24 stouffville suntribune thursday march 9 2006 postpartum symptoms depression or mood swings with exaggerated highs and lows uncontrolled crying or irritability loss of interest in usually pleasur able activities fatigue sluggishness or exhaustion difficulty with memory and concentration uncontrolled crying or irritability feelings of worthlessness or guilt especially at motherhood lack of interest in the baby or excessive anxiety over the childs health talk before crisis hits professional by michael power staff writer ifs not one factor that drives someone to kill his family says monika samant team leader for the adult crisis program at south- lake regional health centre but she has an important message for men with the urge to harm their families talk to someone you trust or someone who can help you a mother and her two children were found slain in their aurora home sunday the womans estranged husband and the chil drens father was arrested after a car chase on hwy 400 the killings mark the second incident in two weeks in which a york region parent has been suspected in the deaths of their children southlake offers a roundtheclock pro gram in the emergency department that deals with crisis patients including those who fear they may harm others ms samant said a patient would be referred within 24 hours to the urgent clinic which treats those who feel their lives are in crisis she said that feeling can come from mental health conditions such as depression but it can also stem from a crisis in a persons life such as divorce or job loss ms samant said theres something that happened to them that makes them feel like they cant cope the way they could before she said that ability has diminished and they could feel out of control or that they have lost their ability to problemsolve if a man feels he may harm family mem bers unless he gets help ms samant recommended talking to someone he knows and trusts such as a friend or family doctor many community agencies such as the 310cope crisis line can also help some community groups can counsel those who fear they may harm their family ms samant said but which group best suits a patient depends on that persons condition she noted linda jeffery the director of clinical ser vices at the canadian mental health associa tion ofyork region said no strong connection exists between violence and mental health its usually not a premeditated kind of thing she said i think that those are more impulsive they may have had a history of violent behav iour family services of york region offers anger management programs for those who feel they have trouble controlling their temper she said last week a markham man returned home to find his two young children dead and his wife injured the wife remains in hospital and has been charged with firstdegree murder in connec tion to the deaths up to 70 per cent of new mothers suffer from the baby blues said dr dave rouselle chief of obstetrics at southlake some new moms even suffer from postpartum depres sion they can even have occasional negative feelings toward their babies which horrifies a lot of new moms but its quite common he said but the incidents of that depression becoming severe or leading to a mother actu ally harming her child are less than 1 per cent he said staff photobill roberts investigators leave an aurora home where a woman and two children were beaten to death sunday warning signs abusers in relation ships often display similar tendencies may be very charming and charismatic in the beginning he may act outraged if his partner says she has been abused previously try to isolate their partners geo graphically and sociallythat isola tion can start with the abuser trying to separate his part ner from her friends family and support group may act jealous constatnly accusing his partner of hav ing affairs may try to con trol every aspect of his partners life from the clothes she wears to the people she talks to inserts for thurs march 9 2006 canadian 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