MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Woman Asks How To Deal With Gossiping Relative problem may seem odd to you, but it has brought me a lot of] deep sorrow and concern. My mother lost her parents at the age of four. Having no other| relatives in this country, she| was placed in a county home for children and later taken by a couple who reared her as a fos- ter daughter. These were my so-called grandparents. Dear Mary Haworth: ou) Mother lived with them. work-|sleeve unnecessarily when you|your mother's orphaned child: ing hard, until she was 18; then jet her boorish bragging bother|hood. It is natura moved into our county, wherelyoy and that's what it is--|your foster kinswom : , gi con-| raised our family, plus lwo oth! sciously or not, she is trying to|her own throat ers--a brother and sister--andiy 14 herself up in the audience M.H. she and my father were mar-| ried. Here they settled and our cousins, whom we all love.| A daughter of one of the foster| comparatively; trying to steal| through her column not by mail brothers (now a minister) has a| habit, when we meet other peo-| ple, of telling how Mother was] taken from the "county home" by her family--as she likes it to be known. I often feel like tell- ing her to let sleeping dogs lie; | that it isn't what one was, but| the person one is today, that| counts,' | Her own father, by the way,| while he attended college stayed| (or yours) or has a latent guilt| sense about her family's per-| with my parents board-free,ias we lived on a big farm and 'al-| ways had plenty. She, too, is a college graduate and her chil-| dren are even relating this story| to my grandchildren. Why are people so thoughtless| and never forget the past (but don'tunderscore the good) about folks? I say it is unchris-| tian and ill-mannered. What do you think? A.D. JUST BRAGGING Dear A.D.: On the one hand, your foster kinswoman land hapless hardship. | crudely unkind--and an embar-| rassing bore to everyone with| fine sensibilities -- when she assiduously rehashes your moth- er's early history for the benefit of company, especially in your| hearing, and the more so, since that chapter of your mother's life had to do with tragic loss But on the other hand, you are wearing your heart on your bragging of sorts. It would appear that, estimate by tearing you down, the show as a would-be more important person than you (or yours) in terms of claiming better '"'social" background, if not as gifted with character or charm as you or your mother or your children or grandchildren, perhaps. This suggests that she is either jealous of you (or yours) or somehow feels inferior to you formance as fosterparents dur-| ing your mother's girlhood. Possibly , their pitch throughout was more exploita- tive than affectionate. GOSSIPER HURTS SELF Maybe her clan, or certain members of it, were left with an uneasy conscience when your able mother moved off into mar- riage and amassed prosperity in teamwork with her husband. Maybe thereafter it became a is beinglkind of family boast among! his growth and for ited Offer! Gill ette ONE-PIECE RAZOR and SUPER BLUE BLADES e Here's a money-saver offer for sure--a 43¢ tube of Gillette Shaving Cream FREE when you buy this Gillette One-Piece Razor, with Super Blue Blades. What perfect shaves! a combination for eo Fast-acting Gillette Shaving Cream containing K-34, the remarkable facial whiskers thoroughly --and antiseptic, softens a precision-made one-piece Gillette Razor with the sensational Super Blue Blade skims off tough beards so easily it's hard to believe the razor! there's a blade in © What a deal--$1.43 value for only one dollar! Naturally, the supply of this offer is limited -- so get yours today! @ IDEAL GIFT FOR FATHER'S DAY--OR FOR ANY YOUNG MAN GF SHAVING AGE. Decent people respect reti- them, also a kind of bluster, that the foster household had KEEP IN TRIM given her the breaks that led to the solid marriage she made. In any case, whatever the motivation or true explanation of this foster kinswoman's t0o-| much-talk about your mother's| transient stay in a county home, the fact is that she puts herself, not you, in an unflattering light by babbling all she knows. cence regarding family matters, not on the theory that there is anything to hide, but because family life is private, personal, "between ourselves" --not a tale to be told to every Tom, Dick and Harry. : Don't dream of apologizing for, or feeling defensive about, 1 to blush for an's lack of tact but try to keep in mind that, in the last analysis, it's she's cutting. [| Mary Hawo rth counsels {or persenal interview. Write her lin care of this newspaper. WIFE PRESERVERS Keep blouses tucked in by | sewing on long shirt-tails of| plain broadcloth or pieces cut from old sheets. burdened! FOOTWEAR SIZE A baby's first socks and bootees should be purchased in| |sizes large enough to allow for shrinkage of tocks, Baffled Teenager Seeks Exercises That Will Really Work By IDA JEAN KAIN This bristling letter from baffled teen-ager may strike a chord with other non-losers. "I am a desperate 17-year-old who is terribly angry with you. One month ago I weighed 118 and had the follow ing measure- ments: bust 34, waist 23, hips| 37. 