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\ SRN 3 3 : x hy 7 .. 1 h ' PES FL TEREIRE IRAE A HART SA SEE TLE FY SPO S EN LAR SRT AN Youn "Dear Anne Hirst: I'am 17, and we've been married | exactly three months 1 told my husband we were too young, but he said he wouldn't wait' another day. Now he wants to get rid of me! "Last week he told me to leave and grow up. (I didn't go; I'm writing "you instead.) He says I talk too much and nag too much and he's tired of saying where he goes whenever he leaves the house. . . . "He is right, and I do ask questions. But it isn't jealousy, really. It's just that I love him so much I want to be with him all the time, and all day I think about things I need 'to tell him about. "If he'll only give me anotheg. chance, I could be a better wife! Suddenly I do see what he means, and I am surprised he has stood me for this long. How can I make him see that? He says I've got to go on my own, it's the onl way I'll ever sct- tle down. Anne Hirst, I've never worked in my life, I didn't even graduate from high school. , . "l am scared and my heart is , breaking. What shall 1_do? . FRANTIC" TEEN-AGE CHALLENGE Your marriage is being at- tacked by growing pains, a ~patural consequence when two immature youngsters take on the manifold obligations of ad- ults. You have been blind to all vour duties except those of love, and vou. couldn't see that loving your husband in-' cludes the art of understand- ing him. n When he was dating you, he listened to your chatter, but now it bores him to distrac- tion. So he escapes| = per- haps just goes out for cigar- ettes -- but why must he tell . * . . . * * . * . * * - . - * ~ * you where he goes? If he were * older, he would know that he + should, if only so you wouldn't * worry. But he is too annbyed * to think of that. t * Now you begin to see why * he feels that way, and. yougin- * tend to do what he asks -- * grow up. He owes you that * chance, * believe he-nieant that you go, + for he knows that you cannot * earn a living; he was in a * temper and said the first thing * he thought of, * Why don't you enter a busi- * ness school? It will give you » something real and practical * to do, and soon you will un- * derstand your husband's im- * patience and be more inter- ¢ esting to live with. When he * sees you are, he'll begin talk- * ing of his office problems and * find you a sympathetic listen- ¢ er. Tell him, then, that you * are staying where you are, * and all you ask is that he be + patient enough to watch you * prove your serious intentions. ¢ None of us has the right ® to absorb another's individu- * ality. Each has various facets * of personality to cultivate; as * we do, we mature normally, » develop character, and dis- * cover provocative ideas to in- ¢ terest those we live with. * Most couples in this way avoid * the boredom which saps the ® spirit of so many marriages. * Begin now "to make your * home: the place where your * husband prefers to spend his * eo ® 000 ee I do complain - of course. 1 do not. NE HIRST . evenings. Invite friends in, get to be part of the group you knew six months ago, Your husband will co-operate in making a well-balanced life for you both, and realize you and he are socially attuped- in a pleasurable marriage, LJ . LJ HE STOPS COMING "Dear Anne Hirst" What can I do? I'm 21, and love a fellow very much, He 'says he loves me and hasn't, dated any other girl. Now I'm beginning to wonder. I don't hear from him as often as I did; it's been two weeks since I went out with him, If I'd only known him a couple of months, I wouldn't think much of it; but we've gone together over a year, "If he doesn't want to continue our relationship, couldn't he have called me up and told me? Shall T write or call him and see what's what? I just can't pass this 'off lightly -- I love him too. much. CONFIDENTIAL" Doa't write to this young man, and don't call him. No matter what he says, I'm afraid vou would be just as badly confused He knows he has neglected vou, but if you expect him to explain 'why, you don't know much about men. They usual- ly lack such, courage. Whether he's been escorting somebody ¢lse around, or has just grown bored, doesn't matter; what does matter is that he is not as interested as he was, and probably can't find the words to explain it politely. He takes it for granted you ,will get the ideq. You take it for granted he is not coming back, and try to interest yourself in other friends. Sometimes it is wise to imagine the worst and ac- cept it; it leaves you free to keep in circulation. - In a