OPPORTUNITY SALE The Royal Victoria Hospital Auxiliary is holding an op portunity sale April at the Barrie Armoury There will be clothing books games household items treasures baking as well as snack bar handicrafts and other items Here Mary Bailey ANN LAN DERS Majority regret having children Dear Ann Landers was shocked when read that 70 per cent of the people who responded to your survey said they were sorry they had children How is the world do you explain this Stunned In San Jose Dear Stunned The best explanation appeared in wire story by Seth Mydans Here is an abbreviated version When advice columnist Ann Landers asked her readers If you had it to do over again would you have children 70 per cent said No Miss Landers said in phone interview Gran tedthe negatives have stronger compulsion to write than the affirmatives even so was amazed by the number of people who wrote to confess that having children was not worth the trouble number of psychiatrists equally surprised by the re sponse telephoned Miss Landers to ask what she made of it She quoted Dr Harcharan Sehdev Director of the Childrenz Division of the Menninger Foundation in Topeka Kan He said The Landers letter appear to reflect the general changing tren ds and opinions of family systems and the place of children in our homes and society He added It is myth that Americans love their children We would like tobelieve it is true but such is not the case Dr Sehdev cited history of child labor child abuse and the underfunding of childrens aid programs Boston Globe newspaper columnist Diane White reacted to the Landers response saying We seldom hear any parents we know speak out against having children which is perfectly understandable People dont like to talk about their mistakes Miss Landers said her negative mail fell roughly into three categories letters from older parents whose children ignore them younger people concerned about overpopulation and parents with children who find parenthood interferes with their lifestyles Among those letters Miss Landers ran in her column Too Late For Tears mother of two children under eight in Tam pa wrote was an attractive fulfilled career woman before had these kids Now Im an exhausted shreiking nervous wreck The children took all the romance out of our marriage Im too tired for sex conversation or anything else Sad Story in New York 70yearold mother of five wrote Not one of our children has given us any pleasure God knows we did our best But we were failures as parents and they are failures as people Miss Landers said one reason for the disillusionment may be that some people enter parenthood with unrealistic ex pectations Everybody loves cute little baby but nobody wants teenager who shoplifts or gets hooked on drugs And then Miss Landers added when parents find them selves financially strapped with unexpected bills are no longer able to take romantic vacations and have to stay up all night with sick kids they ask themselves Who needed this Seth Mydans recapped it very neatly in my opinion CONFIDENTIAL to Whats the Secret Its no secret The best way to feel fit and look well is to work at something you en joy eat balanced diet get plenty of restand exercise and stay away from booze and cigarettes Dont be like the 90yearold man who moaned feel rotten If had known was going to live so long Id have taken better care of myself Presbyterian WMS has March meeting Mrs Barbara Bylaard welcomed nine members of Essa Road Presbyterian WMS to her home 82 Nernick Drive March 17 With president Victoria Hamilton in the chair the meeting opened with spring decorating Worship was taken by Bylaard and Spring Minutes were read and roll call taken by the secretary with Isobel Church giving the treasurers report Cor respondence included letter introducing the new Presbyterial secretary for adult groups Mrs Alice Roberts of Midland Donations of material for the Ark Eden Home for Retarded were left with Mrs Hamilton Members will plan for the spring thank offering meeting which will be held in the Church Hall on Tuesday April 20 at 800 pm Guest aker for that oc casion will Mrs Dr Boutros formerly of Egypt The March mission study was led by Isobel Church and was presented in the form of film strip with commentary by Rev Malcolm of the Board of World Mission entitled 100 years until Now This showed the progress of the Presbyterian church in Taiwan since the arrival of the first missionary Rev George Leslie McKay until the present time Following discussion Mrs Church closed with prayer convener and Betty Murray publicity chairman for the auxiliary set up for the sale Examiner Photo Fourteen graduates of painting and decorating course operated in rillia by Georgian College in co operation with the Federal Department of Manpower and Immigration received certificates recently at the colleges West Street cam sopfa QIZCZ rants SORORITY BARBIE Election of of ficers was held at the recent meeting of Zeta Lambda Chapter of Beta Sigma Phi at the home of Mrs Bessie Cheshire 67 Marshall St President Doris De Vries vicepresident Elaine Finch treasurer Mary Kirk recor ding secretary Lorraine Savino corresponding secretary Lillian Standing Ci ty council representative Bessie Cheshire and Renate Heskamp surprise baby shower was given for Mary Kirk who recently had baby MINESING The Minesing Il HI Club met at Mrs Jack Downeys home for their 4H meeting March The project is Cotton Review At the meeting preparing for altera tions pressing darts and scams were discussed The group work was staystitching and getting the pattern ready for fitting SINGLE AGAIN BARBIE Bruce Gennings social service supervisor with the Ontario Ministry of Com munity and Social services will speak March Zi at the Single Again sessions sponsored by the Family Life Association Starts