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EER AG ES RG EE IF Se Syne ok. CHILD GUIDANCE 'Eldest Of Four Children 'Boy Feels Insecure By GARRY C. MYERS, PhPyto ~ podiairicien. ms ote: Suppose you were the mother|ined him and visited with of the eldest child described injand didn't feel this was neces- the following letter: sary. : "My problem concerns my| "He doesn't. get along with)é son, 9, who is in the fourthjhis friends for any period of grade. He has two brothers, five|time. He generally is the leader and 14-months, and a sister, 7./in quater eros. og ~ ' jing, starting a fight, en either ae enstongeige iol a getting the heck beat out of him myself, which does not exist be-|°" running home, How can I tween myself. and the other|Ke¢eP my patience and get children. 1 think he has a feel-|through to this boy to build his ing of resentment toward me.|©OMfidence and let him know He is very insecure. If I correct|that we do care about him? him or try to get him to com- CELEBRATE SUCCESSES plete his chores (they are not) yyy reply in part. If you were many), we end up in an argu-jtg put yourself in the place of ment; then he will downgrade/your eldest son, you no doubt himself tremendously. __.|would feel that you didn't stand "He has even got to the point|in the family nearly as well as of saying, 'I shouldn't be here.|the younger children. You prob- everybody would be better offlapiy wouldn't feel very affec- without me.' He goes to hisitionate toward your mother. room, rocks in his bed, sulks) | hope you and dad can work on se agi sabe rar welts 'a together in some way to build Mill' myself' Etc. Etc. I have|UP this boy to help him feel tried ts talk "a akon with rragh nah ac Rid _ : agave o win his esteem and affection. | 3 him when he does this until my Don't let yourself argue with patience is exhausted, I have hi A ich te: ve it-/him. Work out with Dad bet-) ignored him, which is very di ter ways to require him to con- ficult. : u "He rides the other two chil-/form to a few family regula- dren constantly. He is very|'ions. gvod with the baby though. This trouble all seemed to be- gin when the fourth baby was born at the beginning of his third year in school. Both his third and fourth grade teachers have said according to the end require him to sit unamused, doing nothing, for 30 minutes, while your lips are still. Do} Pre celebrate with him his smaliest| pared Ina success at work and play. I'm) sure he has a lot of fine quali-| If the way to a man's heart is) VANILLA NUT CUPCAKES When he must be punished, | This Man-Catching Bait Twinkling 2 teaspoons grated orange month will those engaged in creative en- terprises. September and October, social and domestic affairs prosper months and, if thinking of strong possibility dreams will be realized either! THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW You may see fit to revise some of your plans now and, if jothers object, you can win their cooperation more through gen- itle persuasion than by firm in- |sistence on your own way. The evening hours will be excellent ifor social functions and group Jactivities generally. FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, your horoscope indicates that, cerned, the next year will favor the accomplishment of unusual and difficult tasks. It would be advisable, as of now, to tackle new projects and, wherever you can, take steps to strengthen your financial position. November should be a good month, monetarily speaking, and from mid - December through March you will be able for this June, so, at those times, try to make your influence felt in spheres where it will do the most good, The balance of this be excellent for Except for brief periods in should the next 12 you've been there's a that your during travel, in May, July and-or August. Best periods for romance:) next May and August, Septem- i ties. through his stomach, a batch of) rind ber and late November. Don't - Siw om . s |Vanilla Nut Cupcakes topped|2 eggs |put too much trust in "crushes" does C work. He seems to have|/NVITE FRIENDS with bright maraschino cher-| % cup chopped nuts you may experience. What may vio: power of concentration and| , See that the younger children|ries should do the trick for/8 maraschino cherries , |appear to be the "'love of your his ren wanders constantly in don't impose on him and mess|you. Flavored . with tangy; Preheat oven to 375 deg. F.|]ife' could prove highly decep- fads . up his things, Attract somejorange, vanilla and chopped|(moderately hot). Grease 16,|tive, a playmates his age to your home.