PAGE 10 â€" WA lï¬inflnï¬ï¬‚ygï¬ï¬‚mflflmmm mon personal failing is a of selfâ€"confidence. We are born with all kinds of its but only a fortunate few seem to get the right kind of upbringing to maintain it into adulthood. Confidence is built on experience of success. When we first because we have not the assurance of success. This is true of learning to speak in public, riding a bicycle, or performing surgery. is is perfectly true that success breeds success. Even a small success can be sued as a stepping stone to a larger one. We need to form the habit of consciously remembering all our successes and forgetting our failures by following the example of our « cal instrument, nmbmï¬ï¬ï¬nï¬uflnflw place our fingers to get the desired practice improves our skill at anything, not because the repetition has any value in itself since, if it did, we could learn our errors as well as our success â€" we might become experts in making mistakes. But, as we persist by trail and error, we gradually make more hits than misses and then comes that wonderful time when our fingers find their own places, without our having to think about them. All because our subconscious minds are sucâ€" cessâ€"oriented mechanisms which are designed to forget our mistakes and only remember our successes. s If this were not so, we would not now be able to walk, talk, or do the thousands of others things we perform automatically. And yet, with all this going for us, what do most of us do? We destroy our selfâ€"confidence by consciously remembering past We condemn ourselves for being adequate, thus making ourâ€" selves failureâ€"conscious, and our selfâ€"confidence disappears. Our doubts are products of our conscious minds. The subconâ€" scious mind has no doubts about anything that is humanly possible. It knows no precedent. That is why you can perform extraordinary feats under hypnotism when only the conscious mind is put to sleep. The thing to remember is this: You can do all these things without being hypnotized, if only you believe. "Oh ye of little faith!" People who lack selfâ€"confidence are those who have never really tested their powers. And a test, to be valid, must be a whole lot more than having tried once or twice. They have forâ€" gotten how many mistakes they made learning to walk and it didn‘t faze them then. So what‘s the difference now? The prescription is simple: There is nothing wrong with making mistakes. We learn from them. And having learned from them, to forget them, and to deliberately remember and picture to yourself your past successes. Relive your past successes. And don‘t dwell on past failures. You‘ll feel a whole lot better about yourself. Geoff Fellows operates the Human Resource Development Institute. Telephone: 623â€"0283. It provides effectiveness trainâ€"â€" ing for business and industry. ; failures and impress them on our minds with emotion. is confidence built on experience? Sofas » Loveseats * Swivel Rockers Reclining Sofas and Loveseats â€" . !oremb.ifmmhg-_"bw!plq_amï¬- YOU WILL when you save up to Tw'â€"'“â€" rtaking, we‘re liable to have less confidence s _ haue nof the ammrance of merees ‘This is true of $1,000 on seiectea PERSPECTIVE QoffpagFlie® E, WEDNESDAY, FEBRUARY 23, 1994 P If you spend time outdoors during the winter mm-mm-dmmpn ‘tures to contend with. If you‘re more inclined to stay Mdm-nbwmhmhms (which has no doubt been pumping like a sonâ€"ofâ€"aâ€"gun ;re is, leaving y;)u; controlled environment Either way, dry, flaky, at this time of year. * But that needn‘t be the case. Because the problem of dry hair and skin in winâ€" ter is mostly the result of a lack of moisture, the soluâ€" tion, in a nutshell, lies in replacing that moisture. And there are several ways of doing that, say some WINTER‘S DRYING EFFEC Increasing moisture key reviving.dry skin and hali tified esthetician A t Duench of Aesthetics by Anastasia in Waterloo. "And it‘s a very common problem with everybody in "It‘s a lack of water in the skin that causes what we the winter." Starting with the basic, Duench recommends a followed at all times, but especially during the winâ€" . Proper cleansing and ter. are vital for winter skir "It‘s important to cleanse and tone the skin," Duench says. "Use a mild cleanser that‘s going to keep the pH balance of your skin. A lot of us are using soaps and things that are very harsh, but soaps strip the defense mechanism that we have in our skin. Without getting too technical, we have something called an acid mantle. It‘s the oil that we produce in our skin that creates a barrier between our skin and the environment. If we use something harsh, creams containing alcohol), we‘re stripping the oil off our skin and we‘re leaving our skin defenseless to the elements." Once the skin is properly cleansed and toned, the application of hydrating creams is a vital step in comâ€" bating dry skin in winter, Duench said. "Use a day cream (women can wear this under their like a soap or something alkaline (such as cleansers or The creams, such as a day cream with an SPF facâ€" tor, protect the skin from the elements and help to retain the skin‘s moisture. But it‘s also important to physically replenish the moisture lost to dehydration. _ "It doesn‘t matter if you‘re outside or inside," Duench says. "Our bodies have a tendency to lose You‘re darned if you do and you‘re darned if you m)uihmsvrm,uuun-mmm and not allow the skin to lose any more Proper cleansing and moisture replenishment are vital for winter skin and haircare. DO YOU WANT A RECLINER:â€" THAT DOESN‘T LOOK LIKE ONE Laâ€"Zâ€"Boy® HAS IT. water. If we don‘t drink enough water in the winter time, the organs in our bodies will draw that water out of our skin. So drinking lots of water is important.. Drink eight glasses of water a day â€" that‘s very. important in winter time." SsBX While steaming the skin will replace moisture, it must be done sparingly for no longer than five minâ€" utes at a time. Anything more could cause further dehydration because the skin‘s natural oil barrier is "dun Recis, cnaonar digese Susan Kachik, owner of of Elegance in Waterloo, offers some simple, budgetâ€"wise home hairâ€" care remedies for dealing with winter‘s wrath. i "Too many times, because _"M of the cold outside and the j heat inside, people get a chapping on the scalp that oisture replenishment _ looks like dandruff but may nd haircare. not be," Kachik says. "The scalp chaps the same way as your hands do. So by putting on oil, it will help to take off the scaling on the scalp." Kachik says mayonnaise treatments are popular for atâ€"home hair care, and suggests that homemade mayâ€" onnaise is very economical and equally effective as storeâ€"bought mayonnaise. “M.nymmiaeilgwdfa'tbohlimdtheremnfnr that is that, again, it is mostly olive oil," Kachik says. "But it also contains eggs, which give the hair lustre. So instead of making a commercial purchase of mayâ€" onnaise, take an egg yolk and beat it up with some olive oil to make your own mayonnaise." _ This treatment should be applied in the same way _ This treatment should h'fl‘h the same way the straight olive oil treatment is applied. Again, the longer it‘s left on, the better. . _ _ PE longer it‘s left on, the better. .â€" . _ 5 Kachik warns against the overâ€"use of commercial cream rinses and conditioners in an attempt to mols~ turize the scalp and hair.~ _ |_ . __ .. _ "Too many people use cream rinses thinking they‘re going to help their hair," she says. "But a cream rins®, basically, is similar to what a fabric softener is. And with overâ€"use, your hair gets very limp. It gets weighted the same way as your laundry would if y9u used too much fabric softener in your wash. And as & (Continued on page 11) CANADA‘S LARGEST ) hae cetse sw "Take olive oil, which is something a lot of people have in their homes, and rub it into the scalp and hair," Kachik says. "You have to put a plastic hat on, and then take a towel (moistened by) hot water and wrap it around your head like a turban. This is a good treatment to do at home â€" perhlpllfa day tg pamper yourself, watc &vgnn or whatever you like to do." There is no time limit to this treatment â€" the longer you leave the treatâ€" ment on your head before shampooing, the better, Kachik ‘says. But any amount of time is better ul ol ht