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me. my log i Rg Wg Fy, Bg VA Se oy Pg Ry PR MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Mother-In-Law's Sociability | Bothers Wage-Earning Bride || Dear Mary Haworth: I have|ing and retiring hours, before and SE AA NG GA THE OSHAWA TIMES, Tuesday, October 13, 1959 § | CHILD GUIDANCE How To Deal With A Child Who Indulges In Tantrums Limit no to important situations. But when you say no, say it just once in a moderate tone. TREAT HER TENDERLY In all the times between, cud: dle her and talk quietly and tem derly to her; read often to her; make things with her and talk to her in soft companionable tones. See that her little brother does been married only four months; [since marriage. Next, you made| as a householder. women, in the matter of doubling Even after I get things settled, as wage earner and housewife. | I imagine that I will still be busy And so on, down the line, until week nights; and yet my mother- evening visits. in-law drops in frequently. This detailed exactitude, in to get to sleep before midnight, |revealing indeed, when noted in and while she doesn't stay late, connection with the difficulty you have a full time job as a wage comparison between yourself and ¥ earner; and am still "getting ald of other, more experienced | i evenings with cooking and gen-|finally, you arrived at the delicate | i eral housework, which means diplomatic crisis, regarding your| § that I won't want company on mother - in - law's inconvenient | 1 have chores to do, and I want making a pitch for help, is very * | By G. CLEVELAND MYERS (when you see a tantrum coming, | Temper tantrums are most fre- could be very effective. i It's important that, except for quent between De ages ob wo routine matters, you do not com- nega. mand her to do something you Joungster tends to be most [fom she will resist, Instead, aim " to make a request when you wish | an id me RCE Vrs: lean her to do something for you. Then problem with my three-year-old|'et Der {nose Whcthet i do it daughter. She has three and four|°F, Roh Royer at you| outbursts of temper a day, over will nearly always win her to co-| > operate. Since it was a request, Practically anything she's told make sure you don't change it 2 "I have tried handling her|® command and say "You must." | not impose on her and mess up things. Though she may be grow- ing less jealous of him, she prob- ably still supposes she is mot loved as much as he is. (My bulletins, "'Stubbornness" and "Preventing and Reducing Jealousy," may be had by send- ing a seif-addressed, U.S. stamp- ed envelope to me in care of this newspaper.) PARENTS' QUESTIONS Would vou allow your tot, to call you ugly names? her very presence keeps me from describe--the difficulty of trying, doing what I plan to do.' I love|not always successfully, and with her very much; she's a good egg|keen feelings of frustration, to and I don't want to hurt her feel- keep to an invariable schedule ings. lof sleep and work. I've told her I find it hard to come home after working to cook-| CLASSIC SYMPTOM ing and cleaning; but she says| What stands revealed is a neur- | Ill get used to it; and tells of | Otic habit pattern of compulsive people she knows, who do {order and neatness, which is a much in so little time. (She's|classic symptom of a fixated never held a job in her life), |2nXiety state. This kind of sym- | bolic striving for perfect secur- |FEELS APOLOGETIC ity may be privately and slav- | +1 don't want to be petty. She ishly indulged without too much loves me and that's why she interference, inside the frame- comes over. Maybe I am wrong work of a spinster (or "loner") Ek ds lin feeling this way; but I know routine, But it is bound to run 3 {that I am upset. into endless interruptions, over, oo ai . - | Before I was /married I was in the field of marriage, if one WEDDING PRINCIP ALS |asieep by 10 p.*on week nights permits any family or neigh- i and up al. nowadays I try |borly fellowship on a casual ba- oiled recently in St. John's | and Mrs, William Ancnichuk of [to be iu bed y 11 pa, igh up ge which is, after all the hos- krainizn Greek Catholic 9 ila ror ie laround 6. course now lots pitable "norm." Church were Mr. and Mrs. Oshawa and the bridegroom is lof women who've never got as/ However, though this rigidity George Blayone. The bride, the | the son of Mr. and Mrs. Alec |; sleep as I; and never will, |is your main problem to be over-| former Miss Adeline Mellie An- | Blayone of Glenovon, Saskatche- |and don't care to; and I feel like| come, it is possible also that your; onichuk, is the daughter of Mr. | wan, --Photo by Ireland |a baby, compared to them. mother-in-law is dropping in too Also I know lots of women who |often, by reasonable standards,| KEEP IN TRIM hold jobs and keep house, as I drawn by curiosity or idleness, as do, and don't find it a problem; much as by fond interest, Triumphant Teenager Reports On His Slimming Progress but they are older than I, and] What to do? Get psychiatric By IDA JEAN KAIN EE -------------- Yc more experienced, I still find it help if necessary, to relax into a