little while, if he does not reappear, your outlook will brighten and vou will find life is far less SEEN TE EE REE EE REE IEE EE EEE SEE IEE EE EE EE EY DIE SEE EE TE TE 3 complicated without this gnawing anxiety. * * * Whether you are 17 or 70, you will find Anne Hirst a warm- hearted friend who will approach your problem with sympathy and understanding. Address her at Box 1, 123 Eighteenth St, New Toronto, Ont. Modern Etiquette QQ. When should a dinner guest who has finished eating place his napkin on the table? A. Not until the hostess has placed her napkin on the table. Q. Should each guest seat himself at the dinner table as _ soon as he arrives there? A. No, until the hostess'seats herself, everyone should stand quietly at his place. i. Q. I often receive social let- ters in which the writer begins by making excusés for having been too busy-to write earlier. Is this good form? A. It is much better taste to avoid this. If 'you afte really em- barrassed about your delay in writing, say you are sorry, then plunge into your letter. the North Po AX 148 le", GN AS REINDEER -- When is a burro not masquerading as a reindeer for a Chyler" two burros pulled Santa's sleigh and Jgf' kids who clustered 'round for a ¢f mutual i A DOG'S BEST FRIEND -- Spots, left, looks up wearily . as keeps stubborn vigil with his friend Blackie, killed by an automobile. Spots remained beside Blackie's body all through the night. He wouldn't respond to his 13-year-old master's pleading to return home and finally had to be pulled, whimpering, away from the death scene. Sth CLLBEENG, tt let IRONICLES "GINGER FARM Gwendoline P. Clarke Don't you think a brand new year is the most extiting thing that ever was? Just think of it-- three hundred and sixty-five un= lived . days--and every one of . those days can be a new begin- ning, as it were. The old year has passed . .. gone... taken with it all the hope, fears, joys and ~ disappointments = that be- longed to it. All we can do now is review the past tw months; throw into the discard the trivial things; the grudge . that we may have felt against this person or that; the hurt that grew and grew in our imagina- tion, although the reason for it didn't really amount to anything : anyway. Far more important things belong to our memories of the old year--world -affairs, un- rest. among nations, our nation- al economy, the agricultural sit- uation, spreading inflation and our own very special family af- fairs. All these matters we can now regard with a detached point of view--they belong to Yesterday -- what concerns us now js Today. In that regard Sir William Osler once said -- "the chief worries of life arise from the foolish habit of looking be- fore and after .". . I urge you to Empire-Sheath! PRINTED ATTERN SIZES 4789 12-20 PRINTED PATTERN Our new PRINTED PAT- TERN -- in the season's liveli- est new silhouette! It's the Em- pire-Sheath-- all long, slender lines; cleverly banded 'neath the bosom for the new high-waist- ed looked. Pure flattery -for your figure! : Printed Pattern 4789: Misses' Sizes 12, 14, 16, 18, 20, 16 requires '3% yards 39-inch "fabric, Directions printed on each tissue pattern part, Easy-to-use, accurate, assures perfect fit, 'Send THIRTY-FIVE CENTS (stamps cannot be accepted, use postal note for' safety) for this pattern. Prig* »lainly SIZE, ME, | 3 STYLE fi ADAMS, ew Toron- Size live with 'day-tight compart- ments' to ensure safety ... shut out the yesterdays, bury them deep in the oblivion of each night, The load of tomorrow, added to that of yesterday, if carried today, makes the strong- est falter. Shut off the future as tightly as the past. Waste of en- ergy, mental distress, nervous worries, dog the steps of the man who is too anxious about the fu ture." ji That was Dr. Osler's. advice as it concerned his day and age. If he were alive today I think ,he would repeat that advice. But definitely. k Bring that sanie philosophy in- to our own everyday lives and what a difference it might make. I was speaking to a woman the other day whose doctor had ad- vised her she must prepare for a major operation somewhere around next April. The idea is to build up her strength' but, {from present indications, that same person is undermining her constitution by worrving about the operation to be. Her worry "1s understandable but it certainly cannot do any good. Planning to meet an emergency is one thing; useless: worry is something else again. : We can all cvents that have happened in our past -- of things we worried about that never happened. I well remember one time when