Adoptive parents fortunate they feel they are lucky ones Oct 17 to 24 is Childrens Aid Week for the 50 Childrens Aid Socreties across Ontario This year the societies will focus their atten tiolrihon helping families ere are currently over 300 families rel in on the su rtive r01 of the Simcoe County Childrens Aid Society ppo In statement made public this week the local society says To continue to think that some races or cultures or creeds are ex empt from knowmg famil upset is to be either naive or blind to what IS happening in socrety to ay ifou can no longer look out of your window and point your finger at famuxes in trouble Without trying to alarm you you could be the next Adoptive parents are not fine people willing to take in the castoffs of society The Joneses have three adopted children as far as Mrs Jones is concerned the parents are the fortunate ones Where would we be if we couldnt adopt she asks But she finds there are still some peo le who consider she and her husband no le people for taking children that nobody wants She finds this particularly true of older people who remember when adoption was secretive thing The Joneses dont hide the fact their children are adopted They introduced the word adoption to their children at an early age and bring the point up from time to time All three children were adopted as infants and Mrs Jones wouldnt want it to come as complete surprise when the child becomes older and starts asking where he and other babies came from Mrs Jones said she and her husband tend to think of their children as being special But then guess all parents think their kids are pretty special she added The couple decided to adopt children for the said Basically its matter of not having any children of our own The idea of adoption had been briefly discussed before they were married but it wasnt until they had been married few years without having children of their own that they began to discuss it seriously When you are adopting you tend to put it off longer Mrs Jones said you decide to wait until youre better off financiallv Finally she made the phone call on her own and the Childrens Aid Society sent social worker to begin the adoption rocess Mrs Jones never had any secon thoughts or doubts about what she was doing and believes any hesitation or doubts anyone might have are dispelled when you are handed your child Right from the moment they handed them to us they were ours Mrs Jones said They are always treated equally and entirely as be ing the couples own If you didnt feel that way you wouldnt be able to go through with adoption Mrs Jones said she had two fears about adoption and they were both dispelled by talking to the Childrens Aid Society social When she first applied for adoption she began buying baby clothes and preparing for the arrival of their child when friends suggested maybe she should wait until their request had been granted Mrs Jones began to have fears that the Childrens Aid Society would not find them an acceptable couple But the social worker said we would have no problems she said She also feared the woman who had the child might decide she wanted it back However all children were wards of the court and there was no way they would be taken away During the first six months after receiving the children social worker visited the Jones home Mrs Jones said she had slight fears the children would be taken away but after talking to her social worker realized the visits are of mutual benefit The social worker was only there to help if needed she said After six months the couple went to court and the adoptions became le al The Joneses chose their ildrens names and after the adoptions were legal they sent away for birth certificates In addition to names the parents may also Childrens Aid Society will try to match color ing and personality as well Mrs Jones said Before the couple decides if they want to adopt particular child they are given case study They are told the childs age and racial ori in and bit of background about the man an woman who had the child such as school ing health ages of death of grand arents and any special inclinations taent for music etc They are not told the man and Womans names and the natural parents do not know who the adoptive parents are Mrs Jones said she would not be hurt if later in life her children asked to know bit more about where they came from Curiosity is natural human instinct she said and she would still feel very much that she is their mother However she said in all honesty she would be hurt if her children tended to reject her and began to insist on knowing exactly who their natural parents are She might show them their case histories but she wouldnt want them to demand on same reason most couples do Mrs Jones worker select their childs sex and age The knowing where their natural parents are Being foster parent involves the ability to accept saying goodbye over and over The hardest part of being foster parent is saying goodbye to the children when it comes time for them to leave The Smiths have been foster parents for two years and in that time have had as many as three foster children living with them at one time But separation is still the har dest thing for them pain ticularly when the child has stayed for an extended period You miss them Mrs Smith said but you tell your self when they come that they will be going Mr Smith agrees parting is most difficult and could be the reason some