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rs To [ ANNE HIRST "If my husband and I could be alone, live in peace, and keep our door open to our friends, - what a wonderful life it would be! It is, alas, impossible, be- rtause my mother has lived with us for two years." Those years have resulted in "near-bedlam, for the writer's mother opposed her marrying anybody and has done her best to create misun- derstanding and suspicion be- iween husband and wife. "Since she came," continues the writer," he is so mean and ugly to my husband that I can- not take it any longer -- but what can I do? He is a gentle soul and so sweet to her that it make me furious;-that only eggs her on. Our marriage has been a lovely experience for six years, but now I am thoroughly miserable. "I grew up feeling my mother was my enemy. She was so dic- tatorial it was impossible now to submit (I'm easy-going as my father was) and I realize now I grew up hating her. But when Dad died, my only sister refused to take Mother in and 1 was weak eonugh to do just that, She would not consent to o anywhere else, though she as an adequate income. "She was never a popular wo- man; she doesn't get along with any of her relatives, and she - hasn't a personal friend left. She distrusts people and delib- erately tries to cause trouble. (Please do not print details) . .. Now I am at the end, seeing Princess Ensemble 'PRINTED PATTERN = 142 --24% Summer ensemble in the love- Jiest "princess" silhouette -- so becoming to shorter, fuller fig- ures! A cool, graceful sundress; cover-up jacket -- easy to sew with our new PRINTED PAT- TERN! Printed . Pattern 4580: Half Bizes 141%, 16%, 1814, 20%, 2214, 141%, Size 16% sundress takes )% yards 35-inch fabric; jacket 14 yards. Printed directions on each pat- ern part, Easier, faster, accurate, Send FIFTY CENTS (50¢), (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for safety) for this attern, Please print plainly IZE, NAME, ADDRESS, STYLE NUMBER, Send order to ANNE ADAMS, ox 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New 'oronto, Ont. : ISBUE 29 -- 1957 my husband is so miserable, though _he never complains, Where have I failed? What am I to do?" MAKE THE BREAK: If I could print this wife's entire letter, my readers would understand why I urge her to see that her mother leaves. For years the wife has given herself to her family's problems, and borne with her mother's 'idiosyncracies with= out a whimper, The older wo- man has visited them freely for two weeks at a time, try- ing to disrupt their harmony, being rude to their friends, and shrewdly creating almost unbearable tensions. Her in- fluence is little short of sinis- ter. She has not succeeded in her intent, but the home at- mosphere is too strained to continue, The wife will have a bat- tle on her hands, for her mother is having herself a fine time weaving her wicked web. Her husband has been so generous and sweet during these two years that he de- serves a better life alone with his wife, and I am glad that she finally realizes it. TO "DAUGHTER RACHEL": For years you have tried to take over the continuing problems your mother's un- fortunate nature has brought upon you all, and taking her into your home was the final. fine gesture. Now you realize what a mistake it was . . . Nowhere have you failed, my friend, rather have you donk more for your people than anyone else has done . . : Your mother will object loud- ly and cry for sympathy, but you will be firm. Your hus- band has had enough; his wel- fare now becomes your first * duty and your pleasures. * Make the break, and find the * life you both deserve. * * * GAMBLER CURED? "Dear Anne Hirst: Soon after we married I found by husband was a confirmed gambler, risk- ing money we couldn't afford and generally losing. For the past few months, though, he has refrained almost entirely, and I was so happy! . LARA AR J SE JE JL J IE EE EEE BE EN LAR AR SE JE BE J JE SE IE 25 JE IE BE JE EEE JERE JE SA "I have noticed, though, that he still likes to lay small wagers with friends on trivial issues, and I am so afraid it will post- pone his ultimate reform. "I don't want to mention it unless I must. What do you say? TROUBLED" * The true gambler believes * that success is accidental, that * jt can bring riches and even * power. He knows it provides * an escape from dull routine * and that in itself he feels is * worth the losses he incurs. It * is seldom, I am told, that he * reforms for good. * Your husband is. to be ap- * plauded for oevrcoming the * weakness he indulged for so * long. I am not a psychiatrist, * but I see no harm in his * wagering -a bit with friends; * he gets a kick out of it and * he is not betting more than * he can afford to lose. Per- * haps I am wrong, but in your * place I should not worry. * * * If your problem is wearing you down, ask Anne Hirst to clear the scene and guide you through, . . . Write her at Box ° 1, 123 Eighteenth St.,, New Tor. onto, Ont. ge HIGH LIVING -- LAID LOW / Delighted at having gone through the year without any accidents being recorded the safety committee of a cement works. in Olavarria, Argentina, treated the 2,000 workers to a slap-up Junch. The lunch went down well and was appreciated; but the fol- lowing morning over half the employees were absent. They were down with food poisoning. SER RUSSIAN ROCKWN' -- The Russians may