at 730 MERRY WIDOW BARBIE Georgian College presents The Merry Widow March 25 26 and 27 at the College Theatre Jim John stone of Alliston Connie PEOPLE AND PLACES Hodges and Geoff Reid of Barrie star in the play SEMINAR BARBIE Shirley Holcomb program coordinator for the Georgian Bay Lung Association will lead seminar Apriltt at the Holiday Inn in Orillia The seminar is sponsored by the Health Sciences Division of Georgian College MENUS BARBIE Entertaining with Ease is the demon stration March 30 at the Con sumer Gas Building Susan Blanch home supervisor will demonstrate plan ahead menus Starts at 730 in the Blue Flame Boom WELCOME WAGON BARBIE The Welcome Wagon engaged girls party is set for March 30 at pm at the Holiday Inn Girls interested in attending should call Carol Wallis 7262454 for invitations EASTER BARBIE Mrs Mc Mullen will give an Easter egg decorating demonstration April at the Barrie Libary DIABETIC MEET BARBIE The Huronia and District branch of the Canadian Diabetic Association will hold the monthly meeting Wed nesday March 24 at pm at the Be conference room of the Royal Victoria Hospital Speaker Kay Kirk GEORGIAN GRAI UATES pus The 16week course in cluded instruction on the use of various paints such as oil based latex and enamel the use of brushes rollers and spray equipment and worxl staining and wallpaper ing Aspects of personal safety and the use of scaf folding were also covered Iack Ilcpworth operator of Northland Decorating in Orillia was the course in structor Jim rutcher trightt anada Manpower tentrc rillia discusses Womens Institute has spring session The Simcoe Kempenfelt District Womens Institute held its spring session at the coop board room March 16 Plans were made to have the district annual convention at Ivy Orange Hall on May 11 The theme will be Preserving our Cultural Heritage The educa tion and cultural activities convener will present their che que for Pennies for Friendship and also answer the Roll Call Way of Preserving our Cultural Heritage There will also be collection for pennies for friendship Stroud WI will set up needlepoint display Mrs Joe Walters will be delegate to the national con ference at Charlottetown PEI in June Criaghurst and Guthrie Institutes donated pot holders and place mats in ap propriate WI colors to be sent to the gift shop at the FWIC Convention It was voted that the district presidents run for three year term in order to co ordinate with the national con vention The area convention will be held in Orillia on Nov and and the next board meeting will be Oct Mrs Marg Hennessy FWIO Board Member spoke briefly She said that next year will be the 80th Anniversary of the founding of Womens In stitute and it will call for more celebrations WI week at the Erland Lee Home is May 30 to June Royal Commission on violence meeting will be held at the Steel Workers Hall Gill Street Orillia March 31 at 730 pm Teacher gives spinning course FULFOBD HARBOR BC CP large piece of rush matting covers the ground out side the wool shed and eight spinners sit as if in fairy tale making yarn from mounds of raw wool around them From the rafters and out on fence hang skeins of wool handspun and already dyed to fruity shades from the herbs barks and berries the spinners gather Liliane Johnson takes eight students for two weeks of classes an immersion into wools spinning dying and weaving Her farm is on 14 acres of land near this small harbor on Saltspring Island in Georgia Strait between the mainland of British Columbia and Vancouver Island The class is limited to eight and have eight spinners and employment opportunities with graduates James Tunir ingham Stroud Kenneth Iloughton ookstowrr Daniel MacKcigan Barrie and Mark Valiquctte Ilawkcstonc thorgian Tol lcge Photo First marriage and five kids new mother is back at school TORONTO tCIl After twentysix years of marriage and five children 50yearold Margaret Irwin is hitting the books Not content with taking up some type of leisure activity this softspoken gracious suburban housewife decided her brain was rusting and the challenge of university beckon ed This spring Mrs Irwin will graduate with BA And after three years absorbing such sub jects as natural sciences psychology and philosophy she is contemplating going into graduate studies at York University to pursue masters degree in social work She and her husband married at the end of the Second World War Mrs Irwin had been laboratory technician during the war years and was not able to attend university Their children range in age from 16 to 24 and Mrs Irwin regarded her role as mother and wife as most important and fulfilling Her husbands sales business demanded that he travel across BARRIE DENTURE CLINIC count 01 Complete Denture Service 726472 l05 Dunlop St Member Denturist SocietyOf Ontario Tanada great deal so in the last 25 years they have lived in Vancouver Windsor Ont Montreal and Toronto STAYED AT HOME Mrs Irwin met the respoir sibilities of transient family by staying home because she felt the children should at least have the stability of one parent at home fulltime She says her belief in home responsibilities has paid off Iler children are well on the road to making lives for themselves and she has wonderful sound marriage But about four years ago she began to worry about her own future What would she do when the flock had flown Ilow could she translate her enriching ex pcricnce as wife and mother into something rewarding in her middle years She read about counselling for women who were cxperiene ing midlife uncertainties Of fered by local community college the course was to open doors that Mrs Irwin never before considered chose university not for the degree so much as to beef up my mind she said in an in terview At first when told the family my idea felt