people are reluc tant to become foster parents But he said you must accept that fact and always keep it in mind WAS HARDER It was much harder before we adopted one of our own he added They recently adopted preschooler The couple became foster parents because they enjoy having children around and never had any of their own They don choose the children they are brought to them by the Childrens Aid Society Some come to wait for their family situation to be repaired parent may have left or there could be problems that need sortingout child may come into care because of an illness in the family Or he may be even tually putupfor adoption The majority return to their homes the Smiths said and some continue to visit their homes while in foster care Many children have passed through the Smith home in two years One stayed for three days another for 10 months When the children come the CAS tries to tell the parents how long the child will be staying But it can be longer or shor ter Mrs Smith said While living with the Smiths the children may call them mom and dad if they want but it is always pointed out that they are not the childrens parents We tell them we are their family while they are here Mrs Smith said and if they want to call us mom and dad they can ADJUSTMENTS Some children change drastically while living with the Smiths Some come in with serious problems that they must work out You have to make few ad justmcnts till you get to know them Mrs Smith said The couple say they havent had any real problems with the children but it takes time for them and the child adapt The couple like to have the children long enough to get to know them The children may be very frustrated the Smiths said and take to deliberate actions such as smashing toys Emotional disturbed children are the hardest to deal with they said Sometimes you wonder exactly what you can do for them said Mr Smith It is hard for you to understand what they are thinking and its hard for you to understand what they are thinking and its hard for them to understand you It is sad kids have always been at the disadvantage of adults he continued The child might be little terror he said but ou have to remember the chi might not know why he has been taken from home He could be the victim of child abuse or he could have serious problem like blaming himself for the breakup of his family Interviews and stories by Sheila McGovern Examiner Staff Writer BAD BOY The Smiths once had young boy who was thoroughly con vinced his parents marriage broke up because he was bad boy While staying with the foster couple he did something wrong and asked Mrs Smith if that meant his foster father would go away too The children are brought to the foster home directly from their own While the social worker does visit the children the foster parents do most of theexplaining The questions come at night when you put them to bed Mrs Smith said or when they have been sitting quietly alone for while The older children will ask when they can go home she said The other problem area is school If theres going to be problems thats where theyre going to show up said Mrs Smit If the children come from within the municipality they attend their regular school But if they are from outside the area they are transferred to the school near the Smith home Some children may be in different school for only three or four months In summing her ideas toward fostering Mrs Smith con cludes see some pretty unhap little people come here but or the while they are here can hear them laughing and giggling again Candidates fume over invitation By PETER DEPODESTA Examiner Staff Reporter Mayor Dorian Parker and Ald Jim Perri were fuming Monday night Neither of the mayoralty can didates in the municipal elec tion were invited to meet with the Barrie Optimist Minor Soc cer League Monday at noon Even though league reps resentatives said all four can didates in the race would be asked to attend Invitations went to two can didates Willard Kinzie and Ald Ross Archer The meeting was held at Eastview Park on Grove Street west to discuss the citys at titude to the minor soccer as sociation and the condition on the Eastviewfield Ald Perri said he was able to attend only because he read story in Saturdays Barrie Ex aminer saying he would be in vited This kind of politicing doesnt deserve he said not finishing the statement It looks like phoney setup held to give more publicity to one or two of the candidates He said the minor soccer association should not become involved in the election by tak ing sides asking only one or two of the candidates to attend meeting Ald Perri said parents with children in the soccer league should be more concerned about the childrens future in the sport than making this political football take it that the minor soc cer association is not interested in my or the mayors opinion he said DEVIOUS MOVE Mayor Parker described the meeting as very devious move on the part of few pee ple who will remain nameless The mayor said she feels slighted by the association didnt know anything about it until this morning when Ald Perri telephoned she said cant very well at tend meeting know nothing about She said she is appalled that the association would tell The Examiner the four can didates would be invited and then only ask two Could it be that our Parker and Perri advice is not needed she asked That we might tell it like it is and they the association may not want to