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os Fete, Te aE 0 Bl ER Rr TET IN THE EASTER PARADE Easter Sunday is the great day dor stepping out in one's best .4rom top to toes. So it's very im- portant to have some pretiy new shoes to add the finishing touch "to a new spring ensemble. Wheth- "er vou are planning to wear a suit, coat or dress for participa- "tion in the parade you'll find ~ihese patent leather sandals a | most becoming and popular choice. Made in black and white patent they are right in line with the latest fashion trends. A slend- er ankle strap curves up from the wide toe strap to give a graceful and feminine line to this style designed for afternoon and daytime wear. --By TRACY ADRIAN MARY HAWORTH'S MAIL Dear Mary Haworth: My par- ents' marriage has been unhappy and mother is '"'anti-man.'" When she learned that John and I were deeply in love and meant to marry, she had hysterics and tried every blocking tacth, We married despite opposition an live some hundreds of miles from both families, We are as compat ible as two persons can be, and very happy together--when we can be together! In the 30 months of our marriage I have spent six months back home, which makes my attempts at housekeeping a bit of a farce. If John were lesS mature he woudn't put up with it, and I mustn't tax his good nature indefinitely. I was ill a lot as a child and mother is almost morbidly afraid something will happen to me. She blamed John for my first preg- nancy and led the family in cal- amity-thinking but I produced a fine healthy son. Later I had a couple of setbacks--not unusual--but she went all to pieces and snatched me back to her for home care. LACKS PRIVACY My osecond pregnancy ended in a miscarriage last fall -- as the family had dolefully anticipated-- and again mother dragged me home, where I developed an in- fection and had to be hospital-| ized. On the heels of that I had acute appendicitis and, in the pinch, my parents had to help finan- cially--although if I had stayed with John, we might have handled the health problem better, I think. We're not ungrateful but we do resent the ensuing invasion of our privacy. Mother says worriedly, "No more babies for a long time, if ever'-- but the problem is, I am already pregnant again, Thinking of her, I feel like a small child who has been very naughty. If I don't tell her, she will never forgive me and if I do, she will blame John, begin fearing the worst, and expect me to stay with her until it's over. Perhaps the pregnancy is ill-timed, but it is a reality, so what should I do? Is it possible to conquer filial fear like mine? R. B. REJECTION AFTERMATH Dear R. B.: Your present frantic distress is rooted in the primary condition of having been a sev- erely rejected child, in relation to your infantile mother. As you say, in your long letter here condensed, "It seems all my life I've been trying to be worthy of her and to JHE MIXING BOWL _ To Retain Healthful Food Values ~ Buy Wisely and Avoid Reheating < Hello Homemakers! Keeping house alone or for two ean be pleasant and economical. Probably more thought has to be given to purchases as well as nutritious meals. Too often the healthful va'ue of the food is lost by cooking too much at one time and reheat ing it more than once -- stew ani potatoes, for instance. It may be convenient to braise or cook meat Tor 2 or 3 meals as a stew. How- ever, we omit most of the vege- tables and add when being heated. This can be done by parboiling vegetables or partially cooking 2 or .3 kinds (potatoes, furnipe and car- rots) in a pressure cooker to pre- went combining flavors. However, there are many dishes that can be made ahead of soup, sauces, salad dressings, stew- dried fruit, custards, gelatines d such. TAKE A TIP 1. Buy foods in quantity if you have adequate storage. . 2. Buy the grade of food to suit your need. : 3. Buy food according to serv- ings. For example: Count on 3 serv- ings from 1 lb. sliced cold meat. Count on 3 servings from 1 1b. cottage cheese. Count on 2 serv- ings from 3% lb. boneless meat, filleted fish and raw vegetables; also bananas, etc. Count on 4 serv- ings from a 20 ounce can of fruit, vegetables or juice. Count on 6 to 7 servings from a 28-ounce can of tomatoes, sauer - kraut or baked beans. Count on 24 to 28 servings from 24 ounce loaf of bread. 4. To vary cooked, sliced or canned meats serve broiled, cream- ed or deep fat fried, - 5. To vary meat extras such as liver, heart and kidney, prepare dishes as fried, braised. stewed. 6. Minced round steak or chuck may be braised, fried, made into goulash, meat loaf, biscuit roll, pastry roll, meat pies, hamburgs, or soup. i 7. Desserts for one or two can often be made the day before or cooked in the top of double boiler over one or two tatoes. Double boiler desserts such as minute tapi- oca, ready-to-cook custard desserts, |, applesauce, rhubarb, pineapple or fruit dumplings. . 8. Gelatine salads or jellied «fruits are dishes to make frequent- "ly and come home to have them ready to serve. 9. When greens are out of sea- »son you'll have to think about salad wmixtures that may be prepared * with raw etables which ar enot "too perishable. A few suggestions sare: . a) Chopped celery, cabbage and *apple. 