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It was a long-hard six weeks for Roger Conant's girl Friday -- his wife, pic- tured on the left, as she an- swers the last telephone call THE LAST TELEPHONE CALL to the Returning Officer's headquarters on election night, Other workers and by- standers are pictured at the end of the grind. It was all over but the cheering. Mich- ael Starr, the Progressive Conservative candidate, had won again. rs. Conant spent every available minute helping her husband in his position as returning officer. It marked the first time he has held the post. --Oshawa Times Photo DOCTOR TO MARRY OSHAWA NURSE | Dr. Paritosh Chandra Dutta, Toronto, will take as his bride' Miss Dorothy Mur- fel Brash. The. bride-to-be, the daughter of Mr. and Mrs, Leonard Brash, Osh- awa, is a graduate of King- ston General Hospital School of Nursing, class of '65 and the prospective bridegroom, the son of Dr. and Mrs. Paresh Chandra Dutta, Cal- cutta, India, is a graduate of the University of Patna, India, and has done post graduate studies in internal medicine at Montreal and Kingston. The ceremony will take place on December 4 in St. George's Memorial Church, Oshawa. SOCIAL NOTICES FORTHCOMING MARRIAGE Mr. and Mrs. Leonard Brash, Oshawa, wish to announce th forthcoming marriage of their daughter, Dorothy Muriel, to Dr. Paritosh Chandra Dutta, Toron- to, son of Dr. and Mrs. Paresh seype Dutta, Calcutta, a. ceremony is to take place on saturday, December 4, 1965, at 3.00 p.m. at St. George's Me- morial Church, Anglican, Osh- awa, MARRIAGE Mr, and Mrs. Reginald Kava- maugh, Oshawa, announce the matriage of their daughter, Brenda Joyce to Earle Keith Amos, son of Mr. and Mrs. Walter Amos, Little Shemoque, New Brunswick. The double- ring ceremony was solemnized in Tyrone United Church on Saturday, November 6, 1965, with the Reverend David Northey officiating. By ROBERTA ROESCH If you want to move ahead in your job, learn to make deci- sions. That was the too-late discov- ery of one job-holder I know who, after 1) years of working, hoped to achieve a better spot when she was given a chance to become a supervisor in her office, But instead of getting the job/ she wanted, after two weeks of being on trial, she was returned to her old desk, and someone else far younger than she ob- tained the supervisor's post, | "And I can't imagine phere! I failed,' she told me when we discussed it, "because I bent over backwards trying to do things right. "No one," she said emphati- cally, "could have tried any harder than I, and no one could have been more conscientious about wanting to do good work. "So I don't know why I could find out," From her side of the story, there wasn't a thing I could pin- point that led up to her failure. But, later, when I met her boss, and the talk got around to her it was obvious the woman had failed, because she could not make decisions. Advancement To Supervisor Depends On Decision-making I failed," she repeated. "I wish|tune can also happen to you, if icoils from coming to terms with "But she could never stand up on her own two feet and decide how things ought) to be done herself. "Actually, the only reason 1) put a supervisor in the spot where I had planned to place her is because : need a woman there who can plan and assign work and map out on her own what had to be dorie each day. "But the one who was given a chance and failed,' he said, "was afraid to decide about these things for fear she would make a wrong decision. 'Instead of being responsible herself and telling employees what they were to do, she would run to my office first to inquire whether what she was doing was right or to ask for my sugges- tions. "As a result, she was no help to me. She wasn't right for the job." The same vocational misfor- you're a person who always re- decisions. So if this is your tendency, make foresight better than hind- sight and remember, as you do your work, that if you are ever put into a spot where it's your job to make decisions, you are "On the whole, she was able to accomplish everything I out- lined for her to do," her em- ployer said. wouldn't be given that work. expected to be decisive and stand on your own two feet. After all, if you weren't, you 4 18 THE OSHAWA TIMES, Wednesdoy, November 10, 1965 | CHILD GUIDANCE By GARRY C. MYERS, PhD bedience is an almost for- gotten word, Those writing on child - upbringing have rarely used the word in recent years, When the word is used it is gen- erally associated with tyran of parents who command chi dren as officers command sol- diers, and is, therefore, con- demned, As a result many parents, not wishing to be considered tyr- ants and ogres, often hesitate to utter a command to a child. In all the counsel to parents there's been little attempt to help them think of obedience in terms of the age and develop- ment of the child and in terms of how effectively a command can be enforced. Whereas many parents dis- cover that they can't so effec- tively command a child two, three or four to do this or do that as they can so command a child seven or 10, they rarely have thought through the rea- sons why, Whereas most parents have discovered it easier to enforce} any command to be carried out in their presence than in their absence, few discern the wide difference between the two situ- ations, Because