1 am 56" tall and small- boned. I followed your hip-slim- ming exercises every night and one month later I weighed 117 and my hips measure 38! parently your exercises didn't hit the trouble spot--huge but- Can't you recommend some exercises that will really work?" | We'll apply kinesiology for true action, force those muscles to do the work, and align pos- --|ture on the slim #p-and-down muscle track. Ap- The true action of tbe bulky | muscle on the back of the hips h is powerful extension. The big|"? muscle is called into action when the extension of the hip is flexed more than 45 degrees, or against strong resistance. This program is designed for healthy teen- vigorous hip-slimmi agers. left knee bent. 12 times. Position: should be fairly high. ' Position: Take the position of a sprinter, set to go, hands on floor, right leg stretched back, Action: In a vigorous jump, reverse the position of the legs. Now the left leg is stretched back and the right knee bent. Repeat this action 6 times, later Stand with folded arms on chest of drawers. Keep| back straight. The resting place Action: Keeping knee straight thrust leg straight backward. Repeat -six times. Then, chang- ing the angle, make it a diag- ona! thrust, side and back. Then swing directly sidewards. Shake the leg loosely at finish. Repeat with the other leg. Do not bend {the knees. Position: Lie face downward on floor, head resting on folded nds. Action: Lift legs slightly off floor, separaie the legs widely. Be sure to lift with the hip and thigh muscles . . . do not slide legs. Bring legs together, again lifting. Continue 8 counts. Then {from same position, hold legs to- | gether, keep knees stiff and swing both legs toward left, touching toes to floor at left side. Lift, do not slide. Lift and swing back to center. Lift, and swing to right, and touch toes to floor. Swing legs back to cen- tre. Repeat six times, later more. Get on the posture beam: The correct position of the pelvic girdle is basic to slim hips. Pull up-and-in with the lower abdom- (inal muscles and simultaneously roll hips down and slightly un- | der. The follow:through is to lift THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesday, June 6, 1961 © the rib cage, keeping shoulders relaxed. When you carry your- self on a slim up - and - down muscle track, hips can't bustle rearward. What To Pack In Picnic Basket There's nothing like having your picnic gear organized and ready to go when the summer outdoor season arrives. If everything is assembled in one central spot, the spur-of-the- moment picnic won't be pre- ceded by the usual mad rush and scramble, with all hands weary before the outing starts. The planned-in-advance pienic, too, will take a minimum of time to co-ordinate. Included in your special cache should be all the conventional picnic equipment -- vacuum bottle or jug, paper plates, cups and napkins, plastic knives, forks and spoons. In addition, you should have the where- withal to ward off insects] soothe insect bites, sunburn, the aftereffects of eating--all occupational hazards o fthe pic- nic, unfortunately. For cuts and scratches, you'll need an antiseptic and plastic bandage strips. Take repellent to ward off the bugs. A box of that old standby, soda bicarbonate, should take care of the other potential picnic problems and hazards. Dust soda on your legs, for example, before venturing into the woods or fields--the favorite haunt of chiggers--and you won't be bit- ten by these almost invisible in- sects. Should you fail to take this precaution, you can soothe the itch which follows a chigger bite by mixing a palmful of soda with- a few drops of water and applying the paste to the af- fected area. The same pro- cedure usually does a good job with mosquito and bee bites. Be- fore applying the paste to the latter, however, be sure to re- move the stinger. If overeating of the fine pic- nic care caused trouble, relieve minor cuts and scratches and it quickly by drinking a glass of water mixed with a half tea- spoon of soda bicarb. In addition to all these uses, soda plays a practical role at picnics, too. It's a good citizen who dumps soda on the fire be- fore heading for home. Even if flames appear dead, it's a wise precaution, for the soda smoth- ers the often unseen or un- suspected spark or ember. And a trick worth remember- ing, whether you're off on a pic- nic or tending the barbecue grill at home, is to scatter a iitle soda over the charcoal. slows the fire down and makes it burn evenly for a longer pe- riod. Incidentally, this is an old professional woodsmen's trick. But be careful not to dump too much soda or the fire will go out! Soda also simplifies the post- picnic cleanup. . Fill vacuum, container with water from the lake or stream, add a couple of tablespoons of soda and there won't be any of that sticky fruit pulp or milk or coffee ring to cope with later. THE COMMUNITY PAGE FRIENDLY NEIGHBORLY SERVICE HAYDEN D. KEMP Imperial ESSO Service It's Spring Change-over Time ® TUNE-UP e CARBURETOR SERVICE e MINOR REPAIRS ® WHEEL BALANCING Complete tire and battery service. Free Pick-up and delivery. Phone RA 5-3680 288 BLOOR ST. WEST your local stores. A GUIDE TO VALUES IN OSHAWA & DISTRICT GREATER MERCHANDISE SELECTIONS, when you shop locally. It's hard to beat the selection of merchandise you'll find in your local stores. Your local merchant carries ample stock of name brand items. He's selected them with you in mind. It's rewarding, in personal satisfaction, in greater savings, in knowledge that you're contributing to your community's growth, to shop lo- cally. 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