difficult. Please advise me what sharing sort of life. Deal com- |monsensically with your mother-| to do. CY. in-law's folksiness. Go on with TAL PROBLEM r |your tasks when she drops in-- ear C.Y.: As you see, I've re- [artery making her welcome, and organized your letter somewhat, offering her a cup of tea and an : to bring the main outlines of the easy chair. If you must be up at [mother has begun to trim down story rapidly to the fore. But as/¢ you should be abed by 10 as it happens, your characteristic z pyle: so tell her it's "curtains" temper tantrums in the following 4 way: (1) tried talking her out of them, (2) spanked her, (3) put {her in her room, and (4) ignored » (her. Nothing seems to help. She + |still has them daily and they last ia she stops of her own free will. | "She is a very bright child (early walker and talker) and {frequently amazes us with her {memory which goes back to {things a year or so past. "When her father is home her temper displays are very few and i '|far between. But as he works and goes to night school, I am alone with her and her 20-month-old brother most of the time. "At first she was very jealous of her brother, constantly hitting him, etc. But now, except for once in a great while, they are wonderful companions. "On the advice of my husband, who is very strict with Molly, I've tried being more firm with her. I admit, I was more prone to ignore the little things until they finally built up to a degree no one could ignore. Now, when I| say 'no' (and I do try to limit mv, no's) I see to it that it is carried out, and I do not revise my ver- dict." My reply in part: It looks as if you are making |progress. Your resolve not to let her behavior change your no to yes is good. | Once the tantrum is on, trying to talk her out of it rarely works, as you must now. Neither should : x too. All teen-agers with weight wor- "Teenage years can be a ries, gather round. The dietitian heartache for the overweight. I| has a model for you to follow. found that out. But now I have Now for the surprise--thie model Seen the light. Your column is dieter is a boy. the reason for my gladness. Keep Here's a lad who took matters in hand and with a no-nonsense jititude, licked his weight prob- em i 4 dietitian gladdened . strength too. "Today is almost the happiest i's hang joy to help ng teen- day of my life. Here is the story. agers get on the desirable weight I am a boy of 15 and I have heam. Being fat seems to be a always been heavy. It wasn't so particular heartache when you bad when I was vounger, but are young. when those teen-age dances came Overweight teens--get with a isn't only for girls. I can out- distance anyone in school." up the good work. P.S, Dieting| ou way of stating the facts--while sor callers by 9, week nights. making for terribly tedious read-| pr gH, | ing--nonetheless tells a lot about | your essential problem. Which is i throu Mary Haworth counsels h her column, not by mail Remember you started in by or personal interview. Write her Characterize Winter Coats By PEGGY MASSIN |short, waist - length ponchos TOWN SUIT FOR AUTUMN Cheviot suit has a skirt with bias pleats inserted at the back. Note the suit jacket is gently fitted. --By Country Life With interesting leather trim- ming on the patch pockets, and half belted back. This British | [you punish her unless she en- | |dangers property or some other person, Ignore her rage. To do so vou must not only be silent but you must act as if you have no more feeling than a wooden post. But the right word or gesture, THE STARS SAY By ESTRELLITA FOR TOMORROW Another excellent day for ac- complishment! Personal, business I dreaded the very thought of being hot and disgusted after an evening of so-called 'fun.' {the foods which provide the nu- system of good meals based onl trients especially needed during] | (jackets) PARIS (Reuters) -- Spectacu: | toned dresses of wool crepe. lar new fabrics make the real over matching, olid- LIKE PRAIRIE FIRE 'Anahim Rancherie May and financial matters are all gov- erned by fine influences, so make the most of them, and you can wind up the day in banner style. "Last September (1958) T just your growing years--lean meat,| Winter fashion news in Paris. Unusual weaves and 'texture,| Reversible fabrics have swept said to myself, 'This is it!" I was fish and fowl, eggs, cottage determined to lose some of those cheese, skim Ws Thi og Ps blends and striking color through the haute couture like a unneeded pounds of fat. On Sept. fryjts and whole grains. Eat three combinations characterize all the orairie fire. Double-faced coat-| AywxXiS CREEK B.C. (CP)-- 2, 1 was a hefty 198 and only 5'7" | protective meals a day, starting|various new silhouettes. s and 5'9" tall. I feel reborn. It's autumn collections, these fabrics notable for contrasts of color and i Y i SESH marvelous! Lean i your emerge Sleatly with 2 special exture. Broadelotis 21d Shetlaud mer, Jith Je Sud sonied vabing iit of all I Hopped Dleping and overeating.' Get hep to/character of their own. They may wools reverse from dark shades eri - fn between meals, ose high'the rd you are playing