most parents have also found it harder to compel a youngster two, three or four to do what they tell him he must do than to enforce "no"' or "don't," relatively few have thought through the reasons, POSITIVE COMMANDS If parents used the sense they were born with, they could eas- ily see that if they commanded the younster two, three or four to pick up the block he might not obey this command even if he were beaten almost to death; but that if they commanded him not to throw the block or throw it again a single whack on his fundamental might easily cause him to obey this command. | Strangely enough you have often heard and read the advice, "Never tell the youngster (no age indicated) not to do that; only tell him to do this. Don't make negative commands; make only positive commands." Follow this advice literally with a youngster under four or five and you will soon have a stub- born child whom most will call a disobedient child, Obedience Forgotten Word Pre-schooler Difficult To Teach be: don't veumand the young: | ster under four or five what to do; command him only what he must not do (in your presence). Make only a few negative com-| mands to him; avoid positive) commands, However, positive) suggestions vd requests can be very effective in this earlier! age-period; also may be effec- tive thereafter, As you can see,| when you say to a youngster under four or five, "Do this," and he refuses, you naturally punish him to make him do it. Thus you make less attractive, | more painful, the very thing he} doesn't want to do, But after he is several years older he has experience enough to figure out that his disobedience brings him) discomfort. Therefore he will be inclined to obey in order to es-' cape discomfort. In general, aim to make pleasant, especially to the pre- school child, the many things) you wish the child to do and painful only the few things you! want him not to do, Moreover, it's not easy to cul- tivate obedience in the child of any age by commanding him to do or not to do anything in your absence; you can't always check then and make sure to enforce your command. Octogenarian Keeps Promise TORONTO (CP) -- Octogen- arian Welthy Fisher said Sun- day Literacy Village, which she founded in Lucknow, Indie has educated at least 1,000,000 In-; dians over the years, Mrs. Fisher, 85, built the vil- lage from modest beginnings to keep a promise she made to Mahatma Gandhi, six weeks be- fore the Indian spiritual leader died in 1948. She is here as part of a North American tour to raise funds to build other centres in India. She plans to return to India within the next month, | The village,-on 20 acres, con-, tains schools, two hostels, a lib-| rany, open-air theatre and a) non - denominational house of worship, The village's chief work. is to produce teachers who learn special skills needed to bring education to India's illit- More sensible advice would erates. LIGHTING I$ VITAL HALIFAX (CP)--Lighting is the most important factor in decorating a room, says inter- ior designer Lee McMenemy.| She says large rooms lose thelr) size "unless all four corners are) lit, They will be cut down to! where the lighting ends." Mrs.) McMenemy has decorated rooms for taverns, legislatures and battleships. 'NORM" FISHERS 3 Meat Market For Personalized Service ge nS 52 SPECIALS ! ALL MEAT GOVERNMENT INSPECTED _BEEF ROAST RUMP or ROUND STEAK ROAST BLADE STEAKS 13: us. 99° FRYING or ROASTING While They Lost Thursday Only 3-4 LB. 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Being without Party affiliation, and having no inkling as to the tremendous organization required; number of work- ers; managers; agents, (publicity pho- tographer, speech writers and press, radio, T.V., etc. required) we were un- able to make maximum use of the tre- mendous number of volunteers who stepped forward. After announcing candidacy Oct. Ist, filing Oct. 16th (1 st' Candidate to do so) and then having waded through a 300 page "General Election Instruction', (with the aid of volunteer advisers): we stretched $2,000.00 and donations of approximately $500 with support of un- - paid volunteer workers and three weeks into a campaign whirlwind. Thanks to the unstinting effort of many individ- uals (working without compensation), we were able to accomplish in short time, a tremendous amount, | feel. , if not contacted, having once volunteered. Operating person- ally as a "six man" team with the aid of my "dozen" full time enthusiastic volunteers, plus part time help of about 50% of the 100 or so volunteers who kindly offered their services, we gave it all we had! Despite some minor discords, it has been a tremendous experience from which considerable knowledge has been gained, We are in fact now in the sixth week of our campaign for the next election. Again, we hope no one has been of- fended. We appreciate the fantastic support and assistance. It is difficult to express the depth of my appreciation for the support received by so many well-wishers. It is impossible to acknowledge ade- quately, the hours devoted to our cause by some individuals in particular. Once again my, -- and our, -- sincere thanks for your individual support for Democracy. Keep with us until we elect RUNDLE from M.D., to M.P. tuans" Doc, Fa. DR. J. E. RUNDLE SPORTSWEAR Lid. 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