'ference between the two situ: nook then and make sure to become a supervisor in her|work and map out on her own|2#0ns. Because most parents) anioree your command office. what had to be done each da jhave also found it harder to : i i j * ¥:| compel a youngster two, three But instead of getting the job! "put the one who was given ; } , Siven|or four to do what they tell him she wanted, after two weeks of/a chance and failed," he said, he sanet aa tah to enforce 'ne'! being on trial, she was returned|"was afraid to decide about bag "don't," relatively tow have to her old desk, and someone|these things for fear she would|thought through the reasons else far younger than she ob-imake a wrong decision. ea tained the sUDPEVA0r 6 Post, |' "Instead of being responsible| POSITIVE COMMANDS "And I can't imagine where|herself and telling employees| If parents used the sense they| I failed," she told me when we|what they were to do, she would|were born with, they could eas- ; discussed it, "because I bentlrun to my office first to inquire|ily see that if they commanded| founded in Lucknow, Indie has, over backwards trying to d0!whether what she was doing was|the younster two, three or four educated at least 1,000,000 In-| things right. right or to ask for my sugges-lto pick up the block he might|'ans over the years, ; 'No one," she said emphati-|tions. not obey this command even if| Mrs. Fisher, 85, built the vil- cally, "could have tried 'any| "As a result, she was no help|he were beaten almost to death; |lage from modest beginnings to harder than I, and no one could), Sh t right for the|ut that if they commanded him keep a_promise she made to have been more conscientious|(2, Me She wasn't right for the! not to throw the block or throw|Mahatma 'Gandhi, six weeks be- about wanting to do good work. a Steesl tiala it again a single whack on his -- pe gg spiritual leader "So I don't know why me vocationa Sf0r-ifundamental might easily cause|died in . failed," she repeated. "I wish|une can also cag es you, if/him to obey this command. She is here as part of a North I could find out," bets eeu conte ta are wilh Strangely enough you have|American tour to raise funds to From her side of the story, aa land : often heard and read the advice,|build other centres in India. She pont that Ted 'up t her failure | 80 if ths is, your tendency lage "inieated) nak todo: thatthe Next month | 8 § is 3 'lage indica not to do that; ' But, later, when I met her boss,jmake foresight better than hind- bo tell aah do this. Don't] The village, on 20 acres, con- and the talk got around to her/|sight and remember, as you dolmake negative commands;|tains schools, two hostels, a. lib-| SOCIAL NOTICES it was obvious the woman had|your work, that if you are ever|make only positive commands."|rany, open-air theatre and aj is eS ee she could not or pop gedit ghd goon Follow this advice literally with|non - er eye house of ouble- : , a youngster under four or five|worship. The village's chief Mr. and Mrs. Leonard Brash,|ting ceremony was solemnized| "On the whole, she. was ablejexpected to be decisive and ot von will soon have a stub- larke to produce conebere who Oshawa, wish to announce the|in Tyrone United Church on|to accomplish everything I out-|stand on your own two feet. horn child whom most will calljlearn special skills needed to forthcoming marriage of their|Saturday, November 6, 1965, lined for her to do," her em-| After all, if you weren't, youla disobedient child, bring education to India's illit- daughter, Dorothy Muriel, to Dr.