never claim Rock 'n' i ub i" Roll as their own invention, but they have dances just as lively These Soviet teen-agers "rock" in gay folk dance at a youth festival in ¥rasnodar near the Black Sea, Stung To Health None of her neighbours was surprised to see BEE number plates on a new car recently pur- chased by a woman who lives in Kent. For she is a bee venom specialist and uses the car to carry the 4,000 bees a day need- ed by her patients who receive bee-sting treatment for rheuma- tism, arthritis and nervous dis- ~ orders. ' She is particularly proud of her car's queen bee mascot, the gift of a Portuguese millionaire who is one of her former patients, Says the specialist: "My bees are doing wonderful work and the new car with BEE plates is my public tribute to them." It was nearly seventy years ago that an Austrian doctor name Pero first claimed that rheumatic patients could be suc- cessfully treated by exposing them to the stings of bees, al- though he admitted that in some' instances the stings proved even more painful than the rheuma- tism, * Some doctors declare there is still no scientific evidence to support claims that. bee-stings can cure rheumatism or arthritis, but a London doctor states: "A bee-tsing 'might possibly cure -. one person, but would not neces- sarily cure, everybody." According to a Sussex bee- keeper who was stung thousands of times by bees, the bee poison in his blood prevented him from suffering from rheumatism. At the age of seventy-four. he said: "It's nothing for me to get fifty stings a day and. I don't even bother to pull them out." f CRIB CRITIC -- Wearing a chic feathered hat, Princess Mar- garet is unaware of a critical appraisal by little Paul Hadon, 18 months. The [Princess was visiting the nursery of the Tal- bot Settlement Hostel for West Indian women in London., Don't Change That Dial! On a Kansas City, Mo., sta- tion, a disc jockey announcing the "Bewitching Hour" got his tongue twisted and came up with the "Wee Bitching Hour." * * LJ] A Tallahassee, Fla., announcer, describing the advantages of owning a certain new car, said: "This is the automobile that is designéd to give you years of travel-free care." * LJ * On a Terre Haute Ind., station, an announcer who had just in- terviewed a group of nurses wound up: "Seeing these beauti- ful girls makes almost anyone wish for a little siege in bed with one of these lovely nurses." L * LJ On a North Dakota station, an apnouncer reported: "The local Boy Scout Troop had a cook-out and cramp session over the week-end." : LJ - . During a station break over Station WABC in New Yor}, opera narrator Milton Cross, ad- vising his audience of the nev.s program that was to follow iri- - mediately, said: "And now, slay stewed for the nudes" > Ll Ld A Paterson, N.J,, disc jockey, urging listeners to take advan- tage of a special offer: "Merely drop us a postcard and give the postman only $2.95 when he de- livers your 48 unbearable chil- dren's records." : RIBOFLAVIN Riboflavin, © member of the vitamin B family, keeps certain eye and skin tissues healthy. It is found especially in liver, kid= ney, heart and gther meats, as well as in cheese and milk, Cooking does not destroy this vitamin, but exposure to light is damaging. 4 a THEY CAN GROW UP TOGETHER -- Married at'12 and a m wo) other at 13, Mrs. Lewis: Curtis holds her week-old daughter as her 19-year-old 'husband looks on in thelr Nashville, Tenn., home. After the. picture session, Mrs, Curtis told. the 'photographer, "I don't believe in large families. Lewis and | would like 'one more child--a boy. That's enough." INGER Gwendoline D, Clarke This column is being written neither at Ginger Farm nor Halfway House but from the city -of Guelph. Partner and I- left home Thursday morning; he to spend a couple of days with friends on a farm near Puslinch and I to attend the annual con- vention of the Ontario Histori- cal Society in Guelph. Strangely enough we met history on the road -- colourful history at that -- in the form of a Stage-Coach engaged to advertise the Milton Centennial. The genial Mayor of Milton was sitting up front with the driver, hig round face and 19th Century toggery making him look very much like the illustrious "Mr, Pickwick". -Of course we had to stop in Milton to do a bit of shopping -- and a- bit of visiting -- and then we had 'a very lovely drive across country to No. 6° Highway. At the farm where Partner is stay- ing we found evidence of a slight twister which struck during that terrific hot spell. Half the roof was gone from the driving-shed; tree branches scattered here and there and standing hay just be- ginning to straighten itself up again after having taken a tre- mendous pounding from wind and rain. Repairs were underway so I imagine Partner won't have any _trouble in keeping himself occupied. Dinner was just about ready when we arrived -- and Oh, my, it is a long time since I saw 'a' roast of beef so big, or taste so good as appeared on that.table. Genuine home-grown, home-killed beef, tender and juicy, as different from butcher's meat as hamburg from T-bone steak. It was a case of eat and run for me as friend Lillian and I were due at the Convention at two o'clock. Apparently pro- . grammes are always slanted to- wards history of the district in which the convention is held so from excellent speakers we heard brief accounts of the his- tory