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Since then. the Frey: and the Answers. because we're not always ’ ,-‘;-.‘._._°.".. . _ ‘ .11 we“ “ ‘ birth morn have had a comfortable going to have the answers.” said ’.e; :52"; u: . 1" ‘ ‘ . ' .- relationshlp, with boundaries that the-boys adoptive mother Debbie. 3‘". ":1" , , .. ,, 1, 1 M ‘ - everyone‘agrees on. Ofcourse our boysare gomg to I." :1") ‘ ’1. . _ J ‘ fl 9;; Debbie sends out regular e- be curious about their birth sto- ‘23.“;‘5‘ ‘ . %; '_‘ "is.” #4 mfg ' 1’ 5‘ mails with updates and photos of ries. And we don't feel threatened ‘.'.‘ a. ~ ‘ '3 . . ' if . 45.1%; the boys. She sent a lock of hair by that.” 23., , . .' ‘ :9 . . ~ 3' H EFF-.1. a}??? ‘ "" after Eric's first haircut. Those birth stories started after :" \-1 I. ‘ " ' g ' ‘56 t5? 4 (”WEE/.152? 11-: "She has a very clear sense 0f Debbie and her husband Tony had ‘ . I! .1. is 1%.. river-*1 .1 . ‘ 45.95%"3 a“ . who she is in their lives. and that been together for six years. They , ~ I. ‘ ‘akfi’ . ‘3“. WA ’43 .3131 we are their parents." Debbie said. had a fertility issue, but knew they '3’“ ’ ' ‘ if} ”E 7' * ..sr~ . “And we always speak ofher with a wanted to build their family ‘ ‘i . 1-". ,' 1;. ‘41 ‘ " great deal ofhonourand respect.” through adoption rather than fer- . s ' _ , 9:3 11’ I; ’95:” 1., The birth mom's parents have . tility treatments or surrogacy. .' ' \ 2"} K-ié} also been particularly supponive “We talked about it. and felt to ., , ’ \ 1,; :3, f 421% and thoughtful, Debbie said. They put all that energy into creating a 1' ‘ I" , 1' ' )7 31 fig created an album â€"- photos of family â€" we wanted to give a “35' f their daughter at every age â€" for home to a child who was already 1;. . ’ j _ ‘ l a the Freys to look at and compare here." Debbie said. ; 3‘ I . . 1 _.. ‘_._.; with their own sons “That felt like the right fit for . f“ g 75 Unfortunately. every adoption us." ’ :5 A a .. _. doesn’t go so smoothly. Private Family and Children's Services ' 1. ‘ adoptions can be costly. interna- of Waterloo Region placed 65 chil- g, 9 tional adoptions can be costly, and dren for adoption in permanent " ' anightmare oiled tape. homes last year. said Teresa Trofy- Public adoption in Ontario is moWCh' a row“ and adoption For Debbie and Tony Frey, an adoption process that initially seemed overwhelming quickly brought them not done through .50 separate Ch”- recruitment worker With the one but Mo 50"; "we feel like we've hit the jackpot " Debbie said dren s aid societies. An expert agency. ' ' ' ' mem panel led by Governor General But many more children. David Johnston during his time as including older Children and those Then they registered with sever- they registered with the local â€"â€" the Frey homeâ€" full time. president 0f UW recommended to with special needs. are still waiting a] private adoption lawyers. put- agency. TWO weeks later, they celebrat- the prtWince that public adoption for homes. ting their name on lists in Two weeks later the phone ed his first birthday. and his birth become a centralized system. The For Debbie and Tony. navigat- Ottawa.Toronto. and here in rang. mom was there too. province has not yet moved on any ing the complicated world of pri- Waterloo. One local lawyer had A young birth mom with a 10- She was holding Eric when he 0f the recommendations of the vate. international and public placed 25 children. but had await- month-old baby boy wanted to started to fuss. panel. adoption was overwhelming at inglist of700 families meet them. “He reached for me. and I felt inside Dallas and Eric's Box of ‘ first. “They were warning us. hunker She came with a list of ques- bad for her. But she said. ‘No. that's Onestions is a letter to each of the “The thing is. adoption is con- down for the long haul. it could be tions about everything from what UK. He wants his mom,” Debbie boys from their birth mom: the fusing,” Debbie said. “There‘s no a six to seven year wait.” Debbie educational opportunities they said. story ofwhy she gave them up. straight line. Every family hasadif- said. could provide. to whether they For Debbie and Tony. their little “You understand, from that. ferent ioumey." At that point. Debbie and Tony would take Eric camping. family felt complete. that she really does love these chil- The couple had a home study didn't realize that Family and 0111- “i think she had a picture in her Fast forward five years. The drefl." Debbie said. done privately â€" everything from dren's Services facilitates public head of the kind of childhood she phone rang again. Eric's birth police and finance checks to adoption, providing home studies. wanted him to have.” Debbie said. mother had another son â€"- and Not/emberisAdoprion Awareness house, religion. and parenting adoptions and support at no Within six weeks. 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