.1']m@ I rrA A mis& 9 -famies needto talé abo JThnafamily knows how to talk -.and flsten tu1 each other, YVIoo.and drug problenis are less Iikely 10 develo0p. Bcing able t say what's on your mind, ini a positive, construetiv e man- ner - that's what coutins. Thc.n ifs easier t0 preveii bw iolvý problerris. Thspyoucando iSuppose you deleci a family probleni about alcohoi drugs,. Yo u think. "Ifs limie for us tlk about dhii." Wail - until ev~ons calai. Then sit down togeliler'10 diacuss tlio-prblein. 2 Who should take part in the *discuision? Include ev4ryone in die ~famuiy who's touched by the problents.. 32 Each person should have the chance la Sive Ilicir opinions wiîhout Jbeing intemipted. And try.lb make sure Ihere aren't any distractions 10 sideîrack the discussion. AIl's nol juil whal you say.,but how you say it. For jpgtance, you miy y 'claim'you ar;nrt angry. But if your fists ame cleuiched and youre e houuing. nobody wilI believe you. Be sure yeur tone and body lan- guage arm consistnt with your words. FsuA~iw, DERI;lAN pmumm.uso.u Milton * ~*fle«~W. $par Precision DWrtHc LmvMumwooa 1Orkt~v Hospita Milton. 80 De"7 no" B"i 876-4000 878-2M8 ~t alcohol &-ot.her drugs *51ave the facts aihand. Il cmhep f yure ablîo backup wha 'e Jyou say be refemrng tu specific ti.nis or issuesi. 6 Questioqp which cam bc answered juil "yes* or "eno" usually don't VIcad anywhere. Ask the. kind of questlýi which wilI necd a longer reply. ThWî way. you iay gel a discussioni gbing which could help soive the problem. 1.. 7 1ryto recopize everybody aise's points oÀ'icw. If it's unclisar, asK 7the person 10 explain il another way. Then. when you* do understand, feed iltibck tothis pers on sotheY know. Q ouonthe behaviour that's aproblem radlier tha" nidcking Soerai (Ioénsabout dit peià,t's persoality 9 Avoid taking down 10 people. Try-o create an ahnosphere in whch ai ly inbers feel they're partnets in solvingthe probern. Roinmmber, iî's impOr"t tu listen. 1O Problens usually can't bc resolved ov~e might or in one sit'ting. 10Continue the dialogue on¶A seguWa bésis ,until you've reached a solution1 ZAJ< PATEL; D.Sc.Pti. - -1g*n It *10% end»ar OibCowt Phb l N. uSrlkk 1508l.t"Ave. 878Md2424m miltn pialton Popl 1878-11 2C >Vith wbi pruéî or cbil mhay b.il bcmod"m *vo"e with n . orCihbudPbt The aoyal- Canadian Liegio lié.U.gDw. st78LUfOOSt - ut * O0U l.l0 -m lm uq qs s« ma"" f or U? i -~~ ~~ uusN.U O.ht- *1