our family doctor called me into his office and warned me that in all probability Partner had only six months to live. That was ten years ago and Partner is with us yet. But you can imagine the needless worry I went through until further tests proved the first diagnosis to be wrong. And last spring, if you recall, we were very concerned about Daughter nefore the second baby .was born. But the baby arrived on sche- dule; Daughter got along fine and the baby was the best ever. " More recently I was in a dither about Christmas . .. who wasn't? ... we were sure nothing would be ready. Well, you know what happened. If anvthing was miss- ing nobody knew it. There may have been a chair or two that didn't get dusted -- but who no- ticed? Everyone was well and happy; the homecomers arrived and also got back again safely-- and wasn't that all that really mattered? As for world affairs and what may happen in the Middle East and in Hugary, I couldn't hazard a guess. History is being made so rapidly that anything I might say could be sadly out of date by the time it got into print. So I'll leave it at thaj--You know, and I know, that we are all greatly disturbed about the dark war- clouds that are gathering so 1 know you will not take my lack of comment as lack of interest. "That being understood I will confine my remarkg to matters hearer home. { Now it 13 after Christmas we find more or less of ga xv fxed feeling in almost every . We have time now to thin®and talk about all that happened during the Christmas season. And while we are putting our house in order it"would.really be a good idea to put some of the children's toys away in a box -- reserve - them ag special freat for wet days and sickness, The same thing might apply to what is left of the pastries, cakes and candies, A dose of magnesia might more welcome than a cont tion of Christmas fare | And # about answering some of # cite instances of - -- Pte, Gerald Thoma? complained to his girl friend, Barbara Bullock, * that AT LONG LAST her letters were too short. Above, he sits on a barracks roof to display her response to his squawks--a letter 150 feet long. : letters while the home news is fresh in our minds. (I am really hoping to take my own advice on that one -- not only to answer family letters but also those re- ceived from kind readers of this column, You don't know how I appreciate those letters.) Well, I think all that remains for me now is to wish you all a very Happy New Year. 1 sin- cerely hope that 1957 will bring happiness, good health and good fortune to each one of you. It may be a difficult year but re- inember, the Good Book says -- "As thy day so shall thy strength be." What more can we want? Magic Paste Hastens Growth Before long gardeners may be smearing their plants with a magic paste to make them grow to about three times their nor- mal size. The U.S. Department of Agri- culture has developed this paste whose secret is an acid, which was first collected from a fungus called giberella, This extraordinary fungus, much feared in Japan, attacks rice plants, making them grow abnormally tall and lanky, but at the same time redut\ng their yield. For The U.S. chemists isolated the elongating chemical from this fungus and smeared the paste on the stems of plants such as ger- anium, sunflower, rose, petunia, poinsettia and aster. Within four weeks, almost" all grew healthy flowers one-and-a-half to three times thelr normal size. -for "young men," 16 to 18 years "junior -matricilation or its equi- into - Under "Help Wanted, Male," 8 Toronto newspaper recently car« ried a classified advertisement of age, tp act as "truck helpers," No particular education or skill ~ was required. No previous ex= perience of any kind was neces sary, The job paid $40 for a 35+ hour week to start, with time and one-half for overtime. The boy who took one of these jobs would be earning, before overtime, only $29 a week less than a policeman does, only $26 a week less than a fireman does, and only $14 a week less than & public school teacher does, when they begin work in Toronto. Yet all of these others put in a con= siderably longer week than the truck helper would. And if the boy chose to work overtime he could--as truck helpers are doing --raise his wages by $20 or $25 a week. He could thus be making substantially more than a teach er; approximately as much as a policeman or fireman. « Under "Help Wanted, Female," there was another advertisement offering $222 a month to young girls whe could type 40 words per minute (somewhat less than the average for experienced typists) and were prepared to'take tele- graph messages over the phone. Practically next door to it wasan advertisement offering a regis- tered nurse with operating room experience the "high salary" of $287 a month. 