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AER a dt MSIE no diay (From page 6) station where she told a surprised constable all about her incestual relationship with her stepfather. She was immediately transferr- . ed to another station, where she had to repeat her story before she was placed in a shelter for the night. In the morn- ing she was picked up by a Children's Aid Society worker who in 15 min- utes extracted all the information she deemed necessary to make a decision. "Don't be so silly," Alice Marie was told. "Go home with your parents." And there they were, waiting to take an angry, frustrated teen- aged girl back to the last place on earth she want- ed to be. ' '""'Somethimes I wish I knew who that Children's Aid Society person was 'cause I'd really like to give her a piece of my mind," she says angrily. "But then again sometimes I think it's better I don't know." Several years of coun- selling sessions followed during which time her stepfather admitted to Alice Marie what he had done, but not to her mother. "I'm Sorry"' "He's admitted it to me but not to mom. What I need to hear from my mother is 'I'm sorry, I believe you and I hate him for what he's done to my daughter.'"' she says bitterly. "Every parent and child has a love-hate relation- ship and I still love my stepfather, despite what he's done to me. I mean, I hate him for what he's done, but I still love him, if that makes any sense. "When I asked him why he did this to me, he said he didn't know. And I can appreciate that, it's an honest answer." Even now, depending on how much she's around her stepfather, Alice Marie is haunted by those years she was seduced by her step- father. Sometimes while she and her husband are making love she'll have flashbacks and her hus- band will simply hold her until the fear dis- appears again. Bottled Guilt Her husband has known right from the beginning of their relationship about Alice Marie's stepfather and for that, she counts her- self lucky. She says that many incest victims Incest victim haunted by bad memories don't have anyone to talk with and the tre- mendous guilt they feel remains bottled up for years. Last spring Alice Marie attended a pro- gram called Adults Molested As Children in which incest victims got together once a week in Oshawa for therapeutic discussion. Up to 15 women from throughout the Durham Region attended the sessions, while ten or so teen- agers gathered in a different room to dis- cuss they incestual pro- blems separately. "Every single one of those teens were not only dealing with incest but also the fact that their fathers are in jail", Alice Marie says. "That's a lot to handle. Although each case is different, everybody ~ was involved in similar situations. They know what it feels like to carry that burden and not tell anybody." What she didn't like about the sessions was the sense of restraint. Group members were encouraged to remain unemotional, to keep themselves detached from their feelings. Get Them Out "We had to talk about our experiences intell- ectually and as tar as I'm concerned, th® best way to deal with those feelings is to get them to hell out," she insists. "We don't want to say to them, scream and cry out, But the option is there. The kleenex is there if you need it." The kleenex in question will be in place when the Incest Sur- vivors Group has its first meeting. An off- shoot of the Scugog Crisis Centre, this to-be- formed self-help group will have the same basic aims as Adults Molested As Children, which broke up for the summer of 1983 and never started again. She claims thirty per cent of calls received at the Crisis Centre are incest- related. "We want to get people together to lessen isolation, in a safe place, probably the office--we"ll have to wait and see. We want them to talk about it in con- fidence, with people who have been there,'"' she says and adds quietly, "They call it survivors because we're still alive." For more information about the Incest Surviv- ors Group call 985-8293. Interested In This Space For Your Business? Call the Star for Information: PHONE 985-7383 PORT PERRY STAR -- Wed. Janvary 4, 1984 -- 23 Gentleman Jim and the Jazz Barons to rock Town Hall soon by Margaret Van Camp And you thought New Year's Eve was over! Well, you're wrong, dead wrong, because on Thursday, January 12th at 8:00 p.m., Town Hall 1873 is going to rock with the solid-cookin' rhythm; section of Gentleman - Jim and the Jazz Barons; it's goin' swing with the foot-tappin' harmonies of the brass section and it's goin' coo with those sensuous melodies from the sax. Yessir! This razzama- tazz jazz sextet which ordinarily plays for con- certs, banquets, bank- ruptcies, boat-launching and moon-landins is cookin' up a storm for Town Hall 1873. The broth includes hits from the "roaring twenties', big band tunes from the 'swing era", New Orleans Ragtime, Spirituals, Blues and much, much more. Led by clarintist Jim Buckmann, the group includes a rhythm section of amplified acoustic guitar, string bass and drums, and a front line of trumpet lead, tailgate trombone and clarinet, doubling tenor and soprano saxes. All Toronto musicians, the jazzmen have toured extensively Sell-out crowd enjoys food, music and visit from old Father Time Greenbank News by Mrs. Velma Foster Mr. and Mrs. Grant Hunter and Mr. and Mrs. Chuck Willis of Prince Albert along with all members of the Hunter family spent New Years Day with the Neil Hunters. Mr. and Mrs. Fred Phoenix and Mrs. Verna Baird were Sunday guests with Mr. and Mrs. MacMustard. Mr. and Mrs. Doug Foster and family and Mrs. Reg. Foster visited with Mr. and Mrs. Bill Beer in Whitby on New Years. Mr. and Mrs. Ross Cookman and family had dinner on Sunday with Mrs. Reg Cookman in Sunderland. Mr. and Mrs. Don Real were guests last Wednesday with Mrs. Margaret Real. A good time was had by all who attended the New Years dance in Centennial Hall last Sat- urday. A sell-out crowd enjoyed the music and festive food and the visit from Father Time and the Baby New Year. Mr. and Mrs. Bob Snodden were with her mother, Mrs. Howard McMillan on Sunday. Mr. and Mrs. Don Foster and family visit- ed recently with the Doug Foster family. Mrs. Helen McKean visited with her mother, Mrs. Florence Archer in Port McNichol last Fri- day. Sorry to hear Michael Gibson had to spend part of his holidays in Port Perry Hospital. Hope you are feeling better. Mrs. Marjorie Beaton was transferred to Oshawa Hospital last week. At the time of writing her condition was slightly improved. We all wish her a speedy recovery. Miss Darlene Rodgers and friend holidayed at Deerfield Beach, Florida. Mrs. Velma Foster entertained her three sisters last Friday for dinner. Mrs. Barbara Budd of Toronto visited with her mother, Mrs. Spencer on Sunday. The fresh snow on Monday morning tu,ned everything into a truly winter wonderland. 1 understand the Milnes have several colourful cardinals at their feed- ing station. Mr. McCready who has been in Port Perry Hospital is recuperating at the home of his sister, Mr. and Mrs. Hutton in Mississauga. Mr. and Mrs. Bill Mc- Millan, Sherri and Ricky and Mr. Corless Ashenhurst of Uxbridge had Sunday dinner with the Armour McMillans. Mrs. Alma Allen spent a few days holidaying in Greenbank and along with Mrs. Doris Tobin of Port Perry visited Miss Myrtle Blakely in Brooklin. We hope one of your New Year's resolutions will be to phone in your news items. This month call Velma at 985-7731. No smoke Don't unintentionally encourage your child to a life of smoking. leaving behind happy audiences who demand only one thing- that Gentleman Jim and the Jazz Barons return once more. Take this opportunity to hear some great jazz. 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