of Guelph, Elora and Fergus. Dr. Hugh Templin showed over a huffired beautiful pictures of the Fergus and Elora district -- " Elora Park, the Fergus Dam and many of the historic homes and buildings. Now it is well after midnight but sleep seems to have vanish- ed so I though I might as well get this column started anyway. Writing is better than lying awake. wondering if Partner is making out all right. That may sound crazy but when. a man hasn't spent a night way froth home -- except-for a spell in hospital -- for over thirty years the change might well be a somewhat mixed up pleasure, Well, IT guess this will do for tonight as we have to be up and away by nine in the morning. Friday. A most enjoyable day. Lunch at Elora, excellent speakers and then a tour of the parks and buildings Dr. Temp- lin had shown us in pictures the night before. Our group includ- 'ed that well-known writer and historian, Dr, Louis Blake-Duff, older in years from the last time I saw him, but still young ia spirit and with the same unfail- ing sense of humour and kindly manner that has endeared him to so many people for a great number of years. We also found Mrs. Ewen in anew role, helping the local execiitive of the His- torical Society. W.I. members will remember Mrs. Ewen as the former Anna P. Lewis, one-time Director of Extension "services. And there was Miss Mabel Burkholder, weekly historical contributor to the Hamilton: Spectator. Among , the visitors was a gentleman and his wife from New Zealand and the rea- son for their coming was a little unusual, The gentleman owns a sheep ranch with approximately 3,000 sheep. A son, keenly in- terested in agriculture and wish- ing to expand in knowledge and interest went first, to Essex, England and later came to Can- ada to attend the O.A.C. in Guelph, Somewhere along the way he met a young lady from Caledon. They became engaged to be married and his parents have arrived in time for the wed- ding. Later the young folk are establishing a home -- but not in New Zealand, England oir On- tario, but in Nova Scotia, no less, Now it is Saturday. Last night I went to bed and slept like a log, following dinner at The Royal Hotel and a most enjoy- able evening that followed. To- day we attended sessions in re- gard to encouraging juveniles in Ontario history, During the after- noon we went on a bug tour of the city stopping at many of the historic points of the place. It has been a most wonderful three- . day convention, not only be- cause of the places we've been but the people we've met. But alas, all good things must come to an end, so I have just packed my duds and am almost ready to start out for home, picking up Partner on the way. And when Modern Etiquette. . . by Roberta Lee Q. What are the courses that make up a formal dinner?- A. There are five-or more courses. First, oysters or clams on the half shell, or canapes, or other- light relish; or grapefruit, fruit cup, or melon. Second, soup. Third, fish, Fourth, game or roast with two vegetables, Fifth, salad. Sixth, dessert, fol- lowed by fruit, nuts, candy, and coffee. Q, What is the correct size of the place card at a dinner? A. Usually about two inches long and an inch and a half high, It is usually plain white, but it may be embossed in white or gold with a monogram or crest. Place cards are inscribed in longhand. i Q. If a girl is to be married to a man who has been married previously, is, it proper for her to have a big wedding, wear a white gown and veil? A. Certainly. The 'fact that her 'bridegroom ' has been mar- ried before does' not alter the fact that this is her first wed-- ding. If she has been married previously, she should not have a big wedding nor wear white. Q. I was recently introduced 'to a young man and since then he has tried several times to telephone me at my home, but (every 'time' XI 'have been out. 'Would it be proper 'for me to telephone 'him? A. It would be all right for. you to phone him and say, "I "hear 'you have been calling me. I'm' sorry I was not at home." 'Q. If one has just moved in- to 'a' new neighborhood, and some of the neighbors have paid calls, how soon should 'one re- turn these calls? S A. Within about two weeks. Failure to return these calls is we get home there will be three 'days' mail 'and probably some of the family sitting on the door- step. But no, they won't have to do that because we have provid- ed both of them with keys. 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Ail s A UNWELCOMED VISITOR -- At Somagahara, Japan, Mrs. William Girard, the Japanese wife of U.S, Army Specialist 3/3 William Girard, is denied entrance as she visits the family of the woman her husband is charged with shooting to death. Mrs. Girard wanted to visit the grave of the slain woman, but the eldest daughter of the Sakal family, Kayoko (left), 18, said, "I don% understand how you can have the nerve to come here after marrying Girard, who Is such a hateful person." In centre Is Kayoko's sister, Yoriko, 4. Ei HH HR --_-- I'm DREAMING OF... = Pitplay designer Al Hanik has 1 surrounding--and the hedt--to make him dream of a white ristmas. Bushed from 90-degrde heat, he's cooling off In the breeze from fans at either side. Hanik Is assembling the Christmas scene for the National Assn, Display Industries convention. Displays like Al's will be used In stores later--about six months later, 5 or T]