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= at happens afterward?" SE a man has confessed in- 5 elity and his wife says she NAA A & o : "of a A a te ES i po "hay forgiven him, what is their life from then on? I am sure my interested readers wonder, as I do . , . One wife writes that she is trying hard to be- lieve her husband is loyal now, but she seems to be failing. Neither is happy in 'their pre- sent existence. "In spite of all his assurances, and all my knowledge of his real goodness," she «writes, "every 'time my husband goes on a trip my doubts throw me into cold sweats until his re- turn, If he is being true, I am 'being unjust, If he isn't, I re- mind myself I'll know it soon enough. But it doesn't often work, "He does his utmost to help me trust him, but 1 swing hot and cold, and chiefly because this: attitude is affecting our children. They are old enough to have witnessed our conflicts, and we want to dispel their anxiety. What can we do 'lo maintain ¢ dignified family life 5 together when our own nerves "'aré worn raw? "For years we have both read your column, and marveled how people can expose their private differences when the solution seems so obvious? But we found that when, your own emotions Fashion Page Flash PRINTED PATTPRN Fashion's most flattering shirt- walst features a dashing, wide collar above a shapely waist and skirtful of unpressed pleats. Sew it in faille, cotton, rayon, or in a sheer wool. Printed - Pattern 4874: Misses' Sizes 10, 12, 14, 16, 18. Size 18 requires 4% yards 39-inch fa- brie. Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern. Please print plainly SIZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER. Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont. are. ipyolved you lose all rea- soning sense. You have an ex- *"traordinary understanding of other. people's weaknesses, Anne Hirst, aid we ask you to help us stay strong now and give our childrén the emotional se- curity 'they deserve." \ . LJ LJ] ¢ When this husband confess- * ed his sin, he told his wife * he had had no idea how it * had alfectéed her and the * children. She admits that * that hour was "terrific" for * her too, and the two had * never been so close before. ¢ That night she believed in * him implicitly. * Why doesn't she believe in ¢* him since? * The man who has once be- * trayed his wife is not likely * to risk it again. For the few * husbands who repeat, thou- * sands 'of others are so shock- ¢* ed by their wrongdoing, so * grateful for being forgiven, ¢ they would never think of * committing a second offense. ¢ From this wife's letter, I + gather her husband feels that * way now. His one ambition * js her own, to create a care- * free life for the children. How * can he succeed when every * time he comes home she in- * sults him with questions? If * he were guilty, he would ¢ laugh off her doubts and * change the subject. .This one * does his best ta reassure her, * but the effort leaves him * weak and hopeless. If he were * not being faithful, would he * v 1 + LJ * * * * . * LJ * - * * LJ * ry LJ * LJ] + + * * LJ * L 3 *« * - * ¢ still be so concerned for their children? His wife must turn over to- day's leaf. Trust her husband with all her heart, and never again force him to reiterate . his loyalty. Reducing a man to stuttering denials is de- meaning to them both. Only when he feels her faith in him is sure, can they create together the atmosphere where their children can re- lax and expand in a new hap- piness. TO "GISELLA: Tell your husband, once and for all, that you are convinced he is keep- ing his promise. Declare you will never question him again --and mean it. Only then will he be able to look forward to a home life rich in peace and faith. -- And if he can't be sure of that, why should he come home at all? Your letter is an objective analysis of your situation, giv- ing a satisfactory background, including a ruthless descrip- tion of your repeated doubts. It was a help to me in answer- ing you, and I wish you had let me print all of it. Thank you for your confidence. * * * When problems assail us, rea. son expires and confusion reigns. This is the time to con- fide in an understanding friend whose wisdom and sympathy are yours for the asking. Write Anne Hirst, Box 1, 123 Eigh- teenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Q. Is it always necessary to say, "You're welcome," in re- sponse to "Thank you?" A. Some response should be made, and "You're welcome," or "That's quite all right," are always good. Q. If one is in doubt as to whether an invitation can be accepted, how should the ac- knowledgement be worded? A. There should be no uncer. tainty about the acknowledge- ment. You MUST state defin- itely whether or not you can accept the invitation. r Tr sian President Sukaeno _ practices tange in Jacarto, Great Gold Find In South Africa The Orange Free State has al- ways been the Cinderella of the' South African. provinces . , . Landlocked "and. harsh, an un- accommodating. prairie state, it subsisted largely on farming and piety and proud Boer mem- ories; and the erosion that is perpetually gnawing at the Union's soil attacked the Free State with especial ferocity. The old grasslands and flowers of the veldt had long since sur- rendered to today's prickly bushes, drab shrubs and dusty gulleys, and many a stout Afri- kaner farmer had sold his stock, packed his old car, and driven away to find work in the cities. The biggest industrial plant was the railway workshop at Bloemfontein (here, as in Ameri- ca, the railways make a potent contribution to the ethos of the state). There was practically no manufacturing and precious lit- "tle capital investment. Next door the Transvaalers basked in the munificence of their natural resources; but the Orange Free State was the dowdiest of poor relations. All has changed, and a godd deal more money now flows through the arteries of Bloem- fontein, ahd warms the cockles : of many an arid Afrikaner heart. 