ARN Sy MA Rr J SEARS EES fa, 3 TEA \ EE a [ANNE HIRST | Youn "Dear Anne Hirst: I am so up- set I'm nearly out of my mind! Seven months ago I met a young man from a nearby town, and we've dated regularly ever since. He comes every week and stays aver when he can; he takes me to the nicest places, and al- ways brings me lovely gifts. But as for a word love, there isn't any, "From the first, he asked me not to see anybody else and the few times I did he lost his tem- per and declared he couldn't trust me. He hurts my feelings (sometimes deliberately, I think) and then laughs it off, Yet I am crazy about him, Anne Hirst! I don't know how much he cares, nor what his intentions are, if any. He hasn't even given me his class ring to wear. He says he'd come over more often, but he thinks I should spend my spare time studying. (I'm a high-school. senior, and my grades are good.) "I can't stand this uncertainty any longer. Where do we go from here? WORRIED TO DEATH" YOUNG DICTATOR * Why will you girls let a boy ¢* make the rules, and obey him * like a slave? Have you a mar- ®* tyr complex? This domineer- ¢ youngster has' the effrontery- * to demand you give up all ® your other friends and sit at * home alone until he happens * to drop in. He tries to make * you over, implies you are ig- * norant and lazy, and you sit * by and take it. ® If you think this provis how _®* much he" "loves you, you * couldn't be more wrong. He ® is born dictator, and just now * you are his latest victim. The ® boy Is so in love with himself ¢ that he has none left for any- ® one else. You, being in -love, * accept the miserable role. -- * And for what? He has never ¢ spoken a word of love. He * hasn't even offered his class * ring for you to show your * friends who ask what's going * on. And how do you know he * hasn't a girl in his own town? ® You ask little enough -- * only to be sure he belongs to * you as surely as you belong to * him. You can't be certain of * that so long as you crawl to ¢ his beckoning finger. The only ¢ girl he will take seriously at ' this stage is one who asserts ' herself, and refuses to be ® treated like a moronic child. * Date any nice boy you ®* know, whether you want to * or not. It will show him that * other lads desire you, too. He ® needs to be taught he cannot * command a girl as though she ® belonged to him unless he ¢ gives the same loyalty he de- ® mands. * No matter how deeply you * love him, you could never be ®* happy with him as he is today. * To keep your love, he will * have to earn it. ¢ You * counsel, but if you ever hope ®* to win him it is the one way * you may succeed. If it does * not work, you can remind * yourself that he wasn't worth ® having. Cold comfort, I know, ® but you have asked for it. SALLY'S SALLIES "Isn't that wonderful, darling. He thinks you're his mother!" will not relish this GIRL- CONFUSED "Dear Anne Hirst: I am very mixed up on this, my 16th birth- day. Boys seem to like me, but 'they won't accept my "standards ° of how a lady should. behave, "Why don't parents teach their children ( and warn them) how to behave? I am disgusted by how many nice girls and boys are reduced to petting! 'They seem to think that's $he only reason for being friends, If they had been told one decent thing by their mothers, they waquld heed it . .. No, I'm not an 'old- timer', but I do have commpn sense. Why don't boys who are otherwise nice learn they must keep hands off? "I love my friends, but how can I keep on loving them and still hold fast to my convictions? MITZIE" * Boys of the age that attract * you are apt to set their own * standards of behavior, but * they do learn from the girls * they date. * You, for one, will hold on * to your standards, and prove * to them that mutual respect * is the first cornerstone of * friendship. They aren't stupid, * they will get the idea; if they * don't want to be friends for your * own sake, they aren't fit to * see you at all, * I agree it is a pity that so . many parents are too self- L L * conscious to guide their chil- - dren in proper relationships - between the~sexes, and warn them of its dangers. * * LJ] A girl should set the rules for the boys she dates. If he does not observe them she will know she Is not important to-him , .., Anne Hirst knows the ins-and- out of courtship. Write her frankly, at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,, New Toronto, Ont. Cruelty. Of Youth "Both Parents Work" Juvenile delinquency, all too often, is thought of as a problem of the big cities, born of slums, poverty, and racial conflict. Ac- tually, it infects all economic and social classes and areas. Associate Editor Jack Iams tells how youngsters of a solid, semi- rural community reached a new low: The old men who used to limp -- or wheel themselves -- - about the spacious, shaded. lawns don't feel quite safe there any more. They prefer to stay close to the main building of the New Jersey Home for Disabled Sol- diers that covers 103 acres just outside of Menlo Park--a town best known nationally as the home of Thomas Alva Edison's : laboratory. The vegetable garden where the old men used to putter is now overgrown: The greenhouse where they tended plants is gone. The flower beds around the proud flagpole have been rav- aged. The summerhouse where | they used to read, or play check- ers, or just drowse on sunlit af- ternoons is a black circle of charred ruins. - The old men never know when they will be startled by the crack of an air rifle and the shattering of a window pane in one of the outbuildings. Or by the burst of a giant firecracker buried in the grass. In the machine shop, alone, 26 windows have