hear that The mayor said she was told Monday night that Tom Delaney of the Barrie City Soc cer team was supposed to invite the candidates guess that should tell me something she said Soccer poor relative league officials say By PAUL DELEAN Examiner Staff Reporter Is soccer the poor relative among sports in Barrie Tom Delaney director of the Barrie City Soccer Club and coach in the minor soccer system thinks so and said so at meeting of soccer and city of ficials and mayoralty can didates Monday afternoon at Eastview Park The meeting was organized by soccer Officials to draw at tention to soccer facilities which they consider inade quate Among those attendin were parks and recreation epart ment director Gary Stoner and superintendent Bill Gross and mayoralty candidates Ald Ross Archer Aid Jim Perri and Willard Kinzie Mr Delaney claimed that money spent on soccer by the city is pittance compared to expenditures on hockey or baseball in spite of the fact that soccer has grown faster than any other activity Weve over 1000 pla ing soccer But they dont thing for us he stated Mr Delane said the Barrie City Club ich plays in the Newmarket and District Soccer League has been threatened with expulsion because of the lack of changing facilities He said officials of the team which plays the top level of soccer in the city were hang ing our hat on this the Eastview field being ready Look at it Theres boulders Sticking out of the ground MAJOR TOPIC The state of the Eastview field was major to ic of discussion Soccer of icials claimed that the field was bad ly flawed The turf they said it not as thick as it should be and numerous rocks are coming to the surface The field planted last year by the city is intended for use nextyear Mr Gross and Mr Stoner ex plained that the fields present state is not indicative of what it will eventually be like The hydromulch system used to seed it needs more time to fill in they said Mr Gross conceded that the ideal time for la ing down the field would have en the mid dle weeks of September instead of just before the snow last year As result of the delay the field wont be ready until later on in the soccer season Were be ing theyll stay off until the en of June he said The field might be ruined if played on prematurely Mr Delaney said he wanted to see the city spending money to get this field ready or play in the spring Mr Stoner said there were 10 other organizations that can give reasons why the money should be spent on them Ald Perri suggested that the soccer officials sit down with officials from the recreation department and have re alistic discussion as to re quirements and possible im provements in soccer facilities In the city MORE FIELDS According to Henry Ver straten president of the Barrie Optimist Minor Soccer League more fields are definitely among the requirements He suggested one be developed at Sunnidale Park The improvements pro include moving baseball screens at Codrington and Johnston fields to make the fields more compatible for soc cer the 715mm Examiner The Barrie Examiner Tuesday October l9 l9769 10 years marked with Open house The Georgian Bay Regional Library System CHRIS is 10 years old this year and is marking the occassion with an open house at its Morrow Road headquarters GBRLS is one of 15 regional libraries in the province and serves 05 smaller libraries in Simcoe Grey Bruce and Duf ferin counties The library acts central clearing house for all libraries in the area and provides ser vices which smaller libraries could not normally afford It maintains two teletype systems The first system is closed system involving the six largest libraries if one library needs book it sends out message on the teletype and it is picked up immediately by the otherfive If the larger libraries dont have the book the regional library will use the second teletype system to notify the national library in Ottawa Janet Arnett of the GBltlS said the library will go all over Canada and the United States to locate book or information drawing from other public libraries or from university it STELLA BACCILLERI staff member at the Georgian Bay Regional Library Systems head quarters on Morrow Road prints few of the promo libraries The GBRIS also rovides services to smaller ibraries such as duplicating sign making rinting of bookmarks and booitlists and loans of equipment Smaller libraries can draw on supply of over 2000 16mm films projectors talking or large print books and foreign language books The GBRLS also maintains courier delivery system to all libraries which works faster thanthe mail Smaller libraries can use the regional library to obtain old books the larger libraries do not want There are also number of professional ublications the librarians may orrow Throughout the week li brarians from the Georgian Bay region will be attending workshops at the headquarters They will also have the op rtunity to buy paperback oks at 25 cents each to ex pand their collections The GBRLS is subsidizing the book purchases to help the smaller libraries which operate on tight budgets tional aids the regional library supplies to smaller libraries The regional library prints posters bookmarks pamphlets and booklists Examiner Photo rson to realize the value in calli or assistance The Childrens throu guidance and possibly lacin perio It can also create fami ng your local Childrens Aid Society id Society can help re air family in trouble chil ren in foster home