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BA a I IIIT. =~ ow PORT PERRY STAR -- Tuesday, August 28, 1990 -- 23 Grandparents are an important part of a child's life i By Kelly Sto nessed the problems caused by GRAND is there to advise Grandparents are Yn lost divorce. grandparents how to go about in the shuffle as the old- Divorce, though, is not the seeking access to their grand- fashioned close-knit family is only cause of separation be- children. destroyed by divorce, and sep- tween a grandparent and Members meet once a month aration. grandchild. > jo Toronto where they Ofien i ; ave guest speakers such as While to many of us, grand- oh pres Ln the sori ety lawyers, and social workers parents have always been a og deal with divorce, 40percent Whobring with them some very steadfast and permanent fix- welcome advice. The society follows a set of guldelines for grandparents on how to start the process of seek- ing access to their grandchild. he first step is to find a point of mediation between the fami- ly members, with an outside party. If unable to gain access they should send a registered letter requesting visits. The letter should be polite and sincere. If still no contact, grandpar- ents are advised to see a law- er, and have the lawyer send a etter requesti visitation. The letter should not be arbi- trary or demanding in any way. If there is still no response then grandparents are a vised to make an application for legal access which will go before a judge. where the marriage is still in-- - find it hard to face t 'Kelth Ashton and granddaughter Victoria Ashton spend lots of time together. But some grandparents never get to see their grandchildren due to divorce or separation in their children's marriages. But a self-help group called GRAND (Grandparents Requesting Access and Dignity) can help grandparents get visiting rights. (Please see story for de- talls.) ture in our lives, many are not aslucky. There are many grandpar- ents who are not fortunate enough to spend Christmas, birthdays, or even an occasion- al walk in the park on a Sunday afternoon with their grandchil- dren. They cannot even spend Grandparents Day (the second Sunday in September) with their grandchild. There is help for these grand- parents who for whatever rea- son have been denied access to their granchildrep. GRAND, Grandparents Re- questing Access and Dignity, is a self-help group formed to help grandparentsin this situation. Inmost provinces grandpar- ents don't have any legal access rights to their grandchildren. Only Quebec has a section in its legal code giving grandpar- ents visiting rights. ' up, formed in 1983, was the brainstorm of - three social workers who wit- Cetol 1 and Cetol 23 _ grandchildrenina sikkens tact, and 20 per cent through death and other matters. Grandparents that become estranged from their own chil- dren, in turn become estranged from their grandchildren. Professors have conducted research on the im 1d'slife. Children need grandparents, who love them in a different way than their parents, some- one who spoils them and makes them feel special. ) There is a definite place for them as a source of perma- nance and stability for the child, and they also are a pillar of strength and add supporttoa new parent. A grandfather in particular can be a very im t fixture ina child's life where there is no father figure. Currently as the law stands in Ontario, the only course of action a grandparent can take is to obtain a lawyer, and go to _ court. So the natural beauty of your exterior woodwork -- «doesn't fade in the sunlight -- isn't damaged by moisture -- isn't hidden : CENTRAL PAINT & WALLPAPER | 295 Ritson Rd. S., OSHAWA 434-3939 rtance of municipal purposes. application to: ( First published: August 14, 1990 Most seniors are not used to the idea of going to court and fighting for their rights so they financial and emotional problems that follow. There is a great deal of stress put on the grandparents, and that is why, the society stresses the need for mediation. An additional problem may be that even if the court awards visitation to the grandparents, there is no guarantee the par- ent with custody won't choose toignore the order. Grandparents have long suf- fered in silence, not knowing where to turn for help. The society stresses that grandparents should not feel guilty thinking it is something they have done. GRAND urges them to attend a meeting of the GRAND society or at least phone them. The support is out there, they do not promise to make everything right, but they can help. . Joan Brooks, president of GRAND was once in a position where she and her husband were denied access to their grandchildren as well. TOWNSHIP of SCUGOG PUBLIC NOTICE REGARDING THE PROPOSED STOPPING UP, CLOSING AND CONVEYING OF PART OF A ROAD ALLOWANCE BETWEEN CONCESSIONS 11 & 12, WARD lil, SCUGOG ISLAND, TOWNSHIP of SCUGOG. NOTICE is hereby given pursuant to Section 298 of the Municipal Act, R.S.0. 1980, Chapter 302, that the Council of the Corporation of the Township of Scugog proposes to pass by-laws to stop up, close and convey a portion of a road allowance between Concessions 11 & 12, from Lake Scugog for a distance of approximately 375" westerly, Ward Ill, Township of Scugog, in the former Township of Scugog. The subject property has never been an open and public maintained road and is no longer required for The proposed plan and description showing the lands affected may be viewed in the Clerk's Depart- ment, Township of Scugog, 208 North Street, Port Perry, Ontario. On September 10, 1990 at 4:00 p.m. in the Council Chambers, Municipal Office, 181 Perry Street, Port Perry, Ontario, the Council of the Corporation of the Township of Scugog will hear, in person, or by Counsel, solicitor or agent, any person who claims his land will be prejudicially affected by the said By-Law and applies to be heard. Any person who wishes to be heard should, as soon as possible, make Earl S. Cuddie, Clerk-Administrator, Township of Scugog, Clerk's Department 208 North Street, PORT PERRY, Ontario Marina CARNEGIE BEACH ROAD For years she and her hus- band Leonard were unable to visit their grandsons because their daughter felt they spoiled the children. After legal maneuvers the Brooks now have interim custo- dy of their two grandchildren Russell and Michael in a tan- gled family situation. Joan's personal experiences propelled her to become presi- dent of GRAND, stating that all grandparents are not as for- tunate as her. Another Member of the Socie- ty is a Scugog Towns resi- : oo She joined G two years ago, and has since gained access to her grandchildren. She states the society is like a 'rap session', everyone shares their experiences with others who understand what you are - going through. Although she did not want her pr published she stated that if anyone would like infor- mation on the society they can write to her at Box 1217, Sea- grave, Ontario. LOC 1JO. ~ CARNEGIE BEACH ROAD Subject Road Allowance 985-8448 SOUARE [OY PIZZA & SUBS PIZZA i na s i Available. Spping Ask for details. 1 PIZZA i Additional Toppings , Available. 7. 9 , I 1 Ask for details. PLUS TAX (ER | I PIZZA 10.99 : Lions 15,99 Ask for detalls. 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