'The foundation of South Africa's astonishing wealth has always been gold, exploited for half a century in.a crescent ree! running through the strand. So many hundreds of millions of tons of ore have been moved from' this monumental reef, over the years, that its resources are now obviously wilting. Mines "have to be driven even deeper, and though the South African™ | subterrain is abnormally cold, this nevertheless entails more expensive cooling systems, less efficient labour, and. less econo- mical mining. So during 'the war the mining companies in- tensified their search for an ex- tension to the reef. The theory was that the Witwaterstrand reef was one rim of a basin: that as it deepened towards the southwest, so it would emerge again somewhere else as an- other outcrop. Some authorities scoffed at this notion, and maintained that the reef petered out; others said that, if it did extend farther towards the south-west, it mere- ly plunged deeper into the earth (12,000 feet is probably the deepest a gold mine can be worked in South Africa). ' But the Anglo-American Cor- poration, taking a chance, work- ed farther into the Free State and finally sank a borehole in an outcrop at Odendaalsrus, a minute farming community ninety miles from Bloemfontein A fabulous discovery was then made, and Cinderella instantly prepared for metamorphosis. Not only was there gold at 4,500 feet -- hall the depth of the deepest Rand mines: the ore was also 300 times richer than the average ore of the Rand. All of a sudden the Orange Free State found itself in possession of perhaps the richest and big- gest- and most convenient gold field on earth. -- From "South African Winter," by James Morris. " For the Birds That great Italion delicacy, the meadowlark sandwich, may soon be thing of the past. Or it will be, if the Italian Parliament acts on a bill soon coming up. More than 100 million small songbirds, like the thrush, finch, and warbler, as well as the meadowlark, are trapped as they fly south to Italy for the winter each year. Roasted, the small birds are gulped by gourmets with delight, but this year there is such an outcry from the Northern European countries over the slaughter that the Chamber of Deputies. is finally being faced with a law to halt it. According to Christian Demo- cratic Deputy Ferdeando Truzzi, who is presenting the bill to the Chamber of Deputies, these small birds are 'an integral part of the landscape," and nothing smaller than a quail or thrush should ¢ "shown, sold, or bought." Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee Q. Should a wrist. corsage be worn on the right or left wrist? A. There is no rule governing this, but probably it would be better to wear it on the left wrist than on the more- -often- used right wrist. Q. Is it ptoper for a man din. ing in a restaurant with his wife to rise when another cou: ple' stops at their table for a few words? A man always rises "when a woman stops at his table, itwater- i Fall Fair' time me again and ideal weather for such occasions. Last Saturday we went to the Halton County. Fair at Milton. I don't know how many passed through 'the gate but it must certainly "have been a record crowd. And there two years ago. Correction .--- since 1. was there. Partner rather made a mess of things. . This year we found a new grand- "stand with plenty of room under 'the grandstand for exhibits-and --a tea room. It was a tremendous. improvement on the old set-up. Of course, there were trotting races. More than that there was a bookie, something new for Mil- ton. He attracted quite a lot of attention, I stood close by and watched for a while as two 'dol- lar bills changed hands as bets were . taken - for the Various "horses. Then I looked as the next race was run but found more in- terest in watching the faces of the betters than the progress of 'the race. Not all could win and it was easy to pick out the losers. The show of horses and live- | stock was wonderful, also the work and exhibits of the Junior Farmers and the 4-H Clubs, The women's section showed a tempt- ing array of baking, pickles, pre- serves and handicraft. The vari- derful exhibit -- as they always do. This year it was articles suit- able for homemade Yuletide gifts and decorations. A photographic display was a new feature; so also were the enlarged pictures of the Twelve and Sixteen Mile Creek Conservation Authority. But of course the most enjoy- able feature of the Fair was meeting