on your-/be wistfully restrospective, like of brown or deep gray to pale of one Mother ri NE gi Bye: calorie sandwiches and pop taken self when vou go hog wild on|the Victoria-inspired chenille vel-|white. seen watering her roses near the after school were whittled down food. If dessert is rich, ask for|vets and Dior's sheer, whispering Nubby and grained tweeds| narrow, empty roads. to an apple or an orange. Then | fruit. To do yourself a favor,, cut|taffetas, or flamboyant, like some!switeh to reveal solid-toned mo-| But for Father John Patterson, | when it did come time to eat'out the sweets and high fat abstract painting with screaming pajp linings. Burg, a well-known| awaiting the return of 450 Chilco- tnesls) 3 took a normal portion snacks. st th et Jectoted plaids and checks. y ! and found that mother's cooking| Recognize that the incentive to| Coatings make the top head- how lack and whit tlelwork in neighboring valleys to tasted wonderful. Before I just ate|lick the fat must come from With-|1ineg this season in all houses. Sow Diath aud the ee homes on the reserve, the for quantity . . . not for quality.|in yourself. You are the one to|paris applauds sable - finished with soft white angora. balen-|Anahim Rancherie has a deeper I've been so successful that myireap the rewards. | coatings with shiny, hairy surface ciaga has chosen blanket plaids meaning. > = ey often} standing » refiet over| emphasized by a dominating solid| Ard Mien the workers Telurn/ tightly-woven grounds. Dior uses/tine of the reverse side. Moreau, (in the fall there's a bustle of ac- Parents Should Take Interest In Cleanliness Of Schools silky mohal in short pile- another prominent French wool- (tivity. Father Patterson foresees) crushed types. len firm, features double-faced{2 modern British Columbia vil- IN MINK CLASS |eoatings with crow's foot checks age growing on the site, 180 miles By ELEANOR ROSS Sometimes mothers shy away from an inspection tour of the New mixtures put mohair with of different size and color on each north of Vancouver. schools attended by their chil- t & {side lea i isheep's wool, or pair reindeer 5'C%: LINK WITH PAST |washrooms on. the premises. But marten hair will 'wool fiber. | Formal clothes come in the| The Anahim Rancherie stands dren. They hesitate to appear) critical of the cafeteria, or ofthe sometimes it's the parents who| : i«imost luxurious and elaborate . nw hy th must raise their voices and even An outstanding highlight 18 ange of pure silks seen In veges [Lo V cen WO worlds =petween bel condition of the classrooms, ha and washrooms. j Cardin's special icuna coating] fd 4 : raise a fuss in order to make = ced at about $200 a yard-- Heavy silk velvets and rustling|o ting and the white man's world| So th feel th 11 th | me mothers feel that all this' A : is not too important and, anyway, KBoW what school buildings af-| on of capes, cloaks and volum-|Sized by Balenciaga, ford in the way of washroom fa- ih ous tent - like coats. Balmain those with warp-printed floral de-\man Catholic missionary order in fast. Never skip breakfast. Th As schools become well - ad-| i : |with the Paul Poiret revival atljninal council and irrigated gar- Justed to the fall term, Mothers)? SXDeusive 2s mink. blanket | Dior: Failles and moires are rs which Father Patterson sees should pay them a visit. plaid coatings in bold, explosive, Widely used everywhere, Satin ag just a matter of time. | Parents have every right. to| jor combinations stand out in a(20d satin: shantung are emoha-| Father Patterson, a former especially| pharmacist who joined the Ro- their goals materialize. |which makes a cloth coat almost | Paper-thin taffetas are in tume| ¢ electric refrigerators, a mun. | they're too busy to take the time. 'Become Modern Centre "They would have had a half- |ings, first introduced by Givenchy|phe Anahim Rancherie may lookjdozen or more built by thi & tall. Today I am a pleasant 160 with a dynamic action break-| Analyzing the current Parisiand Balenciaga last .year, are badragaled rd in' sum.| or mote built by this fall, he said wistfully, "but the fed- eral Indian affairs department sent the lumber and forgot to in- clude the blueprints," The biggest news is the irriga- tion system to be built by the In- dian department. It's said it will water 2,000 acres of the flats. But Father Patterson said "it's al- Paris woollen manufacturer,|tin Indians from their summer most done, and now is left hang-| ing." "We're still waiting for the new school. It should have been started by now." Eighty - nine children attended classes in two cabins last year. Both the chief of the tribe-- young Douglas Hance--and his council are elected. There are three Indian village policemen, But the old way of life is never far distant, Father Patterson was called recently to bless a new house, The owner, Mrs. Donald Stump, said it was full of strange knockings ard rappings. A neighbor said there was good reason for this, Behind the new house was an ancient fireplace where the pre - Chilcotin race burned their dead, she said. Father Patterson dug in the yard and FOR THE BIRTHDAY If