3 b) Grated carrots and cabbage. c¢) Torn lettuce, tomato pieces «and onions. - d | milk d) Shredded spinach, shredded beets and sliced bananas. e) Orange and grapefruit sec- tions, chopped apple and pineapple wedges. o 10. Always store perishables wise- ly: covered and in the 'electric refrigerator -- that goes for the itcher and gravy boat too. 11. You may mix batter for muf- fins or Yorkshire puddings and keep in the electric refrigerator for a week or more. Meantime make a few fresh muffins or York- shire purrings in greased heat- proof custard cups. 12. From stewed fruit (apricots, prunes, apples) make whips, com- potes, baked souffle or fruit trifle. Mrs. R. K. asks for a tuna fish and noodle casserole that is curry flavored. Answer: 34 cup dry noodles 1 quart boiling water 1 can (7% ozs.) tuna fish 1 can mushrooms 14 cup water cracker crumbs 1, tsp. curry powder Boil noodles for 20 minutes. Drain and rinse with 3 cups cold water. Drain oil from can of tuna. Separate fish into large flakes. Arrange noodles and fish in layers in a greased casserole. Mix 1 can mushroom soup with ¥% cup water and curry powder; pour into dish. Cover with cracker crumbs. Dot with butter. Bake in hot oven for 15 or 20 minutes. Serves 4. Note: For 2 servings make this recipe using 12 quantities listed. Use remainder of tuna for sand- wich next day. At another meal use remainder of mushroom soup with an equal quantity of water. Later in week use noodles in con- somme. Mrs. J. L. asks for a tasty recipe of dry limas. . Answer: Baked Lima Beans 2 cups dried limas water to cover 1% clove garlic 2 tbsps. butter © 12 cup celery 12 cup onions brown sugar Wash lima bans and drain. Cover with fresh water and let soak overnight. Then add salt and garlic; boil beans until soft. Pour into greased casserole, add minced celery and onion; sprinkle with a tsp. brown sugar and top with 2 strips of bacon. Bake in oven of 300 degrees for 30 minutes. Anne Allan invites you to write to her in care of this paper. Send in your suggestions on homemak- ing problems and watch this col- umn for replies. make her love me . . . and she takes full advantage." Owing to this precarious filial status, 'your unconscious is freighted with nameless fear and guilt. And these sick sentiments readily accelerate into panic when you have conscious reason to as- sume that she is (or will be) dis- pleased with your actions. In con- firmation of this diagnosis of the basic problem, there is the fact that your mother is almost mor- bidly afraid that "something will happen" to you. Psychologists find that rejecting mothers characteristically suffer a troubled conscience about their in- voluntary revulsion to maternity Says Employees Lack Responsibility REGINA (CP)--Anne Hamilton, personnel and guidance consultant with a Toronto typewriter manufac- turing firm, says there is a def- inite lack of a sense of responsi- bility among most people working in the Canadian business world. Miss Hamilton is on a tour of Saskatchewan, Manitoba and West- ern Ontario cities where she ad- dresses high school students. She says her trip grew out of com- plaints from employers across Can- ada that employees lack responsi- bility and have 'a lackadaisical attitude' toward their work. Businesses are much more con- cerned with the attitude of an em- ployee toward their work than about their skills, she says. Most persons have enough skill but lack of interest, co-operation and char- acter traits which make them good assets to business firms. "Probably the main reason for this attitude is that work today is too easy to get," Miss Hamilton says. She believes school teachers do their utmost to develop a sense of responsibility in their students but the students often forget about it Puce they leave learning institu- ons. Miss Hamilton's lectures deal with attitudes, responsibility, per- sonality and appearance required for a successful business career. She says future employees should get the best education they possibly can before embarking on a career. KIDNEY ACIDS Rob yourRest.. M Pur ihon Siibg ida oe on 'nerves' --when it may be their kidneys. kidneys filter and acids from the blood. If they ful and impurities stay in the system--disturbed rest often follows. If you don't rest well eel better. Dodds Kidney Pills > Intrusion of Over-Anxious Mother Is Resented by Married Daughter (or child care)--assignments that strike them as intolezable because they conflict with the narcissistic woman's own neglected needs of special love-nurture. Obsessive solicitude about her child's health or safety is a classic trait of the rejecting mother. She is chronically anxious per se and, in addition, she dislikes adult type responsibility, and she projects her resentments onto her environment. That is, she senses her unwhole- some feelings but doesn't recognize their significance or their origin within herself, Thus she fancies her child is stalked by outside dangers when in fact her inability to love is the overhanging shadow in their exchange. BOOK GIVES INSIGHT Emotionally immature parents usually are desperately resistant to