been shot out. The greenhouse was the favorite target until the home got tired of replacing the glass and tore it down. g But worst of all are the taunts. There was the veteran of the first world war sitting on a sunny bench one afternoon, trembling. with Parkinson's disease. A youthful voice cried: "What are you shakin' for, Grandpop? It . ain't cold out." Or there was the veteran in his 60s with a pecu- liar sort of sideways limp. He heard the jeer: "Look at that "VEHICLE + ot Pop Uy ' » " Ny %. oS "4 8 ° ~ 2) WESTERN EASTERN HEMISPHERE HEMISPHERE 70% 30% (USA--62%) ® MOTORIZED BIRTH RATE -- A world-wide survey reveals a steady increase in the motor vehicle population, reports the U.S. De- partment of Commerce. The SINE by the Business and De- fense Services Administration, attri utes the increase 1o higher living standards. World registration totaled over 108 million as of last January 1, up 5.6 per cent during 1957 Increasas, pars Mud thin passenaer "nes, are expécisd io continue, "the $5,000 'to $7,500 Es HOT WORK On location at the beach in San Diego for the filming of the Billy Wild of farce, "Some Like It Hot," Marilyn Monroe, Paul Strasberg and Tony Curtis go over lines in the shade of a beach tent. Acting Coach Strasberg apparently doesn't like it so hot, Tony and Jack Lem- mon masquerade as women in the film. Marilyn, however (it's nice to know), [ust plays her natural self. DOUBLE EXPOSURE--Alert pho- tographer caught double image of a four-engined airliner tak- ing off from O'Hare Field. Air- line hostess Jean Boulay is the gal behind the sunglasses. old geezer; walks like he's afraid to sit down." Things like that hurt the old men most. After all, they haven't got much left except a fierce pride in the sacrifice they made for their country--most of them in the war to make the world safe for democracy. (There are 83 veterans in the home alto- gether; a few are from the sec- ond world war and half a dozen, including one man of 93, from the Spanish-American War. The latter take pleasure in being known as 'the Spaniards.") against these old men? They are kids from the adjacent housing development of Menlo Park Ter- race, one of many that have mushroomed up in that expand- ing part of New Jersey in recent years, But this is not the kind of housing project that has spawned delinquency in the big cities. This is a neat and attrac- tive community of split-level houses -- about a thousand of them -- painted a variety of pastel colors, set in small green plots, and costing around $15,000. The children who are everywhere --they average three to a home --are healthy, well-dressed, nice- looking kids. The parents are in income . bracket, There are no racial problems. And, as a final ironic touch, the huge majority of the fathers--better than 90 per cent according to one of them--are former, GI's; What brought the situation to light was a request by the insti- tution's superintendent, Jacob ~Haulenbeek -- himself a veteran of World War II--for an extra $20,000 in his budget to build a high wire fence between the soldiers' home: and the housing development. His request, now pending before the State Legis- lature, cites "incidents of de- struction . . . the setting ¢n fire of a summerhouse---~shooting out of. 26 windows 'in the .occupa- tional workshop taunting and hazing . . . a definite safety problem." "It's still going on," Superin- tendent Haulenbeek said: last week. "The police have extra patrol cars on duty now and that helps . .. 1 don't know what's wrong with those kids. They come from good homes. One trouble is that in a lot of those families, both the parents work. Another is that the people who built the development jam- med: the houses in without enough space for recreation, 1 don't know the answer. All I know is we want those kids kept away from here.)'--From NEWS- WEEK, And who are the offenders Well, that W.I. meeting sched- uled to take place at our home last week actually came off as p anned. There were times when I wondered if it would -- what with plumbers around a few days before; drapes that 1 wasn't sure would be back from the cleaners; one or two hot, humid days when the floor wax wouldn't set and that awful, jittery "I'll - never - be-ready-in- time" sort of feeling that many of you may not know about but which 1 do. However, 1 told myself that none of the things that could happen was likely to be a major disaster and Part- ner was working like a Trojan inside and out helping me to pet ready, so I decided every- thing would probably turn out ell right. And it did. Glorious in Color Picture this peacock spread in blues and green. or shades of one color--beauty for a bed. Elegance made easy! Drama- tic peacock in cross-stitch--10 and 5 to inch. Pattern 0688: transfer one motif 15 x 18%, two 65% x 63% inches; color chart, key, ' Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted) use postal note for safety] for this pattern to Laura Wheeler, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St., New Toronto, Ont, Print plainly PATTERN NUM- BER, your NAME and -AD- DRESS. As a bonus, TWO complete patterns - are printed right in our LAURA WHEELER Needle- craft Book. Dozens of other des signs you'll want to order---ecasy fascinating handwork for your self, your home, gifts, bazaar . items. Send 25 cents for your copy of this book today! "GINGER ~ Gwendoline P. Clothe -- afraid to be different. Joy and baby Ross came al- ong shortly before noon bring- mg with them an octogenarian friend who had been looking for- ward to the meeting, Joy being here to receive people left me free to meet our guest speaker ot Cooksville, who was none other than Miss