|nuts, Vanilla Nut Cupcakes can|2¥4-inch muffin cups. . | A child born today will be en- FEAR OF FAILURE I hope dad goes places with|be prepared in a twinkling of an} Sift flour with sugar, baking/dowed with great tenacity of "At home he spends 114 hours|this boy and makes things with|eye -- and cooked to perfection|powder and salt. purpose and will be extremely} him and has good times with|in twenty minutes. Add margarine or butter, on something that should take 30 minutes, because of lack of concentration. Both teachers say they think he will not try him. Dad might find ways to) ,,.. ; ' a a help him learn some skills at} VANILLA NUT CUPCAKES play other children would ad- Yield--16 cup cakes because of fear of failure, He|mire. Perhaps dad also could)! cups once-sifted all-purpose wants the 'easy way' out onjdo most to help him read better; flour everything. If he can't be 'Top|and win more success at book| % cup granulated sugar Dog' in school, or with his/learning. I think you should|1%4 teaspoons baking powder | friends he can't or won't at-|consult a psychiatrist about this} 2 teaspoon salt tempt te do anything at all. (problem. | ges -- or butter. eo i -3 cup milk He stands off and will not PARENTS' QUESTIONS iccchdnanogs.vanilinsixizact | participate in any activities , ; pasbabipi tee bias with the boys at school because| @. My child, two, doesn't tell he doesn't feel capable. His|™ther when he needs to go to teacher said he goes into a rage|*He toilet to keep dry and tidy.| So over little things that shouldn't} A. Take sole responsibility) matter at school. His thirdjyourself for getting him there! grade teacher felt he mightjoften enough and winning his need a psychiatrist. I took him!cooperation japart but actually the new di- Asking For a Raise . . jrection in furniture leads just Takes Deliberate Planning (ae veer newest excitement lin furniture design points un- By ROBERTA ROESCH sample released for the clientsjerringly to the fine "country What are the things that youjher boss served on her own|house" look, which is not at all do when you want a raise? time at night, then showed them|"folksy'"' or quaint, but rather That's a king-size question to her boss, - as examples of|"to the manor born." for most people holding jobs, as what she hoped to do if he could| Fabrics are apt to be velvety| evidenced by the questions I|%!¥¢ her a chance. j--chenilles, Pagers ib cut vel- i ser nog iee ivets, or suede cloth, sometimes -- HAS DESIRED EFFECT in muted tones to lend a "not| The best procedure yet found) Her initiative had the desireditop new" look ig to lay good ground work first| effect. She got a chance imme-| Then there are tweedy and especially when you work for| diately. And in six months, sheltineny textures. Contrast welt- «firm where regular raises and/got a raise. ing abounds and is affected by salary reviews are not a com-| Third, check yourself on your|both color and fabric contrasts pany policy. Present job performance and| Super - plump cushioning on Essentially, putting do wnj|determine--honestly and objec-|chairs and sofas, with genuine ground work adds up to the|tively -- whether you're worthllaiex foam rubber, gives the following points. Apply all four|the raise you think you de-|comfortable look and feel, with t@ your present job. Then,|serve. Compare yourself to your no "plumping up" necessary. Maybe you'll be taking your | co-workers and pretend you're! pDressmaker detail is used in new raise to the bank. the boss. Then rate your per-|devices such as fabric cut-outs First, get to know the people|formance for the past month\as a design on a sofa skirt. im your firm who control your|as "Superior," "Average," or) With the "manor. house" 10ux| progress. Naturally you can't; "Just Getting By." such an important factor, at-| approach the president and sug-| Fourth, when the time comesjtention is focused on the dining gest you go bowling together.|that you must ask for a raise|/room chair, which is, in some But you can learn what people|(if your boss doesn't give youlcases, taller and usually more d what in your company and) one first) be able to show spe-jupholstered. The upholstered then find opportunities to speak|cific and concrete ways injdining room chair, seen as al t@ them, thank them for things|which you and your job haveltrend Jast year, is now firmly! for which thanks are in order|developed since your last raise. | established. | and let them know in every pos-| It's a good idea to ask about} The wood finishes are any-! sible way that you're very much|your future prospects with the| ---- - By ELEANOR ROSS The terms. "sophisticated" and "country" may seem poles phistication Meets Country In New Fumiture Designs milk, vanilla and grated orange rind. Beat well until mixture is smooth. Add eggs: continue 'beating until well combined, Fill pans