letting go their 'grown sons and daughters. It's as if they dimly felt their failure as persons and cry in spirit for another chance to amend the record. Wnforunately their postlude performance is never heroically - honest or contrite. In coping with their grappling game, one should try to understand and forgive, yet break away. Dont' give them the continuing control they compulsively seek by devious wheedling and other tactics. For insight into your situation, read 'Their Mothers' Sons' by Dr. Edward A. Strecker (J. B. Lippincott Company)--a construc- tive study of momism. Dr. Strecker exposes some causes and effects of momism and suggests recuper- ative measures for mom-afflected sons and daughters. M. H. Mary Haworth counsels through her column, not by mail or per- sonal interview. Write her in care of this newspaper. MAGIC COLLAR! ANNE ADAMS ADD TWO dresses to her ward- robe! Sew only ONE This prin- cess sundress for your hard-play- ing little pet becomes an angelic Sunday frock in a jiffy. Just but- ton on that frilly collar. Pattern for bonnet too! They're sew-easy Pattern 4762: Children's Sizes 2, 4, 6, 8, 10. Size 6 frock, 1% yards 35-inch; 34 yard contrast; bonnet, % yard; 3% yard contrast. This pattern easy to use, simple to sew, is tested for fit. Has com- plete illustrated instructions. Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (35¢) in coins (stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Print pigs SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER Send order to ANNE ADAM, care of the Times-Gazette, Pattern Dept., Oshawa, Ontario. THE DAILY TIMES-GAZETTE, Tuesday, March 24, 1953 7 CHILD GUIDANCE Words to Use with Discretion Are Outlined by Psychologist By CLEVELAND MYERS "Ought" and "should" are often unwise words for us to use with children to get them to do what we wish them to do. "You ought to wash your hands better," you say to 10-year-old Teddy, when you know very well he won't choose to go wash them again and that you don't intend to make him do 80. 1t is "highly probable, indeed, that you had no effect on him in mind when you said it. You just said it as a kind of salving of your conscience or outlet to your annoyance at his lax ablutions. During the next several weeks you may repeat this admonition and grow a bit more whiny as you say it, not really expecting any- thing to come of it. And how prone we all are to do so! . {REPEATED OBSERVATION COVERED OR BARE SHOULDERS ARE NEWS The big question about shoul- ders -- to reveal or conceal? The charming halter dress says "yes and no' with a halter dress and stole in a taffetized cotton print; gently bouffant, it is equal- | | ly good day time or date-time. This print is rivalled with a gaily - striped chambray, and reveals slightly with a decollete (or not) neckline on a smart, flouncy frock. Many British Debutantes Aspire To Coronation Year Honors By MURIEL NARRAWAY Canadian Press Staff Writer LONDON (CP) -- In a year of royal pageant and homage, about 1,000 British debutantes are brush- ing up on tne social graces in the hope of becoming debutante of Coronation Year. It's an important title any year, resulting generally in the lucky gir] being feted, dined and dated by eligible bachelors who' escort the girls to balls and parties, starting with Queen Charlotte's ball, May 12. This year, obviously, it will be an honor more keenly sought than ever. Actually, there is no official deb- of-the-year title. But toward the end of nearly every season there is one young woman whose good looks, charm and photogenic quall- ties have singled her out for the honor, by general assent. EARLY FAVORITE One of the early favorites for laurels this year is Mary MacDon- old-Buchanan, younger daughter of Major Reginald MacDonald - Bu- chanan, senior steward of the joc- key club. Mary's mother inherited from her father £3,000,000 and the famous Woolavington racing stud and string of horses. Mrs. MacDonald-Bu- chanan won the Derby with Owen Tudor in 1941, and 17-year-old Mary, with the polish of a Paris finishing school, already loves horse racing and is a good horse- an. hiss outdoor girl with a sapliyal i nality and no desire for pg Bot g 2 13-year-old Gillian Ce- cil, daughter of Lady Mary Burgh- ley. She comes from her family home in Berkshire to a mews house near Hyde Park Gardens for the London season, Her wardrobe for this year's fes- tivities includes 12 evening dresses priced from £25 to £100 apiece, three cocktail dresses, two suits, three afternoon dresses and six cotton frocks. With matching ac- cessories, costs rise to around £500. COSTLY BUSINESS ] Add to this the cost of a "coming- out" dance with an average charge of £3 a head without drinks, and you have the reason many 1953 debutantes are having a joint party with a friend. Miss Cecil shares STEREO PICTURES : 0 Y LOWER REELS, BULLFIGHT IN SPAIN her dance at one of the ritziest West End hotels June 9 with a school friend, Lady Mary Lindesay- Bethune. Vivacious Caroline Clive, grand- daughter of Brig.