Ethel Chapman, editor of that splendid little magazine "Home and Country". When we got back we found nearly forty guests awaiting her arrival which did not surprise me at all. Miss Chapman is such a splendid speaker that she is always sure of an attentive and appreciative audience wherevel she goes. Last Thursday was no excéptlon. Miss Chapman's theme was ed- ucation -- that is, in its widest scape. Education as it applies to W.1. work In particular. She em- phasized the importance of en- couraging and using local tal- ent as far as possible in arrang- ing programmes but agreed that [| 1t was also necessary to invite outside speakers for specialized subjects. As, for instance, a member of the Library Board --to-explain-how to make the best use of library facilities; a rep- resentative of schools for the re- . tarded, outlining their work and the ways in which the W.I. can help; a speaker on the need for local conservation authority and a study of buymanship for home- purchasing needs. Miss Chapman was very strong on the last named subject, deploring the modern trend in advertising; the mass hysteria in buying; going to a shopping centre with possibly tifteen items on our shopping list and coming home with twen- t7. In effect she begged her lis- teners not to be led astray by glib advertising; to estimate the voorth, and the necessity, of their purchases and nat to be overly concerned in having all the up- to-date gadgets just beceuse our neighbour has them. Don't be Confor- mity has its merits, she agreed, but we must be on guard: lest it kill originality and initiative c!{ purpose. Those are just a few of the subjects touched on Chapman's address. There were many others, In fact it was full of suggestions that could well be made use of by any branch in planning its programmes. One very good idea was for members 10 submit, anonymously, written suggestions as to. what subjects ur speakers they would like to tee included in their monthly programmes. And then, 'after the meeting closed, what a.buzz of voices! It was more conspicuous because or the quiet, rapt atfention that had prevailed while Miss Chap= man was speaking. The lunch Committee "did itself proud" and no one seemed in a hurry to Zet away, Finally the last good- byes were' said. Joy, Ross and our elderly guest also tock their jeave so then Miss Chapman and I took a short drive around the vountry as ¥ was 'anxious for lier to see a few of the lovely residential spots. in this district, streets and roads that the avs crage traveller along the high= in Miss" way wouldn't even know exlst- ed. When we got home again we found Partner had washed all the dishes, put the furniture back where it belonged and gen- erally speaking had the house restored to a semblance of order. It was a wonderful help. Some- times I have a feeling I chose the right man for a 'husband. Partner explains away his help- fulness by saying that because he can no longer do hard, physi- . cal work, that leaves him free to do what he can in other ways. 'Incidentally I should mention I was out to another W.I. meet~ ing the day before at which Mrs. Mary Fix, Reeve. of Toronto Tcwnship was guest speaker. She gave us a very clear picturs of 'her duties but unfortunately there was no time for a ques- tion period. That was just. too bad as, being taxpayers, a neigh- por and I, prompted by our re- spected husbands, had gone fir- ed with a few questions to which we wanted answers, "TI brought back twenty chairs from the Wednesday meeting 1eady for my affair next day. Friday Partner and I took them back to the funeral parlour from whence we thought they came. But ownership was denied. Stu- pid me -- I forgot there was more than one funeral parlour. Finally we found the chairs came from Streetsville and so - eventually they were duly re- turned to the proper owners, af- {er a little unnecessary travel- ling around the country. Modern Etiquette by Roberta Lee 0. Should garage employees and service station attendants be tipped? A. Only when some special rervice has been performed out- slde of what is regularly charged for. a Q. To settle a discussion we: had recently, will you please tell me just what are the purposes of a dinner napkin? . A. To wipe the lips before drinking from the waterglass, so that the glass will not be smear- ed; and to wipe the fingers. Q. May an invitation ever be properly written on a visiting card? i. A, Yes; a card may be used for an invitation to a' tea, to meet a guest, an informal dance, or a bridge party. smart Step-In ' PRINTED PATTERN * 14% --24% by-fhune Ams EVERYTHING you want in this Printed Pattern--your fav- orite step-in style! Bodice of easy-sew tucks so slimming to half-size figures--graceful prin- cess silhouette in back! Printed _ Pattern 4572: Half Sizes 1415, 16%, 18%, 20%, 22%, 241%. Size 16%: takes 5% - yards .35-inch fabric. Printed directions on each pattern part. Easier, accurate. Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢) (use postal note for safety -- stamps cannot be accepted) for this pattern. Please print plain- ly SIZE, NAME AND AD- DRESS, STYLE NUMBER. : Send order to ANNE ADAMS, Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. : ISSUE 41 -- 1958 FRAME-UP -- Here's what went on to produce an appealing pic- ture of French actress Mylene Demongeot as shown elsewhere on this page, A battery of comeramen shoots away as she juggles the picture frame and the seven chicks she "adopted." SLICK CHICK -- French movie star Mylene Demongeot makes on .appealing picture as she displays some ba by a Fre frame-up ? chicks given her h travellipg showman In Paris. But how come the en 8 8 8 "1 i etn SITAR