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This happy group of Mello Blends competed on the weekend at the annual inter national convention and com petition of Harmony lnc held at the Symphony Hall Springfield Mass Twenty seven choruses competed We moved up from last years 16th place so we were happy group of ladies says Marg Booth in charge of publicity for the Mello Blends The group of 27 under director Marge Dre ver presented Back in Those Days Gone By and Grand HAPPY GROUP OF MELLO BLENDS LEAVE FOR COMPETITION mas Boy wearing blue flap per dresses and silver ac cessories Choruses were judged on sound stage presence interpretation of songs and arrangement The Mello Blends placed 8th in stage presence their highest individual score Mrs Booth said Examiner Photo Confidentiality of adoption discussed many opinions heard at meeting of GAS By IALI DELIIAN IIaiiiiiierStaff Iteportcr The confidentiality of adop tion should it be relaxed or maintained The question was put to the board of the thildrcns Aid Society of tho tounty of Simcoe Tuesday and it made for sometimes impassioned often divergent expressions of opi iiion The subject arose vlieii social worker Dana lills summarized report submitted to the ministry of community and social services on the issue The report had been commis sioned by the goveiniiient from group of citizens Its purpose was to provide an opinion as to desirable legislation in the mat ter of adoption confidentiality Mrs Illl said the iiiiiiistrys goal was to fashion uniform policy oii the matter while pro tecting all three parties biological parents adoptive paretits and the adopted children Its being done outside the society now Ireunionsi think the ministry would prefer to see it done from within than Without sht said The report that the group submitted suggests more open policy than that cur rently in use Among other things it recommends that central registry be set up in Toronto where persons could send in their name saying they would like informat ion If an adoptee or parent or brother or sister wanted to make contact and both iii dicated as much to the central registry then contact could he organized through medi ator Above the mediator at the registry would be three person paiiel to arbitrate the more controversial reunions or requests SlllhlllSTATEMENT Adults requesting meeting would be expected to submit statement as to why its con sidered essential and very special circumstances such as biological arents seeking to find child they had given up would go before the panel said Mrs Mills Mrs Mills said the report also suggests that ntarios 50 bildrens Aid Societies no longer give assurances to bi ological or adoptive parents that there will never be contact with the other ariy The worlt is changing Good fight necessary says workshop coleader TURUNII itfi good fight between marriage part ners every now and then is nec essary says ltcv Bill Sparling coleadcr of communication workshop for iiiarricil couples clarifies issues if you work at it right and allows un dcilying emotions to be ex pressed be said Fighting is tough Passions are so in volvtd Part of the workshob concert tratcs on teaching couples how to light fairly And how people fight has lot to do with who the opponent is ltcv Sparling said liitliiiati cutzines troriumitly have plJItJIIttl aim for thi cmotional jugular marital counsellors say laicnts fight with their ffIllI drtn lritnds fight with fricti Is One of the toughest fights to pick and win is light Allll your boss personnel experts say fln boss has all the poicr ILLUSHUNIIIIIIIULIC Picking lights or arguments amount to pastime for some peoplc Almost everyone knows somelxidy who has what the French call the contradictory spirit llieyd sooner argue thaneat Others fear fight and will go to almot any lengths to avoid conflict Elizabeth tohnen of thc YWtA IilII offers about 12 courses in assertiveness train ing said People are afraid they hurt other peoples fecl iiigs or lose friendship Sonic are afraid theyll be rejected by another person If they tell it IIIKLI It IS Women have tougher time learning to fight clean shr said Society teaches women to be passive Worritn try manipula tion to win an argument Ihcy rc taught to b4 coy or to use tears Dr John Jameson Toronto psychiatrist who uses asscr tivcniss training techniques said the method wont always ensure youll come out Winner in every fight but people will feel better by saying what they think instead of denying or hid ing IINIT true Icllirigs EMPLOY Fit IINIQI FLS Theres no foolproof way to win every argument The most you can do is employ fTIiiln techniques that Will elicit oples tooperation and aring for your point of vin He said the qutckmu way to lose an argument is to get rude tracked into peripheral mom1i usually emotionally charged that end up in hassle with the original issue still left up in the air Dont bring up the past said Mr Sparling fight for some people is permission to bring up all the things that ever happened Some people delve down into arsenals of past hurts and sling them at the other per son The marital arena is often the scene of dirty fighting he said Dont go into insults or blame because it alienates the other person and doesnt deal with the real issue SIIIIIIHIJC IIIIIIIS Mr Sparling advises mar riagt partners to pick their mo intiits It sounds silly but some couples actually schedule their fights That way they can confront their disagreements in quiet hours without other dis tractionsorirritations There are