|with the Reverend David Ployer said. wouldn't be given that work. | More sensible advice wouldlerates. Paritosh Chandra Dutta, Toron-|Northey officiating. = -- ate = to, son of Dr. and Mrs. Paresh Chandra LIGHTING 18 VITAL THE LAST TELEPHONE CALL to the Returning Officer's over but the cheering. Mich- headquarters on election ael Starr, the Progressive night. Other workers and by- Conservative candidate, had standers are pictured at the won again. Mrs. Conant end of the grind. It was all spent every available minute Advancement To Supervisor helping her husband in his position as returning officer. It marked the first time he has held the post. --Oshawa Times Photo It was a long-hard six weeks for Roger Conant's girl Friday -- his wife, pic- tured on the left, as she an- swers the last telephone call TOMORROW - FRIDAY - SATURDAY 10% 10 50% ort ON ALL Octogenarian Keeps Promise TORONTO (CP) -- Octogen- arian Welthy Fisher said Sun- day Literacy Village, which she * COATS * SUITS * DRESSES * SLIMS * BLOUSES * SKIRTS AND OTHER LINES OF SPORTSWEAR DOCTOR T0 MARRY OSHAWA NURSE Dr. Paritesh Chandra a son ha Pod Pico on Dutta, Toronto, will 'take as aresh Chandra Dutta, Cal- cutta, India, is a graduate -- 2 ne Sol of the University of Patna, rash. e bride-to-be, India, and has done post the daughter of Mr. and graduate studies in internal Mrs, Leonard Brash, Osh- medicine at Montreal and awa, is a graduate of King- Kingston. The ceremony will ston General Hospital School take place on December 4 in of Nursing, class of '65 and St. George's Memorial the prospective bridegroom, Church, Oshawa. FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE |New Brunswick. The Dutta, Calcutta, India. The my is to take place on saturday, December 4, 1965, at 3.00 p.m, at St. George's Me- morial Church, Anglican, Osh- "awa, MARRIAGE Mr. and Mrs. Reginald Kava- maugh, Oshawa, announce the matriage of their daughter, Brenda Joyce to Earle Keith HALIFAX (CP)--Lighting is the most important factor in| decorating a room, says inter-) ior designer Lee McMenemy.| She says large rooms lose their size 'unless all four corners are) lit. They will be cut down to where the lighting ends." Mrs.| McMenemy has decorated rooms for taverns, legislatures, Jo The. Electorate Amos, son of Mr. and Mrs. Walter Amos, Little Shemoque,|and battleships. A "NORM" FISHER'S ? | Meat Market "2a, For Personalized [NT oeences Service : a WEEK-END SPECIALS! 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Ist, filing Oct. 16th (1st Candidate to do so) and then having waded through a 300 page 'General Election Instruction', (with the aid of volunteer advisers): we stretched $2,000.00 and donations of approximately $500 with support of un- paid volunteer workers and three weeks into a campaign whirlwind. Thanks to the unstinting effort of many individ- It is my sincere hope that no one has been offended, if not contacted, having once volunteered. Operating person- ally as a "six man" team with the aid of my "dozen" full time enthusiastic volunteers, plus part time help of about 50% of the 100 or so volunteers who kindly offered their services, we gave it all we had! Despite some minor discords, it has been a tremendous experience from which considerable knowledge has been gained. We are in fact now in the sixth week of our campaign for the next election. Again, we~hope no one has been of- fended. We appreciate the fantastic support and assistance. It is difficult to express the depth of my appreciation for the support received by so many well-wishers. It is impossible to acknowledge ade- quately, the hours devoted to our cause by some individuals in particular. Once again my, -- and our, -- sincere thanks for your individual support for Democracy. From One of Our Leading Suppliers 300 SPECIALLY SELECTED CARDIGANS -- PULLOVERS NOVELTIES Regular 6.98 to 16.98 CLEARING 4.97 to 9.97 Please Note ' NOT ALL FALL STOCK ON SALE AT REDUCED PRICES -- ALL SALES FINAL WE CARRY BY FAR THE LARGEST BEEF PATTIES "°"™ joy tac 2.09 STOCK OF SPORTSWEAR IN OSHAWA ® FREEZER SPECIAL e Hindquarters .. Ib, 53¢ BEE Front Quarters Ib, 33¢ Ne ch f tt 4 Sides tie te 2 Ib, 43° uals (working without compensation) K } , ee t we were able to accomplish in short Fain Pes re Ne ee BUNCE time, a tremendous amount, | feel. ae ee 'Tuas' Doc, Fa. DR. J. E. 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