-Gen. William Darell and one of the prettiest of this year's debutantes, will have at least 500 people at the dance she is sharing with her cousin, Char- maine Schroder. Miss Clive will be 18 in May and has already taken a year's citizen and arts course that ends in April. Lady Jennifer Bernard, 17-year- old daughter of the Ear] of Ban- don, hopes to "do" the season on a £400 budget. She is designing and making many of her evening and cocktail dresses. She also loves cooking, has a cordon bleu diploma and will no doubt be helping cook in' the kitchen to prepare for her "coming-out". dance July 4. Sees Hospital Grow From Frame to Stone CALGARY (CP)--Marion Moodie was the first nurse to graduate from an Alberta hospital. She re- ceived her diploma at Calgary General Hospital in 1898. Recently, more than 55 years later, she donned an exact replica of the uniform in which she grad- uated. That was for the official opening of the new $4,000,000 Cal- gary General Hospital. In 1895 Miss Moodie entered the original general hospital--a two- storey frame house with eight beds ~to begin her probation. In an article in the Canadian Nurse in 1940, Miss Moodie recalled that the original building had seen Cal- gary's earlier and rougher days and when taken over as a hospital had bullet holes through some of the doors. Later a stone building, now used as an isolation hospital, was erected to replace the frame build ing. It was there that Miss Moodie completed her training. Now 86, Miss Moodie's health keeps her pretty well confined to her room at a private hospital in Calgary. But she can still manage the three flights of stairs up to her room, At dinner tonight you say to your husband, 'You should have your hair cut" and your observa- tion is correct. He figures you will say the same tomorrow evening, and you do. Perhaps you repeat this "should" on a number of even- ings thereafter with a bit more vexation in your voice. Of course, the reminder always may have come when no baber shop was open, or your husband can't get to one. If you were to drop the reminder, nonchalantly, at a time when your husband easily could choose to act upon it, your basic objective might be attained. But these useless "shoulds" implie rebukes and saves you a bit of satisfaction. A BIT OF ANGER Tomorrow morning, in hurrying off to work, your husband may remind you of a button missing from his coat. Next morning he may do likewise and on several succeeding mornings as well. If he doesn't use the word "should'"' he implies it, and may betray a bit of anger in his voice. And, of course, you don't feel so sweet about it yourself and even may say, "If only you would re- mind me at a more convenient time for both of us, I'd gladly do it." Over a week or more, a huge total amount of mutually strained feel- ings could arise over this rather simple matter, If your husband were wiser and exercised more self-management in such situations, he would avoid "ought" or "should' at such an unfavorable moment. Neither would you indulge in these word-luxuries at similar times. STERN COMMAND Bob was about to go downtown one Saturday 'You ought to put on a clean shirt," his mother said. Bob was sure the shirt he had on was good enough. The argument grew more heated till at last the mother sternly commanded the dad to change his shirt, which he did against strong resistance. He fin- ally went with tears and angry words, leaving his mother almost weeping. Had the mother in the first place made clear to him that a clean shirt was required for his down- town trip and said it with calm decisiveness, perhaps there would have been no emotional storm. But when she told him he "ought'" to change the shirt she aroused doubts in his mind that he would have to do so. Think of all the arguments be- tween parents and older children aroused by the careless use of "ought" or '"'should" unless we are pretty sure beforehand they will bring the desired action. ARTIFICIAL RESPIRATION If vacations are spent near a lake or river, learn to give artifi- cial respiration. Such knowledge saves many lives annually. Rheumatic fever causes more disabilities among school children than any other ease and often accounts for heart trouble later on and subject to pains in his joints should have a medical examina- tion s that, if the disease is present early treatment may be given. NEW ! SMART! By ALICE BROOKS New! Smart! Becoming! Jiffy- crochet these two hats for a gay Spring! Bonnet is single crochet and popcorn stitch, sailor is single and double crochet. Straw-yarn in the color that flat. ters you most for these beauties! Pattern 7396; crochet directions. Send TWENTY-FIVE CENTS in coins for this pattern (stamps cane not be accepted) to the Daily Times Gazette, Household Arts Dept., Osh awa, Ontario, Print plainly NAME, ADDRESS, PATTERN NUMBER. TEN COMPLETE PATTERNS to sew, embroider, crochet--print- ed in the new 1953 Alice Brooks Needlecraft Book! Plus many more patterns to send for -- including ideas for gifts, home accessories, toys, fashions! Send 25 cents now! Help The rl Red Cross "SALADA TEA yr Now year the United States of America declared War on Franchise was extended to the year during which the During the early part of this a Food Controller... and the Germany ... Canada appointed Canadian women. 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