unreasonable people iii the world Dr laiiicson said You may haVc sane wise logical suggestion but if someone doesnt want to accept it theres no way you are going to get them to do what you want The experts offered several tips on how to conduct fight with an eye to victory Know what you want to say Marshal your arguments Refitarse with friend Stick to the point Dont make two poin ts at once Look your best Keep eye contact rlatter the other guys ego Stand up move around Dont raise your voice Dont name call Take deep breaths Dont cry If your hands shake dont smoke Talk fast Know when to how out If things get violent duck INN WEAIIS SHOES POINT PLACE hio tAPi Beau Impound St Bernard has become the proud owner of custornmadt pair of black shoes which lace up the front Mrs Mary Bilgcr said Beaus veterinarian recommended the shoes to help arrest an infection on the dogs paws They are in tended to prevent Beau from licking his paws LUVIJSDANUFIII MONIItIZAI CIi More than 40 swimmers with taste for danger donned wetsuits and snorktls and braved the miles of rapids in the St Law rence at Lacliinc The verdict of Marielle Penneton one of three women in the group It wars minautiful said Mrs Mills and more adopted persons are seeking and succeeding in making con tact with their biological relatives Following her presentation was discussion period and the reactions of the directors werevaried Several objected to the com cept of central registry on the grounds that it represented another provincial bureauc racy and conferred very little responsibility on the individual societies which could be ex pected to have better under standing of cases under their jurisdiction ne director wondered how much the new concern for roots had been precipitated by the media Some learn enough theyre sorry they bothered he commented PLAYING GOD Playing God was tiow one director labelled the idea of de nying reunion We played God in the original case why not later responded another Concern was expressed that the loss of anonymity might reduce the number of adoptive parents Others disagreed We have all kinds of adopt vie arents its foster parents we iave troble getting was one com nient As adults tdefined as III in the report think its their right to decide Society decided for them when they were kids said Rev Ken Iurdon IvT aw at humm nursery Niagara thought so because Niagara knows lot about peo Lcigh Neillc needed nursery Val Brucker wondered about the expense of opening registry Wh has this come out at time en cutbacks in spending mean the situation is not good and doesnt seem to be improv ing One director said he agreed with the report provided the desire for contact was mutual and that only adults were in volved Still the report created enough impact and divergence of opinion that the board agreed to study it further and take up the discussion again at the next meeting The Simcoe County CAS like the others in Ontario had been asked to submit questionnaire with its opinions about the report Because of the early November deadline for respon ding the CAS staff had filled one in on behalf of the local agency indicating however that it was an interim report and subject to amendment by the board of directors ex plairied Mrs Marilyn Hamilton REASONABLE The response as expresschat interim report was that the county society doesnt find the report threatening to confiden tiality possibly finds it too restricting but in general con siders it reasonable solu tion It said it was concerned that the pnacl might be slow and no 44 lt 93 too Thats plcs needs We also know lot about money Ilints our business at Niagara Mortgage money money for new car money for home improvements for your childs education or if youre like Leigh Neillc money to welcome the newest litmus Mortgages Sales financing IAB Money in action cumbersome and wondered how sensitive it might be to the individual situations It was also concerned with the cen tralityof the setup The Simcoe County CAS in dicated that it has been in con tact with biological parents for adult adoptees in certain cases has been sharing non identifying information with adoptivc parents and adult adoptces as requested has been sharing nonidentifying in formation with children pro vided the ado tive parents agree to it an has provided some news to biological families about the progress of their child who has been adopted We hope with an increas ingly open society the secrecy and anonymity of the past will be relaxed thereby clini inating many problems it con eludes PEOPLE AND PLACES GUELPII VISITORS Mr and Mrs Reg Arlen and children of Guelph visited on the weekend with Mr and MrsPaul Stunden and family ANNIVERSARY Mr and Mrs Joseph Mercier of Oro Station celebrated their 54th wedding anniversary Nov 15 They enoyed an evening out with their aughter Norma and soninlaw Lyle Stewart HOLLAND TRIP Mr and Mrs Peter Langeryt of 327 Little Ave returned home from fourweek vaca tion in Holland This was the first time they visited their homeland together in 24 years JUSTMARRIEI Lynn Northrope of Port Sydney formerly of Barrie was married Oct 30 to Frank Winterbottdm in Knox United Church Port Sydney 60TH ANNIVERSARY Mrs Mary Pennock Nancy and Rosemary of 110 Cumberland Ave drove to Toronto for the 60th anniver sary of Mr and Mrs Percy Pennock 20 Gamble Ave Toronto CHRISTMAS PARTY An evening of ames contest singsongs will featured at the annual Christmas party held by members of the Huronia and district 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