for through adoption The families are real and live within Simcoe County The names have been changed THE FAMILY unit has always been vital part of society For many families like the above home is hap py place for sharing and warmth During Aid Week Oct 17 to 24 the gt Childrens Aid Society is ask ing the public to focus its at tention on the family par Childrens ticularly ones in need where life is not happy or smooth Examiner Photo by Rolf Kraiker Ford doesnt have better idea Owners of rusty Fords arent getting such good deal says Paul Bassett of Barrie Mr Bassett who bought 1972 Meteor Rideau new ex pected Ford Motor Co to pay for the rusting on his car Last month Ford reached settle ment with Ontario Ford owners which allowed for as much as $300 from Ford for rusted car Ford acknowledged that the rusting problems in 197074 Fords stemmed from use of highimpurity content metals Five Ford owners launched class action on behalf of all On tario Ford owners in April That suit was for $371 million and the owners figure the set tlement will cost Ford $3050 million But Ford officials dont agree with that estimate and Mr Bassett agrees When he called for information about his car he found that repairing rust damage to his car was going to cost him lot MUST SIENI$100 Mr Bassett said that instead of being granted up to $300 for repairs he has to spend at least $400 before Ford kicks in pen ny Arnold Hirsch of Ford public relations in Oakville con firmed this Mr Hirsch said that if Ford owner approaches the company with rusty car that fits the term of the settlement the car will be assessed by Ford representative There is minimum damage assessment for each year For 1970 $600 71 $500 73 $400 73 $300 and 74 $200 For any rust damage above this es timate Ford will pay half the cost of repair up to $300 Or Ford will provide the car owner with certificate for $300 against the purchase of new Ford car That means that in Mr Bassetts case if Ford assesses the damage at $410 he pays $4051 and Ford pays $5 To get the maximum of $300 out of Ford Mr Bassetts car would have to be assessed at $900 and he would have to pay $600 of that says owner of rusty $300 ISNT UCH cant see too many people trying to get their cars re aired on those terms sai Mr Bassett The alternative the $300 certificate isnt much when put against $6000 car especially when my car isnt gomg to be worth much as rade since its all rusty Mr Bassett has another en tan lement with his car When he ought it he had it rust proofed for about $150 That rustproofing carries PAUL BASSEIT doesnt think owners of rusty Fords are gettin very good deal He feels surface rust on guarantee but Mr Bassett says he doesnt feel many rust proofing companies will honor such guarantee when Ford admits responsibility for the problem However rustproofing com panies say they will honor their guarantees no matter what Ford says Allan Bell of Ziebart rustproofing Toronto leading rustproofer says the potential of rticular car to rust is ris the company takes spokesman for Vital Automotive Systems Toronto the company that rustproofed Mr Bassetts car agrees But that companies guarantee only covers rustthrough of body panel not seam DOESNT FIT Mr Bassetts car is rusting mostly around the seams so he doesnt fit into the rust proofers guarantee 0n the other hand it isnt rusting as much as other Fords that werent rustproofed Mr Bassett had his car assessed by Ford represen tatives and they told him his car was in great condition for its age But thats only because had my car rustproofed he said his 1972 Meteor is problem but because of the limita tions of Fords settlement He found another problem He took his car to dealer and found that it would be valued at about $900 as tradein in im maculate condition with 50000 miles on it So the way look at it if hadnt spent $150 for rust proofing my car would now be rusted enough to fit Fords pro gram But even if it was rusted enough probably wouldnt 7Mete or with Ford owners he will be getting nothing from the company Examiner Photo take advantage of the scheme because it would cost me so much anyways said Mr Bassett think lot of people are go ing to end up feeling the same way as me because they werent really told the details The settlement looked pretty good but when you get to the details you dont get too much out of it LOCAL GENERAL EUCHRE NIGHT STBOUD The Goodfellow Interested Parents Association will hold euchre night at 730 tonight in the Goodfellow School gym Admission is $150 and there will be door prize and refreshments MISSIONARY SPEAKS Dr Cyril Powles of Toronto former missionary to Japan will speak on questions facing todays missionaries at seminar tonight at pm at St Georges Anglican Church on Burton Avenue The seminar is sponsored by the Barrie and District Ministerial Associa tion FURNACE FIRE The Barrie Fire Department had an early morning furnace fire to contend with Monday The fire at Wrights Cleaners at 103 Bayfield St caused no damage but Chief Jack Mc Allister said the furnace will need some attention SCOTTISH SHOW Tickets are available now for the Breath of Scotland show Friday Oct 29 at in Georgian College eatre Featured performers are Ron nie Coburn Eddie Rose Sandra Wright Joss Esplin Margaret Anderson Blanche McInnes and Billy Marshall The show is sponsored by the Lovate Camp of the Sons of Scotland Tickets cost $350 and they can be ob tained by phoning 7283048 7281999 4167752957 or Sm4780