sclfconscious and quite afraid FAMILY UNDERSTOOI But her family was sup portive and understanding so the challenge was minimiz od When you return to school you have an entirely different approach You have life ex arience when youre my age ut it certainly points up how differently we think compared to young people Mrs Irwin was the oldest stu dent in her class At first it came as quite shtick but in no time at all the young students who are the same age as my children welcomed me into their circle She managed to draw up fourvday timetable so that she had one day Friday to herself for shopping and cat chingup Believe me when you reach CUSTDM MADE 9318 We Britts Studio Total Decorator and Coordinating Services Choose from an outstanding selection of excellent quality materials and patterns from Canadas finest suppliers Personal sorvico on large or small enqtunes Tracking and installation as required Phone tots Ittlillltlftth or drop in to the Studio RR1 Hwy 93 at Crown Hill Only Miles North of Barrie 50 studies are harder to absorb so figured Id need extra time It meant cutting down on social activities and my housekeeping standards arent what they us ed to be but Im doing the best Ican BENEFICIALTO FAMILY Mrs Irwin believes her fulltime student status has been beneficial to her children eight Salish looms said Mrs Johnson She was born in Belgium and moved to 80 after seven years of working as costume designer at the Banff School of Fine Arts also have guest instructors who come in for one dav each Tubs in front of the shed are filled with snowberries Oregon grapes yarrow and Queen Annes lace Two hot plates hold simmering pets that emit strange smells to blend with the aroma of lanolin and other sheep smells in the raw fleece We mostly use wool from New Zealand Its totally dif ferent from the local wool It has long silky fibre due to different diet and climate It is also cleaner due to dif ferent methods of handling sheep BC sheep breeders cater to meat not wool Mrs Johnson finds that almost everything in nature yields color and almost never the color of the face it offers to the world Every dye bath is surprise The fungus and mushroom family gives dyes of whole spectrum of color Lichen pro duces many greens and browns yellow color lurks in the secret cells of surprisingly large number of herbs and flowers including Queen Annes lace Wild berries such as salal blueberries and blackberries are also good sources of color metallic salt called morlt dant allows the wool to accept the dye color instead of resisting it The Indians used urine as mordant and Mrs Johnson has tried that as well For city dwellers who lack access to roadside weeds and fields local supermarkets are the answer Beets give beige color and red cabbage dyes W001 pale blue to lavender Frozen berries also work but fresh fruit gives better color Art is my first love par ticularly textiles says Mrs Johnson who lives on the farm with her husbaan John and two daughters Suzanne and Catherine went to art school in Belgium paint weave and pot do mostly offloom weav ing because want to weave creatively like painting Its very relaxing ALORIESADDED VANCOUVER Tlt The heavy syrup in canned fruits doesnt affect the nutritive value but does influence the calories the health department of British Columbia says because of the added sugar nc cup of waterpack peaches contains 66 calories while cup of sugarpack peaches has 174 calories MAELLA FABRICS BOUCLAIR ST RETCH SEWING COURSES Bosic Advonced Mens Wear Lingerie 35 E550 Rood 72860l2 DEPARTMENT OF RECREATION PUBLIC SKATING WINTER BREAK DUNLOP mm ARENA mono MARCH 22 morn MARCH 26 TIMES 130 300 pm EASTVIEW ARENA MONDAY MARCH 23 THURSDAY MARCH 25 TIMES 130 300 pm MR ANI MRS BLACKWELL Couple exchange vows at St Marys Saint Marys Roman Catholic Church Barrie was the scene January 17 when Rosemarie Wick and Paul Gilbert Blackwell exchanged marriage vows Rev John OBrien officiated The bride is the daughter of Mr and Mrs George Wick of Barrie and the groom is the son of Dr and Mrs Gilbert Leeds Blackwell of Bradford The bride wore gown of lace with an embroidered bodice with round neckline chiffon sleeves full chiffon skirt and train The gown had sheer oke and sleeves She carried uquet of peach sweetheart roses and babys breath Maidofhonor was Gail Gander of Bradford Bridesmaids were Barbara Blackwell Sandra Enwright Debbie Tomizza and Karen Gander all of Bradford They wore peach jersey dresses matching jackets with peach malibu fur around collar and cuffs and they carried nosegays of peach carnations peach roses and daisies and babys breath Best man was Ron James of Bradford Ushers were Peter Blackwell Bill Kristman Bill Enwright Brian Stewart all of Bradford Reception was held at the Embassy Hall For the honeymoon the bride wore black three piece pant suit and white shirt with black and white accessories and white gardenia corsage The newlyweds will live in Barrie Out of town guests were from Burlington Edmonton London Ontario Midland Montreal Parry Sound Toronto and Munich Germany Buy safe bike for your child Selecting that first bicycle for child can be problem par ticularly when there are so many types to choose from Iiere are some tips to keep in mind from the Ontario Safety League First be sure that the bicycle you are about to buy fits cor rectly Too many parents work on the assumption that the child will grow into the bike This is dangerous practice For com fort safety and easy handling the bike operator should be able to touch ground with the balls of both feet while sitting on the seat Make sure too that the child can reach the hand grips without stretching The Ontario Safety League recommends coaster brakes for children rather than hand brakes Toasted Sesame Onion Toasted Bun 347 Boyfield $1 Barrie 728 094i