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16-LThe Canadian Charion. Tuesday, i . If you have any questions these professionals can answer, please write to: "Ask The Professionals" c/o The Canadian Champion 191 Main Street E. Milton, Ontario L9T 4N9 or Fax te: 878-4943 B.A., B.S.W., M.S.W., C.S.W., DtP. SOC. ADM. Counselling & Psychotherapy Individuals, Couples, Children & Families Elayme M. Tanner 11084, 5th Line, Milton, Ontario (905) 854-0801 Q: 1 seem to hie unable to hold on to relationahipa. Why la it that my "1perfect other" (glrlfriends mmd boyfrienda) always turu out to be jerks? Q: We have adopted a 3 year oid son but bie seems so angry and hoatile. Any suggestions? Aà: Although these questions seem very différent the answer may be the samne. Starting in thc very firat months of life, the most important psychological thing that is happen- ing in baby is Uic development of trust. For Uiis to happen, the primary caregiver must be cmnotionally available to respond appropriatcly and Ieyingly to baby's needs. If Uic baby is cry- ing, the caregiver must be able to make baby feel better. No matter why baby is crying, a part of what makes baby feel better is thc security of baving bis or lier needs met by sameane Uiat baby recognizes and feels safe wiUi. In thit way baby develops a sente of security, trust, and safety. Tflese attributes arc Uic nccssary comerstones for Uic developmcent of sclf-cstccm and confidence. At Uic samne time, baby is also forming an attacbment ta Uic individual uit is pro- viding Uic care. Althougb Uic -caregiver does flot always bave ta bie Uic samne persan, there sbould be consistency ta Uiat baby developa Uic sense Uiat Uic people hie or she bonds ta, wiIl not disappear from bis or bier hie. In oUier words, a few caregivers, sncb as a loving moUicr, fatbcr, and consistent day care provider arc alright but a motber who is emotionally unavail- able (maybe due to illness, depression, alcohol, etc.) or multiple baby sitters or foster bomes, will resuit in a distrustflul person wbo is oflen angry, hostile, suspiefous and disappointcd wiUi hie. As an adult, Uiis person may also use what we catI "black and white Uiinking" wbicb means Uiat Uiey sec people or Uiings and as aIl good until somcUiing goes wrong and Uien Uicy are seen as aIl bad. So, inconsistent parenting, neglect, or many separations from parental fig- ures are ail tbings Uiat may bave made thc twa people in aur questions Uic way they are now. Milton, Mail -0! OntarloeSt. Tony To. Wan. BSc,D.D.S (905) 876-1188 Dental Development - What to expect when Your child's first teeth help themn ta leam ta eat and speak properly. They alto hold the space open for permanent teetb, guide themn into position and help the jaw find its correct alignmnent. Primary teetb (baby teetb) camne inta the mouth at different times but usually start 6 to 8 months after birth. The lower front teeth (incisars) are the first, generally fol- lowed by the upper front teeth. On average, yaur child' will have a full set of primary teeth by the time they reach two and a haîf years. A full set cansists of 20 teeth: 8 incitors, 4 canines, and 8 molars. You may sec spaces between your child's baby teeth and this is normal. Cbildren with spaces are lest likely ta need braces when they get aIder. Permanent teeth begin to erupt araund yaur child's sixth birthday. By the twelfth birthday aIl 28 permanent teeth should be prescrit. This procets will vasy fromn cbild ta cbild by as much as twa years. Teetb usu- ally erupt earlier in girls than boys and in thse lowers befare the uppers. If yau are unsure if your child need braces, it is important ta find out and plan for tItis befare, or taon after, the child Jases aIl their baby teetb. Habita like thumb sucking need ta be treated because they csn in tome cases cause the permanent teeth ta corne in the wrong place. Sametimes the permanent teeth will appear behind or beside the primary teeth befare the primary teeth became baose. Normally, in time, the baby teeth will be pushed out and the permanent teetb wiIl take their place. If yaur chîld's primary teeth are not Iaatening and camning out or if you're nat sure, please sec a dentist for advice. 5. Sc., D. Ch. GREC J. LAWRENCE B. sc., D. CH. FOOT SPECIALIST / CHIROPODIST 350 Main St. E., Milton, Ontario, L9T 1 P6 1lA Princess Anne Dr., Georgetown, Ontario L7G 4W4 (905) 702-1611 Member of the Ontario Society of Chiropodiste and The Ontario Collège of Chiropodiats Q: My family physician toîd me to, get a pair of "4iserts" or "insoles" for nsy shoea. What type should 1 get? A:Inserts can vary enormously in quaîity and style. They can be pre-made or custom-made. The pre-made (over-the-counter) produets tend ta be very soft and tbick. I would recommend dicte for individuals who are not in considerable pain and would like a bit of sbock absorption. These produets will only fit in athletie or lace up sboes due ta their thickness. They are alto sold, by your sboe size. We ail know tbat everyone bas a different foot structure and arch length. Thbis means the arch padding in a pre-made insert may not fit comfortably under your arch. Custom-made producta mnust be manufactured by a foot specialist. They are produced from plaster paris casts. This type of insert can be as plush and soft, or as thin and rigid as required. These inserts can be womn in any type of footwear. If you are in any pain, you are athletic, or your occupation requires you ta be weigbtbearing; for any length of time, tItis type of insert is recom- mended. Custom-made inserts last considerably langer tItan pre-made inserts, give much more support, and are covered by extended health insur- ance. If yau are interested in more information, please give us a ealu. A referral is not necessary. The ciinic off ers extended hours. No ref erai is necessary. Hanse calis are also available. Dr. R.N. Strohan OPTOMETRTST 106 Wakefield Rd. Wakefseld Prtfessianal Center, Milton, Ontario Dr. Ron Sîrohan 875-5882 OPTOMETRIST Heurs: Mon. 9-5, Tues. 9-7:30, Wed., Thurs., Fn. 9-5 Wondering about your Child's eyesight? Q: When should 1 have my child's eyes examined? A: It is recammended a child be examined as early as 3 manths af age, again at the age of 2, and yearly thereafter. 'Mis is ta ascertain whether your child's bath eyes are healthy and cantinuing ta develap. Even thaugh a baby is barn with twa adult sized eyes. development of vision continues up ta the age af 6. If an eye is "weak", then the brain cannot develap praperly, which may lead ta, a conditian called Amblyopia, ar "lazy eye". A child wha cannot tee clearly will nat develap the necessary visual acuity far the eye ta tee accu- rately later in lufe. Q: How can you examine eldren when they can't respond ta questions? A: Oculavisual assessments, or eye examinatians involve much mare than answering questions of what is seen or not seen. Evaluatian af the health, aptical qualities, and function of te eye's structures do nat require any questianing af the child, and much information about a child's ability ta tee can be determined through thorough examinatian. Q: Aren't my children being screened, or tcsted in sehools? A: No. Unfortunately there is no routine vision evaluations accurring in schools. The respansibility has been left ta the parents. Since vision is "rela- tive ta experience", a child would nat know if they are having difficulties unless they have been examined. If a child even has a subtle visual prablem it may impede the child's ability ta learn clearly. Since 80% af Iearning camnes through vision, haw clearly a chîld learns is affected by how clearly the child tees. M 1000