tomorrow is your birthday, your horoscope indicates fine nrospects for the coming year. Even though you may not have made as good strides in the past few months as you would have liked, keep trying. This is the time to pour all of your energies into activities which will put you onto the high road of accomplich- ment, since what you achieve {during the next three months will prové of enduring worth, You are now in the gratifying position of {having influential friends on your side, and there is no limit to what you can attain through your own efforts, plus their co-operation. Achievements now could lead to still higher boosts in your job and financial stature by mid-1960. Your chart presages happiness in your personal life, too. Do- mestic, social and sentimental matters are under generous as- pects, and some highly stimulat- ing experiences are in store--es- pecially in December, also during th period between late May and |early September. So pursue all goals with confidnce. A child born on this day will be endowed with a fine mind and lofty ambitions, but may have to In either case, it's an unfortunate|Cilities and how these rooms are|;co5" giant shadow plaids in his attitude. maintained. |Macfarlane coats with ape| signs and brocaded weaves with 1926, first came to this area bo relief patterns. {dering the Chileotin River r™ in {1929. He left a few years later,| " ibut returned in 1954 to stay. | SPICY WEDLING A gentle figure, white hair wav- BURTON - ON - TRENT, Eng. ing in the breeze, he is proud to| To do the best by our children,| The business of hand-washing| ¢eeyes ending in a corded fringe our community and our country, Seems simple enough, but, actu-|oe self fabric like the edging of| home and school must work to. 2, 3 3s Hany important to|steamer rugs. > gether to set high standards of|* Gres also makes a fetish of], = Mar: : | 1 cleanliness and care and see that TOO IMPORTANT {blanket fabrics. a typical ex- on 2 Harie Peps 2 Zoe show, the ive modern homes 2 the children live up to them. In-| Is there enough soap? Is there(2mple is a gold and chestnut! j "pio + coin this Stafford irl re: i al ted, difference is destructive, often as/constant hot water? Are there|brown plaid cape coat. De Rauch| oe town : fiw od Toone Orig: nsulated, | much so as actual neglect. enough clean towels and are there skilfully adapts these unusually| din With cement 1ouncations. | Teselors are Just as eager 28 enough basins? Are the wash- heavy and bulky coatings in| mothers to see clean, sensibly-rooms scrubbed as clean as they | dressed pupils in their classes. should be? |mothers care -- because that| " | Health is so dependent on means that good habits are being, BLESS SARENTS ails who in cleanliness that slipshod house-|inculcated and stressed at home. ! still the virioes Fy ersonal clean. | keeping at school just isn't to be| The teachers, as well as their| liness and vd in their chil- tolerated. + charges, benefit from good home der. And thes are eternally} Teachers will be glad that'training. | .---- thankful if the children have been | | taught orderliness at home. 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Studv my enclosed bulletin on four, stubbornness carefully. | "A. No more than I would al Also, try to cut down on no.'low him to kick or pinch me. THE ANNUAL MEETING Of The Ontario County Unit CANADIAN CANCER SOCIETY will be held on Thursday, October 15, 1959 8 P.M. in McLAUGHLIN HALL Election of Officers for 1960. Address by the HONORAZLE DR. M. B, DYMOND, Minister of Health, All who are inter ested in the work of the Cancer society are cordially invited. Refreshments Men say it with flowers to the girl with an Exquisite Form! NOTEBOOX THERE'LL BE MORE FUR THIS FALL AND WINTER More and more fur is being shown in the fashion magazines .. and in the stores in all parts of the country. It seems to te quite popular for coats, suits and to the lesser extent for dresses . . I've even seen some sweaters with fur trim, In most cases, the fur trim really does make the garment look very smart , . . and I'm sure that some of the coats are far warmer fer a fur collar. You know, there's one thing you should remember when you are considering one of the fur trimmed garments for your wardrobe , . . and that is that these garments need cleaning from time to time , . , and in fact they need cleaning just os reguluarly as all other garments. Fur trimmed garments must be given special atten- tion Some can be cl d by regular dry cleaning methods , . . in other cases it is necessary to remove the trim for separate treatment. If removal is necessary, it increases the cost of cleaning + « so | think you should find out about care before "you -buy. Ask in the store, and check the label in the garment . . , and if you're still in doubt come and see us , , . we will hel» all we can. Remember, our expert cleaning service is planned to help you get more value for your clothing dollar , . . we hope yeu will have nice clothes and lots of them , . . and you'll find out service keeps vour garments looking their very best. 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