the people. For this rea- son I much prefer local fall fairs to the C.N.E. They have a warmth and personality that the Big Fair cannot match. One of the compensations of getting older is watching the young folk grow up, and no- where is it so striking as at a boys and girls who went to there with school-age children of their own, sometimes accompa- nied by young looking grand- parents, who, in our day and age, were busy raising a family of their own, And there were some even older -- in some cases great-grandparents. Not quite so nimble on their feet as they used to be, nor as quick to recognize ested in all that was going on around them. In fact we noticed quite a number of aging people who looked little different -from what they did .ten-years ago -- some even appeared younger! Nowadays most* of our aged, have a contented, unworried look. I wonder how much the Old Age Pension has contributed to their sense of independence and peace of mind. We found it particularly pleas- ing to go back to our old farm- ing community and meet so many of our former neighbours and friends, obviously making the most of their new-found leis- ure after" long years -of hard work, Ctovering periods of de- pression, war and inflation See- ing them made us feel that On. tario, in spite of many obvious shortcomings, is still a pretty good place in which to live. We hope Mr. Khrushchev has gone back to Russia with that same impression of the United States, 1 think his visit had everyone a little on edge. 1, for one, was terrified in case some: thing might happen to him while happens after he sets foot again in his own country is not our ing to hear what he has to tell his own people about what he saw and heard in the US? No so many changes since we were - went last year but it rained and: ous W.I. branches: had a won- ° local fair. At Milton, for instance,- school with Dee and Bob, were people, but still active and inter- - he was guest of the U.S.A. That would have been ghastly. What warty. But won't it' be interest-- / one can- deny he has a remark- able personality and a pleasing sense of humour, even if it is a little crude at times, As-for in- stance," his comments on the "Can-Can" dance. On the other hand his remarks were no more crude than the dance itself. In fact, maybe he and his wife, in some of their comments, .may have helped us to see ourselves as' others see us. Isn't this a marvellous fall --_ and don't you love the cool nights and warm days? I wish it could go on for weeks and weeks. We are still getting plenty of mushrooms, enough to keep our family and friends supplied. No casualties so far but without the . greatest care I feel there could" be. I found two patches of a sus- picious looking growth, just like mushrooms - except for being white where the true mushroom is pink, It could be they are just another specie but we don't take any chances. Yesterday a neigh- bour brought us in a nice pick- ing of fresh, green watercress, gathered from the Forks of the Credit, It took me back in me- mory to Dorking, in Surrey, where we spent our honeymoon, At a nearby village an enterpris- ing farmer grew watercress on a commercial basis. Quite an idea, wasn't it? Prize Pair 958 Magnificent in colour! Create a dramatic effect with these ex- quisitely detailed. pheasants, Easy cross-stitch -- but so richly coloured, so realistic, they look like oil paintings. Pattern 058: transfer of two 8x214inch panels; colour chart, Send THIRTY - FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Tor- onto. Print plainly 'PATTERN NUMBER, your NAME and AD: DRESS. Send for a copy of 1959 Lauia Wheeler Needlecraft Book, If has lovely designs to order: em- broidery,- crochet, knitting, weaving, . quilting, toys. "In the book, a special: surprise to make a little girl -happy -- a cut-out doll, clothes to colour. Send 25 cents for this book. Q. When a bride has recéived a. gift from Her former office force, consisting of perhaps a dozen employees, how should she acknowledge it? A. SHe may write a personal note of thanks to the chief clerk or office manager, or. to the person she knows was in charge . of the contributions towards the gift, asking this person to thank the others, FINAL APPEARANCE -- The coffin containing the body of tenor Mario Lanza IY rich during funeral services in 'the Church of the Immaculate Heart of Mary," Rome, Italy. The singer's wife and children are in the front pew, left,. ; Royal Babies Cause Sensations Whenever the he happy autieips. tion -of a new royal baby is an- nounced, a series of totally. false impressions - sweep = the - world. Most 'mistaken of all are the ex- pectant mothers who imagine that if their child is born at the same moment as the Queen's new: baby next year. they will qualify for the: Queen's Bounty. When Prince Charles was born, scores of new hirth' certificates 'flooded 'the «Palace post ' office from mothers anxious to show that their child had arrived on the same day as the Prince and might rate for a prize. Some of the 'certificates came, registered, from as far away as Australia and California and they, all had to be returned. A German woman suggested that her new baby could be giv- en the same names as Prince Charles and the two