51 * The truck helper's job and th telephone recorder's job are by no means exceptional examples of high wages being offered and paid for inexperienced labor. At the Ford Motor Company plant. in Oakville, a: mail boy, with valent, can earn between $50 and $60 a week to'start. If he is willing to work in the plant he can earn more than that. (And not just at Ford, but at almost every major factory in and around this city.) At Bell Telephone, operators start at something like $38 a week but, because of shift work; - they average $42.50. Railways will hire unskilled boys for about $44 to be mechanical appr : and will promise them increases every year. Sek High Schools report that after four years there (and often after only two) students take jobs which pay an average wage of between $40 and $55. For part- time work last summer, students were earning fn estimated aver- age of $47.43 Week. Further- more, anyone who is willing to deliver telegrams in Toronto can make 85 cents an hour to start, and can put in as many days" work as he likes--this in a job which asks no other qualification these days than that the employee can walk. It is not many years since jobs such as these were paying--and - youngsters who took them were > accepting--sums like $10 a week (during the depression) and $18 a week (during the first years of the war), The 1941 census reports that in June of that year, the bulk of workers in Ontario aged 14 to 19 were earning less than 1 $450 annually, and the bulk of those aged 20 to 24 were earning less than $950. So it is safe to | say that earnings of unskilled high school graduates (and non- graduates) have almost tripled in the past 15 years--years during , which the average wages of all Ontario workers did little more double. - } . The factors behind this extra- ordinary rise in prices paid for adolescent labor appear to be purely economic ones. Canada's expanding economy is today creating more new jobs, ata faster rate, than ever befors. This _alone would be sufficient reason for an acute shortage of man- power of every kind. But coupled with it is the declining birth rate of 16 to 20 years ago which is acting to create, now, an abnor- mally acute shortage of new recruits for the labor force. At the same time that the sup- ply of young workers is unusual ly small, the amount of work: being assigned to their particular group is unsually large. Earlier retirement, for one thing, is tend- ing to lower the 'average age of the whole working force. Pen- sion plans, for another, are tend- ing to make it difficult to engage - anyone but the very young and the very old. These, together with the scarcity of manpower ~ in general--and. of skilled man- power in particular--are forcing the employer to cut age, skill and experience requirements for his workers, thus upgrading them into jobs which they, in the past, "would have been thought unable to handle. And through it all, automation is busy making work easier and easier to do. So today 'the jobs which are open to young, inexperiénced people are' more varied and numerous than they' have been in years--and more. remunerative and attractive than they have been at any fime. Yet even at that, everl at $40 ~and $50 and $60 a wee}, even Tequirements on al- most to the point of ineficiency, companies which hire| young people in quantity rend that they .are continually stort of them. One telegraph ctmpany ° says it would hire a dozen boys and girls on the spot, if jt could find them. Another firm, ready to hire about 100 girls, ready to pay them about $40 a week, ready to accept them with four years' less schooling than it really wants, is unable to meet its quota. -- by Muriel Snider inthe Toronto Globe & Mail On TV, I saw one British movie that was so old the part 3 Henry VIII was.played by Henry VIL t --Red Skelton £ OH, SHOE, SHOEI -- Actrass Marie Windsor isn't ust horsing Vo . around for a publicity picture -- she really knows how to shoe a horse, And she can tune up a car like a garage mechanle, She picked up the skills when she lived on her parents' ranch. unds of Foxlease, p house soma A INERE AGAIN -- With bitter memories 'of the terror an the background, these young Hungarian refugees have fun In @ hand. adburst, Englandn, Foxlease, home of the Girl Buide - refugee families that sought haven In England, -- PL a d flight from. re volue -