one-half full. Sprinkle chopped nuts on each cupcake. Bake for 20 minutes in pre-| heated oven. While still warm add % cherry on each cupcake as decoration, thing but highly polished. On the contrary, they are grainy and slightly distressed--worked over to have an heirloom aura. The finishes are mostly dark, although a faint new trend shows up in a chalky white dis- tressed treatment. Much of this country-house type of furniture has painted finishes, in dark hues of mostly olive green or berry red, with the grain of the wood running through. What was once a perfectly plain sideboard or cabinet, with the only decorative note the grain of the wood itself helped along by somewhat garish hard- ware, now appears in a dressed- up version by virtue of panel carvings, shadow box effects, and. other embellishments. Even so - called "modern'"' warms up with this new wood- work, which gives it a faint English Tudor look, or evokes a Spanish flavor (and Spanish and neighboring "Moorish" are really big this year). And good old Early Ameri- can dresses up in hints and echoes of its mixed herttage. The "provinces" are "in" to- day, and so is comfort. The casual ottoman is plenti- ful and so are throw pillows for versatile in the creative fields. accompanied by the tasteful yet casual comfort. ANN LANDERS Once Burned Twice Shy Dear Ann Landers: For the first time in two years I have found peace of mind. I want to share it with you. Now I have another prob- lem. My dad thinks he ought to tell me how to spend my I was one of those foolish|money. I think I should be able women who felt my where job matters are con-|didn't wandered. My sweetheart was married too, but his wife was not well. (Are they ever?). He assured me that when she was stronger and able to accept the blow he would ask for a divorce i 'hy a appreciate me, so I and we would be married. Suddenly his wife died of a heart attack. This put him in an embarrassing position--one which he did not expect, I am sure. He told me he could not ask and that I should forget him. His wife has been dead less than three months and already he has been seen squiring two rich widows and a loaded 'di- I would like to warn these women to listen for the following phrases: that we did not meet years We could have had a beautiful life together." Or this one: "I would know your hands anywhere--just by the touch." is the most extraordinary thing that has ever happened to me, It's like vorc ago. And So beware girls, That Dream- boat could be the Heel.--Burned and D vice, bee. me to leave my h to spend my money on any- thing I want. Right now I'm Most of these mothers discuss your column as if it were the Bible. Will you please say some- thing about mothers who drag their young children every- where? They'll take it from you.--Long Suffering Dear Suff: Mothers who take their youngsters everywhere do so because it is easier (and cheaper) than hiring a sitter. They don't realize how unfair it is to their children as well as to the women who don't care to share their day out--often their only day out in the week --with three-year-olds. PRESERVER Snip off the top of a gallon- size plastic bottle and you have an extra wastebasket for den, bedroom or sewing corner. ready to pack my gear and move out of the house. I de- cided to write to you first and listen to what you have to say. --Mitchell Dear Mich: I'd like to sug- gest a compromise. I don't know how much money you are earn- ing but if you will open a sav- ings account and put away half of it you should be allowed to djspend the other half as you "How "This of course: a novel." Cured. ear B and C: Petunia. same sorry mistake . Dear Ann Landers: boy who will soon be 17 years| old. I was fed up arguing every) so I got myself a And I hope you will take your own good ad- Lonely women have a tendency to repeat the |time I wanted a couple of bucks} job after present|}school and on weekends, This wave of leisure is clearly re-|has cut me out of a lot of social flected in the new country house|activity, but it is worth it, be- look that so aptly interprets a|cause I don't have to beg any |more. | sad please--no questions asked. Dear Ann Landers: Many of my friends have pre-school chil- dren. Most of these young mothers have good sense, but three or four in our crowd in- sist on dragging their children every place they go--this means to club meetings, luncheons, downtown shopping, and even to the beauty shop. What is the matter with them anyway? My children are grown but when wouldn't have dreamed of tak- ing them where they did not belong. Yesterday I attended a church luncheon and two women brought their three - year-olds. 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