babies. she' thought. might be photographed together to restore the friend- ship of the 'two nations. When Queen: Victoria's first child was born 119 years ago, a handsome sum from the royal coffers was allocated to charity and Queen's Bounty suppers for the poor were held throughout 'Britain, No other payments have ever cleberated a royal birth and even the £3 that the Queen used to pay to parents of triplets has been cancelled in National Health Britain. The officer-in-charge of the guard at St. James's Palace used . to receive automatic promotion on the birth of a royal baby. When the infant King Edward VII arrived, however. the guard was being changed. A heated argument arose. for the officer of the old guard claimed promotion on the grbund that his guard had not been changed. The new officer sturd.. ily claimed promotion because |, he had in fact taken over the Palace keys and thus. technical- ly, the guardianship of St. James's. The question had to be settled by the commander-in-chief of the Army, It could not be proved ~ that the keys had actually been handed over before the birth, and so the officer of the old guard got promotion. Nowadays, of course, old trad- itions are easily overlooked. On hearing unofficially of the birth of Prince Charles, the then Lord Mayor. of London. donned his regalia in order. that he could annotince the birth formally in accordance with ancient. custom. 'When an hour passed, and no word came, it is said he tele- phoned the Palace. In reality three hours passed before a mes- senger on'a motor-bike drove up with the official announcement. By then it was well after mid. night and the Lord Mayor con- tented himself by posting the announcement on the door of the Mansion House, his official home. In former days, of course, it was gustomary for ministers of WEEZ Z WHO?" Boys ia EE Queen Mavy, wife of James II, "was watched by sixty-seven 'people, crowding as close as they could to the foot of the bed. CAR Even 40, Jt Wag Jong alleged/ thm f died the following and that a substitution occur Queen Anne kept her prying ministers busy, for she had ne fewer than seventeen babies, none of whom survived in in- fancy. Queen Charlotte, wife of George 1II, caused her first baby to be shown to the public, The © cradle of 'the two-week-old prince was fenced off from the constant queue of visitors; but this royal sideshow was never repeated, Queen Victoria's _ first baby was a girl and she heard one of the waiting ministers, exclaim with disappointment, "Oh, it's a princess!" "Never mind," a voice came from the bed. "It will be a prince next time!" When the next time came Prince 'Albert 'objected to: the: presence of the dignitaries and got over the difficulty neatly . merely by summoning them too late. Subsequently; only the Home Secretary was required to be in attendance at a birth. \ In modern times the practice _was discontinued after the. birth of Princess Margaret. The Home Secretary of the day, J. R. Clynes, went to Glamis for the baby's expected: arrival but, ow- | ing to a miscalculation, he was kept waiting a month! Later, King George VI consult- ed his solicitors and found that this ritual attendance was not a legal requirement. During the war three royal ' births in the Gloucester and Kent families took place without the presence. of any minister of the Crown and finally the archaic custom was abolished. i Legally the doctors are not required to give any details of the progress of mother and child in the bulletins and the formal announcement will have to be carefully worded. Queen Vic- torla read. a bulletin prepared after one of her confinements and burst Into laughter at the phraase, "The Queen and Prince are perfectly well." "people will think' that both my husband, Prince Albert, and I have been. confined," she pro- tested. The phrase was. hurried- ly altered to read: "The Queen and infant Prince are perfectly well." At one time royal doctors never sent in-a bill but now the Queen's Treasurer always asks for an account to be rendered. An exception is made for -the specialists officially appointed to the Queen's medical household and they receive National Health rates for all Palace. patients! Happily, there are still suffi- cient royal rituals to greet the Queen's new baby with all the pomp and pageantry that the peoples of the Commonwealth desire. Whether a prince or prin- cess, the tiny newcomer wi'l be greeted by a salute' of twenty- one guns at eighteen official saluting stations at home and overseas. And for good measure batter- ' jes at the Tower of London and in Hyde 'Park will give an extra twenty rounds "for the peopie." The gay citizens of London used to rush into the, streets to tire ir own guns whenever a wer salute -was heard. To Ake the city a little safer, the Army undertook to fire guns for them and the habit is maintain- ed to this day. The King's Troop of the Royal Horse Artillery draw their guns: to. Hyde Park. It's one of the few. occasions when the elabor- ate central gate of Farble Arch is opened ignoring the rules of "a modern traffic roundaboui--to admit them into the park. JE. CHR n ISSUE 44 -- 1959 'Slamese eat the liner Constitution, teuldn't care less. wanders into the ship's dog area,